It’s Day 49 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and this busy weekend has taught me a life lesson from my loads of laundry. For many of us, this week was Back to School. As the mother of an 11th and 10th grader who is divorced –– a D or challenge women face –– from their father, I had them this weekend and a lot of the time went into school-related activities and making sure they were set to return for the first full week tomorrow. Between a trip to the library, running my daughter to a birthday sleepover, feeding my ravenous son and keeping him entertained Friday, I did laundry. Same thing Saturday before and after I picked her up, fought construction to make it to Zumba, did the grocery shopping and banking, then made lunch and finally dinner, all while tossing loads in and pulling them out. This morning, as I listened to Joel Osteen –– I folded and put clothes and linens away prior to taking Liv out for last minute school supplies. (What ever happened to getting the list before classes started?). Though there were moments when I felt like I’d either been put through the wringer or the spin cycle –– this is my first time blogging since Thursday! –– there wasn’t one where I didn’t feel blessed to have these tasks to do for my children and home. That’s the life lesson I’ve learned from my loads of laundry.
You see, though sometimes I look at all of the bath towels and face cloths to be washed, at all the bedding and more clothes than I can keep up with, I’m often reminded of a story I once heard a story about a woman who sat all alone in her immaculate house and longed for it to be cluttered with the chaos of children…Because I don’t have mine all of the time, I can relate. When they’re here, it’s more joy than drudgery doing the mundane things for –– and with –– them. I touch the towels and am thankful they take care of themselves the way I taught them to. I look at the linens and love that they lie in them and sleep luxuriously when living under my roof. And I cuddle the clothes and am conscious of how quickly their time as children will cease. Each time I’m immensely grateful that despite a divorce, the Lord has –– for now –– blessed me to serve them. Yes, on purpose. Focusing on that allows me to minimize my D and to maximize beauty and my best life.
One day, they’ll be grow up and away and my washer and dryer will get a lot less use. Til then, I’m taking my life lesson from the laundry to heart and am determined to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and to treasure the loads.
Such a blessing representing Hope House Mission as the Women’s Center Director this morning at the Chick-Fil-A Get Moovin’ 5K Fun Run! Terrific turn out and all proceeds benefit Hope House! Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Service on Purpose to break the cycle of poverty and despair –– a D or challenge –– so that women and children can live their best lives made it a special Saturday!
It’s Day 40 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I hope you’ll take a moment to view the Cincy Lifestyles interview video from this week’s show. In it, we’re discussing tomorrow’s Chick-Fil-A 5K Fun Run to benefit my agency, Hope House Mission. As the Women’s Center Director and spokesperson for the event, I’d received an MP4 of the video ahead of time to share after the show aired. Our team and I planned to tune in together during Wednesday’s staff meeting. But alas, that wasn’t to be. Apparently the flat screen in the classroom/common area where residents can watch doesn’t get WCPO, Channel 9! I’m actually ok with that because like I shared in a recent post how viewing myself on video teaching Zumba highlighted areas for improvement, this news clip does the same. Still, I hope my not so subtle hair adjustment –– it actually made it worse! –– and fluttering hands don’t detract from the message or distract you as you view the below Cincy Lifestyles interview video.
New experiences expand our horizons, grow our capacity, honing our skills, and test our limits. When I showed my sixteen-year-old the video, her first response was, Were you nervous? And because I didn’t feel too nervous at the time, I was curious why she thought so. Because your hands were moving…She had a good point. Though I tend to talk with my hands when expressing a strong emotion, I can see how it may have been excessive. Now that I’m aware, I’ll be more aware of –– not self-conscious –– about it. In that way I hope to hone my interview skills.
Perhaps I’ll even get to put that learning into practice at tomorrow’s Get Moovin’ Fun Run. I’m to arrive at 6:30am in case the media shows up. I pray I have another opportunity to represent Hope House and share how the organization serves to break the cycle of poverty and despair –– a huge D or challenge –– one life at a time. That mission is so Pink Collar Savvy & Chic service on purpose! Minimizing barriers and maximizing beauty and best lives –– all to the glory of God. Hope House rescues homeless women, children and men and transforms their lives through support, resources and the hope that is found in Jesus Christ. This is the message I hope comes through to readers as you view this Cincy Lifestyles video.
If you’re in the area, be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and join us for the race. Click the link for details! https://hhmission.org/5k/
Be savvy & chic,
~ Pink Collar Coach
P.S. This post has also tested my limits as a blogger –– I couldn’t get the video to load properly so my apologies that the link runs off the page!
It’s Day 37 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project, and the Cincy Lifestyles interview on the Chick-Fil-A 5K Fun Run for Hope House Mission, where I represented my agency as the Women’s Center Director, airs tomorrow. Chick-Fil-A has partnered with Hope House Mission on this race for the 3rd year with all proceeds to benefit Hope House, which is celebrating 30 years of serving homeless women, children and men in Butler and surrounding counties. Acting as the spokesperson is such an honor and presented the opportunity to briefly share how I’m blessed to use my story of overcoming the domestic violence that led to my own homelessness to serve the women at Hope House. By doing so I’m able to minimize this D –– or barrier women face –– in order to not only maximize beauty and my best life, but to coach, encourage and inspire other women to do so as well. All to His glory.
As a relatively new blogger –– today actually marks three years since I signed up with Word Press, but I’ve been blogging for two years –– I’m still struggling with finding my niche or voice or both. I believe I’ve nailed my purpose –– not just for my business and writing, but for my life. Still, I struggle to engage readers. And being even more transparent, I compare myself to other bloggers who get tons of followers, likes and comments. Consequently, I’ve begun to really pray about what God wants me to write and the revelation scares me. I feel compelled to go beyond the surface –– deep into the really ugly Ds so I can really reach those who need to hear those stories. But I’m frightened about exposing that much of myself. This interview scratches the tip of the iceberg because I publicly reveal that I became homeless after my abusive marriage ended…And I have some haters…
Even so, I’m committed to following the leading of what I believe is the Holy Spirit in my life. Because ultimately, I want to my pain to serve a purpose in the lives of other women to let them know that if God can take all my Ds –– my rock bottom –– and use it as the solid foundation upon which I am building not only the rest of my life but the best of my life, He can do it for them. When it’s all said, done and written, pointing the way to Him and bringing Him glory through my personal and professional life is the real way to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic.
I pray this “Cincy Lifestyles” interview that airs tomorrow not only brings people out for the race but accomplishes that.
It’s Day 18 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Project and I’m feeling so much love after a belated birthday dance party! Yesterday evening when I rushed from work to teach my Thursday Zumba class, finding a good # of friendly frequent participants, plus seeing the dear face of Osha –– a visitor from another gym where I dance on Saturdays and occasionally sub –– provided a needed energy boost. Then as the class went on more visitors showed up in the form of my sweet Zumba sister, Cookie –– we got licensed together –– and one of my marvelous mentors, Marina. With sensational Sonya assisting –– she yells verbal cues when my asthma prevents me –– all of the amazing Zumba loving ladies celebrated my 50th with a belated birthday dance party!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose Swan who just turned 50, if I had any concerns about dealing with the Ds –– barriers or challenges women face (depression, discouragement, dread, etc.) –– when I hit 50, they’ve been blown away by other Ds –– like dancing and a belated birthday dance party!
The next time you’re facing a milestone that presents potential challenges, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and minimize your barriers with whatever benefits not only the body but the soul to maximize your beauty and best lives, too.
There have been a lot of posts about my 50th birthday. Full disclosure –– I feared it would be a hard one, full of a particlar D (barrier or challenge women face). In the form of depression. But God knew my heart and made sure it was a great one. In His graciousness, He enabled me to minimize my barriers and maximize beauty and my best life –– 50 years blessed!
So while I’m so incredibly grateful for all of the love, support and yes, gifts I’ve been given, I’m even more thankful for the givers. Especially GOD, THE GIVER.
May you be the recipient of God’s good gifts today.
It’s Day 6 of being back to blogging and I’m still glowing from time spent with one of my BFFS –– we’re high school sisters by heart. In many ways, Josette saved me in the 10th grade. While in junior high I’d tested into a Walnut Hills, a college prep school , but unlike most who did, I didn’t start as a 7th grader, which meant all of the cliques had already been formed by the time I showed up as a freshman. Thirty-five years later, I can honestly say it was one of the worst periods of my life. I was bullied for being a Peppermint Patty –– black on the outside and white on the inside –– and didn’t fit in with either group of kids. Add to that the fact that my junior high boyfriend AKA best friend dumped me for an upperclassman who rallied her friends to bully me too, and there were days when I felt I’d rather die than go another day. Only my faith, family and friends outside school got me through. Beautiful, funny, sweet Josette befriending me the following year remains one of the things for which I’m forever grateful. God knit us together in so many ways that we truly became high school sisters by heart.
Thirty plus years later, though life has not afforded us very many opportunities to spend time hanging out, every interaction feels as though no time has passed. Our discussions no longer center around cute boys, Prince and challenges with our home lives. Now they’re about dealing with the Ds ( the challenges women face like divorce, diagnosis, etc.) but the level of comfort, ease and depth of connection remain the same. This was the case when I treated her to a 50th birthday dinner a few months ago. And the birthday was the best I’ve ever spent with her because she’s conquered a huge D as a one year survivor of stage 4 breast cancer and a double mastectomy. I have ALWAYS loved Josette. Now I absolutely treasure and look up to her more than ever.
The thought of losing my high school BFF has made me more intentional about not letting as much time pass between spending time with my Swan Soul Sister….Hopefully my sharing will inspire you to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and do the same with your old friends. After all, you can always make new friends but you can’t make old ones like high school sisters by heart.