It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and it marks 6 days straight of NaNoWriMo –– National Novel Writer’s Month writing with some Community Summit straight talk thrown in.
Project: Hold on Her Heart, Book 2 in the Lee’s Legacy Series. Goal: 50,000 words in 30 days. Today: 727. Though that sounds low, and I’m only at 7,450/50,000 with NaNoWriMo, I’m at a total of 20,250 overall. Hey I’ll take it.
Especially given my day. Such a service on purpose morning singing and speaking at a Community Summit to share my Ds story –– the personal and professional challenges and barriers women face –– and how I’ve been able to minimize those Ds to maximize beauty and my best life as the Women’s Center Director at Hope House Mission. Seeing how impactful it was –– to the point of moving the most influential person in the room to tears –– reminds me there’s SO much purpose in the pain.
So does writing Hold on Her Heart..
Thank you so much to those of you who have liked a post here on the blog or via social media. Your encouragement means more than I can say…And that’s all I’ve got to say tonight –– a little worn out from my 6 days straight of writing and early morning straight talk at the summit.
I pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and keep sharing your story. Whether it’s through singing, writing, speaking…You never know who needs to hear it. Like me, you may find it’s someone with influence who can make a difference –– a positive D!
It’s Day 37 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project, and the Cincy Lifestyles interview on the Chick-Fil-A 5K Fun Run for Hope House Mission, where I represented my agency as the Women’s Center Director, airs tomorrow. Chick-Fil-A has partnered with Hope House Mission on this race for the 3rd year with all proceeds to benefit Hope House, which is celebrating 30 years of serving homeless women, children and men in Butler and surrounding counties. Acting as the spokesperson is such an honor and presented the opportunity to briefly share how I’m blessed to use my story of overcoming the domestic violence that led to my own homelessness to serve the women at Hope House. By doing so I’m able to minimize this D –– or barrier women face –– in order to not only maximize beauty and my best life, but to coach, encourage and inspire other women to do so as well. All to His glory.
As a relatively new blogger –– today actually marks three years since I signed up with Word Press, but I’ve been blogging for two years –– I’m still struggling with finding my niche or voice or both. I believe I’ve nailed my purpose –– not just for my business and writing, but for my life. Still, I struggle to engage readers. And being even more transparent, I compare myself to other bloggers who get tons of followers, likes and comments. Consequently, I’ve begun to really pray about what God wants me to write and the revelation scares me. I feel compelled to go beyond the surface –– deep into the really ugly Ds so I can really reach those who need to hear those stories. But I’m frightened about exposing that much of myself. This interview scratches the tip of the iceberg because I publicly reveal that I became homeless after my abusive marriage ended…And I have some haters…
Even so, I’m committed to following the leading of what I believe is the Holy Spirit in my life. Because ultimately, I want to my pain to serve a purpose in the lives of other women to let them know that if God can take all my Ds –– my rock bottom –– and use it as the solid foundation upon which I am building not only the rest of my life but the best of my life, He can do it for them. When it’s all said, done and written, pointing the way to Him and bringing Him glory through my personal and professional life is the real way to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic.
I pray this “Cincy Lifestyles” interview that airs tomorrow not only brings people out for the race but accomplishes that.
It’s Day 365 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and six years of presenting with Kay Fittes of High Heeled Success has taught us that the speakers who laugh together learn together. Yesterday, June 9th, marked six years of partnering to present workshops for women. And I have to say, Number 25 went a whole lot better than Number 1! Though I wasn’t a speaking novice back then, my experience presenting at church and religious events, at Christian schools and conferences, some women’s events, and in the Early Childhood field meant I was a newbie speaking in front of professional women from other sectors. Kay and I met wrote and went over our “Equilibrium in High Heels” workshop on work-life balance nearly verbatim. We practiced transitions back and forth between the two of us and figured our high level of preparation would ensure the day would run like a well-oiled machine. Train wreck is more like it! Following an exhausting evening of set up where we blew up helium balloons for our closing segment – all while my then eight and seven-year-olds wreaked havoc – we arrived to find all the balloons on the floor. They weren’t the only things that fell flat. My segment on creating a balanced life vision went over well. Too well. We couldn’t get the participants to stop working on them for the rest of the workshop! And our practiced volleying of the content back and forth came off more like an intense tennis match! Furthermore, I became so overcome with emotion about having my dream of working with my mentor come true that I couldn’t keep my tears in check. I wasn’t the only one. One woman’s life was so out of control she cried for the duration. Finally, after hours of packing up, I high-fived Kay and congratulated us with, “Petite Power!”. She echoed the phrase but not my enthusiasm. In fact, it took her weeks to come clean about how she really felt the day went. OUCH! Looking back, we can see the humor. Then, not so much. Good thing we persisted and now know the speakers who laugh together learn together!
