Taking Time to Take Care of Ourselves

Taking Time to Take Care of Ourselves

It’s another day of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project,  and last week’s A Night to Celebrate You at Aveda Fredericks Institute to benefit Hope House Mission’s  Women’s Center where I’m the director, reminded me how we need to take time to take care of ourselves. As one of two speakers who would receive a makeover to be revealed later in the evening, the idea of arriving four and half hours early appalled me. Despite my love of beauty and maximizing it, having my hair, makeup and nails done by the cosmetology students produced more anxiety than anticipation. In the end though, I appreciated being able to take the time to take care of myself.

Sense of Style (Packaging)

Growing up in poverty and living barely above that line during my teens and early 20s,  surrendering my paycheck to an abusive husband for much of my 30s, then struggling as a divorced single mom in my early 40s, trips to the salon have been a rare treat. In fact, between working in education, non profits and social service and being loathe to pay others for things I can do for myself, last week’s manicure was my first ever –– and I’m 50! My favorite part of the pampering was learning how to pencil in perfect brows!

Me, Pink Collar Coach, with Grace, a student and Swan Soul Sister who softly serenades with Christian songs as she practices her skills. : )                I’m in my signature color – lips and shirt. Clothing Calvin Klein – TJ Maxx.

Service on Purpose and Self Care  (Professional Life)

Serving as the director of a homeless shelter means I deal with the Ds –– the challenges women face –– daily. Destitution, debt, drugs, domestic violence, depression, etc.  So do the amazing team of women I lead. Because of this I strive to demonstrate one the 4Is of transformational leadership –– idealized influence. Simply put this means modeling the attitude and behavior I want to see in my team. In today’s staff meeting, however, more than one of them noted having their nails done as their method of self care. So did our Volunteer Coordinator,  who did an amazing job pulling the Aveda event together. In this way, they all model taking time to take care of themselves for me!

Spirit-led (Prayer and Putting it Into Practice)

My prayer for each of you Swans  its that you would be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and minimize your Ds by discovering or renewing a self-care practice that feels self indulgent but that is really taking time to take care of yourself. It’s important because if you’re anything like me, you’re not only the Swan who lays the golden egg for your direct reports, staff, team, family, etc….You’re the one who maximizes beauty and best lives, too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach


Relationship Seasons and Reasons

Relationship Seasons and Reasons

It’s Day 12 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and after a frustrating two days of not being able to upload pics to blog, getting the issue resolved lets me share about a special relationship, reasons and seasons. In a former career incarnation as a Director at a program that provided life coaching and education to adults,  enabling them to achieve sustainable success, I had the privilege of training and leading a team of life coaches. Amazing as they all were, Julie and Valerie quickly developed their skills to the degree they became lead coaches in their areas of giftedness and interest. Working together and with our team like a well-oiled machine, we served clients and provided them with optimal transformative experiences that led to permanent change. Such fulfilling, fun service on purpose! That being the case, one of the hardest things about transitioning out of my role was not getting to work with this dynamic duo on a daily basis. Since then I’ve come to more fully embrace the notion that relationships are in our lives for seasons and reasons.

Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Swans Julie & Valerie, with me, Pink Collar Coach in the middle. Our clothing color choices are complementary but not coordinated. : )                                                                                          Floral dress & strappy heels w/ pink coral & navy heels (out of view) –                                      All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx. 

You see, I dreaded a career change meant the season for these women being in my  life had come to an end. Instead it marked the beginning of a new reason. They encouraged me as I dove into operating my own business full-time to focus on  publishing my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul. Then when life threw me another curve ball, they stepped up to the plate and helped me get to a safe place personally and professionally in the forms of a tiny house for personal and professional use and a dream job as the Director of a Women’s Center… It’s about as perfect a fit possible for me to live out my purpose which is to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize beauty and their best lives. All to His glory.

Having Julie and Valerie, who have become my Swan Sisters, come celebrate my 50th, not only allowed them to check out the center, it provided an opportunity for us to catch up and continue our connectedness. It also proved it’s true some relationships are in our lives for a reason and others for a season. As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, I’m glad to recognize sometimes it’s both.

Who in your personal and/or professional life is in it for a reason? A season? Both?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

How the Ds Derail Talent & Cause Professional Train Wrecks – Pt. 2 (And How to Zap Them)

How the Ds Derail Talent & Cause Professional Train Wrecks – Pt. 2 (And How to Zap Them)

It’s Day 319 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and this post is a continuation of above from two days ago. I’m presenting at Disrupt HR Cincinnati tomorrow night. Hope you’ll check out the link https://disrupthr.co > cincinnati. Thank you!

Disconnected Dressing – A creative communications specialist dresses to express herself. What it doesn’t express is her competence or her desire to be taken seriously. It creates a disconnect and doesn’t support everything else she does to get ahead. Her dress sabotages her success.

Discrimination – An exceptional trainer with consistently outstanding participant feedback, an advanced degree ends and training certification ends up reporting to those with less education and experience. The only minority on the team, she is written up for insubordination when she questions the promotion process.

Divorce – A team leader at a non-profit doesn’t make much, but finds work her meaningful and fulfilling. When her husband divorced her, leaving her and two teenagers practically destitute, heartbreak prevented her from performing optimally to earn much needed merit increases and makes her resent the job she once loved.

