Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – October 9, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – October 9, 2018

Today, a lifetime of heartache, hurts and hard work yielded a harvest in the form of a bounteous bounty/life-changing opportunity that will enable me to live my purpose and best life. Will share more soon, but for now I’ll simply say Thank you, Lord! My cup truly runneth over! 

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We Still Scream for Ice-cream!

We Still Scream for Ice-cream!

It’s Day 402 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and a recent outing with my teens confirms the fact that no matter how old we get, we still scream for ice-cream! Figuring out fun things to do with a thirteen and soon-to-be fifteen-year-old can be daunting. They’re both at the stage where screens hold more allure than almost anything except for hanging out with their friends instead of their mom. While that’s pretty normal, quality time with them is too important to let it fall by the wayside. Still, when I ask what they’d like to do, they fluctuate between being fairly non-responsive, resistant or downright refusing to go. But lo and behold, at the mention of a trip to The Cone –– a local family fun soft-serve ice cream stand shaped like a swirl cone, with pinball games –– and suddenly they’re all in! No matter that they’re no longer the babies who used to literally jump up and down pumping their fists in the air, or even that I’m now the almost fifty-year-old mom who has to watch my calorie, fat and sugar intake, we still scream for ice-cream!

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My Teenagers! How did this happen???
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Me, Mom –– Pink Collar Coach. Love the strawberry vanilla swirl – pink! : )                                     Print sundress, yellow handbag and flip flops all Calvin Klein acquired over time from TJ Maxx. The yellow shrug sweater was actually a clearance find at Macy’s. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom, I have to admit –– most days I wish I could turn back time to the days when things were simpler with my children. Back when everything I suggested was met with enthusiasm and being together was as good as it got. But you can’t go back and time doesn’t stand still. My babies are teens who will  quickly grow into young adults. Finding common ground isn’t as easy as it used to be but is so worth the effort. Over my daughter’s coffee flavored shake, which she couldn’t finish but ended up giving to her brother, his key lime freeze with a blueberry shell and my strawberry shortcake –– no calorie counting or weight watching there –– conversation and laughter flowed. Like the good old days…We’ve changed in so many ways both as individuals and as a unit, but I’m thankful that some things remain the same. Like the fact that we all still scream for ice cream!

What simple pleasures do you still enjoy? Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose  about making sure you make the time for them?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 28, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 28, 2018

Thank you, Lord, for your goodness in helping me find my inhaler! 

A few weeks ago, I posted about losing my inhaler after using it only a few times https://pinkcollarsavvyandchic.com/2018/06/18/spilled-milk-crying-over-it-to-get-over-it. Replacing it would cost $400! After posting, several readers expressed empathy and one sweet reader of my novel, Seasons of Her Soul, Myra, even offered to mail me her inhaler! Then, Saturday I found the inhaler –– in the handbag I’d searched! When my Zumba sister/mentor, Marina, asked about it before class that morning, I told her I’d update everyone. And here it is Thursday and I’m just doing it. So often I find myself lamenting life’s losses, yet I’m not always as as quick to express my gratitude for the good things. May we all be more intentionally thankful! woman expressing gratitude.jpg

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 1, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 1, 2018

Spending the day in Indiana at the largest dairy farm in the US got me back to my country roots. My great aunt Birdy grew up on a farm in Owenton, Kentucky and passed along her love of  all things country and her faith. Forever thankful for her influence on my life.

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Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – May 8, 2018 – National Teacher Appreciation Day

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – May 8, 2018 – National Teacher Appreciation Day

As a former elementary and middle school teacher, I taught every grade K-8 except for 1st and 4th and then in the Infant Room up through School Age as a Center Director. Many of my students have gone on to become teachers and attribute that to the impact I and other educators had on their lives. It’s one of the most rewarding professions and one of the least recognized. Hope you’ll be intentional today or this week about expressing thanks to the teachers in your life and/or your children’s. Because to teach really is to touch lives forever.

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Fashion, A Feast, And A Family Friendly Film That Left Me Feeling Full of “Wonder”

Fashion, A Feast, And A Family Friendly Film That Left Me Feeling Full of “Wonder”

It’s Day 193 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and it’s Thanksgiving Day. For a woman who’s been too sick to leave the house this week, it was packed with fashion, a feast, and a family friendly film that left me feeling full of wonder. While my immediate blended family celebrated early Thanksgiving last Sunday, today was spent with my husband’s family. I slept until eleven AM to have enough stamina to make it through the day and boy did I need the rest to make it through all the festivities!

