It’s Day 54 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project and this post is coming out from my Petite Retreat this Friday morning where I’m keeping calm and practicing self-care. The non-profit faith-based shelter where I’m the Women’s Center Director was offered complimentary tickets to a Beth Moore conference this weekend, so yesterday I decided I’d take today off and spend it at my not-so-tiny tiny house before heading to the event this evening. Working in what I consider full-time ministry is Service on Purpose, but sometimes it takes its toll. Between dealing with the Ds –– challenges women face ––– in my professional life as two of our team members have received devastating diagnoses this week, and in my personal life, mainly in the form of dysfunctional relationships, in order to minimize these barriers and maximize beauty and my best life, I needed time to keep calm and practice self-care at my Petite Retreat.
Though this isn’t my first time serving as a Director, it is the first time I’ve dealt with a terminal diagnosis for a direct report. Being at my best to bless her and to support the staff who love her will require stamina and strength. I’m grateful for this time away from the center at my home/office with the Lord to build up both. And as I prayerfully consider some major decisions regarding personal relationships, I need clarity and space to receive wisdom on which path to walk, as well as a way to process (writing). Keeping calm and practicing self-care here provides all of these.
So I’m thankful for this short respite at my petite retreat. Not only will taking time away from the trauma to spend the day writing and the night with Swan Sisters help me in a professional capacity as I serve staff and residents, it enables me to minimize the barriers we’re facing and to maximize beauty and my best life.
If you’re anything like me and are facing Ds in your personal and/or professional life, my prayer for you is that you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicand intentional about keeping calm and practicing self-care. Whether that means taking a much-needed day off, attending a conference or simply stealing away to pray and spend some time alone with God. (Jesus himself modeled self-care for us –– Luke 5:16). Doing it in a place that soothes your soul is even better… Then you’ll be able to minimize your barriers and maximize beauty and your best life, too.
Be Savvy & Chic ,
~Pink Collar Coach
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It’s Day 49 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and this busy weekend has taught me a life lesson from my loads of laundry. For many of us, this week was Back to School. As the mother of an 11th and 10th grader who is divorced –– a D or challenge women face –– from their father, I had them this weekend and a lot of the time went into school-related activities and making sure they were set to return for the first full week tomorrow. Between a trip to the library, running my daughter to a birthday sleepover, feeding my ravenous son and keeping him entertained Friday, I did laundry. Same thing Saturday before and after I picked her up, fought construction to make it to Zumba, did the grocery shopping and banking, then made lunch and finally dinner, all while tossing loads in and pulling them out. This morning, as I listened to Joel Osteen –– I folded and put clothes and linens away prior to taking Liv out for last minute school supplies. (What ever happened to getting the list before classes started?). Though there were moments when I felt like I’d either been put through the wringer or the spin cycle –– this is my first time blogging since Thursday! –– there wasn’t one where I didn’t feel blessed to have these tasks to do for my children and home. That’s the life lesson I’ve learned from my loads of laundry.
You see, though sometimes I look at all of the bath towels and face cloths to be washed, at all the bedding and more clothes than I can keep up with, I’m often reminded of a story I once heard a story about a woman who sat all alone in her immaculate house and longed for it to be cluttered with the chaos of children…Because I don’t have mine all of the time, I can relate. When they’re here, it’s more joy than drudgery doing the mundane things for –– and with –– them. I touch the towels and am thankful they take care of themselves the way I taught them to. I look at the linens and love that they lie in them and sleep luxuriously when living under my roof. And I cuddle the clothes and am conscious of how quickly their time as children will cease. Each time I’m immensely grateful that despite a divorce, the Lord has –– for now –– blessed me to serve them. Yes, on purpose. Focusing on that allows me to minimize my D and to maximize beauty and my best life.
One day, they’ll be grow up and away and my washer and dryer will get a lot less use. Til then, I’m taking my life lesson from the laundry to heart and am determined to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and to treasure the loads.
It’s Day 41 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m so motivated by the Chick-Fil-A Get Moovin’ 5K Fun Run with all proceeds to bless Hope House Mission. It’s not been a year since I became Women’s Center Director at the homeless shelter, so acting as the spokesperson for the 3rd annual Get Moovin’ race has been –– as they say at Chick-Fil-A–– My pleasure. Last night I’d gone to bed troubled by Ds –– the challenges that women face ––– in the form of dysfunctional relationships. Then I woke before the sun came up and read a devotion entitled “Light of the Dawn” that God hand picked for me. It provided needed assurance that “Even in darkness, light dawns for the upright, for those who are gracious and compassionate and righteous.” (Psalm 112:4, NIV). Though I fail to be each of these at times, my heart is to be them all of the time. And my job–– this incredible ministry –– lets me put my heart’s desire into practice on a daily basis. Seeing so many volunteers, sponsors, Christian radio station Star 93.3, participants, groups, families, churches, businesses, and so many cute cows come out to support the event and cheer everyone over the finish line lifted my spirits and truly motivates me. In fact, this Chick-Fil-A 5K Fun Run makes me want to get moovin’ even more to bless Hope House Mission!
When dealing with life’s Ds, I’ve found when I’m able to put my own problems aside and and serve others on purpose, even when the problems persist, the pain is diminished. Having been homeless, working with the women at our shelter reminds me there is purpose in the pain. And that His plan for me is to use my education, experiences, everything, to advance our mission of breaking the cycle of poverty and despair –– another D –– one life at a time. By doing so, I not only help women to minimize their barriers and to maximize beauty and their best lives, I do the same with mine. Waking up to that privilege, the darkness recedes and I’m able to walk in the light motivated to get moving to bless the residents at Hope House Mission. Even when there’s not a Chick-Fil-A 5K Fun Run with breakfast biscuits involved!
I pray you’re Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and motivated to be a blessing to others. Whether you’re serving on the home front or in the work place, when you do so, you’ll be able to minimize your barriers and maximize beauty and your best life, too.
Such a blessing representing Hope House Mission as the Women’s Center Director this morning at the Chick-Fil-A Get Moovin’ 5K Fun Run! Terrific turn out and all proceeds benefit Hope House! Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Service on Purpose to break the cycle of poverty and despair –– a D or challenge –– so that women and children can live their best lives made it a special Saturday!
It’s Day 24 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I just had a great experience prepping for tomorrow’s “Cincy Lifestyle” interview with a media coaching call. The segment being recorded tomorrow for “Cincy Lifestyle” –– a local lifestyle show that provides viewers with information, useful and entertaining content –– will feature a Chick-fil-A sponsored 5K / Fun Run to benefit Hope House Mission. Though my professional career has provided myriad opportunities, other than singing on cable once, being interviewed for television hasn’t been one of them. Until now. As the Director of the Women’s Center, I was offered the privilege of serving as our agency’s spokesperson on the show. Having another Pink Collar Savvy & Chic professional woman –– Chick-fil-A’s Area Marketing Director –– not only spend time walking me through all the different aspects of the process but take the time to build rapport and to connect as women of faith made my “Cincy Lifestyles” interview media coaching call, well, as they say at Chick-fil-A –– My pleasure!
Interacting with Pink Collar Savvy & Chicwomen who love what they do –– whether on the home front or in the workplace –– is a pleasure, too. My media coach personified Chick-fil-A’s guiding principle of serving others. Rather than the coaching call feeling like an item to check off a list of preparations, I felt genuine enthusiasm from my coach, which is something I strive to bring to coaching sessions with my clients… We shared a little of our own stories and about working with purpose. She provided speaking, wardrobe and makeup tips, thoroughly preparing me. Then she went on to visit this blog while on the call! Positive feedback on it from a marketing expert…So cool!
Now I pray I’ll be able to be truly Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and represent Hope House in a way that points to Him, blesses the residents we serve and does my coach and the coaching call justice. I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and pray for that, too.
Maybe you’ll even join us at the run to Get Moovin!
It’s Day 22 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project and my most recent D or challenge women face –– this time in the form of a disabled car –– allowed me to not only attend Sunday service yesterday but to be blessed by someone serving. From the time my car needed a jump after I taught Zumba class Thursday until last night when she called to get the final update that the car is back on the road and that I’m safe, my Swan Sister, Sonya has helped me to minimize this D. She’s a regular Zumba participant in my Sunday faith-based class, and although she had a meeting after church to plan for the children’s church camp where she and her hubby are serving as counselors and couldn’t attend, she wanted the dance class to go on. In addition to driving me around and partnering with her husband to try to get me the best deal on the parts and labor needed, she also picked me up for Sunday service as yet another extension of her serving.
If you’ve ever been without wheels, it can stink! Instead, Sonya made this a sweet experience for me because of her servant’s heart. And I finally got to visit a well-known church for the first time, participate in praise and worship and listen to powerful preaching on prayer. Then she made sure I got to teach that Zumba class even with her packed schedule. Though she was more than willing to pick me up and drive me on to the next leg of the journey, thankfully another Swan Sister and her car repair savvy fiancé took over and didn’t stop until the right part was secured and installed. Two more sacrificial examples of serving.
What could have been a lousy weekend turned out to be a lovely one spent wrapped in God’s love and provision. Both of these couples attended church yesterday then gave more of their time to bless me… There was a phrase stenciled above the door of my childhood church –– “Worship begins when you enter; Service begins when you depart.” Having a disabled car allowed me to see these words come to life at Sunday service and through their serving.
I pray you will be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and help minimize someone’s barriers to maximize beauty and their best lives –– at Sunday service or through serving them at home or work. You may find it’s an effect way to deal with your own Ds.
Last night after teaching Zumba, a student, Sonya and I sat down and talked for the longest. Glad that we’ve gotten to be friends, I was even more grateful for her when my car wouldn’t start. I suspect it’s another D –– personal and professional challenges women face –– in the form of a dead battery. Sonya came to my rescue –– helping me jump it, offering to follow me home to make sure I made it, then taking me home –– with a needed stop at the store first. She got to visit my tiny house –– though she pointed out it’s not so tiny –– and connected on a deep level for a few hours. So thankful for my friend who took so much of her time to care. She has such a serving heart, I suspect she’s an angel unaware.