Diagnoses – An IT technician’s wife was diagnosed with breast cancer and the small agency doesn’t offer FMLA. He exhausts his PTO, requests to do some work remotely, is denied, and placed on a Performance Improvement Plan for absenteeism- right after the organization participated in Race for The Cure.

Domestic Court Issues – An enrollment director was embroiled in a contentious custody battle with his ex-girlfriend. Parenting investigations, lengthy calls with his attorney, and heated conversations with his ex caused enrollment to tank. He got shared parenting, but the schedule made it look more like a career death sentence.

Domestic Violence – A marketing manager is often late for work because her classic abuser partner takes the car and makes her take a bus or walk. Fearing he’d carry out his threats to harm her dog if she left, at times she’d miss work all together. She stayed with him but left the job.

Drug and Alcohol Abuse – An aviation executive is a functioning alcoholic. The company was unaware of his DUIs and offered him his dream promotion. When he confessed his record, the opportunity and his reputation crashed and burned.

Dysfunctional Relationships – There’s a reason most of the seats are empty at this Adult Children of Normal Parents Convention. If you’re anything like me, you were raised in a  dysfunctional family and now you’re the head of one! We’ve all experienced our share of Ds and carry so much relationship baggage onto the work train it’s a miracle any of us can stay on track with our careers.

That’s the bad news: Like with these derailed train wrecks, your talent – and You! – has issues!

The good news is: Your talent can keep calm and never fear because HR – You! – are here to step in and save the day with strategies to deal with their Ds.

3Cs to Zap the Ds


Consideration – Since we all have Ds, practice The Golden Rule and treat your talent the way you’d want to be treated. Get to know them as individuals – personally and professionally so you’re aware of their challenges. Let them know you’ve got their backs. And here’s a rad thought: If you’re a person of faith, pray for them.

Connection to Resources– Connect them to Employee Assistance Programs. Educate yourself through ongoing professional development around best practices like Trauma Informed Care (TIC). Provide information – print and electronic. Refer them to doctors, counselors, support groups, whatever they need. And if you don’t have a resource, find one.

Coaching (Life, Executive, Career, Performance) – Find their fit and if it’s not financially feasible for the organization, equip yourself to fill the shoes yourself. That’s literally stepping in to save the day!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach and  Speaker, I want to drive home the point that if they use these 3 Cs: they’ll be Faster than a career suicide bullet, more powerful than a sabotaging locomotive, able to deal with the Ds and prevent derailing in an effective bound! You’ll be an HR Superhero who’s able to Zap (obliterate, destroy) the Ds to keep your talent on track!

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and use them, too?

Be savvy &  chic,

~Pink Collar Coach



“The Star” Movie Review and a Lesson on Lamb Leadership

“The Star” Movie Review and a Lesson on Lamb Leadership

It’s Day 193 of The Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and after sleeping all day,  I’m feeling well enough  to post a review of “The Star” movie, which I saw the day it released. There are many delightful things about this movie. While it takes a lot of creative license, the plot remains fairly true to the Biblical account of the events that led up to the birth of Jesus and the film even credits it as the greatest story ever told. With it’s whimsical animation the stage was set for the miraculous story to unfold in Nazareth and Bethlehem. From the moment the film begins rolling, viewers are swept back to the time where a humble, kind Mary and a loving, protective Joseph are a frightened young couple entrusted with the greatest responsibility ever – bringing the Son of God into the world. Monumentally important as their roles are, the movie focuses more on the part a small donkey and his animal friends play in ensuring the safe birth of baby Jesus. After overcoming several life-threatening challenges, the cast of characters come together under The Star to celebrate the Christ Child. If you’re looking for a great family friendly movie, this movie is entertaining for children and could be considered enlightening for adults whose hearts are open are open to the true meaning of Christmas. Adults can even learn a leadership lesson from a lamb.

Ruth, though only a little lamb, proved herself to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic. Petite,  feminine, and with a small voice, Ruth didn’t necessarily look or sound like a leader. But she was also resourceful, strong, smart, and hardworking. Despite these leadership attributes, her previous attempt to lead her flock had been unsuccessful. Undeterred, she believed in her cause and followed The Star through to the end. Along the way Ruth tapped into her strengths and contributed meaningfully to the mission. She even won the support of her former naysayers and caused them to rally around her efforts. Ultimately, her leadership enabled them to collectively achieve more than they ever could on their own. That being the case Ruth’s lamb leadership could also be called transformational.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose “Lamb Leader”, I can relate to Ruth. Sometimes I feel I’m too small, too insignificant, too lots of things to leave a lasting leadership legacy.  But like Ruth, I believe in my cause and have to follow where I’m led. I’m compelled to live out my purpose which is to coach, encourage and inspire Pink Collar women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their beauty and best personal and professional lives – all to the glory of God. Though none went with her at first, Ruth still chose to follow The Star. Now she’ll go down in fictionalized history (at least for some children and possibly a few adults) as a lamb leader who had a part in leading others to The Star. Like her, I have decided to follow and pray I’ll leave a lamb leadership legacy of pointing others to The Bright and Morning Star as well.

In what ways are you a lamb leader? How can you maximize your strengths to contribute in meaningful ways? At home? In the workplace?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach