Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 11, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 11, 2018

Feel the fear and do it scared to succeed! At Saturday’s “Overcoming The Fear Factor” workshop, we exchanged (or bribed) participants for their evaluations with this laminated sign to hang as a reminder that fear often emerges as we take on new challenges, try new things or continue to wrestle with old ones. Those who succeed usually do so because they felt the fear and did it scared. May that be true for all of us today!

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Pink Collar Coach Setting Precedents

Pink Collar Coach Setting Precedents

It’s Day 310 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and Joel Osteen’s sermon reminded me that as the first person in my family to earn a Masters degree, I’ve set a precedent. He was talking about a young African American man, Ejayy DeVaughn, who grew up in Compton, California – one of the roughest neighborhoods in America – and was accepted into Harvard. When he said, “Straight outta Compton” – referencing the 1988 film that depicted life in Southern California and made the phrase a part of pop and urban culture – “to Harvard” – it resonated with me. Recently at a birthday party, I met a young lady who graduated from my alma matter, Walnut Hills High School, a top nationally ranked college preparatory school. When she asked where I grew up and I replied “Avondale”, she came back with “Straight out of the A, baby!” It’s not Compton, but it could be. I won’t go into all the reasons that’s so; let’s just say many of us didn’t make it out alive, let alone to attend college. While I didn’t attend an Ivy League school like Ejayy, I’m proud of getting a Masters and setting a precedent for my daughter and other young women to pursue their educational goals – even when the odds are stacked against them.

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And boy were they stacked against me! With what felt like more than my share of Ds (the challenges women face), including dysfunctional relationships, divorce, domestic court issues, diagnosis, etc., twenty years after earning a bachelors, I earned a graduate degree in Leadership and Coaching with a coaching certification. A few minutes after submitting my capstone project, I went to fill up my gas tank for the week. I seldom ever do that on a Sunday night, however, when I pulled up behind the car in front of me and saw the above license plate – I read it as a noun vs. a verb – it felt as though God Himself celebrated my accomplishment!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Masters level graduate, I’m so thankful for my education. It and my faith are what have gotten me out of some pretty abysmal situations – like being destitute, depressed and ready to die. Instead, I took my education (an Associates and a Bachelors at the time), and worked my way up out of the Ds and into dream jobs – as an Early Childhood Education Center Director, a Training Consultant, and  then a Leadership Coach. The passion I developed in the latter is what compelled me to pursue an advanced degree. Then I landed a job as the Director of a coaching program. Today, eleven years after sleeping in a hooptie AKA ghetto car, my coaching agency, Pink Collar Savvy & Chic is taking off. To my knowledge, no one else in my family owns a business. Guess that means in addition to setting one regarding education, I’m setting a precedent in entrepreneurialism, too.

How are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about setting educational or other  precedents in your family? In the workplace?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Minimizing Challenges & Maximizing Chances

Minimizing Challenges & Maximizing Chances

It’s Day 309 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Challenge and I’ve spent the last few days practicing what I preach – as in minimizing my challenges and maximizing every chance I get. I’m not gonna lie about it – the devil has been busy throwing every D he can my way – dysfunctional relationships, discouragement, discrimination. It’s like what I say about coaching around the Ds – You name it, I deal with it in coaching. Well, you name it and I’ve dealt with it in my personal or professional life recently.  But rather than letting the Ds get me down, I’ve let push me forward – to promote the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic brand, to grow the coaching  agency and to promote my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, while working on the sequel, Hold On Her Heart. It feels good to be able to accomplish what I encourage my coaching clients to do: Minimize the challenges and maximize the chances!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach – Minimizing barriers and maximizing my best life in another oldie but goodie Calvin Klein jersey dress, infinity scarf, handbag, boots,                          & fun two-tone tights that tie the colors together.                                                                                       All TJ Maxx except for the boots found at Goodwill for $11 – brand spanking new!

After teaching Zumba yesterday, I did a complimentary life coaching session with a potential client and she found it so beneficial I didn’t have to ask for the commitment – she initiated. It’s exciting to see my list of clients grow slowly but surely – and they’re truly my target audience – professional women who are facing personal barriers that negatively impact their performance. By addressing their Ds, I prevent derailing and support them in living their best lives and being the best savvy and chic version of themselves. And I try to do it all to His glory. When there are tears during a session – often tears of release – because they can finally talk about their struggles – I know I’m living my purpose. Wonderful as it is that coaching clients “make the cash register ring”, that knowledge that I’m serving women is what I value as priceless.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur, getting a business up and going is not for the faint of heart. I probably work harder now than I did in my highest level position working for others. Though I’m sometimes viewed as someone who might not have gumption – that has more to do with my shorter stature and softer speaking voice than anything else – I do show initiative to make things happen. That characteristic is serving me well in trying to make Pink Collar Savvy & Chic work. And I need all the get up and go I can muster when the Ds threaten to make me feel like giving in instead. On my own, I can do nothing. But when I take my eyes off of the challenges, and focus on the chances I have to live the personal and professional life God has for me, I’m able to minimize and maximize on.

