Relationship Seasons and Reasons

Relationship Seasons and Reasons

It’s Day 12 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and after a frustrating two days of not being able to upload pics to blog, getting the issue resolved lets me share about a special relationship, reasons and seasons. In a former career incarnation as a Director at a program that provided life coaching and education to adults,  enabling them to achieve sustainable success, I had the privilege of training and leading a team of life coaches. Amazing as they all were, Julie and Valerie quickly developed their skills to the degree they became lead coaches in their areas of giftedness and interest. Working together and with our team like a well-oiled machine, we served clients and provided them with optimal transformative experiences that led to permanent change. Such fulfilling, fun service on purpose! That being the case, one of the hardest things about transitioning out of my role was not getting to work with this dynamic duo on a daily basis. Since then I’ve come to more fully embrace the notion that relationships are in our lives for seasons and reasons.

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Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Swans Julie & Valerie, with me, Pink Collar Coach in the middle. Our clothing color choices are complementary but not coordinated. : )                                                                                          Floral dress & strappy heels w/ pink coral & navy heels (out of view) –                                      All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx. 

You see, I dreaded a career change meant the season for these women being in my  life had come to an end. Instead it marked the beginning of a new reason. They encouraged me as I dove into operating my own business full-time to focus on  publishing my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul. Then when life threw me another curve ball, they stepped up to the plate and helped me get to a safe place personally and professionally in the forms of a tiny house for personal and professional use and a dream job as the Director of a Women’s Center… It’s about as perfect a fit possible for me to live out my purpose which is to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize beauty and their best lives. All to His glory.

Having Julie and Valerie, who have become my Swan Sisters, come celebrate my 50th, not only allowed them to check out the center, it provided an opportunity for us to catch up and continue our connectedness. It also proved it’s true some relationships are in our lives for a reason and others for a season. As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, I’m glad to recognize sometimes it’s both.

Who in your personal and/or professional life is in it for a reason? A season? Both?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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Diverse Worlds, United Girls

Diverse Worlds, United Girls

It’s Day 9 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and last night’s birthday dinner could be described as an experience in diverse worlds and united girls. After a fabulous 50th from the residents and staff at the Women’s Center where I’m the Director, I rushed across town to a favorite Zumba instructor/friend’s class. As usual dancing proved to make a delightful day even better. Even so, the two of of quickly changed to meet a third friend for dinner. Being from Peru, Russia and the United States, we make quite a trio. We may be from three different countries, but may of our struggles and successes are the same. Our time together covered a broad range of topics and emotions with a thread of laughter running consistently throughout. And though we come from such diverse worlds, the harmony makes as a set of united girls.

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 Angelin, me, the Pink Collar Coach and Marina, from Peru, America and Russia respectively. My dress, handbag and sunglasses are from Calvin Klein, purchased at TJ Maxx. 

Not only that, though more gifts is the last thing I expected, these generous ladies showered me with more of my favorite things – yummy scented candles, gorgeous jewelry and TJ Maxx gift cards! Yay! Just as meaningful to me is the obvious effort to package the gifts in a way that looked like me. Let me just say, “Nailed it.” The gift bag looks as if it was designed to complement my dress and all cards, wrapping paper, etc. had either pink, flowers, or some combo of the two. Such thoughtfulness. So blessed…

In a world where there are beautiful friendships to be made and cultivated, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & chic on Purpose and broaden your personal and/or professional circle. Who knows? You too may experience how you may be from different worlds. That doesn’t mean you can’t be untied girls.

Wish you could have been there, sweet Kibby!

Be savvy & chic ,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Fitness and Friendship

Fitness and Friendship

It’s Day 6 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and like most Saturdays, it was about fitness and friendship. One day early in our relationship, my now Swan Sister, Kibby, invited me to attend Zumba at her athletic club during a lunch break at work. Going on seven years later, we’re still working out. Doing fitness (sometimes food) and fitness.

While we’ve had amazing instructors come and go, Marvelous Marina is still with us and has become not only one of my Zumba mentors, but a dear friend. Dancing with her, learning from her and supporting one another –– she’s attended both book fairs for my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, and I sub for her and serve as wingman whenever needed in class. This morning, she gave a shout out for my upcoming birthday on Monday. She’s filling in for another Zumba sis and invited the class to join us that evening to celebrate my 50th. I’m also looking forward to hanging out with her and another friend afterwards.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach and Mentor/Friend, Marina.                   A little belly dancing added a twist to this class – literally!  I’m in my Calvin Klein Performance & New Balance shoes.           Marina could be a Zumba Wear model. Wears it well! 

For me, Zumba provides so much more than a chance to exercise. It’s a chance to appreciate music, express myself through dance and connect with The One who made it all. Through fitness, I experience friendship AKA fellowship with beautiful, strong, amazing women.

I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and either engage in exercise you’ve neglected or find your fit –– be it dance or another form. There’s a good chance you may find friendship, too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

My Furry Valentine

My Furry Valentine

I’ve been back to blogging for about 25 days, and though Valentine’s Day was Thursday, I’m feeling especially grateful for My Furry Valentine today. Three years ago, my sweet hubby took me to our local animal shelter for the event by that name, and it was there a two year old gray beauty, Peppa, stole my heart. I added Loveday –– a character in a favorite Rosamunde Pilcher book entitled Coming Home –– and am reminded how much my husband adores me each time I say it. You see, he really wasn’t in favor of our first kitty, Skylar Belle, joining our blended family, but gave in to my needling for my kiddos to have a pet. They were my first consideration in giving her a sibling, but he confided that he really got her for me. That knowledge and Peppa Loveday’s docile spirit made her my constant companion. In fact, she now resides at the tiny house I rent for personal and professional use. And today, docile as she is, she earned her keep by serving as a mouser and dealing with an unwanted visitor. Her feline feat has endeared My Furry Valentine to me even more!

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My Furry Valentine, Peppa Loveday. At peace in my Petite Place.                                       Abbuson needlepoint rug –– found over a decade ago at TJ Maxx.

As Peppa Loveday sits at my feet while I write, she reminds me that we females can be ultra feminine, pretty, sweet, and meek. But it doesn’t mean we aren’t intrepid too. Though she is skittish –– I believe she was abused by the original owners who named her then dumped her off at the pound –– this trait has been evident in Peppa Loveday from the moment we brought her home. While Skylar hissed and growled, Peppa never once cowed to her bullying. In fact, most of the time she simply responded by sitting serenely and looking at her like, Really? 

When I tried to bring Peppa over to the tiny house, at first she wasn’t feeling it and let me know when I tried to put her the pet carrier. Not wanting me to get scratched up again, my husband got a large dog crate, put her food and water inside and trained her not to be afraid to go in. That’s how we finally got her over to what I’m beginning to think of as “My Petite Place”. Having her with me makes it feel even more like a home/office. And it makes me feel my husband’s love all over again. After all, not only did he go to great lengths to get Peppa Loveday for me in the first place, he’s gone above and beyond to bring me My Furry Valentine.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Little Gifts Given with Great Love – Part 2

Little Gifts Given with Great Love – Part 2

It’s Day 24 of being back to blogging, and since I didn’t have my kiddos on Valentine’s Day, we’re celebrating now with little gifts given with great love. I went to a German bilingual school and began my lifelong love affair with Gummi Bears in first grade when our teacher gave them as a treat. The love affair with roses started shortly thereafter. My children were delighted to receive the former, specially packaged for the holiday with only the  red and white candies, and my sweet hubby surprised me with white roses lovingly arranged in an uncommon red vase. The thought and time put into finding favorite things for others not only bless the recipients but make the giver feel pretty good, too. Yet another benefit of  little gifts given with great love.

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Red & white Gummi Bears & floral arrangement make a lovely Valentines Day vignette . Bucket bench is a favorite antique store find. Simply Shabby Chic pedestal mirror. 

Besides making a holiday special, inexpensive little treats like these –– all purchased at the local grocer –– can encourage others and lift their spirits. So the next time you’re out doing the weekly shopping, why not be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and pick up a little something for that someone in your life? You never know, a little gift given with great love could make a BIG difference in their day.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Little Gifts Given With Great Love

Little Gifts Given With Great Love

It’s Day 23 of being back to blogging, and in preparing to celebrate Valentines Day with my hubby, I’m reminded it’s little gifts given with great love that are often the biggest blessing. Back when I was newly in love with my preppy husband, I went on an elaborate shopping spree and purchased several updated classic argyle sweaters for him. At the time, his reaction –– appreciation for the thought but NOT the gift ––  surprised and hurt me. But that was before I understood he didn’t wan’t his classic clothing and or any other aspect of his appearance updated. Over time I learned he doesn’t wear cologne, hates jewelry and doesn’t enjoy my taste in art, books or music. What he does value is quality time spent, heartfelt messages and favorite fat free foods! Armed with this knowledge, I skipped Zumba for an early date night (so we could beat tomorrow’s crowds), added a hand written note and symbol of our love story to a faith based card, and gifted him with fat free Fig Newtons. Sounds pretty simple but he was blessed by these little gifts given with great love.

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A Valentines Day Vignette – Roses, a favorite fat-free dessert tied with a handcrafted heart, a lovely hand drawn card from Dayspring, a crocheted heart and velvet ribbon –                                           All masculine versions of Shabby Chic. 

It isn’t necessary to break the bank to make Valentines Day special. Instead, with a little effort, thought and time, the holiday can be one that reflects the things that are meaningful to your relationship. When this happens, there’s a magical opportunity to create a lasting romantic memory –– which I consider priceless. Based on our sweet time together this evening, I believe my hubby agrees. Though there were no extravagant gifts or grand gestures, there was lots of laughter and lobster dinner! We enjoyed these little gifts given with love. Another thing there’s lots of.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

Sadie Hawkins Shopping Success

Sadie Hawkins Shopping Success

It’s Day 18 of being back to blogging, and though I’ve missed over a week posting due to being sick, I’m excited to share about this weekend’s Sadie Hawkins shopping success. In this day and age when the traditional dynamics of this dance –– where the girls ask the guys –– are so much more complex, I have to confess I’m relieved to report that my 15-year-old is “going doe” and the most challenging piece of the equation was the quest for the dress. Though I’d been down with bronchitis and flu, my teen made it clear she wanted to go looking with me. Getting up proved to be worth the effort because after she futilely searched for just the right thing, I spotted it and knew I’d hit gold the minute she laid eyes on a youthful yellow number that could have been tailor made for her petite frame. Not only that, despite her doubts that I could help her secure just the right type of bra for the dress’ cut, I nailed that and she now owns her most flattering, and therefore favorite ever. All in all, I’d say our Sadie Hawkins shopping was a success!

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Sadie Hawkins Shopping Success! A flirty floral in her favorite – yellow. Dress from TJ Maxx. 

As a divorced mom (a D or challenge women face) and Maxxinista, this shopping expedition proved to be a positive experience on many levels. There was a time in the not so distant past where stepmom’s influence and preferences carried far more weight than mine. And I’d have been alright with that had said stepmom not usurped my place as Mom and had her tastes been a little more refined and budget friendly. Stepmom is now out of the picture, which is sad in some ways, however, I’m relieved that the balance has been restored to my relationship with my daughter. Had stepmom still been around, I’m almost certain this mom-daughter experience would have been yet another we missed out on because she stepped in and shopped with her before we got the chance to do it together.

Now I’m thankful my daughter has a dress she not only plans to wear to the dance –– with combat boots –– and over leggings or jeans like above, we have a bonding memory to look back on. Plus it doesn’t hurt that Liv learned that her mom is has a great eye for style on a shoe string! It makes me hopeful that she’ll grow up to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic... Based on this weekend’s Sadie Hawkins shopping success, it may well turn out to be a case of like mother, like daughter!

How about you? What special shopping experiences do you share with your daughter? Mother? Other females? Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and maximize them to strengthen your bond?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach