Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 16, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 16, 2018

You’re never alone with a good book and God to keep you company.

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Playing a Round with Love

Playing a Round with Love

It’s Day 283 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and after a productive work day, I spent this evening “Playing a Round with Love”. There’s a short story with this title by one of my all-time favorite authors, Rosamunde Pilcher, and though I read it the first time twenty years ago, its lesson is one I still apply today. In the story, a new young bride sits sulking at a resort because her groom has left her alone to play a round of golf. An older woman joins her and ends up sharing some sage wisdom about the benefits of couples having their own individual interests and pursuits. Then she demonstrates how she’s lived a long, healthy marriage doing just that when she lovingly greets her husband – who’s accompanied by the groom – when they come off the green. You see, he’d left her to go play as well – and she’d occupied herself with other things she enjoyed – as they’d been been doing their entire marriage. The couple had learned that their time apart made coming together that much sweeter. Tonight, I followed this example by going to the bookstore then heading over to join my hubby and company at an indoor virtual golf course. As much as I enjoyed the time alone, reuniting with him was even better. I’m grateful that Ms. Pilcher taught me about playing a round with love.

A rose amongst thorns! My second oldest stepson, my hubby’s best friend from high school ,my oldest stepson, and my sweet hubby.                                                                                                              Me, Pink Collar Coach- Calvin Klein sweater, green jeggin’s and black boots w/a floral handbag. 

One of my husband’s friends, who does practically everything with his wife, once asked him how the two of us get along so well. My husband was and still is a consummate athlete, and I don’t enjoy sports at all. While he participates in and spectates at nearly every one, you’ll seldom find  me doing either. The difference between that couple and us is that we’re more than O.K. not spending every waking hour together. When we are, we talk at a deep level and really connect, and we’re secure in each other’s love – whether we’re in the same space or not. I’m not being critical of the other couple – in fact I’m happy that they’re so symbiotic. I’m also happy that we don’t have to be. We’d both suffocate!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose wife and stepmom, I do believe it’s important for my husband and my stepsons to see that while golf, baseball, basketball, bowling, etc., etc. are not my thing, they are. Though it may not always be apparent, I love them fiercely…All of these men in my life say I’m as “fru fru” as it gets, so it’s fun to surprise them every once in a while by showing up in one of their “man” settings unexpectedly. And as much as the boys – especially the oldest – razzes me, he’s also the first to ask if his dad and I are alright if he senses we’re not. It’s good for them to see how much I adore him with a sacrificial love that makes me spend my night on a simulated golf course instead of curled up on the sofa with my new book. After all, thanks to all my reading, I may not be any good at golfing, but I’m pretty adept at “Playing a Round with Love”.

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose with your relationships – valuing time spent together and apart?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Working on a Book Signing for Seasons of Her Soul!

Working on a Book Signing for Seasons of Her Soul!

It’s Day 240 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I spent some time this evening in one of my favorite places on earth -Barnes and Noble – working on a book signing for Seasons of Her Soul. Some of you readers have asked about this and I’m pleased to let you know it should be a reality soon. I’m also in the process with LifeWay Christian Bookstore, one of the few brick and mortar booksellers still in operation here in the Cincinnati area. Being a debut novelist makes it challenging to break through giant brick and mortar stores like B&N, and even the ones that seem like little mom and pop ventures in comparison. But you know me – I’m all about minimizing barriers and maximizing beauty and women’s best personal and professional lives, so now that I know both of these support local authors, I’m going after it with a sledge hammer and won’t stop working until I’ve scheduled some Seasons of Her Soul book signings!


While there, I picked up one of my favorite sources of inspiration, Artful Blogging, and browsed through some other decorating magazines. Then I made my usual perusal of the Christian fiction section and was delighted to find an author I’ve never read. I’ve always devoured books and consume a healthy diet of authors with different styles as a way to feed my creativity. Trying new ones helps me broaden my horizons and hone my craft. Feeling as satisfied as could be because I was in a bookstore with a copy of Seasons of Her Soul, I couldn’t resist laying it on the coffee table along with these other delectable treats. Twas so sweet to imagine someone discovering it and plopping down in a comfy chair with a latte to savor it and my novel!


As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose debut novelist, I’m savoring this sweet season in my journey. I say that not to flaunt it, but to encourage you. While this evening was blissful, the work day was fraught with Ds brought on by one dastardly dude! But I’m determined not to be derailed. I’ve worked too hard to build a life I love, including becoming a published author. No hater or saboteur is going to knock that down. Barnes and Noble isn’t the only thing built of brick and mortar! In fact, I’ll even say I’m stronger and more sturdy because I’m built on the Firm Foundation, the Solid Rock. That will hold me in good stead as I continue working on book signings for Seasons of Her Soul!

What Pink Collar Ds or challenges are you facing that feel as impenetrable as a solid structure? Perhaps it’s that personal situation where you can’t make a breakthrough? Or maybe you feel like you’re hitting a brick wall in your professional life… How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose to minimize those barriers and to maximize your best life on the home-front and in the workplace?