How about you? How are you being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose to minimize the challenges you’ve faced in your personal or professional life lately? How are you maximizing the chances your’e been given on the home-front or in the workplace?

To preview or purchase the print or Kindle version of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon at http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9. It can also be purchased at Barnes and Noble.com at https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seasons-of-her-soul-tammi-ector/1127818446?ean=9780998966359. Thank you!

Be savvy &   chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

“If You’ve Got a Pulse, You’ve Got a Purpose” – Kathie Lee Gifford’s Story

“If You’ve Got a Pulse, You’ve Got a Purpose” – Kathie Lee Gifford’s Story

It’s Day 265 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and on my “unniversary” I’m so thankful for the reminder “If you’ve got a pulse, you’ve got a purpose” that I received from hearing Kathie Lee Gifford’s story. Twelve years ago today, on a sunny Sunday morning, God heard my I can’t take this anymore! cry and delivered me from my abusive marriage. While I wouldn’t have chosen the way He did it back then – mostly because of what my children suffered- I soon came to understand the why. It was all part of His perfect plan for my life (Jeremiah 29:11). I’m not going to lie and say it was easy, in fact, it’s still not. But my experience with the Ds – domestic violence, destitution, depression, despair, divorce, domestic court, and other dastardly deeds done- gave me a  purpose. Today, I use my God-given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their personal barriers and to maximize their beauty and best lives through total transformation – all to His glory. And I’ll keep living this purpose as long as I have a pulse.

Besides being blessed with a wonderful, godly husband and best friend following my divorce, I was grafted into his family. My sister-in-law, Sue, is such a gift! Nearly a week ago she shared Kathie Lee Gifford’s “I Am Second” video with me. Because I always look at whatever she’s sent right away, it felt weird not to do so this time. When I finally watched the video this afternoon, the delay no longer felt weird but like a God-thing. I’d been a little out of sorts all day – the unniversary is still hard because it was traumatic – then below put it all back into perspective. Perfect timing!

Kathie Lee is a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan! I’d heard of “I Am Second” but had never watched one of the films. Based on above, and a peek at 1984 figure skating gold medalist Scott Hamilton’s video (Chip and Joanna Gaines’ is there too) I could get lost in the stories of restoration and transformation from athletes, celebrities, politicians, and others with high visibility and influence. Though I don’t fit in that category, I’m still motivated to submit what I refer to as my Ds Story to be included on the site. If you’ve read my posts before, you may be familiar with it. The story chronicles how I hit rock bottom but instead of letting it destroy me, I minimized my barriers and maximized rock bottom as the firm foundation upon which I built not the rest of my life but the best of my life. I’m debating whether to submit a video or the 500 word entry but will keep you posted…literally!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose domestic violence survivor, I’m so thankful that by the grace of God I’ve been transformed from victim to victor and from domestic violence mess to sustained success. If I can do it, you can too! Whenever I share this and someone’s life (usually a woman’s), is positively impacted, I’m like I’ve fulfilled my purpose. I can die happy now…But since my heart keeps beating, like Kathie Lee Gifford, I’ll keep living my purpose as long as I have a pulse.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, you have a pulse, so you have a purpose. How are you living it out at home and/or work? Check out http://www.iamsecond.com for inspiration.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase a print or Kindle copy of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, a story of one woman’s journey out of domestic violence and into her best life, please visit Amazon at:

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9

Thank you!

 

Dumping The Ds (Pink Collar Challenges)

Dumping The Ds (Pink Collar Challenges)

It’s Day 225 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project has me feeling like it’s time for me to do a dump of the Ds.  As a life coach who uses a holistic coaching approach to facilitate The Swan Experience: Minimizing barriers; maximizing women’s beauty and best professional lives through total transformation, I specialize in the Ds. Ds are the challenges Pink Collar women face that can negatively impact personal or professional performance. In doing so, I prevent derailing and promote Swans living their best savvy & chic lives on the home front and in the workplace. That being the case, I shouldn’t be surprised that the D behind most challenges – the devil – doesn’t like what I’m trying to do, or me for that matter, and is going to do everything in his power to destroy me at best and discourage me at the least. I felt this intensely today and know it’s time to dump the Ds.

When I was the director of a life coaching program that supported at risk individuals in removing barriers to their sustainable success, one of the most impactful steps on their  journey was “Letting Go of the Past”, better known as “The Dump”. During the process, coachees were given the opportunity to write down the negative things that have happened in their life on a post-it. Next, they were encouraged to share each post-it, then to throw it into the center of the room. At the end of the time, all of the post-its containing the negative events were taken outside and burned, which symbolized letting them go.

This simulated dump serves two purposes: 1) It allows me to put the challenges I’m facing down so I can let them go, 2) It provides you with a list of the challenges I write about and coach around.

Ds

  • Dysfunction
  • Drug and alcohol exposure (and/or abuse)
  • Domestic violence
  • Depression
  • Desperation
  • Deception
  • Destitution
  • Divorce
  • Domestic relations court and issues
  • Disobedient children
  • Delinquent preteens and teens
  • Diagnoses
  • Diet and weight issues
  • Debt
  • Death
  • Derailing
  • Discrimination
  • Disenfranchisement
  • Disasters
  • Disappointment
  • Discouragement
  • Drama

Now that I’ve made this list, I feel a bit better because I’m not dealing with everything on it! It puts things into perspective and frees me to let go of them. Also, a problem shared is half solved, so I appreciate being able to share with you. Hopefully if you or someone in your life is dealing with any of these Ds, I hope you’ll give yourself permission to let them go. I encourage you to talk to someone who is psychologically safe (won’t judge you, minimize your challenges, tell you what to do – just listens actively and openly).

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Pink Collar Coach, I admit today I needed a dose of my own medicine while dealing with my Ds. I needed to minimize barriers and to maximize the beauty and best things in my life personally and professionally. Like my husband, home, and debut novel (now there’s an awesome D!). And rather than focusing on the little d, the devil, I need to focus on GOD, my DELIVERER, who brings me out of them all. Dumping my Ds was just what the Good Doctor ordered.

How about you? Are you dealing with some of the challenges listed above? Do you need to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and dump your Ds?

Be    savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon for the print or Kindle version at:

http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj

Thank you!

 

Merry & Bright in Myrtle Beach

Merry & Bright in Myrtle Beach

Day 227 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project has me feeling merry & bright in Myrtle Beach. Before everyone woke up, my sweet hubby and I got to enjoy breakfast together at the Sea Captain’s House, an iconic restaurant on Ocean Boulevard, located right next door to our condo. I’ve always loved eating here because being seated on the covered patio affords expansive views of the Atlantic Ocean. And if you’re seated in just the right spot, you also get a glimpse of the lush tropical landscaping and colorful flowers that make it look like summer in July instead of the end of the year. One of my favorite things is though the restaurant uses traditional colors for its Christmas decor, when paired with coastal beach, it’s right up my Shabby Chic alley. I’m so glad I didn’t let all of my professional responsibilities stop me from making this trip. Instead, I’m staying on top of my tasks and still feel merry and bright in Myrtle Beach.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach in front of the Sea Captain’s House. There are no walkable restaurants in my suburb back home, so being able to walk outside and across a path for a meal is a treat!
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Our breakfast view of palm trees, sun, sand, sky and miles of ocean – just steps beyond our table.
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Me surrounded by chef Santas, wreaths, garland and lights. Love the juxtaposition of a beach scene painting with the rough-hewn massive fireplace. My hubby took the picture, so he’s a little cut off, but the Sea Captain visible in the left corner and I are dressed alike.                                          I’m in Calvin Klein trumpet sleeve sweater, jeans, booties and handbag.

We’ve been escaping to Myrtle Beach for the last few years because it’s the only way our big fat blended family can truly have time together to bond as our own little unit without other things at home encroaching. Because my husband is an amazing steward of our resources, we’re able to stay in the penthouse. We leave Christmas evening and travel all night so the children (two grown, one a year shy of being an adult, a teen and a tween) can sleep throughout. Now we have the oldest’s four-year-old with us too. That first year, we were like the first half of that Bookin.com commercial where the children lose a shoe and get sick on the flight then arrive at the hotel looking totally bedraggled. Now we’re like the second half when the glee on their faces once they see the panoramic view of the ocean causes the parents to make the score motion as the voice actor says, “Bookin.yeah!”

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Coach, I try to be careful about not posting in a way that makes it look as if I’m living the meme – or the perfect picture. I feel so incredibly blessed to be able to make take this trip – especially considering how a family crisis prevented us from being able to last year as planned. Not having been in two years, one would think I would have been raring to get on the road considering the fact that it’s been a tough two years. Instead, because it’s the first year my children couldn’t be with us, I went into a funk of depression (a D) and almost stayed behind. Thankfully, my husband used some tough love that caused me to come to my senses. As soon as I saw that water, I was like “Bookin.yeah!” myself!  Then, a started reading a novel set in Myrtle Beach! Talk about confirmation I’m meant to be here. If not for my hubby I would have been home feeling down and dark. That makes it even more special that I’m here feeling merry & bright in Myrtle Beach.

If you’re facing the Ds (challenges), how can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose to minimize the obstacle and maximize the opportuities in front of you? Even if a vacation is not in your near future, how can you bring more of the people and places you love into your life this season?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach