Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 16, 2018

Healing Is Not Linear; It Is Lifelong

Healing Is Not Linear; It Is Lifelong

It’s Day 389 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I was reminded though healing is not linear, it is lifelong. I’ve faced so many Ds –– personal challenges –– in my lifetime and gotten a lot of help healing from the hurt. At times this has come through individual and group counseling –– Christian and otherwise, reading self-help books like the Boundaries  series, support groups, and through lots of reflection and prayer. And I’ve come such a long way from where I was a decade ago. Still, though I understand the healing journey is not smoothly paved and linear but full of treacherous triggers, ups and downs. Having survived the ride up to this point, I’d hoped it was about over. Instead, this week of my 49th birthday, I’ve realized healing is a lifelong process.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose survivor of so much hurt, it would be easy to give up on the dream of a pain free life. But as a Child of God, I believe His Word regarding what His Son did for us on the cross: “But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes, we are healed.” – Isaiah 53:5. Embracing this truth, I can continue my healing journey, content in the knowledge that though it’s not linear but lifelong, through Him, I’m already healed.

If you’re facing hurts –– physical, emotional, relationship, financial, spiritual ––and need healing, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and embrace this truth for yourself.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Fight or Give Up?

Fight or Give Up?

It’s Day 382 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and I’m wondering if I should fight or give up. I’ve been fighting a particular battle for a while and I’m weary. On the surface, it seems pretty inconsequential, but the fact that the persistent issue keeps rearing its ugly head speaks to a bigger problem. And I’ve taken the stance I have largely because of the principle of the matter. For the most part, I’m a fairly complacent person and easy to get along with. By no means am I perfect. But nor do I have to be first or always have my way. Most of the time the opposite is true. I try to be an Abigail –– the Biblical wife who mediated between her stubborn husband and stubborn King David –– and strive for peace. I lay down my own desires, suppress my thoughts, keep my opinions to myself, bite my tongue, and pray for harmony, peace and reconciliation when I fail to do all of the former. But at what point do I stand my ground simply because I absolutely feel it’s the right thing –– again I’m referring to the principle and not the issue ––? When is it time to call out the ugliness, go below the surface to the root, the source of the matter, so it can be addressed and ripped out, never to spread discord, gossip, pettiness and just plain old bullying again? Do I risk the fight or just give up?

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose woman of faith, I so want to please my Heavenly Father and bear fruit that shows I belong to Him. But what do I do when displaying love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self-control (Galatians 5) only results in some people treating you like a door mat? That’s the thing. I used to think being a Christian was synonymous with letting people walk all over me. Then I learned JESUS WAS NEVER A DOORMAT. Since I try to follow Him, just lying down and continuing to let wrong win feels wrong. I’m going to keep praying about this and revert to that 90s question –– What would Jesus do? for guidance. Ultimately, that’s where I need to look to find the answer to whether I should fight or give up.

If you’re one of my Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose readers who believe in the power of prayer, I need tons. And I have never done this but am going to take a step in what I hope is the right direction. If you’re reading this because you’r a hater, please take the good intentions from my posts and act accordingly. If that means having a conversation with me, I’d welcome it. If you can’t do that, please just go find something better to do and leave me out of it. Thank you.

Be savvy  & chic,

~Pink  Collar Coach

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 27, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 27, 2018

“He will once again fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy.” – Job 8:21 NLT

Caught Raccoon Handed!

Caught Raccoon Handed!

It’s Day 374 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and a case of “Caught Raccoon Handed!” has kept me laughing for almost twenty-four hours. Remember that commercial where the woman is standing on her back patio calling “Here kitty!”? A huge raccoon meanders into her bedroom and she says, “Good girl. Come snuggles with mama.” Then the voice over asks, “Missing something?” and goes on to advertise for eyeglasses. The brilliant ad always gets a laugh from me, and I was tickled pink last night when we had a raccoon visitor and experienced our own version of it.

I walked into the kitchen and my husband pointed to the back deck and told me, “Skylar is eating french fries.” I looked and  saw a huge raccoon –– not our cat –– sitting right beneath the outdoor light going through the garbage –– including an empty Frisch’s fry container I’d placed in the small metal trash can I keep there for when I work –– and dine alfresco. “That’s not Skylar!” I laughed. “That’s a raccoon!” He went out and shooed her away while chastising me for leaving garbage out. “I didn’t leave it out! It was in a can with a lid on it,” I defended myself.  “They have hands!” he explained and went on to tell me how they use them to open all all manner of things. I couldn’t stop laughing then and I’m still laughing now. She was caught raccoon handed!

This isn’t the first time a raccoon has been mistaken for our kitty who was supposed to be an indoor cat but has always had other ideas. Once while doing homework on the deck, I felt the presence of an animal and reached over to pet what I thought was Skylar. Instead, it was a raccoon. And my husband didn’t have to tell em about raccoons having hands and using them like humans. I found this out for myself while on a woman’s retreat at Heuston Woods, one of our state parks. All of the women had brought yummy treats and we left our hotel room doors open so we could visit each and help ourselves. Well, when my roommate and I got back to ours, a huge raccoon sat with a piece of rye bread in her hand. If that wasn’t bad enough, we weren’t on the ground floor. How did she get up there???

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, I had an important meeting this morning and didn’t get much else done work wise. But before I headed out, I read my devotional entitled, “Life of Laughter”. It talked about God restoring our laughter and joy. (Job 8:21) If we’re not careful about minimizing our barriers and maximizing beauty and our best lives, we can lose both. And to be completely honest, I’m facing some barriers. I call them Ds. Dysfunctional relationships are the particular D plaguing me right now. It would be so easy to let the stress and worry about the situation steal my joy and reduce me to tears. Instead, the Lord saw fit to not only speak to me through His Word to remind me about living a life of laughter, He gave me a reason to laugh by letting me witness a raccoon being caught red handed!

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about living a life of laughter? When is the last time you delighted in something hilarious? No matter what you’re facing, God still wants to restore your joy.