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit at or

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach



Benefits of Being Bookish

Benefits of Being Bookish

It’s Day 236 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and since I spent most of my weekend happily reading, it made me ponder the benefits of being bookish. Bookish is an adjective defined as “(of a person or way of life) devoted to reading and studying rather than worldly interests.” Considering that I’m a person for whom reading has been a way of life since I learned to do it age three, I suppose the description fits. That and the fact that I came up with such as long list but could have easily gone on… Below are my top 25:

Benefits of Being Bookish

  1. It allowed me to test into a bilingual magnet school in Kindergarten.
  2. It caused me to speak correct English, though I grew up in the ghetto.
  3. It gave me an excellent vocabulary and a voracious love of words.
  4. It provided an escape from my abusive, dysfunctional childhood home.
  5. It exposed me to the Bible and my overwhelming need for a Savior.
  6. It inspired me to teach others and to start the Sunshine Club when I was nine.
  7. It kept me occupied and from running the streets and getting into trouble.
  8. It got me my own Sunday school class & an adult assistant when I was thirteen.
  9. It motivated me to apply for a library job when I was fifteen and too young to work.
  10. It put a burning desire in my heart to become a published author of books.
  11. It enabled me to pass the entrance test to attend a college preparatory school.
  12. It secured my acceptance into my college of choice (and possibly my sorority too).
  13. It made college easy & caused me to blow the class curve on my first college exam.
  14. It earned me a position as editor of the college paper.
  15. It made work study awesome because I worked in the library, of course!
  16. It served me well in earning two undergraduate and one graduate degree.
  17. It compelled me to become a teacher who taught every grade except K and 4th.
  18. It demanded I expose students to children’s lit and integrate it across content areas.
  19. It caused me to raise bookworms.
  20. It landed me with my own magazine column.
  21. It prevents me from EVER being bored and exercises my brain muscles every day.
  22. It takes me all over the world though I’ve never left the United States.
  23. It introduces me to friends and places I can visit over & over, whenever I like.
  24. It broadens my horizons, perspectives, & capacity to empathize with others’.
  25. It remains my most constant, enduring, hobby/passtime/passion/ & LOVE.

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose bookish reader, I’ve heard a some interesting things about reading lately – like how successful people are often readers. Having just made a lifelong dream of publishing my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, come true, I do believe being an avid reader had a lot to do with it. Writers read to hone their craft. In addition, for as long as I can remember, every time I finish a book, I hold it close to my heart as if doing so will cause me to aborb it as part of myself forever. Perhaps I was trying to absorb some of that special writer something…Then again, now that I think about it, I was probably just being bookish.

What about you? Are you bookish? What benefits have you reaped from being a reader? In your personal life? Professionally? How could you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about reading good books?

Be savvy & chic ,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit at 
Rainy Day Reading (Special and Surreal – It’s My Book, Seasons of Her Soul!)

Rainy Day Reading (Special and Surreal – It’s My Book, Seasons of Her Soul!)

It’s Day 235 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’ve spent the rainy day reading; it’s been special and surreal because it’s my book, Seasons of Her Soul. After this morning’s Zumba class with one of my magnificent mentors, Marina, and running errands, I almost made it in the house before the skies opened up – but not quite. With precious cargo on board in the form of the first box containing copies of my debut novel, I left all but the copy I started reading last night in the car. Originally I wanted to have one available for Marina but was pleasantly surprised to learn she’d already downloaded the Kindle version and was 76% through. Happy with that knowledge, I came inside and curled up in one of my favorite places on earth: the left corner of the sofa and have been contentedly lost in the story ever since. Though it really is a little surreal, it’s so special to hold the book I’ve carried in my heart for so long in my hands.  And it warms my heart to imagine my mentor perhaps spending this rainy day reading it too.

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In fact, it’s been such a blessing hearing from you readers who have purchased the Kindle or print versions. Another ZIN (Zumba Instructor Network) mentor, Jodi, let me know she got the former when her son was home sick from school. How cool is that for a mom to read the book as she tends to her child? Then last night, I received the coolest IM message from someone in my Sunday Zumba with the Pink Collar Coach class, below, stating it was her favorite part thus far. Writers write because we want to share it with the world. For me, knowing those in my little corner of the world are reading and being impacted based on what’s circled here, means my purpose in writing the book is being fulfilled.


As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose new author, I hope each of you realizes how much it means to me that you’ve given my writing a chance. By reading this blog and the book. It’s daunting for writers to break into publication as is evidenced by the first speaking invitation I’ve received since the book released. Our local chapter of Altrusa International, a non-profit organization focused on community service and supporting women, has requested I present on my publication journey. You all have played such a big part in it. With every blog post, Facebook or Linked In viewing, share, like and comment. With every Kindle and print book purchase. With each review written. With every request for me to host a book signing (the reason I have a those boxes of books). With every way you’ve shown encouragement and support. I’m so blessed and thankful to have you along on my journey. Especially on a rainy day spent reading.

Seasons of Her Soul has a strong social message about one of the Ds, domestic violence. How are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose with what you read? Does the fiction you read have a literary quality about it that elevates your empathy for the experiences of others?

To learn more about Altrusa International, Inc. please visit

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit at 
Thank you!
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach