It’s Day 49 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and this busy weekend has taught me a life lesson from my loads of laundry. For many of us, this week was Back to School. As the mother of an 11th and 10th grader who is divorced –– a D or challenge women face –– from their father, I had them this weekend and a lot of the time went into school-related activities and making sure they were set to return for the first full week tomorrow. Between a trip to the library, running my daughter to a birthday sleepover, feeding my ravenous son and keeping him entertained Friday, I did laundry. Same thing Saturday before and after I picked her up, fought construction to make it to Zumba, did the grocery shopping and banking, then made lunch and finally dinner, all while tossing loads in and pulling them out. This morning, as I listened to Joel Osteen –– I folded and put clothes and linens away prior to taking Liv out for last minute school supplies. (What ever happened to getting the list before classes started?). Though there were moments when I felt like I’d either been put through the wringer or the spin cycle –– this is my first time blogging since Thursday! –– there wasn’t one where I didn’t feel blessed to have these tasks to do for my children and home. That’s the life lesson I’ve learned from my loads of laundry.
You see, though sometimes I look at all of the bath towels and face cloths to be washed, at all the bedding and more clothes than I can keep up with, I’m often reminded of a story I once heard a story about a woman who sat all alone in her immaculate house and longed for it to be cluttered with the chaos of children…Because I don’t have mine all of the time, I can relate. When they’re here, it’s more joy than drudgery doing the mundane things for –– and with –– them. I touch the towels and am thankful they take care of themselves the way I taught them to. I look at the linens and love that they lie in them and sleep luxuriously when living under my roof. And I cuddle the clothes and am conscious of how quickly their time as children will cease. Each time I’m immensely grateful that despite a divorce, the Lord has –– for now –– blessed me to serve them. Yes, on purpose. Focusing on that allows me to minimize my D and to maximize beauty and my best life.
One day, they’ll be grow up and away and my washer and dryer will get a lot less use. Til then, I’m taking my life lesson from the laundry to heart and am determined to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and to treasure the loads.
It’s Day 34 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and my daughter and I have had such a beautiful day –– Shabby Chic & Sweet 16! This morning I woke up at 5am and assembled a Simply Shabby Chic DIY banner proclaiming “Sweet 16” then proceeded to package all her presents in coordinating Simply Shabby Chic gift bags. Next I changed the table runner to one in robin’s egg blue from Rachel Ashwell’s The Prairie and spelled out Cami Liv with extra banner medallions. By that time she’d awoken and I loved on and prayed over her for a while before serving her requested Lucky Charms –– the marshmallows just happened to go along with the pastel theme –– and Sunny D in bed. Once she was settled with her breakfast, I proceeded to bake, frost and decorate her Bday cake with sprinkles in the soft rainbow shades and placed it atop my Simply Shabby Chic cake stand. The early morning and effort were so worth it because of the look on her face when she finally saw the Shabby Chic stage set for her Sweet Sixteen!
Though I thought this milestone birthday should be celebrated with a big party, my daughter had other ideas in mind. These included a shopping trip to Plato’s Closet –– a resale shop for teens –– and to Aveda, a salon that also sells face, hair and makeup products. She wanted Subway for dinner and then to eat cake and watch LaLa Land again! To my delight, apart from the eating, she wanted to do all of this just with me…I selected a birthday card for her that states “Every perfect gift, is from above.” (James 1:17). Yes, her life is a gift. By wanting to spend such a special day just as mother and daughter, however, I feel like I was given one all over again.
Being divorced –– a D or challenge women face –– can make birthdays brutal. Next year I won’t see her at all. And this year could have been very expensive with everything she wanted to do. But by having lovely things on hand, I was able to create a sumptuous setting without breaking the bank and could use my resources for her shopping spree instead. By being Pink Collar Savvy & ChicI minimized the barriers and maximized beauty and our best lives. So blessed with lots of Shabby Chic and a very Sweet Sixteen!
It’s Day 30 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project, and feeling nostalgic because my baby girl turns Sweet 16 this weekend, I reframed her baby picture and ballet shoes using Shabby Chic shadow box frames. Shabby Chic style as made popular by Rachel Ashwell, the founder of the brand by that name, is also celebrating a birthday this year –– its 30th! And I’ve been enamored with the style for just as long. Sixteen years ago, however, the Simply Shabby Chic partnership with Target that offers her pieces at an affordable price point hadn’t been established. That came about in 2008. When my daughter was born in 2003 authentic Shabby Chic items were only available at Rachel Ashwell’s stores in select locations and weren’t accessible for me. That being the case, following in the founder of Shabby Chic’s shoes, I’d scour flea markets and antique malls for vintage pieces, like the the ornate oval gold frame I painted white and distressed to hold my daughter’s picture and a white shadow box with a carved bow detail to display her ballet shoes. They did so until recently when I scored big time at TJ Maxx and lovingly transferred both to these gorgeous Shabby Chic shadow box frames.
