We Still Scream for Ice-cream!

We Still Scream for Ice-cream!

It’s Day 402 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and a recent outing with my teens confirms the fact that no matter how old we get, we still scream for ice-cream! Figuring out fun things to do with a thirteen and soon-to-be fifteen-year-old can be daunting. They’re both at the stage where screens hold more allure than almost anything except for hanging out with their friends instead of their mom. While that’s pretty normal, quality time with them is too important to let it fall by the wayside. Still, when I ask what they’d like to do, they fluctuate between being fairly non-responsive, resistant or downright refusing to go. But lo and behold, at the mention of a trip to The Cone –– a local family fun soft-serve ice cream stand shaped like a swirl cone, with pinball games –– and suddenly they’re all in! No matter that they’re no longer the babies who used to literally jump up and down pumping their fists in the air, or even that I’m now the almost fifty-year-old mom who has to watch my calorie, fat and sugar intake, we still scream for ice-cream!

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My Teenagers! How did this happen???
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Me, Mom –– Pink Collar Coach. Love the strawberry vanilla swirl – pink! : )                                     Print sundress, yellow handbag and flip flops all Calvin Klein acquired over time from TJ Maxx. The yellow shrug sweater was actually a clearance find at Macy’s. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom, I have to admit –– most days I wish I could turn back time to the days when things were simpler with my children. Back when everything I suggested was met with enthusiasm and being together was as good as it got. But you can’t go back and time doesn’t stand still. My babies are teens who will  quickly grow into young adults. Finding common ground isn’t as easy as it used to be but is so worth the effort. Over my daughter’s coffee flavored shake, which she couldn’t finish but ended up giving to her brother, his key lime freeze with a blueberry shell and my strawberry shortcake –– no calorie counting or weight watching there –– conversation and laughter flowed. Like the good old days…We’ve changed in so many ways both as individuals and as a unit, but I’m thankful that some things remain the same. Like the fact that we all still scream for ice cream!

What simple pleasures do you still enjoy? Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose  about making sure you make the time for them?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

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Be Careful!

Be Careful!

Be Careful

It’s Day 401 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m reminded of a song we used to sing in Sunday School that cautioned us to be careful. It was basically another version of “See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil”. And like the well known image of the monkey covering his eyes, ears and mouth, we children would sing robustly as we pointed to each body part. The song actually covered the hands and what they do, the feet and where they go, the heart and whom you trust, and the mind and what you think as well, but the first three are my focus verses are my focus for this Be Careful post.

O be careful little eyes what you see

O careful little ears what you hear

O be careful little tongue what you say

Though these are the lyrics of a children’s song, they are so applicable for adults and women in particular. Having a vision of what we want our lives to look like is a vital  vital aspect of making the vision a reality. Conversely, when we bombard our eyes with images of brutality, ruin, violence and waste, is it any wonder that our lives begin to resemble it? Likewise, when we are admonished to listen to speak to ourselves win psalms, hymns and spiritual songs (Eph. 5:19), yet we repeatedly listen to negative conversations, gossip, messages and music then can’t turn off the bad tapes playing in our minds. And our tongues? They may be the smallest part, but they often play the largest in arguing, backbiting, complaining, gossiping and tearing others down. It seems many of us have either never learned, forgotten or simply forsaken the lessons learning in church, school or our mother’s knees regarding being careful.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, I try –– and often fail –– to be careful. But how I long to be more prudent! We don’t hear that word very much anymore…It has to do with being disciplined. In our society it’s easy to become desensitized by what we see and hear on various devices and screens. Also, because everything moves at such a rapid fire pace we don’t always slow down long enough to weigh our words, resulting in heavy consequences –– with our acquaintances, friends, families, significant others, co-workers,   supervisors, etc. People are left feeling wounded and unloved. Conflict, discord, division and strife are the end result. I imagine God sees it and feels like we parents do when our children mess up:

For the Father up above 

Is looking down in love

So be careful what you do. 

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about being careful on the home-front and in the workplace?

Be savvy & chic,

Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

 

 

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 5, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 5, 2018

Pops of Pink from last night’s fireworks. After a vacation, it’s so easy to let all of the benefits of rest, relaxation, rejuvenation, restoration and relationships fade away. Artful blogging promotes mindfulness and capturing images from meaningful moments helps imprint them to stay.

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Sunset at Put-In-Bay

Sunset at Put-In-Bay

I’ve lost track of what day of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and am blissfully exhausted from a two days of walking the island, but I couldn’t turn in before posting a pic of Sunset at Put-In-Bay. (Went back and checked once home –– Day 379!)

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose relatively newbie blogger, I must confess I’m no photographer. But God is the Master Artist, and when His handiwork is on display, all that’s required of me is to point my Smart Phone, click away, and offer up my appreciation for the Masterpiece and my praise of the Master who painted this sunset at Put-In-Bay.

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and mindful of the beautiful creation we get to inhabit? I hope you’ll find time to soak it in like a sunset.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

Me & My Baby in Blue

Me & My Baby in Blue

It’s Day 346 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and when my husband and I both showed up for a meeting we had this morning wearing the same color, I had to get a picture of me and my baby in blue. Though I’d love to be, it’s not often we’re dressed as a matched set! In fact, sometimes when we’re going out and I try to find out what he’s wearing so I can coordinate, he’ll evade the question just to avoid being match match-y. I think I get why he chafes at this but enjoy having pictures of us that look like we belong together. Besides, my OCD neurosis about matching messes with me if our colors are too off! That wasn’t the case today, so I had my middle stepson snap this shot of me and my baby in blue.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach & My Baby in Blue on our back deck. Not only are our colors alike, we’re both in Calvin Klein. It’s my favorite shirt of his because it brings out his blue eyes. I’m in a sleeveless floral shell and gray skirt I’ve had for years. The handbag is from last spring and the shoes were a Christmas gift. The cardigan is a recent forever to keep find – I collect them in all colors because I’m a freeze cat and wear them all spring and summer. All TJ Maxx.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose wife, I love it when my husband and I are on the same page clothing wise. But it’s even better when we’re lock step in life. Though we are dissimilar in many ways – a couple version of Mutt and Jeff in height, a consummate athlete and an artist, a manly man and fru fru as it gets – we are alike in some of the areas where it counts. We share the same faith, servant’s heart, and sincere desire to coach, encourage and inspire others. And though we don’t always see eye to eye (literally – ha ha!), we’ve got each other’s backs. Like the trees surrounding us, in many ways, he’s been my shelter… I’m blessed to have gotten it right with this one! Even though we sometimes clash, when we’re in harmony, we function like two parts of a whole. Today was one of those days, so I’m glad to have captured me and my baby in blue.

What do you think of couples coordinating?  Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about capturing life’s special moments on the home front and/or at work – however you’re dressed?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Outdoor Office

Outdoor Office

It’s Day 345 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and it’s been such a joy to spend it working on and in my outdoor office. As I posted a few days ago, while my hubby was out of town last week, I heaved all of the outdoor furniture back into place after he kindly power washed it but left it beneath the deck. Though I got all of the resin wicker pieces out, I couldn’t find where he put the dining chairs that do desk duty when I work alfresco. Nor could I hoist the nine foot sunbrella up alone. Today, I coaxed him to help me get the chairs out and he in turn enlisted my middle stepson, who is officially out on college break, to assist him with the umbrella. The glass table top received a thorough wipe down and all of the chairs got sprayed and scrubbed with bleach water. None of above is pictured here, but now from my shady seat on the freshly spring cleaned dining/desk area, I’m afforded a gorgeous vantage point to view the other side of the deck which serves as my morning lougning/reading outdoor office.

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Outdoor Office. White resin wicker from Menards. Many people want brown, but I persisted til I got what I wanted for Mother’s Day nearly a decade ago. The new Simply Shabby Chic floral pillows from Target pair with old white crochet ones & infuse blue & purple into the mix. That called for purple flowers instead of my usual pink. The birdbath was filthy when I found it at Kroger, so I offered $5 for it. Walmart rug- $20 All other accessories bought over years- TJ Maxx. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur who is an author, life coach and speaker, I also did post tasks from the Seasons of Her Soul Coffee & Connect Book Signing, touched base with coaching clients, scheduled appointments, worked on a call for proposal and marketed an upcoming Pink Collar Savvy & Chic/High Heeled Success workshop on “Overcoming the Fear Factor”. In addition to all of that, I took care of some personal business (with a little housework thrown in) as well. It’s only Monday, but the week is off to such a busy start, it would be easy to lose any of the relaxation I enjoyed over the weekend. But sitting with my skin kissed by the sun, the scent of honeysuckle wafting by, a scrumptious fruit smoothie in my hand, birdsong in my ears, and beauty everywhere my eyes land, I’m able to hold on to it in my outdoor office.

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic about making an outdoor office space? With a laptop, it’s easy to complete many work related tasks. Even if that’s not doable, can you  you make the grocery list or pay the bills there on the weekend?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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Memorable Mother’s Day

Memorable Mother’s Day

It’s Day 337 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I had a memorable Mother’s Day. Because I’m divorced and don’t always have my children, my husband goes out of his way to make this day extra special. He started early this week by bringing home a bouquet of daisies, irises and a pink rose. Last night he had a reservation to PF Chang’s for us, my three stepsons, our daughter-in-law and Izzy. She was born three years into my marriage to her Grandpa so I became Mimi – a derivative of Tammi – as opposed to Grandma. Dinner, dessert at The Creamery and sitting around the fountain was a good family time made even more so when my oldest stepson’s family gave me a card and an arrangement of white daisies and lilac lilies. As if that wasn’t enough, my hero hubby also had a lunch reservation for us and my teens at The Golden Lamb. A close family friend and his young adult son joined us. They enjoyed the restaurant’s storied history as much as my kiddos. We sat in a room decorated with the twelve presidents who have stayed there. All of us stuffed ourselves on delectable food, including sauerkraut ball appetizers (Hey, don’t knock em ’til you try em!) dipped in yummy sauces and sumptuous main courses like salmon and beef tenderloin. Still, we somehow had room for desert at an old-fashioned ice cream shop. Photos against the quintessentially American small town backdrop with its traditional architecture, cobblestone streets and picturesque park made this Mother’s Day memorable.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, between my teens on a Memorable Mother’s Day.                                            I’m in a Calvin Klein tank, skirt, slingback kitten heels, and a floral blouse.                                                                                The floral handbag was purchased at another time but complements the top perfectly.                    All TJMaxx.                                 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom, I don’t take any of these moments for granted. Neither does my hubby. We’re divorced from our children’s other parent – one instant change with long-lasting repercussions. And our children are growing up and away faster than I would have ever imagined – a series of ongoing changes with life impacting results….Considering all of this, the card he gave me when we were back home spoke directly to my Mommy heart and blessed it:

Our life has changed so much 

since we first became parents

but in one way,

it hasn’t changed at all –

you’re still the one I love…

and you always will be.

Happy Mother’s Day 

Like I said, he goes out of his way to make sure I have a memorable Mother’s Day.

I hope you had a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Mother’s Day – whether you were being celebrated or celebrating others – and know that you are loved.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach