It’s Day 420 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and while I was too busy to blog about it yesterday, Friday night showed me how a dear Swan Sister, Valerie, is not a fair-weather but forever friend. I originally came to know Valerie through our professional relationship. I had the joy of training her to become one of the best life coaches I’d ever led, and she in turn became a trainer of other coaches. She’s as smart as they come and is passionate about connecting others to the information and resources they need to minimize their barriers and to maximize their best lives. Add to that the fact that she’s bookish like me –– but with a library science degree to boot ––– and she’s a girl after my own heart. Given the strong working connection we formed then, I’m thrilled that it didn’t cease when I left that director role…And now, as I’m dealing with some Ds of my own –– personal challenges that can negatively impact professional performance –– I’m so thankful she’s proven herself not to be a fair-weather friend, but a forever one.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, I won’t lie and say I enjoy facing Ds /challenges. But I did enjoy hearing from Valerie because of them. She took me to dinner and for three hours we caught up, laughed, reminisced and strategized. Though we hadn’t seen each other for over a year, it was like no time had passed at all…She’s also going to get a copy of my book, Seasons of Her Soul. Bonus! Leaving Buffalo Wild Wings –– one of my all time favorites ––– I felt full of good food and even more satisfied with the fact that our professional worlds may have brought us together initially, but it’s our faith that has made us true friends and sisters in Him. The time spent with Valerie made me feel lighter as though my burdens had been lifted. After all, though I was once her supervisor, the love she showed me on Friday assured me she’s not a fair-weather but my forever friend.
What about you? Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about not just being there for friends –– personal and professional –– during the good times but the bad times, too? Who could you reach out to today to show your love and support?
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It’s Day 405 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and today’s sermon reminded me that we’re not a waste service dump site! Many Sundays, Joel Osteen’s televised sermon is my church of choice, and this morning, as is so often the case, it seemed he’d prepared his message specifically for me. I’m in a season in my life where I’m putting some much needed boundaries in place and the sermon clarified that they’re around dumping ––– another D!/challenge. Using the story of a taxi driver to illustrate his point, Joel told how the driver with a passenger in tow had to hit the brakes to avoid hitting a car that cut him off. Then though at fault, the driver of the other vehicle proceeded to curse, gesticulate and yell when the cab came along side him, rather than reciprocating, the driver smiled, waved and drove on. When the passenger asked why he responded the way he did, the driver explained how some people are going through life hauling around a dump truck full of garbage. At a certain point they fill up and have to dump it somewhere. He said it was on him that day, but he didn’t have to accept or own it because it was never about him. Now there’s a Savvy & Chic taxi driver! Somewhere before, during or after taking fares, he’d figured out the way to fair through life at peace –– by understanding we’re not a waste dumping site!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan who is still very much in the process of minimizing my barriers to maximize beauty and my best life, I’ve encountered a lot of toxic waste along my transformational journey. And if you’re anything like me, you have, too. In our families of origin, schools, workplaces, marriages, relationships, and even the church. But that doesn’t mean we have to let others dump their waste or toxicity on us. Challenging as it may be, Joel suggested the best way to deal with it is to not sink to that level by ignoring the backbiting, comments, gossip, lies, rumors –– whatever it is. Because ultimately God is the one who will make the wrongs right. In His way and His timing. In the meantime, while we can’t control others, we can control our response to them. By not reacting to the waste and not letting the dumping soil us and steal our joy, we minimize this challenge and demonstrate that we’re not waste service dump sites!
Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about not serving as a waste service dump site in your personal and/or professional life? How can you respond vs. react in order to maintain your positive attitude in the face of negativity?
Putting good work-life balance to practice today: Got up at dawn and worked this morning so that I can spend my extended birthday at the pool with a Swan Soul Sister! Besides, I’ve been dealing with some challenges and a little Swan Sister time will help me minimize them and maximize my best life…
It’s Day 384 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’ve had a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Swan 49th birthday! How so? As the Pink Collar Coach, I coach other women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their beauty and best lives – through total transformation. And thanks to faith, some family members, friends, fitness, and fun, I’ve done that for myself today. Most of us know, the Ds –– or the personal challenges we face –– don’t take our birthdays off. In my case, it seems like they worked overtime instead! Even so, from the moment I woke up, I’ve felt the love of my Heavenly Father directly and through others. I did church, Zumba, received cards and gifts, had a long heart-to-heart with a dear Swan Sister, got flooded with Facebook well wishes and texts, had a leisurely lunch and dessert for dinner, read a gripping new novel by one of my favorite secular authors, visited with my neighbor/Swan Sister who is older by a week, and did a little retail therapy shopping with my TJ Maxx gift cards. While there, I came across this lovely stationery that is the epitome of Shabby Chic and so aligned with my branding. I bought all six cards and look forward to blessing others with them the way I was blessed today. The serendipitous find was the perfect close to a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic 49th Birthday!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Birthday Girl, despite the Ds, I’ve had a lovely day. And like the card says, I’ve enjoyed every beautiful moment. Because it’s in the midst of the challenges that I most feel God’s presence in my life. That makes even the ugly moments beautiful ones. Ultimately and always He’s working everything for my good and His glory. Some have accused me of being “fake” and only posting the positive. That’s not it at all –– I chose to post the positive along with the negative but give more weight to to the former. It’s all about perspective and I choose JOY. Jesus First. Others Second. Myself Last. Besides, I don’t coach others to do this, I’m really trying to walk the talk. And if that encourages or inspires at least one woman –– or my male readers –– then I really am living my beautiful, best, on purpose life, including having a blessed Pink Collar Savvy & Chic 49th Birthday!
Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about minimizing the challenges that come on special occasions –– even your birthday –– and maximizing the beauty and best things? When you do, JOY, not the devil wins!