Feel the fear and do it scared to succeed! At Saturday’s “Overcoming The Fear Factor” workshop, we exchanged (or bribed) participants for their evaluations with this laminated sign to hang as a reminder that fear often emerges as we take on new challenges, try new things or continue to wrestle with old ones. Those who succeed usually do so because they felt the fear and did it scared. May that be true for all of us today!
It’s Day 365 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and six years of presenting with Kay Fittes of High Heeled Success has taught us that the speakers who laugh together learn together. Yesterday, June 9th, marked six years of partnering to present workshops for women. And I have to say, Number 25 went a whole lot better than Number 1! Though I wasn’t a speaking novice back then, my experience presenting at church and religious events, at Christian schools and conferences, some women’s events, and in the Early Childhood field meant I was a newbie speaking in front of professional women from other sectors. Kay and I met wrote and went over our “Equilibrium in High Heels” workshop on work-life balance nearly verbatim. We practiced transitions back and forth between the two of us and figured our high level of preparation would ensure the day would run like a well-oiled machine. Train wreck is more like it! Following an exhausting evening of set up where we blew up helium balloons for our closing segment – all while my then eight and seven-year-olds wreaked havoc – we arrived to find all the balloons on the floor. They weren’t the only things that fell flat. My segment on creating a balanced life vision went over well. Too well. We couldn’t get the participants to stop working on them for the rest of the workshop! And our practiced volleying of the content back and forth came off more like an intense tennis match! Furthermore, I became so overcome with emotion about having my dream of working with my mentor come true that I couldn’t keep my tears in check. I wasn’t the only one. One woman’s life was so out of control she cried for the duration. Finally, after hours of packing up, I high-fived Kay and congratulated us with, “Petite Power!”. She echoed the phrase but not my enthusiasm. In fact, it took her weeks to come clean about how she really felt the day went. OUCH! Looking back, we can see the humor. Then, not so much. Good thing we persisted and now know the speakers who laugh together learn together!
Thankfully that first workshop wasn’t our last. We regrouped and other than challenges with too much content and too much time, each workshop went from strength to strength. We learned how to play to my strengths – storytelling, the surprise element of song and some facilitation- and to let Kay cover the bulk of the content with her own compelling stories woven throughout. And because we are alike in so many ways, including birthdays within a week and have come to be friends who care deeply about one another, we have a natural synergy and amazing energy, too. Add in a bit of comedic relief and some spontaneous hilarity and we’ve found a winning formula that our participants love. Based on the consistently positive feedback we receive from our audiences, after a rough start, we definitely found our sweet spot.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose speaker, days like yesterday are the end all, be all. We had three of our original participants in the audience – they’re repeat attenders and often are – and with their consensus the workshop was unanimously deemed “Best Ever”! The two of us have had quite the journey with it’s ups and downs, highs, lows and and an emotionally charged debut “Overcoming the Fear Factor” workshop that resulted in a room flooded with as many tears as that first session. Good ones with not a dry eye left by close. Good thing one of the things we’ve learned as speakers is to laugh together, too.
Presenting on “Overcoming The Fear Factor” yesterday, I told a room full of women FEAR IS A LIAR and how we must replace the lies with the truths like below. Because of it, we can be brave. May it fill your spirit, mind and heart whenever you feel afraid.
It’s Day 364 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and we had an overwhelming response to today’s “Overcoming The Fear Factor women’s workshop”.
Smiles and Laughs.
Connection and Contemplation.
Ahas and Epiphanies.
Tough Topics, Tears and Turning Corners.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose presenter, I wanted to post some pics of the day, however, I’m emotionally and physically drained. So I’m off to practice self-care…I’ll probably share more tomorrow, but for now, I just feel blessed to have received this feedback: Our best workshop EVER! Talk about an overwhelming response to our “Overcoming The Fear Factor” women’s workshop!
It’s Day 363 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and in honor of National Best Friend Day, I’m blogging about my BPF – my Best Professional Friend – Kay Fittes, the founder and CEO of High Heeled Success. Approximately eleven years ago, I hung on her every word as a new Center Director participant in one of Kay’s workshops for early childhood program leaders. I was green as all get out but dying on the vine! Kay invited us to contact her if we ever needed anything. Well, over the next few years, I needed a lot! Like true mentoring relationships, ours developed organically as opposed to me asking her, “Are you my mentor?” ala Sheryl Sandburg’s Women, Work and the Will to Lead. Over time, Kay helped me to land a position as a training consultant at our region’s ECE resource and referral agency and that evolved into a full-time position. About that time, Kay and I met and I finally got up the nerve to broach the subject of training with her. Quick to explain, I don’t play well in the sand with other children, Kay nevertheless saw something in me that made her willing to try it. By the end of our first workshop – June 9, 2012 – I felt on top of the world. Kay felt so down about it that it took her weeks to finally shoot me straight. That hurt. But that pain proved to be such a powerful growth experience that we kept at it until we got it right. Hearing Kay tell me mentoring me has been one of the most rewarding experiences of her life, well, I’ll NEVER forget those words. Somehow this woman I wanted and still want to grow up to be just like had become my Best Professional Friend.
My relationship with Kay goes so much deeper than that though. Because I don’t have a close relationship with my mother, and Kay often points out the fact that she’s twenty years (and six days) older, I’ve often gone to her not only for advice, coaching and guidance on professional matters, she’s been an important part of my personal life as well. In fact, she has so many qualities I admire that she and my hubby – another best friend – often give me words of wisdom, word for word! She’s been there throughout my professional and personal mess to success stories! And the fact that Kay collaborates and consults with me professionally and has shared personal confidences that she doesn’t with others humbles and touches because it means she trusts and values me as much as I do her.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose presenter, I can honestly say I owe just about everything I am as a speaker to Kay. Not only that, she helped me set and reach my goal of obtaining my Masters and even walked me through which major to choose when I stood at a crossroads between Adult Learning with Technology and Leadership and Coaching. And because she steered me down the right path – how I would have hated fighting with IT related homework after working all day and being a wife and mom – I adored my studies and got educated and equipped to do work that is perfectly aligned with my purpose. Tomorrow when we present
It’s Day 360 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’ve spent the day preparing my stories and segments for this Saturday’s “Overcoming the Fear Factor” workshop. For the last six years Pink Collar Savvy & Chic has partnered with High Heeled Success to present public workshops. We’ve repeated some but created fresh, new content for this one. That being the case, following our prep conference call yesterday, I got cracking on what which of my personal stories I’d like to share and how I’ll add unique value to the segments I’ll present. In doing so, I realized I really have come along way in facing my fears head on and wrestling them to the ground vs. my old MO, which simply running scared. Even if you’re not attending the workshop, I hope you’ll check out the “High Heeled Success Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor” flyer.
For the longest time, most of the stories I shared revolved around the professional experiences I had in the workplace. A little over a year ago, however, I began the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, where I blog daily. That served as the catalyst for me finally getting over my social media angst and posting regularly. Soon afterward, I bit the bullet and began to operate my life coaching business full-time. Next, I published my debut novel, making a lifelong dream come true. This led to speaking engagements beyond what I’d done before. My point? Now my stories are drawn from my experiences working for myself. And like Maya Angelou said, “Nothing will work unless you do.”
Here’s what I’ll cover:
Rapport/My Personal Fear Story – Fear Is a Liar and The Truth About Lies
Fear Truths Story – Talking to Myself vs. Listening to Myself
Fear Truths Bullet Point (segment) – Pushing through fear is less frightening than fear caused by helplessness
Fear Game Plan Story – Pink Collar Savvy & Chic On Purpose Project (Blog)
Fear Game Plan – Chronicle It! Story – Full-time Fear Buster
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur, life coach, author and speaker, I’m so thankful I’m not letting fear win. I say that present tense because it’s an ongoing battle. Much of the time I do the work and fight scared. But it’s just like when I was in elementary and grade school, where I did more than my share of fighting. I was small and quiet. And I sure didn’t look like I posed a threat. So I got picked on. Easy target, right? Wrong! I was small but scrappy and had a mouth on me that could annihilate a foe without uttering a foul word. Once I’d fought a few bullies – scared – I got a reputation for being a formidable opponent. Mostly because I called the bullies out for what they really were – cowards. And it’s the same today. There are always new barriers and challenges that try to bring me down, but I look Fear right in the eyes and speak the truth: You’re a Liar. Armed with Truth – “God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind” on my side, I’m up for the challenge of Full-Time Fear Busting and presenting my stories and segments at our Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor workshop.
What fears hold you back in your personal and/or professional life? How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about overcoming the fear factor? Perhaps it’s joining us for the workshop. If interested in attending High Heeled Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor, please shoot me an email at email@example.com. Thanks!