The Speakers Who Laugh Together Learn Together

The Speakers Who Laugh Together Learn Together

It’s Day 365 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and six years of presenting with Kay Fittes of High Heeled Success has taught us that the speakers who laugh together learn together. Yesterday, June 9th, marked six years of partnering to present  workshops for women. And I have to say, Number 25 went a whole lot better than Number 1! Though I wasn’t a speaking novice back then, my experience presenting at church and religious events, at Christian schools and conferences, some women’s events, and in the Early Childhood field meant I was a newbie speaking in front of professional women from other sectors. Kay and I met wrote and went over our “Equilibrium in High Heels” workshop on work-life balance nearly verbatim. We practiced transitions back and forth between the two of us and figured our high level of preparation would ensure the day would run like a well-oiled machine. Train wreck is more like it! Following an exhausting evening of set up where we blew up helium balloons for our closing segment – all while my then eight and seven-year-olds wreaked havoc – we arrived to find all the balloons on the floor. They weren’t the only things that fell flat. My segment on creating a balanced life vision went over well. Too well. We couldn’t get the participants to stop working on them for the rest of the workshop! And our practiced volleying of the content back and forth came off more like an intense tennis match! Furthermore, I became so overcome with emotion about having my dream of working with my mentor come true that I couldn’t keep my tears in check. I wasn’t the only one. One woman’s life was so out of control she cried for the duration. Finally, after hours of packing up, I high-fived Kay and congratulated us with, “Petite Power!”. She echoed the phrase but not my enthusiasm. In fact, it took her weeks to come clean about how she really felt the day went. OUCH! Looking back, we can see the humor. Then, not so much. Good thing we persisted and now know the speakers who laugh together learn together!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach & Kay at yesterday’s “High Heeled Steps to Overcoming The Fear Factor”= Together we make Petite Power AKA Cohorts in Crime as her husband named us early on. : )

Thankfully that first workshop wasn’t our last. We regrouped and other than challenges with too much content and too much time, each workshop went from strength to strength.  We learned how to play to my strengths – storytelling, the surprise element of song and some facilitation- and to let Kay cover the bulk of the content with her own compelling stories woven throughout. And because we are alike in so many ways, including birthdays within a week and have come to be friends who care deeply about one another, we have a natural synergy and amazing energy, too.  Add in a bit of comedic relief and some spontaneous hilarity and we’ve found a winning formula that our participants love. Based on the consistently positive feedback we receive from our audiences, after a rough start, we definitely found our sweet spot.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose speaker, days like yesterday are the end all, be all. We had three of our original participants in the audience – they’re repeat attenders and often are – and with their consensus the workshop was unanimously deemed “Best Ever”! The two of us have had quite the journey with it’s ups and downs, highs, lows and and an emotionally charged debut “Overcoming the Fear Factor” workshop that resulted in a room flooded with as many tears as that first session. Good ones with not a dry eye left by close. Good thing one of the things we’ve learned as speakers is to laugh together, too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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Overwhelming Response to Overcoming The Fear Factor Women’s Workshop

Overwhelming Response to Overcoming The Fear Factor Women’s Workshop

It’s Day 364 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and we had an overwhelming response to today’s “Overcoming The Fear Factor women’s workshop”.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach and Kay Fittes of High Heeled Success, being introduced. I’m in my favorite blazer – truly Pink Collar, a cream shell, black pencil skirt and squared open toe pumps. All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx. 

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Smiles and Laughs.

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Connection and Contemplation.

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Ahas and Epiphanies.

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Tough Topics, Tears and Turning Corners.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose presenter, I wanted to post some pics of the day, however, I’m emotionally and physically drained. So I’m off to practice self-care…I’ll probably share more tomorrow, but for now, I just feel blessed to have received this feedback: Our best workshop EVER! Talk about an overwhelming response to our “Overcoming The Fear Factor” women’s workshop!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

My Stories and Segments for “Overcoming the Fear Factor” Workshop

My Stories and Segments for “Overcoming the Fear Factor” Workshop

It’s Day 360 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’ve spent the day preparing my stories and segments for this Saturday’s “Overcoming the Fear Factor” workshop. For the last six years Pink Collar Savvy & Chic has partnered with High Heeled Success to present public workshops. We’ve repeated some but created fresh, new content for this one. That being the case, following our prep conference call yesterday, I got cracking on what which of my personal stories I’d like to share and how I’ll add unique value to the segments I’ll present. In doing so, I realized I really have come along way in facing my fears head on and wrestling them to the ground vs. my old MO, which simply running scared. Even if you’re not attending the workshop, I hope you’ll check out the “High Heeled Success Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor” flyer.

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For the longest time, most of the stories I shared revolved around the professional experiences I had in the workplace. A little over a year ago, however, I began the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, where I blog daily.  That served as the catalyst for me finally getting over my social media angst and posting regularly. Soon afterward, I bit the  bullet and began to operate my life coaching business full-time. Next, I published my debut novel, making a lifelong dream come true. This led to speaking engagements beyond what I’d done before. My point? Now my stories are drawn from my experiences working for myself. And like Maya Angelou said, “Nothing will work unless you do.”

Here’s what I’ll cover:

  1. Rapport/My Personal Fear Story  – Fear Is a Liar and The Truth About Lies
  2. Fear Truths Story  – Talking to Myself vs. Listening to Myself
  3. Fear Truths Bullet Point (segment) – Pushing through fear is less frightening than fear caused by helplessness
  4. Fear Game Plan Story  – Pink Collar Savvy & Chic On Purpose Project (Blog)
  5. Fear Game Plan – Chronicle It! Story  – Full-time Fear Buster

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur, life coach, author and speaker, I’m so thankful I’m not letting fear win. I say that present tense because it’s an ongoing battle. Much of the time I do the work and fight scared. But it’s just like when I was in elementary and grade school, where I did more than my share of fighting. I was small and quiet. And I sure didn’t look like I posed a threat. So I got picked on. Easy target, right? Wrong! I was small but scrappy and had a mouth on me that could annihilate a foe without uttering a foul word. Once I’d fought a few bullies – scared – I got a reputation for being a formidable opponent. Mostly because I called the bullies out for what they really were – cowards. And it’s the same today. There are always new barriers and challenges that try to bring me down, but I look Fear right in the eyes and speak the truth: You’re a Liar. Armed with Truth – “God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind” on my side, I’m up for the challenge of Full-Time Fear Busting and presenting my stories and segments at our Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor workshop.

What fears hold you back in your personal and/or professional life? How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about overcoming the fear factor? Perhaps it’s joining us for the workshop. If interested in attending High Heeled Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor, please shoot me an email at pinkcollarcoach@outlook.com. Thanks! 

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Answering Calls for Proposals

Answering Calls for Proposals

It’s Day 327 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I spent it answering Calls for Proposals. Well, technically I prepared to answer them…If you’re anything like me six years ago, you may not know what the term means. Though I’d spoken publically my whole life and was a presenter and trainer, I’d never heard of a Call for Proposals, which is synonymous with Request for Proposals (RFP), until one went out at work around conference time. It’s basically when a proposal is solicited by an agency or company seeking to secure a commodity or service. In regards to presenting, it’s when said agency, company or organization is looking for conference or event speakers. There are usually topic parameters and speakers either a) create a new presentation or b) tweak an existing one to make it a fit. The emcee from Disrupt HR Cincinnati where I spoke last week forwarded an RFP for a women’s conference focused on mentoring and I worked on Option B all day and only have to film a three minute video of the presentation to submit. Then I received a second forwarded email from an agency where I used to work with a second RFP around powerful leadership. Thankfully, I already had something else that could be subjected to Option B as well. Otherwise, it would take me a few weeks to answer both calls for proposals!

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose speaker, I’m excited to submit these RFPs and feel rewarded because the intensive time, labor and effort that went into creating something to fill in for someone at the eleventh hour (the 20 slide Keynote deck was a mini-RFP) last week has already yielded a few speaking opportunities. I’m also hopeful that the job well done for four years when I worked as a Training Consultant and Leadership Coach who wrote and presented dozens of workshops will serve me well now. I LOVE presenting and poured my heart and soul into each, which was reflected in the outstanding feedback I consistently received from participants. And finally, I’m really glad I don’t have to start from scratch – Option A – to pull together these RFPs. Instead, I can draw from the extensive body of work I’ve already created. Mentoring, which is closely tied to coaching, and leadership are definitely in my wheelhouse! I hope to become a SME (Subject Matter Expert) in both…Even so I’ve got more work in front of me than I can shake a stick at! Good thing I’m up to it and more than willing to answer the Calls for Proposals.

Have you ever been Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and answered a Call for Proposal? Would you? What topics are in your wheelhouse? What are your areas of expertise? If you think about it ahead of time, and are on the lookout, you’ll be ready to maximize the opportunity and respond to the next Call for Proposals yourself. You never know what other doors it may open for you…

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Whirlwind Week and Reunion with a Writing Friend

Whirlwind Week and Reunion with a Writing Friend

It’s Day 321 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and this week has been a whirlwind, including a reunion with a writing friend. Tuesday I had a professional early meeting that took me to my old stomping grounds – Avondale, where I grew up. My nostalgia driving down the main drag –  Reading Road – turned to shock when I turned down the street where I was raised and became completely disoriented. EVERY single house has been leveled to the ground, and I drove up and down a few times trying to place where my mother’s and Aunt Bertie’s house once stood. I’m not sad to see the former gone – the lyrics from Carrie Underwood’s Blown Away drifted through my mind with that one – but the latter broke my heart. Needing to have some balance restored, I drove to Joseph Beth Booksellers for business and pleasure. The store features local authors, so I’m excited to have begun the process to have them carry my first novel, Seasons of Her Soul, and to have a book signing. Having taken care of that, I met with the mom of one of my former 6th grade students – now a writing friend. What a whirlwind day and such such a blessing catching up on fifteen years!

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Cindy is fresh in her black and florals and I brought my A Game in an A line skirt & jacket that pair like a suit but are separates. The blue blouse, shoes 7 bag made it fun. Calvin Klein TJ Maxx.  

Cindy sought me out when she heard I’d published my book to let me know she’s written one, too! She’s such an amazing woman who’s survived abuse, founded a non-profit to support other survivors, and is now sharing her journey through her writing. That being the case, we laid some collaboration plans and can’t wait to see what God will do. And of course I had to get an update on Nick, my adorable freckle-faced 6th grader who valiantly served his country in Afghanistan and is now a husband. Talk about proud teacher moment!

I shared about being in the thick of getting ready for my https://DisruptHR.co > Cincinnati talk the next evening, and Cindy gave me some much appreciated feedback on my presentation. Having experienced many of the Ds (challenges) herself, her input and encouragement bolstered me to have the best time sharing how they derail careers and what can be done to prevent them from knocking women (and men) off of their career tracks. The event sold out and I’m thrilled that my topic was so well received and to have made lots of new connections and potential coaching and speaking engagements. A fan of Seasons of Her Soultold me how much she loved the book, putting the icing on the cake. Dinner on the event organizer and more connecting until 10pm  followed…Good thing today’s coaching session with a client wasn’t until later in the afternoon!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose life coach, author, speaker, and friend, it really has been a professional whirlwind. Loved every moment of it. One of the highlights was the reunion with an old Fellowship Christian School writing friend. Fifteen years may have passed, but as is always the case with this special group – the friendship picks up right where Fellowship left off…

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about reuniting with old friends from school, church, the workplace? How can you be?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9.

It is also available on Barnes and Noble.com at https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seasons-of-her-soul-tammi-ector/1127818446?ean=9780998966359.

 

 

How the Ds Derail Talent & Cause Professional Train Wrecks – Pt. 2 (And How to Zap Them)

How the Ds Derail Talent & Cause Professional Train Wrecks – Pt. 2 (And How to Zap Them)

It’s Day 319 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and this post is a continuation of above from two days ago. I’m presenting at Disrupt HR Cincinnati tomorrow night. Hope you’ll check out the link https://disrupthr.co > cincinnati. Thank you!

Disconnected Dressing – A creative communications specialist dresses to express herself. What it doesn’t express is her competence or her desire to be taken seriously. It creates a disconnect and doesn’t support everything else she does to get ahead. Her dress sabotages her success.

Discrimination – An exceptional trainer with consistently outstanding participant feedback, an advanced degree ends and training certification ends up reporting to those with less education and experience. The only minority on the team, she is written up for insubordination when she questions the promotion process.

Divorce – A team leader at a non-profit doesn’t make much, but finds work her meaningful and fulfilling. When her husband divorced her, leaving her and two teenagers practically destitute, heartbreak prevented her from performing optimally to earn much needed merit increases and makes her resent the job she once loved.

Diagnoses – An IT technician’s wife was diagnosed with breast cancer and the small agency doesn’t offer FMLA. He exhausts his PTO, requests to do some work remotely, is denied, and placed on a Performance Improvement Plan for absenteeism- right after the organization participated in Race for The Cure.

Domestic Court Issues – An enrollment director was embroiled in a contentious custody battle with his ex-girlfriend. Parenting investigations, lengthy calls with his attorney, and heated conversations with his ex caused enrollment to tank. He got shared parenting, but the schedule made it look more like a career death sentence.

Domestic Violence – A marketing manager is often late for work because her classic abuser partner takes the car and makes her take a bus or walk. Fearing he’d carry out his threats to harm her dog if she left, at times she’d miss work all together. She stayed with him but left the job.

Drug and Alcohol Abuse – An aviation executive is a functioning alcoholic. The company was unaware of his DUIs and offered him his dream promotion. When he confessed his record, the opportunity and his reputation crashed and burned.

Dysfunctional Relationships – There’s a reason most of the seats are empty at this Adult Children of Normal Parents Convention. If you’re anything like me, you were raised in a  dysfunctional family and now you’re the head of one! We’ve all experienced our share of Ds and carry so much relationship baggage onto the work train it’s a miracle any of us can stay on track with our careers.

That’s the bad news: Like with these derailed train wrecks, your talent – and You! – has issues!

The good news is: Your talent can keep calm and never fear because HR – You! – are here to step in and save the day with strategies to deal with their Ds.

3Cs to Zap the Ds

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Consideration – Since we all have Ds, practice The Golden Rule and treat your talent the way you’d want to be treated. Get to know them as individuals – personally and professionally so you’re aware of their challenges. Let them know you’ve got their backs. And here’s a rad thought: If you’re a person of faith, pray for them.

Connection to Resources– Connect them to Employee Assistance Programs. Educate yourself through ongoing professional development around best practices like Trauma Informed Care (TIC). Provide information – print and electronic. Refer them to doctors, counselors, support groups, whatever they need. And if you don’t have a resource, find one.

Coaching (Life, Executive, Career, Performance) – Find their fit and if it’s not financially feasible for the organization, equip yourself to fill the shoes yourself. That’s literally stepping in to save the day!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach and  Speaker, I want to drive home the point that if they use these 3 Cs: they’ll be Faster than a career suicide bullet, more powerful than a sabotaging locomotive, able to deal with the Ds and prevent derailing in an effective bound! You’ll be an HR Superhero who’s able to Zap (obliterate, destroy) the Ds to keep your talent on track!

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and use them, too?

Be savvy &  chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

How the Ds Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks (Pt. 1)

How the Ds Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks (Pt. 1)

It’s Day 317 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m sharing “How the Ds (personal and professional challenges that negatively impact work performance) Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks. I’m doing so in preparation for speaking at  at DisruptHR Cincinnati this week. To learn more about it, please click on the link https://disrupthr.co > cincinnati. The actual title of my presentation is “HR Superheroes to the Rescue! – Don’t Let the Ds Derail Your Talent! – Keep Them on Track”,  but I’m sharing half of the scenarios (only 15 seconds to speak on the content/correlating slide) here in hopes of getting feedback. I’ll share the other half and what can done to prevent the Ds from derailing in tomorrow’s post. Thanks!

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The Ds Derail Careers! 

Grabber: Don’t let the Ds – the personal and/or professional challenges that negatively impact workplace performance – derail your talent! Instead, be an HR Superhero and keep them on track! Given your roles, I suspect you’re familiar with the Ds. But let me share some of the train wrecks I’ve witnessed because of them. Details have been changed to protect the victims – and the perpetrators.

Death – A mid level leader and single mom whose brother had terminal cancer. She’d been expecting his death for months. What she didn’t expect was to bury her brother only to have her healthy mother fall ill a few months later. She experienced two deaths in as many months and got buried under her workload after burying two of the people  closest to her.

Debt – An administrative assistant who returned to the workforce to supplement her husband’s income. When he lost his job and she became the sole bread winner, they felt into debt so harmful to their family it required intensive care through a financial freedom training program to resuscitate her finances. Her job couldn’t be saved.

Delinquent Teens – An education specialist just started a promising new position when her teenager was arrested for assault. She had to take off time she didn’t have to attend the arraignment, subsequent meetings at the juvenile detention center and family counseling. Stress caused her to make a serious mistake that resulted in her being fired on the spot.

Depression – A nurse who experienced severe postpartum depression following the birth of her first child. Eventually she had a breakdown, was placed on the psychiatric ward, and on heavy anti-depressants to return to work. Her career suffered as much from the stigma about her depression as she did from the episode itself.

Diet & Fitness – A nutrition specialist at a prominent pediatric hospital was dangerously overweight herself. Teenage patients often commented on it and parents complained to her supervisor about her ability to advise them around best practices when they felt there was a disconnect between her suggestions and her own diet and fitness practices.

Differing Abilities – A data analyst for a health test results company whose childhood meningitis rendered her 80% deaf in one ear and 40% in the other. Though a proficient lip reader, team members consistently turned away from her when discussing tasks and then reported her for not completing them in a timely manner, which was reflected in her performance reviews.

Disasters – An event planner and single mom in transition out of poverty had landed her dream job and was steadily building her client list. But when a plumbing issue caused sewage to flood her home, the threat of children’s services getting involved and the cost of the repairs prevented her from being fully present at work and nearly took her under.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach whose seen all of the above and experienced  much of it myself and as a Speaker who wants to deliver great content for the 200 attendees.

I hope you’ll  be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and weigh in. Did this intro grab your attention? Are these short scenarios compelling? Have you or anyone you know experienced any of these Ds? Did they derail you? Anything else? Thanks!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach