It’s Day 54 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project and this post is coming out from my Petite Retreat this Friday morning where I’m keeping calm and practicing self-care. The non-profit faith-based shelter where I’m the Women’s Center Director was offered complimentary tickets to a Beth Moore conference this weekend, so yesterday I decided I’d take today off and spend it at my not-so-tiny tiny house before heading to the event this evening. Working in what I consider full-time ministry is Service on Purpose, but sometimes it takes its toll. Between dealing with the Ds –– challenges women face ––– in my professional life as two of our team members have received devastating diagnoses this week, and in my personal life, mainly in the form of dysfunctional relationships, in order to minimize these barriers and maximize beauty and my best life, I needed time to keep calm and practice self-care at my Petite Retreat.
Though this isn’t my first time serving as a Director, it is the first time I’ve dealt with a terminal diagnosis for a direct report. Being at my best to bless her and to support the staff who love her will require stamina and strength. I’m grateful for this time away from the center at my home/office with the Lord to build up both. And as I prayerfully consider some major decisions regarding personal relationships, I need clarity and space to receive wisdom on which path to walk, as well as a way to process (writing). Keeping calm and practicing self-care here provides all of these.
So I’m thankful for this short respite at my petite retreat. Not only will taking time away from the trauma to spend the day writing and the night with Swan Sisters help me in a professional capacity as I serve staff and residents, it enables me to minimize the barriers we’re facing and to maximize beauty and my best life.
If you’re anything like me and are facing Ds in your personal and/or professional life, my prayer for you is that you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicand intentional about keeping calm and practicing self-care. Whether that means taking a much-needed day off, attending a conference or simply stealing away to pray and spend some time alone with God. (Jesus himself modeled self-care for us –– Luke 5:16). Doing it in a place that soothes your soul is even better… Then you’ll be able to minimize your barriers and maximize beauty and your best life, too.
Be Savvy & Chic ,
~Pink Collar Coach
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It’s Day 49 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and this busy weekend has taught me a life lesson from my loads of laundry. For many of us, this week was Back to School. As the mother of an 11th and 10th grader who is divorced –– a D or challenge women face –– from their father, I had them this weekend and a lot of the time went into school-related activities and making sure they were set to return for the first full week tomorrow. Between a trip to the library, running my daughter to a birthday sleepover, feeding my ravenous son and keeping him entertained Friday, I did laundry. Same thing Saturday before and after I picked her up, fought construction to make it to Zumba, did the grocery shopping and banking, then made lunch and finally dinner, all while tossing loads in and pulling them out. This morning, as I listened to Joel Osteen –– I folded and put clothes and linens away prior to taking Liv out for last minute school supplies. (What ever happened to getting the list before classes started?). Though there were moments when I felt like I’d either been put through the wringer or the spin cycle –– this is my first time blogging since Thursday! –– there wasn’t one where I didn’t feel blessed to have these tasks to do for my children and home. That’s the life lesson I’ve learned from my loads of laundry.
You see, though sometimes I look at all of the bath towels and face cloths to be washed, at all the bedding and more clothes than I can keep up with, I’m often reminded of a story I once heard a story about a woman who sat all alone in her immaculate house and longed for it to be cluttered with the chaos of children…Because I don’t have mine all of the time, I can relate. When they’re here, it’s more joy than drudgery doing the mundane things for –– and with –– them. I touch the towels and am thankful they take care of themselves the way I taught them to. I look at the linens and love that they lie in them and sleep luxuriously when living under my roof. And I cuddle the clothes and am conscious of how quickly their time as children will cease. Each time I’m immensely grateful that despite a divorce, the Lord has –– for now –– blessed me to serve them. Yes, on purpose. Focusing on that allows me to minimize my D and to maximize beauty and my best life.
One day, they’ll be grow up and away and my washer and dryer will get a lot less use. Til then, I’m taking my life lesson from the laundry to heart and am determined to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and to treasure the loads.
It’s Day 41 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m so motivated by the Chick-Fil-A Get Moovin’ 5K Fun Run with all proceeds to bless Hope House Mission. It’s not been a year since I became Women’s Center Director at the homeless shelter, so acting as the spokesperson for the 3rd annual Get Moovin’ race has been –– as they say at Chick-Fil-A–– My pleasure. Last night I’d gone to bed troubled by Ds –– the challenges that women face ––– in the form of dysfunctional relationships. Then I woke before the sun came up and read a devotion entitled “Light of the Dawn” that God hand picked for me. It provided needed assurance that “Even in darkness, light dawns for the upright, for those who are gracious and compassionate and righteous.” (Psalm 112:4, NIV). Though I fail to be each of these at times, my heart is to be them all of the time. And my job–– this incredible ministry –– lets me put my heart’s desire into practice on a daily basis. Seeing so many volunteers, sponsors, Christian radio station Star 93.3, participants, groups, families, churches, businesses, and so many cute cows come out to support the event and cheer everyone over the finish line lifted my spirits and truly motivates me. In fact, this Chick-Fil-A 5K Fun Run makes me want to get moovin’ even more to bless Hope House Mission!
When dealing with life’s Ds, I’ve found when I’m able to put my own problems aside and and serve others on purpose, even when the problems persist, the pain is diminished. Having been homeless, working with the women at our shelter reminds me there is purpose in the pain. And that His plan for me is to use my education, experiences, everything, to advance our mission of breaking the cycle of poverty and despair –– another D –– one life at a time. By doing so, I not only help women to minimize their barriers and to maximize beauty and their best lives, I do the same with mine. Waking up to that privilege, the darkness recedes and I’m able to walk in the light motivated to get moving to bless the residents at Hope House Mission. Even when there’s not a Chick-Fil-A 5K Fun Run with breakfast biscuits involved!
I pray you’re Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and motivated to be a blessing to others. Whether you’re serving on the home front or in the work place, when you do so, you’ll be able to minimize your barriers and maximize beauty and your best life, too.
Such a blessing representing Hope House Mission as the Women’s Center Director this morning at the Chick-Fil-A Get Moovin’ 5K Fun Run! Terrific turn out and all proceeds benefit Hope House! Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Service on Purpose to break the cycle of poverty and despair –– a D or challenge –– so that women and children can live their best lives made it a special Saturday!
It’s Day 24 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I just had a great experience prepping for tomorrow’s “Cincy Lifestyle” interview with a media coaching call. The segment being recorded tomorrow for “Cincy Lifestyle” –– a local lifestyle show that provides viewers with information, useful and entertaining content –– will feature a Chick-fil-A sponsored 5K / Fun Run to benefit Hope House Mission. Though my professional career has provided myriad opportunities, other than singing on cable once, being interviewed for television hasn’t been one of them. Until now. As the Director of the Women’s Center, I was offered the privilege of serving as our agency’s spokesperson on the show. Having another Pink Collar Savvy & Chic professional woman –– Chick-fil-A’s Area Marketing Director –– not only spend time walking me through all the different aspects of the process but take the time to build rapport and to connect as women of faith made my “Cincy Lifestyles” interview media coaching call, well, as they say at Chick-fil-A –– My pleasure!
Interacting with Pink Collar Savvy & Chicwomen who love what they do –– whether on the home front or in the workplace –– is a pleasure, too. My media coach personified Chick-fil-A’s guiding principle of serving others. Rather than the coaching call feeling like an item to check off a list of preparations, I felt genuine enthusiasm from my coach, which is something I strive to bring to coaching sessions with my clients… We shared a little of our own stories and about working with purpose. She provided speaking, wardrobe and makeup tips, thoroughly preparing me. Then she went on to visit this blog while on the call! Positive feedback on it from a marketing expert…So cool!
Now I pray I’ll be able to be truly Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and represent Hope House in a way that points to Him, blesses the residents we serve and does my coach and the coaching call justice. I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and pray for that, too.
Maybe you’ll even join us at the run to Get Moovin!
It’s Day 22 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project and my most recent D or challenge women face –– this time in the form of a disabled car –– allowed me to not only attend Sunday service yesterday but to be blessed by someone serving. From the time my car needed a jump after I taught Zumba class Thursday until last night when she called to get the final update that the car is back on the road and that I’m safe, my Swan Sister, Sonya has helped me to minimize this D. She’s a regular Zumba participant in my Sunday faith-based class, and although she had a meeting after church to plan for the children’s church camp where she and her hubby are serving as counselors and couldn’t attend, she wanted the dance class to go on. In addition to driving me around and partnering with her husband to try to get me the best deal on the parts and labor needed, she also picked me up for Sunday service as yet another extension of her serving.
If you’ve ever been without wheels, it can stink! Instead, Sonya made this a sweet experience for me because of her servant’s heart. And I finally got to visit a well-known church for the first time, participate in praise and worship and listen to powerful preaching on prayer. Then she made sure I got to teach that Zumba class even with her packed schedule. Though she was more than willing to pick me up and drive me on to the next leg of the journey, thankfully another Swan Sister and her car repair savvy fiancé took over and didn’t stop until the right part was secured and installed. Two more sacrificial examples of serving.
What could have been a lousy weekend turned out to be a lovely one spent wrapped in God’s love and provision. Both of these couples attended church yesterday then gave more of their time to bless me… There was a phrase stenciled above the door of my childhood church –– “Worship begins when you enter; Service begins when you depart.” Having a disabled car allowed me to see these words come to life at Sunday service and through their serving.
I pray you will be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and help minimize someone’s barriers to maximize beauty and their best lives –– at Sunday service or through serving them at home or work. You may find it’s an effect way to deal with your own Ds.