For a lady who loves an excuse to dress up, it was so much fun donning festive holiday attire to wear to our niece’s gorgeous home which was decorated beautifully for the occassion. My sisters-in-law are all great cooks, and one of our nieces’s makes a mean mac and cheese (I try to avoid lots of dairy and didn’t indulge in that). Since I’ve been out of commission, my hubby and I provided drinks and store bought desserts – but there were no complaints! With my stepsons and children with their other parent, for once we all fit around the table and enjoyed a fabulous feast catching up with family.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach in Calvin Klein faux leather sheath dress and jacket. The rich eggplant color and green put a fresh spin on fall colors. Calvin Klein handbag and booties.
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Sheath sans jacket. Have added some layers to my hair in the front. Getting used to the look.      As much as I take pictures for the blog, I tend to hide my post-hysterectomy body behind hair… So this is a stretch.

Because our niece and nephew have young children and he still had to make it to his family’s gathering (mom stayed in with the infant and toddler), the evening ended fairly early. Having been sick and shut in for so long, I wasn’t quite ready to call it a night. Reluctantly, my hubby agreed to go see the movie “Wonder” with me. I won’t do a review here since I covered “The Star” last night, but I will say my often reticent husband had plenty to say about this film which is based on a popular children’s novel. Though I could discuss any number of emotions the film evoked for me, wonder seems the most fitting today.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom who gave birth to my children never expecting we wouldn’t spend every holiday together, I’m in wonder that Lord is gracious and merciful enough toward me that I can still enjoy the children in my life and be thankful for them today. As a divorced wife of an abusive wasband, I’m in wonder that God answered my prayer for a godly husband in the form of my best friend, for whom I am eternally grateful. As a child whose earthly father was taken far too young and whose  family is so dysfunctional that I don’t have much to do with them, I’m in wonder that God has adopted me into His family and calls me His precious daughter. Considering all of this, it’s no wonder that I’m full of wonder this Thanksgiving.

What about you? What has you full of wonder this Thanksgiving?

Be savvy & chic,

  ~Pink collar Coach

 

 

Giving Thanks to the Lord for Good Test Results and Looking Forward to Getting Back to Life and Reality

Giving Thanks to the Lord for Good Test Results and Looking Forward to Getting Back to Life and Reality

Day 180 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project was one spent having procedures to determine why I’ve been so sick for the past month and giving thanks to the Lord for good test results! Now I’m looking forward to getting back to life and reality. And while the doctor’s orders were that today be a lazy day, I wanted to take a moment to thank all of you who have read about my medical challenges/Ds and reached out with well wishes and prayers. You readers are part of my resilience strategy and the blog has helped me bounce back. Both have played a role in me getting better because I didn’t want to renege on my promise to post daily (I did miss a few…). Nor did I want to lose those of you who have been kind enough to stick with me while I’ve been sick, even if you were sick of hearing about it!

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Shabby Chic inspired Thanksgiving decor from TJMaxx – last season.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Cygnet, I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired! So while I’m thankful for today’s test results and hopeful the rest of them will come back good, I’m ready for a new day. I’m not 100%, but I’m laying claim to the verse in a song I used to teach in Kids Club:

And now let the sick say I am healed

Because of what the Lord has done for us!

That being the case, tomorrow, I plan to get back to life and back to reality. Completing revisions for my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul in order for it to be released in January, focusing on my business, including rescheduling and scheduling coaching sessions, returning to Zumba and starting to teach (yes!), and planning for my next workshops are only a few of the things while I was down. Excited as I am about all that, being able to get out and about to post pictures to accompany what content I hope you love is what motivates me. That and glorifying  the Lord to whom I owe, and give, so much thanks.

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Give Thanks to the Lord pumpkins flank front porch stairs.                                                         Not only are they pretty and welcoming, they remind others to have grateful hearts.

What situation have you come through, medical, personal, professional or otherwise, for which you are thankful? How can you be savvy & chic on purpose about expressing that thanks?

 

Feeling Grateful for First Full Day Out with Family, Food, and Fun

Feeling Grateful for First Full Day Out with Family, Food, and Fun

Day 178 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project is my first full day out and about since I got sick nearly a month ago, so I looked forward to spending it with family, eating good food, and having fun. After reading several articles in the newest edition of Artful Blogging and a chapter of my latest novel last night, I slept relatively well and awakened feeling more like myself than I have for weeks. So much so that I did some juege-ing in the laundry room to make it more inviting (will post pics when I pull it together), then did a little holiday/ gift shopping. By the time I needed to head over to the family birthday party, I still had plenty of energy. And though I ate a bit of pizza, I was cautious and didn’t add my usual peppers or peppercorns. My hubby and I also split a nice salad. It was so fun celebrating my youngest sister-in-law’s birthday, especially since I’ve had very little socialization as of late.

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Family, Food and Fun. Pink Collar Coach in the middle.                                                               Calvin Klein peacock trumpet sleeve sweater, jeggings, & brown wedge boots with a peacock handbag. Hubby and his sister were the photographers and are not pictured.

One of the articles in Artful Blogging was about developing an attitude of gratitude. It reminded me of an old saying I used to hear around the church where I grow up, that went something like “You don’t know how good it feels to be well until you’ve been sick.” This isn’t the first time in my life I’ve been really sick, but because of my blog, I’m more mindful of the experience. And I believe I’m more grateful to be feeling better than I may have been in the past.

Not only was I more mindful of that, but I was keenly aware of the season my husband’s niece is in. Like mine, her girl and boy are close in age. I’ve always referred to my daughter and son, who are only nineteen months apart, as my Irish twins. Because of a divorce and changes with parenting time, they aren’t around for many family get-togethers, but I vividly remember the days when I was exhausted and overwhelmed with mothering very young children. This made me intentional asking how mom is doing and offering to lend a hand any time she needs it. My prayer is that this sweet young couple and their children never experience the ravages of divorce. But even if they remain as tightly knit together as they are right now, I hope they can see past the fog of exhaustion and being overwhelmed to hold on to the memories that make up the threads of this precious, fleeting time. The late nights, the chaotic days, and all the mess makes up the beautiful tapestry of their lives.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chic who is dealing with medical challenges, I’m thankful for them because they bring gratitude. And clarity. They also make me want to capture it all in a way that I, my children and my family can look back and remember. Writing about my first full day out and about with family, food, and fun may not sound blog-worthy, but maybe, just maybe, someone will read my words and see the pictures I’ve included and it will encourage or inspire them. Somehow, it may even point someone to God. If that happens, then it’s worthy after all.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

Beautiful Birthday with My Big Fat Blended Family

Beautiful Birthday with My Big Fat Blended Family

My forty-eighth birthday made Day 68 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project a special one. Though we’ve been boating and tubing every summer since we became a modern day Brady Bunch, this was the first time we did it on a birthday. My incredible hubby is the master planner (and payer) behind this huge undertaking and blesses all of us beyond measure with the way he loves and cares for his family. My husband being thoughtful and showering me with attention on my birthday is the norm. Quite honestly, he treats me like a queen every day. So while the wonderful day on the water, flowers, and a card that was picked with such obvious intention blessed me, I wasn’t surprised. So appreciative, but not surprised.

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Youngest stepson, oldest stepson (w/wife and daughter), middle stepson, husband, surrogate son, and me, the Pink Collar Coach AKA LT (for Little Tammi).

Also, my oldest stepson (and his wife and daughter), my middle stepson and my surrogate stepson started giving me cards a few years ago as the guys grew. They did so today, with funny cards and a straightforward ones, both of which touched me tremendously.

The card from my  youngest stepson? Blew. Me. Away. First of all, as far as I can recall, he’s never gotten my a birthday card on his own. He usually signs one his dad or brothers got. Second, the card’s message itself was so kind, tender and thoughtful. I would never have imagined he’d take the time to find one so beautifully written that would speak to me the way it did. And finally, the fact that he took the time to write his own personal message almost moved me (and my hubby) to tears. His love and appreciation for me was spelled out so I’d have no doubt about it. Wow.

When I married their father, the boys were 17, 15, and 12. Now they’re 24, almost 22, and 19 ( the surrogate stepson is 26). I’ve never wanted to take the place of their mother (we have the same first name but with different spellings!), but the fact that I do hold a place in their hearts is one of the best birthday gifts I could have been given.

The bible tells us that the Lord sets the lonely in families (Psalm 68:6, NIV). As a divorced mom with very young children to raise on my own and without a supportive family, I was lonely for a while. And today, while there are still so many challenges with my biological children (with their father) and my wasband ( was + husband), I could have been lonely today. NOT.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose chick second wife and stepmom, I feel especially blessed that I got to spend my birthday with my big fat blended family.