Thankfully that first workshop wasn’t our last. We regrouped and other than challenges with too much content and too much time, each workshop went from strength to strength. We learned how to play to my strengths – storytelling, the surprise element of song and some facilitation- and to let Kay cover the bulk of the content with her own compelling stories woven throughout. And because we are alike in so many ways, including birthdays within a week and have come to be friends who care deeply about one another, we have a natural synergy and amazing energy, too. Add in a bit of comedic relief and some spontaneous hilarity and we’ve found a winning formula that our participants love. Based on the consistently positive feedback we receive from our audiences, after a rough start, we definitely found our sweet spot.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose speaker, days like yesterday are the end all, be all. We had three of our original participants in the audience – they’re repeat attenders and often are – and with their consensus the workshop was unanimously deemed “Best Ever”! The two of us have had quite the journey with it’s ups and downs, highs, lows and and an emotionally charged debut “Overcoming the Fear Factor” workshop that resulted in a room flooded with as many tears as that first session. Good ones with not a dry eye left by close. Good thing one of the things we’ve learned as speakers is to laugh together, too.
It’s Day 364 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and we had an overwhelming response to today’s “Overcoming The Fear Factor women’s workshop”.
Smiles and Laughs.
Connection and Contemplation.
Ahas and Epiphanies.
Tough Topics, Tears and Turning Corners.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose presenter, I wanted to post some pics of the day, however, I’m emotionally and physically drained. So I’m off to practice self-care…I’ll probably share more tomorrow, but for now, I just feel blessed to have received this feedback: Our best workshop EVER! Talk about an overwhelming response to our “Overcoming The Fear Factor” women’s workshop!
It’s Day 360 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’ve spent the day preparing my stories and segments for this Saturday’s “Overcoming the Fear Factor” workshop. For the last six years Pink Collar Savvy & Chic has partnered with High Heeled Success to present public workshops. We’ve repeated some but created fresh, new content for this one. That being the case, following our prep conference call yesterday, I got cracking on what which of my personal stories I’d like to share and how I’ll add unique value to the segments I’ll present. In doing so, I realized I really have come along way in facing my fears head on and wrestling them to the ground vs. my old MO, which simply running scared. Even if you’re not attending the workshop, I hope you’ll check out the “High Heeled Success Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor” flyer.
For the longest time, most of the stories I shared revolved around the professional experiences I had in the workplace. A little over a year ago, however, I began the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, where I blog daily. That served as the catalyst for me finally getting over my social media angst and posting regularly. Soon afterward, I bit the bullet and began to operate my life coaching business full-time. Next, I published my debut novel, making a lifelong dream come true. This led to speaking engagements beyond what I’d done before. My point? Now my stories are drawn from my experiences working for myself. And like Maya Angelou said, “Nothing will work unless you do.”
Here’s what I’ll cover:
Rapport/My Personal Fear Story – Fear Is a Liar and The Truth About Lies
Fear Truths Story – Talking to Myself vs. Listening to Myself
Fear Truths Bullet Point (segment) – Pushing through fear is less frightening than fear caused by helplessness
Fear Game Plan Story – Pink Collar Savvy & Chic On Purpose Project (Blog)
Fear Game Plan – Chronicle It! Story – Full-time Fear Buster
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur, life coach, author and speaker, I’m so thankful I’m not letting fear win. I say that present tense because it’s an ongoing battle. Much of the time I do the work and fight scared. But it’s just like when I was in elementary and grade school, where I did more than my share of fighting. I was small and quiet. And I sure didn’t look like I posed a threat. So I got picked on. Easy target, right? Wrong! I was small but scrappy and had a mouth on me that could annihilate a foe without uttering a foul word. Once I’d fought a few bullies – scared – I got a reputation for being a formidable opponent. Mostly because I called the bullies out for what they really were – cowards. And it’s the same today. There are always new barriers and challenges that try to bring me down, but I look Fear right in the eyes and speak the truth: You’re a Liar. Armed with Truth – “God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind” on my side, I’m up for the challenge of Full-Time Fear Busting and presenting my stories and segments at our Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor workshop.
What fears hold you back in your personal and/or professional life? How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about overcoming the fear factor? Perhaps it’s joining us for the workshop. If interested in attending High Heeled Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor, please shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Thanks!