Last night after teaching Zumba, a student, Sonya and I sat down and talked for the longest. Glad that we’ve gotten to be friends, I was even more grateful for her when my car wouldn’t start. I suspect it’s another D –– personal and professional challenges women face –– in the form of a dead battery. Sonya came to my rescue –– helping me jump it, offering to follow me home to make sure I made it, then taking me home –– with a needed stop at the store first. She got to visit my tiny house –– though she pointed out it’s not so tiny –– and connected on a deep level for a few hours. So thankful for my friend who took so much of her time to care. She has such a serving heart, I suspect she’s an angel unaware.
It’s Day 12 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project, and after a frustrating two days of not being able to upload pics to blog, getting the issue resolved lets me share about a special relationship, reasons and seasons. In a former career incarnation as a Director at a program that provided life coaching and education to adults, enabling them to achieve sustainable success, I had the privilege of training and leading a team of life coaches. Amazing as they all were, Julie and Valerie quickly developed their skills to the degree they became lead coaches in their areas of giftedness and interest. Working together and with our team like a well-oiled machine, we served clients and provided them with optimal transformative experiences that led to permanent change. Such fulfilling, fun service on purpose! That being the case, one of the hardest things about transitioning out of my role was not getting to work with this dynamic duo on a daily basis. Since then I’ve come to more fully embrace the notion that relationships are in our lives for seasons and reasons.
You see, I dreaded a career change meant the season for these women being in my life had come to an end. Instead it marked the beginning of a new reason. They encouraged me as I dove into operating my own business full-time to focus on publishing my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul. Then when life threw me another curve ball, they stepped up to the plate and helped me get to a safe place personally and professionally in the forms of a tiny house for personal and professional use and a dream job as the Director of a Women’s Center… It’s about as perfect a fit possible for me to live out my purpose which is to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize beauty and their best lives. All to His glory.
Having Julie and Valerie, who have become my Swan Sisters, come celebrate my 50th, not only allowed them to check out the center, it provided an opportunity for us to catch up and continue our connectedness. It also proved it’s true some relationships are in our lives for a reason and others for a season. As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, I’m glad to recognize sometimes it’s both.
Who in your personal and/or professional life is in it for a reason? A season? Both?
It’s Day 26 of being back to blogging, and though I’m unsure about a lot of things right now, one thing I’m certain of is that I’m fully living Pink Collar Service on Purpose. That’s basically my version of At Work on Purpose –– for women. To be perfectly honest, there are days now that I’ve transitioned from running my business –– Pink Collar Savvy & Chic –– full-time to my new role as a Women’s Center Director that make me wonder how I’m going to do it all. Be a wife, mother, author, blogger, life coach, leader, Zumba teacher and maintain my walk with Christ. Then, in the midst of serving all these ways, in ministering to others, I feel that Every. Single. Thing. on my own journey is being put to use blessing another woman and know to the very core of my being that I’m doing exactly what God created me to do in just the way He designed me to do it. And I’m in awe and wonder that I’m fully living my Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose.
Am I still exhausted and a bit overwhelmed? Yes, but it’s the best kind of worn out. I want my life to be poured out and used up serving and showing others the love of Christ so that they too can live their best lives. I got to do that for a woman over the last two days in a way that will impact me forever and Lord willing her for an eternity. Thinking on that restores me and inspires me to serve another day….That doesn’t mean I’m not ready for bed, though!
What about you? Are you giving of your time, talent and treasure to bless and minister to others? Through work, volunteering or in another capacity? If you are, chances are you may end up like me –– too zonked to go to Zumba and too done for a date night with your significant other –– but you’ll sleep well knowing you’ve been emptied out to fill someone else’s cup by living Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Service on Purpose.
It’s Day 22 of being back to blogging, and as Valentine’s Day approaches, many are asking others, Give me your heart. Most often, this is a romantic request. For me, working in the social service industry as a Women’s Center Director for a homeless shelter for women and children, my prayer has been that God give me His heart –– for the hurting. Daily I work with those the world considers “the least of these” and am learning such valuable lessons on servant leadership. The most impactful one is viewing them from His perspective. The addicts, those with developmental disabilities, the mentally ill, the poverty stricken, the promiscuous, the traumatized. I look at them and see them as God’s beloved daughters and precious children. They are beautiful and lovely to me. Because God has somehow answered my prayer and given me His heart.
Not only do I feel as though my prayer has been answered, I’m humbled to know that others see it as well. In dealing with a situation regarding one of the non-compliant residents, I basically expressed what my dear Aunt Birdy used to –– If not for the grace of God, there go I. That realization allowed me to move from a place of judgement to one of empathy. Witnessing this, one of the amazing staff members I inherited teared up and said something that let me know I’ve been granted what I really desire this Valentine’s Day. “You really do have a heart for them.”
My prayer is that all of us who work in social service/ministry would be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and demonstrate our Father’s heart for the ones we serve. What a beautiful expression of His love…