It may sound strange, but Shabby Chic decor has provided a one of the most consistent threads through my adult life and helped minimize the Ds –– barriers and challenges women face –– in the forms of death, depression, diagnosis, domestic violence, divorce, domestic court, dysfunctional relationships, and the list could go on…It has provided beauty, comfort and function –– Rachel Ashwell’s three maxims – and so much inspiration. Not only in the way I decorate my home, but in the way I live in it. She opened her first shop as a divorced, single mother of a girl and boy. Soon it reached such success it was called, “The shop heard round the world”. Personally and professionally, this Pink Collar Savvy & Chic mother, entrepreneur and creative leader has been a blessing as one of my greatest role models and contributors to me maximizing beauty and my best life.
I pray you will be inspired by this simple task of transferring beloved keepsakes to preserve the memories in an even more meaningful way. Perhaps you’ll even be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and reframe or organize pictures of your loved ones. By doing so, we honor them and their importance in our lives. You may also find any residual Ds fade from memory and only the beautiful, best images remain. Even if you don’t use Shabby Chic shadow box frames.
It’s Day 20 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and dealing with a D or challenge women face –– in the form of a disabled vehicle –– has made me even more thankful for my petite retreat. Although, upon seeing the place for the first time Friday night when she drove me home, one of my Swan Sisters, Sonya, pointed out that what I’ve always referred to as a tiny house isn’t actually that tiny…From the moment I saw the For Rent sign in the window of this 1905 shotgun, I knew I’d found the perfect spot to meet my personal and professional needs as a wife, mother, stepmom of a blended family with adult children, author, life coach, and entrepreneur. And this small –– relatively speaking –– space has delivered in spades! Having a peaceful place to parent and pursue creative endeavors –– like blogging (it serves as a studio) and working on Hold on Her Heart, the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, has been instrumental in minimizing personal and professional challenges and maximizing beauty and my best life. Having this sanctuary is both a luxury and a sacrifice. But so worth it because my sanity has been saved by this petite retreat!
If you’re anything like me, at times going out into the world feels like entering the fray. Having a safe place, a sanctuary, that soothes your soul can provide much needed respite. That doesn’t necessarily mean going out and renting a house or apartment. It could be converting a garage or shed into a She Space. Or simply carving out a nook inside filled with things that speak specifically to you.
Whatever it looks like, I hope you’ll figure out what works for you and that your petite retreat will allow you to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic in order to minimize your challenges and maximize beauty and your best life, too.
Enjoy the simple things. Today, it’s my first Friday off in far too long. A cup of coffee (and a good book of course) on the front porch before the kiddos wake up after the Fourth of July festivities is heavenly and brings balance.
Hope you’ll take time today to enjoy the simple things and find some balance, too.
It’s Fourth of July and the perfect day for my $4 score. At the end of the school year, my 15-year-old and I went on a Goodwill quest for an 80s outfit for her to wear to her chior ensemble’s spring 80s themed concert. While an outfit for her was the focus, as I searched the skirts for one with 80s flair, instead I found a Calvin Klein size 4 with a flounce! The $4 price tag sealed the deal. Today I donned it with a striped top as my patriotic nod to the flag (red isn’t my color). It’s sprinkled on and off all day, so we skipped the pool and saw Spider Man Far From Home this afternoon. Now before we head out to the fireworks, though it’s dusk, I figured it was my last chance to capture a pic of my Fourth of July $4 score!
My second hand designer fashion find at a thrift store is a reminder that beauty can often be found in unexpected places. As in my seating area in the middle of a concrete slab. Or in old fashioned pastimes like reading a Bible verse about liberty in Christ, catching a holiday matinee, walking down to the park for a concert –– with an insulated bag full of water bottles and Bomb Pops in tow –– and taking in the fireworks atop a Shabby Chic quilt. Then returning to savor homemade AW Root Beer and Cream Soda floats. All in all, an incredible Independence Day –– spent in my Fourth $4 score!
Hope you had HAPPY HOLIDAY! And that you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy Chic on Purpose and seek out beauty where you’d least expect it. Because I’ve found, whether it be freedom or fabulous fashion, what we seek, we’ll find.