It’s Day 327 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I spent it answering Calls for Proposals. Well, technically I prepared to answer them…If you’re anything like me six years ago, you may not know what the term means. Though I’d spoken publically my whole life and was a presenter and trainer, I’d never heard of a Call for Proposals, which is synonymous with Request for Proposals (RFP), until one went out at work around conference time. It’s basically when a proposal is solicited by an agency or company seeking to secure a commodity or service. In regards to presenting, it’s when said agency, company or organization is looking for conference or event speakers. There are usually topic parameters and speakers either a) create a new presentation or b) tweak an existing one to make it a fit. The emcee from Disrupt HR Cincinnati where I spoke last week forwarded an RFP for a women’s conference focused on mentoring and I worked on Option B all day and only have to film a three minute video of the presentation to submit. Then I received a second forwarded email from an agency where I used to work with a second RFP around powerful leadership. Thankfully, I already had something else that could be subjected to Option B as well. Otherwise, it would take me a few weeks to answer both calls for proposals!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose speaker, I’m excited to submit these RFPs and feel rewarded because the intensive time, labor and effort that went into creating something to fill in for someone at the eleventh hour (the 20 slide Keynote deck was a mini-RFP) last week has already yielded a few speaking opportunities. I’m also hopeful that the job well done for four years when I worked as a Training Consultant and Leadership Coach who wrote and presented dozens of workshops will serve me well now. I LOVE presenting and poured my heart and soul into each, which was reflected in the outstanding feedback I consistently received from participants. And finally, I’m really glad I don’t have to start from scratch – Option A – to pull together these RFPs. Instead, I can draw from the extensive body of work I’ve already created. Mentoring, which is closely tied to coaching, and leadership are definitely in my wheelhouse! I hope to become a SME (Subject Matter Expert) in both…Even so I’ve got more work in front of me than I can shake a stick at! Good thing I’m up to it and more than willing to answer the Calls for Proposals.
Have you ever been Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and answered a Call for Proposal? Would you? What topics are in your wheelhouse? What are your areas of expertise? If you think about it ahead of time, and are on the lookout, you’ll be ready to maximize the opportunity and respond to the next Call for Proposals yourself. You never know what other doors it may open for you…
It’s Day 321 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and this week has been a whirlwind, including a reunion with a writing friend. Tuesday I had a professional early meeting that took me to my old stomping grounds – Avondale, where I grew up. My nostalgia driving down the main drag – Reading Road – turned to shock when I turned down the street where I was raised and became completely disoriented. EVERY single house has been leveled to the ground, and I drove up and down a few times trying to place where my mother’s and Aunt Bertie’s house once stood. I’m not sad to see the former gone – the lyrics from Carrie Underwood’s Blown Away drifted through my mind with that one – but the latter broke my heart. Needing to have some balance restored, I drove to Joseph Beth Booksellers for business and pleasure. The store features local authors, so I’m excited to have begun the process to have them carry my first novel, Seasons of Her Soul, and to have a book signing. Having taken care of that, I met with the mom of one of my former 6th grade students – now a writing friend. What a whirlwind day and such such a blessing catching up on fifteen years!
Cindy sought me out when she heard I’d published my book to let me know she’s written one, too! She’s such an amazing woman who’s survived abuse, founded a non-profit to support other survivors, and is now sharing her journey through her writing. That being the case, we laid some collaboration plans and can’t wait to see what God will do. And of course I had to get an update on Nick, my adorable freckle-faced 6th grader who valiantly served his country in Afghanistan and is now a husband. Talk about proud teacher moment!
I shared about being in the thick of getting ready for my https://DisruptHR.co > Cincinnati talk the next evening, and Cindy gave me some much appreciated feedback on my presentation. Having experienced many of the Ds (challenges) herself, her input and encouragement bolstered me to have the best time sharing how they derail careers and what can be done to prevent them from knocking women (and men) off of their career tracks. The event sold out and I’m thrilled that my topic was so well received and to have made lots of new connections and potential coaching and speaking engagements. A fan of Seasons of Her Soultold me how much she loved the book, putting the icing on the cake. Dinner on the event organizer and more connecting until 10pm followed…Good thing today’s coaching session with a client wasn’t until later in the afternoon!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose life coach, author, speaker, and friend, it really has been a professional whirlwind. Loved every moment of it. One of the highlights was the reunion with an old Fellowship Christian School writing friend. Fifteen years may have passed, but as is always the case with this special group – the friendship picks up right where Fellowship left off…
Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about reuniting with old friends from school, church, the workplace? How can you be?
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
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