Best Book Club Night

Best Book Club Night

It’s Day 2 of being back to blogging, and I’ve struggled a bit to figure out what to post. Then I realized I could cover some of the things I’ve missed over the last few months.  Back in September, I was invited to facilitate a discussion of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, at the book club of a fellow YMCA member. She heard about the book from a reader who attends Zumba with me. The group rotates hosts and Debbie, the hostess of the night, welcomed me into her gorgeous home and put me at ease before the others arrived. By the time they did, I knew I was in for a delightful evening. Turns out –– at least for me –– it was the best book club night!

All of the members had read the book, which made for thoughtful questions and compelling conversation. The fact that more than one woman asked about ways to support those dealing with domestic violence –– one of the Ds or personal challenges that a women face –– dispelled any notions that abuse rears its head in suburbia much more often than one some would think. The stories shared made me even more appreciative of the opportunity to live out my purpose of using my God-given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their best lives –– all to His glory. Following up by sending all attendees a resource I’d created to supplement the book, Ten Ps to Practice When Supporting Survivors of Domestic Violence ensured the ladies are equipped with the info they need whenever their loved ones are ready to receive it.

By the end of the evening, I felt as though I’d not only gained fans, but new friends as well. So far my new role as a Women’s Center Director hasn’t allowed me to make it to another meeting, but I plan to make it happen once I’ve gotten settled in. I’m motivated to return so I can further connect with these beautiful, smart, Savvy & Chic Swans! And of course I have them and other loyal readers in mind as I dive back into writing the sequel, Hold On Her Heart, which is due out this year. Once it’s done, I hope to have a repeat of the best book club night!

If you are a new reader or one who’s never checked out the book, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and do so! Thank you!

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at

Be Savvy & Chic,

~ Pink Collar Coach

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Best Book Club Night! Me, Pink Collar Coach, front and center.                                                          Floral dress, shrug and bone color pumps – All Calvin Klein. The clothes are from TJ Maxx. The shoes were $8 at Goodwill – brand new!

 

 

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Female Friend of the Canine Kind

Female Friend of the Canine Kind

It’s Day 421 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project and I feel so blessed by time I’ve been able to spend with a female friend of the canine kind. Because I’m a life coach who supports women facing Ds –– personal challenges that can negatively impact professional performance –– I often deal with diagnosis, depression, and domestic violence, etc. Recently I’ve encountered women who have service/therapy dogs who provide constant companionship and emotional support. And I just read about an accomplished fictitious character who had two English Labs who lent moral strength for her in both personal and professional settings. Seeing how richly these dogs contribute to the lives of their people, spending time with the trained therapy dog of friends this weekend proved even more meaningful than usual. Juneau is trained through Canines for Christ, a non-profit that provides pet therapy by showing Christ’s love through giving. My Swan Sister Kibby’s fiancé, Roger, takes this 120 lb. Alaskan Malamute (she looks like a baby polar bear!) to visit different events and organizations where children, the elderly, veterans and/or just people who need to be encouraged. I was one of the latter on Saturday and Juneau did this for me in in spades. Simply being in her loving presence lifted my spirits and I’m so thankful for my female friend of the canine kind!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, Juneau, my Female Friend of the Canine Kind, & Juneau’s dog mom, Kibby. I’m casual in green shorts, matching top & a plaid shirt with scrappy sandals &  a bone handbag. All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx –– last summer.

Juneau and another friend’s dog Jezzy –– short for Jezebel –– helped me to overcome thoughts of depression, loneliness and stagnation. Since my pet therapy session, I’ve felt energized in my coaching and writing. Just today I completed needed revisions and wrote a whole scene for the sequel of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul. I’ve also gotten enthused about an opportunity to speak at a book club meeting next month. Furthermore, I’ve checked many other items off of my to-do list for this week. Of course much of that can be attributed to Juneau’s people, Kibby and Roger. Kibby blesses me in some way or another almost weekly, but this time around Roger’s kindness and generosity are what touched me the most. He’d texted me last week and asked about the make and model of my car because he wanted to replace a lug nut! I didn’t know what that was, but he not only took care of that, he checked my oil, cleaned bird droppings and smudges off and suggested I go to Auto Zone for a free diagnostic. Then he told me to bring him the print out for any work that needs to be done!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Swan facing some Ds, I can truly attest to the power of pet therapy. Juneau absolutely shows Christ’s love by giving, as do Kibby and Roger. And it’s clear to me that Juneau’s giving spirit is aligned with her master’s…They say all dogs go to heaven. Well, I personally believe there will be a special doggy mansion there for Juneau, my female friend of the canine kind.

I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and check out www.caninesforchrist.org.

You can also check out my book here:

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 

 

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

Not a Fair-weather but Forever Friend

Not a Fair-weather but Forever Friend

It’s Day 420 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and while I was too busy to blog about it yesterday, Friday night showed me how a dear Swan Sister, Valerie, is not a fair-weather but forever friend. I originally came to know Valerie through our professional relationship. I had the joy of training her to become one of the best life coaches I’d ever led, and she in turn became a trainer of other coaches. She’s as smart as they come and is passionate about connecting others to the information and resources they need to minimize their barriers and to maximize their best lives. Add to that the fact that she’s bookish like me –– but with a library science degree to boot ––– and she’s a girl after my own heart. Given the strong working connection we formed then, I’m thrilled that it didn’t cease when I left that director role…And now, as I’m dealing with some Ds of my own –– personal challenges that can negatively impact professional performance –– I’m so thankful she’s proven herself not to be a fair-weather friend, but a forever one.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, with Valerie. She’s as smart and sweet as she is petite! I’m in a fave summer dress and gold metallic cardi – both several summers old, and metallic sandals with a bone colored bag. I had to laugh at myself –– my usual glasses on top of my head AND sunglasses! All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx acquired over several years.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, I won’t lie and say I enjoy facing Ds /challenges. But I did enjoy hearing from Valerie because of them. She took me to dinner and for three hours we caught up, laughed, reminisced and strategized. Though we hadn’t seen each other for over a year, it was like no time had passed at all…She’s also going to get a copy of my book, Seasons of Her Soul. Bonus! Leaving Buffalo Wild Wings –– one of my all time favorites ––– I felt full of good food and even more satisfied with the fact that our professional worlds may have brought us together initially, but it’s our faith that has made us true friends and sisters in Him. The time spent with Valerie made me feel lighter as though my burdens had been lifted. After all, though I was once her supervisor, the love she showed me on Friday assured me she’s not a fair-weather but my forever friend.

What about you? Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about not just being there for friends –– personal and professional –– during the good times but the bad times, too? Who could you reach out to today to show your love and support?

If you’re like Valerie and would like to check out my book, please see below. Thanks!

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Coffee & Connect Book Signing

Coffee & Connect Book Signing

It’s Day 333 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m excited to have a Coffee & Connect Book Signing for my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, scheduled at my local coffee shop. Earlier this week I sent out a request for feedback on the flyer I’d designed and had tweaked by my publisher. Thanks to everyone who weighed in! I incorporated the suggestions as best as I could…One discerning reader pointed out that the event was scheduled for Memorial Day weekend! Yikes! Fearing that would negatively impact attendance, but still wanting to fit this in before our school district – a source of steady traffic – breaks for summer, we decided to move ahead in just ten days! I hope you’ll click the link below to view the new and improved flier with the updated date and time, which has been extended to accommodate my Saturday morning Zumba friends. If you’re in the area, I’d love for you to stop by. And even if you’re not, I still hope you’ll check the flier out and be inspired to achieve a goal – like me hosting a Coffee & Connect Book Signing.

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose author, I’m beyond excited to host my first ever  event that is focused solely on Seasons of Her Soul and readers. It’s wonderful to receive calls, emails and texts telling me you enjoyed the book. And when such positive feedback is in addition to a review left on Amazon or Goodreads, it’s icing on the cake. Even so, I imagine neither will compare to meeting you face to face. The fact that some of the best coffee around will facilitate the process makes it a even better. With the electronic flier out on the web and the paper copy posted on the bulletin board and windows of the coffee shop, I’m ready for coffee, connecting, and signing the books of readers? Hello! Doesn’t get much better than that!

Will you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and join us?

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
Book Signing Flier Feedback Requested

Book Signing Flier Feedback Requested

It’s Day 331 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and since technical difficulties have prevented me from posting pictures the last few days, I’m requesting feedback on a book signing flier I created today. After a weekend with Zumba, church, more Zumba, and an impromptu lunch/coaching session with a client to address some challenges with her staff, I looked forward to a collaboration meeting this morning. I’ll probably share about that in another post…Following that, I met with the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic owner of our local coffee shop to finalize a date for a Seasons of Her Soul book signing. While I’m still on track to have a signing for my debut novel at a local bookstore, I’m just as excited about this opportunity. Coffee Beans & Brew –  www.coffeebeansandbrew.com – prides itself on “Star Quality, Less Bucks!” and feeling like home. And they deliver on both counts. Often my coaching sessions take place in the comfy space and it has been a long time remote working spot fave ever since I relocated to the area in 2006 – soon after their doors first opened. Because I would like the event hosted in the shop I love so well to be successful, I’d appreciate an feedback on this book signing flier.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose new author, I’m still learning things about the marketing side of things every day. That being the case, I sent my first version of the flier to my publisher who suggested some tweaks. When I sent the revised version, she still found room for improvement. Consequently, I’d love to know if you – readers and hopefully a few attendees – see anything else. I’m totally open and believe value is added with multiple perspectives. Writing and publishing the book really are only the first steps in the process. Engaging with readers, including getting your input is ongoing. And if you consider yourself a Seasons of Her Soul fan, the feedback is even better!

Will you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and help a newbie author out with some much needed feedback? Thanks so much!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Seasons of Her Soul Book Signing – Coffee Beans & Brew – Revised 2

A Forever Friend and A Fiction Fan

A Forever Friend and A Fiction Fan

It’s Day 313 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and it was such a blessing to enjoy lunch with a forever friend and meeting a fiction fan. When I was the director at a life coaching program, I had the privilege of meeting Julie at a Lunch n’ Learn. I shared how to become a Life Coach and she was immediately all in. I did Julie’s orientation, then she shadowed me during a session. I could tell by the gleam in her gorgeous blue eyes  she was hooked! Sure enough, Julie became one of the most committed coaches I’ve had the pleasure of working with. Much as I enjoyed our professional relationship, the deep personal ones she developed with each of the coachees I assigned her painted a picture of what true life coaching looks life. She jumped  into the fray with each individual – building rapport, partnering with them to set goals, holding them accountable, and connecting them to resources to remove their barriers like she was born to do it. Soon I learned when I assigned Julie as a coach, she was in it for the long haul! Our conversation caught me up on many of the coachees she continues to work with to this day. And of course Julie wanted to hear all about how things are going with my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, which she’s purchased. When I handed her some book cards, our server exclaimed, I love that book! It was the first time I’ve encountered a reader in public. One of my Best. Lunches. Ever. – catching up with a forever friend and meeting a fiction fan!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach and Forever Friend, Julie. We didn’t plan on our black and white – but hey, great minds think alike! My Calvin Klein dress is cut asymmetrically like Julie’s top and I’m in kitten heeled slip ons. The floral bag mixes things up. It and the criss cross shrug were clearance finds purchased with a tiny bit of a leftover Christmas gift card. All TJ Maxx. 

When we’d first been seated, Julie and I had struck up a conversation with our beautiful server because she has one blue eye from her dad and a green one from her mom…After she went to put in our order, I joked to Julie that we might run into my husband and pastor because the restaurant is their regular meeting spot. In fact, when Seasons of Her Soul  released, they’d met there and my husband took two copies to give to him and his wife. He came home excited about how their server loved the cover of the book. He’d explained to her that it was the story of a woman’s journey out of domestic violence and she teared up. Then she shared a little about her story and how she needed to read the book. Without discussing it, he and our pastor knew it was meant for her. My hubby told her, My wife wrote it for you, and gave her one of the copies. Later that night, he told me, Her name is Amber.

That being the case, my response to her I love that book, was Amber! And of course a spontaneous hug with a complete stranger followed.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach and author, it doesn’t get much better than spending the afternoon with someone I helped develop into a phenomenal life coach turned forever friend and meeting a fiction fan who I wrote the book for. Ever since my husband told me about her, and from the moment she came to our table, even before Amber shared that the book is blessing her life, I felt an affinity for her. So in some ways, I didn’t hug a stranger at all. Rather another friend I just met…

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase a print or Kindle version of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Barnes and Noble.com or Amazon at https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seasons-of-her-soul-tammi-ector/1127818446?ean=9780998966359 or http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9. Thank you!

 

Oprah’s “Me Too” Speech Inspires Me to Speak Out About Abuse & Seasons of Her Soul Being Semi-Autobiographical

Oprah’s “Me Too” Speech Inspires Me to Speak Out About Abuse & Seasons of Her Soul Being Semi-Autobiographical

 

It’s Day 227 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and Oprah’s Golden Globe lifetime achievement award acceptance speech (please watch above before reading on) inspires me to speak out about abuse and Seasons of Her Soul, my debut novel, being semi-autobiographical. Since I didn’t watch the show last night, my long time mentor and partner in Pink Collar/High Heeled Success crime, Kay Fittes, shared Oprah’s speech, which could have been entitled “Me Too”, with me. Based on what she told me about it, it brought to mind a recurring conversation I’ve had with my husband and test readers of late. “It’s your story!” he and many others assert. But IT IS NOT MY STORY. It is fiction. That said, the abuse and sexual assaults I’ve suffered and survived are real. I channeled the truth of those experiences to write this fictitious story. That is the only way Seasons of Her Soul is semi-autobiographical. I never experienced any of the things the main character, Lee, did in the book. I am not Lee and her abuser is not my wasband (was + husband), who I call Mister (like in The Color Purple). Therefore, I cannot say “Me Too” regarding the plot of Seasons of Her Soul.

But I can say “Me Too” regarding the way I was treated by family members, friends, and even members of the church when I dared speak out about the truth of what was done to me by various abusers. It was communicated different ways but amounted to the same thing, “I don’t believe you” and “I don’t believe they’d do that”. Either  way, the response re-victimized me. And it does the same thing to every woman, teen, or girl who is brave enough to trust someone with the secret they carry with shame. To have that trust broken by disbelief and worse, blame, causes untold damage. So much so that I am creating a giveaway entitled “Ten Points to Support Survivors of Domestic Violence” to share with those who wish to respond appropriately when someone shares with you.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose author, I wrote Seasons of Her Soul, a fictitious story, to shine light on the dark acts of abuse and assault that are perpetrated on women everywhere. On the home front and in the workplace. And in churches. It broke my heart to receive feedback from a Christian author who read my book and stated though she believes I’m a talented writer, she just doesn’t believe Lee’s story could happen. Wow. Apparently Lee, though not real, could actually join the ranks of the Me Too movement. Oprah’s speech inspired me to speak out on abuse and the fact that Seasons of Her Soul is only semi-autobiographical. To put it like her, “It’s not lost on me” that while Lee and I are not one in the same, we share some similarities. It’s just a shame having to say “Me Too” is one of them.

I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and read Seasons of Her Soul because while it’s fiction, it tells a realistic story about domestic violence that is full of heartbreak and hurt. But it’s also full of healing, help and hope.

Be savvy & chic,

~ Pink Collar Coach