Me & My Baby in Blue

Me & My Baby in Blue

It’s Day 346 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and when my husband and I both showed up for a meeting we had this morning wearing the same color, I had to get a picture of me and my baby in blue. Though I’d love to be, it’s not often we’re dressed as a matched set! In fact, sometimes when we’re going out and I try to find out what he’s wearing so I can coordinate, he’ll evade the question just to avoid being match match-y. I think I get why he chafes at this but enjoy having pictures of us that look like we belong together. Besides, my OCD neurosis about matching messes with me if our colors are too off! That wasn’t the case today, so I had my middle stepson snap this shot of me and my baby in blue.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach & My Baby in Blue on our back deck. Not only are our colors alike, we’re both in Calvin Klein. It’s my favorite shirt of his because it brings out his blue eyes. I’m in a sleeveless floral shell and gray skirt I’ve had for years. The handbag is from last spring and the shoes were a Christmas gift. The cardigan is a recent forever to keep find – I collect them in all colors because I’m a freeze cat and wear them all spring and summer. All TJ Maxx.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose wife, I love it when my husband and I are on the same page clothing wise. But it’s even better when we’re lock step in life. Though we are dissimilar in many ways – a couple version of Mutt and Jeff in height, a consummate athlete and an artist, a manly man and fru fru as it gets – we are alike in some of the areas where it counts. We share the same faith, servant’s heart, and sincere desire to coach, encourage and inspire others. And though we don’t always see eye to eye (literally – ha ha!), we’ve got each other’s backs. Like the trees surrounding us, in many ways, he’s been my shelter… I’m blessed to have gotten it right with this one! Even though we sometimes clash, when we’re in harmony, we function like two parts of a whole. Today was one of those days, so I’m glad to have captured me and my baby in blue.

What do you think of couples coordinating?  Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about capturing life’s special moments on the home front and/or at work – however you’re dressed?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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Outdoor Office

Outdoor Office

It’s Day 345 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and it’s been such a joy to spend it working on and in my outdoor office. As I posted a few days ago, while my hubby was out of town last week, I heaved all of the outdoor furniture back into place after he kindly power washed it but left it beneath the deck. Though I got all of the resin wicker pieces out, I couldn’t find where he put the dining chairs that do desk duty when I work alfresco. Nor could I hoist the nine foot sunbrella up alone. Today, I coaxed him to help me get the chairs out and he in turn enlisted my middle stepson, who is officially out on college break, to assist him with the umbrella. The glass table top received a thorough wipe down and all of the chairs got sprayed and scrubbed with bleach water. None of above is pictured here, but now from my shady seat on the freshly spring cleaned dining/desk area, I’m afforded a gorgeous vantage point to view the other side of the deck which serves as my morning lougning/reading outdoor office.

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Outdoor Office. White resin wicker from Menards. Many people want brown, but I persisted til I got what I wanted for Mother’s Day nearly a decade ago. The new Simply Shabby Chic floral pillows from Target pair with old white crochet ones & infuse blue & purple into the mix. That called for purple flowers instead of my usual pink. The birdbath was filthy when I found it at Kroger, so I offered $5 for it. Walmart rug- $20 All other accessories bought over years- TJ Maxx. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur who is an author, life coach and speaker, I also did post tasks from the Seasons of Her Soul Coffee & Connect Book Signing, touched base with coaching clients, scheduled appointments, worked on a call for proposal and marketed an upcoming Pink Collar Savvy & Chic/High Heeled Success workshop on “Overcoming the Fear Factor”. In addition to all of that, I took care of some personal business (with a little housework thrown in) as well. It’s only Monday, but the week is off to such a busy start, it would be easy to lose any of the relaxation I enjoyed over the weekend. But sitting with my skin kissed by the sun, the scent of honeysuckle wafting by, a scrumptious fruit smoothie in my hand, birdsong in my ears, and beauty everywhere my eyes land, I’m able to hold on to it in my outdoor office.

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic about making an outdoor office space? With a laptop, it’s easy to complete many work related tasks. Even if that’s not doable, can you  you make the grocery list or pay the bills there on the weekend?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To learn more about the upcoming workshop, please visit the events page at http://www.highheeledsuccess.com.

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Memorable Mother’s Day

Memorable Mother’s Day

It’s Day 337 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I had a memorable Mother’s Day. Because I’m divorced and don’t always have my children, my husband goes out of his way to make this day extra special. He started early this week by bringing home a bouquet of daisies, irises and a pink rose. Last night he had a reservation to PF Chang’s for us, my three stepsons, our daughter-in-law and Izzy. She was born three years into my marriage to her Grandpa so I became Mimi – a derivative of Tammi – as opposed to Grandma. Dinner, dessert at The Creamery and sitting around the fountain was a good family time made even more so when my oldest stepson’s family gave me a card and an arrangement of white daisies and lilac lilies. As if that wasn’t enough, my hero hubby also had a lunch reservation for us and my teens at The Golden Lamb. A close family friend and his young adult son joined us. They enjoyed the restaurant’s storied history as much as my kiddos. We sat in a room decorated with the twelve presidents who have stayed there. All of us stuffed ourselves on delectable food, including sauerkraut ball appetizers (Hey, don’t knock em ’til you try em!) dipped in yummy sauces and sumptuous main courses like salmon and beef tenderloin. Still, we somehow had room for desert at an old-fashioned ice cream shop. Photos against the quintessentially American small town backdrop with its traditional architecture, cobblestone streets and picturesque park made this Mother’s Day memorable.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, between my teens on a Memorable Mother’s Day.                                            I’m in a Calvin Klein tank, skirt, slingback kitten heels, and a floral blouse.                                                                                The floral handbag was purchased at another time but complements the top perfectly.                    All TJMaxx.                                 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom, I don’t take any of these moments for granted. Neither does my hubby. We’re divorced from our children’s other parent – one instant change with long-lasting repercussions. And our children are growing up and away faster than I would have ever imagined – a series of ongoing changes with life impacting results….Considering all of this, the card he gave me when we were back home spoke directly to my Mommy heart and blessed it:

Our life has changed so much 

since we first became parents

but in one way,

it hasn’t changed at all –

you’re still the one I love…

and you always will be.

Happy Mother’s Day 

Like I said, he goes out of his way to make sure I have a memorable Mother’s Day.

I hope you had a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Mother’s Day – whether you were being celebrated or celebrating others – and know that you are loved.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Snowy Super Bowl Sunday

Snowy Super Bowl Sunday

It’s Day 243 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and it’s been a snowy Super Bowl Sunday. A timely sermon on our mistakes being turned into miracles, teaching my faith-based Zumba class, cuddling up to enjoy a newly discovered (at least for me) author, an honest heart-to-heart with my daughter, and a gathering of our family to watch the Super Bowl on this snowy Sunday made it packed in the best way.

Snowy Day

Though I started the cheerleading squad when I was a middle school teacher and coached up until my son was born, I was a cheerleader who could never follow the game. One of my favorite cheers was, “One, two, three, four! We don’t even know the score!”. Considering that, while my family enjoyed the game in the Man Cave,  I spent much of the evening upstairs with Izzy (I’m Mimi to my oldest stepson’s four-year-old). My daughter had informed me that Justin Timberlake was doing the Half Time Show, so when my hubby called me down to watch, I took advantage of the time to participate with everyone. Since I didn’t even know who was playing, I had no idea the game was being played in Minneapolis, Prince’s hometown. As I watched Justin Timberlake perform, I recalled how Prince’s performance, where he belted out “Purple Rain” as the heavens poured, was arguably the best half time ever. Thinking thus, my heart did a somersault as I saw the image of Prince appear on the screen and watched Justin pay homage to him with a rendition of “I Would Die 4 U”. Diehard fan that I am, that made watching Sunday night football worth it for once!

After half time, I retreated to my room to watch “Victoria”. Now that it’s over, the house is still full, so apparently the game is not. Nevertheless, I need to prepare for the busy week ahead… In checking emails and texts, I found that while I was in Super Bowl mode, someone left a review of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, on Amazon. Then, to my surprise and delight, I found two others when I went to read it. I’m touched that others are responding so well to the main character, Lee, and feel as if they’d like to know her as a friend. Above all else, I wanted her to be relatable; learning that she is is another highlight of my night.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose novice blogger, I must confess that sometimes, I  get stumped on what to write. Then, nights like this remind me that a blog is simply a “web log” or journal, written in an informal, conversational style. That takes the pressure off a bit and frees me to simply write about my day. And it allows me to capture moments – much like Justin Timberlake did when he held up his phone tonight and said, “Super Bowl selfie” as he snapped one. Still, there are times when I wish every post was   insightful or profound. The reality is, some days, posts are just an account of what my day consisted of. Some days, that doesn’t feel like much. But when I lie on the sofa on a snowy Super Bowl Sunday and scroll through the blog and am reminded of fleeting everyday occurrences and things I may have forgotten otherwise, I realize though simple, it’s enough.

How are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about chronicling your days or recording them? Do you blog, doodle, journal, take photos, selfies or write? I encourage you to find a way to “set it down” as my Aunt Bertie (Birdy) used to say. Because it does matter and one day you’ll be glad you can look back on it…

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
The Setting of the Sun

The Setting of the Sun

It’s Day 223 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and I’ve been so busy that I haven’t had a chance to take pictures or post in 2018, so I’m using some photos from Myrtle Beach as inspiration to write briefly about the setting of the sun. While on vacation, as I lay in bed reading, I noticed God was in the midst of painting the sky my favorite shade. The hazy pink hue made me think I could catch the sun setting, so I grabbed my phone and captured this view before ever getting up. Then I stepped outside just in time to see the sun dip below the horizon. On one side it pierced the water with a brilliant shaft of orange light that stretched across rooftops and nearly reached our condo. On the other, it created a lovely pastel ombre effect of sky, sun, and surf that rippled gently to the sand. Close to weeping with the sheer beauty of it all, I sang a song of praise to the Master Creator of this masterpiece, for in all my forty-eight years, I have never seen such a magnificent setting of the sun.

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Penthouse view of the approaching sunset from the master bedroom suite.
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The setting of the sun.
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The sun shaded by sky.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose writer, I’ve always been enamored with words. But I must confess, I had little interest taking photos, other than those of family gatherings or those related to image and interior design. Because of that I’ve not always been mindful of the natural beauty around me. Now I’m so thankful my desire to capture images to complement my writing has made me more mindful of my surroundings. Before, I would have noticed the sunset, but may not have been intentional about taking pictures of it. Seeing these, the experience will live on. Furthermore, I’ve found more times than not that rather than photos enhancing my words, they inspire them. I’m still a novice photographer, but I appreciate the opportunity to grow and develop, personally and professionally. Especially when it that causes me to bask in the setting of the sun.

How about you? How has being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose with an interest or passtime caused you to discover a new passion, personal or professional development opportunity? What new skills would you like to gain or hone?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

Feeling Grateful for First Full Day Out with Family, Food, and Fun

Feeling Grateful for First Full Day Out with Family, Food, and Fun

Day 178 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project is my first full day out and about since I got sick nearly a month ago, so I looked forward to spending it with family, eating good food, and having fun. After reading several articles in the newest edition of Artful Blogging and a chapter of my latest novel last night, I slept relatively well and awakened feeling more like myself than I have for weeks. So much so that I did some juege-ing in the laundry room to make it more inviting (will post pics when I pull it together), then did a little holiday/ gift shopping. By the time I needed to head over to the family birthday party, I still had plenty of energy. And though I ate a bit of pizza, I was cautious and didn’t add my usual peppers or peppercorns. My hubby and I also split a nice salad. It was so fun celebrating my youngest sister-in-law’s birthday, especially since I’ve had very little socialization as of late.

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Family, Food and Fun. Pink Collar Coach in the middle.                                                               Calvin Klein peacock trumpet sleeve sweater, jeggings, & brown wedge boots with a peacock handbag. Hubby and his sister were the photographers and are not pictured.

One of the articles in Artful Blogging was about developing an attitude of gratitude. It reminded me of an old saying I used to hear around the church where I grow up, that went something like “You don’t know how good it feels to be well until you’ve been sick.” This isn’t the first time in my life I’ve been really sick, but because of my blog, I’m more mindful of the experience. And I believe I’m more grateful to be feeling better than I may have been in the past.

Not only was I more mindful of that, but I was keenly aware of the season my husband’s niece is in. Like mine, her girl and boy are close in age. I’ve always referred to my daughter and son, who are only nineteen months apart, as my Irish twins. Because of a divorce and changes with parenting time, they aren’t around for many family get-togethers, but I vividly remember the days when I was exhausted and overwhelmed with mothering very young children. This made me intentional asking how mom is doing and offering to lend a hand any time she needs it. My prayer is that this sweet young couple and their children never experience the ravages of divorce. But even if they remain as tightly knit together as they are right now, I hope they can see past the fog of exhaustion and being overwhelmed to hold on to the memories that make up the threads of this precious, fleeting time. The late nights, the chaotic days, and all the mess makes up the beautiful tapestry of their lives.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chic who is dealing with medical challenges, I’m thankful for them because they bring gratitude. And clarity. They also make me want to capture it all in a way that I, my children and my family can look back and remember. Writing about my first full day out and about with family, food, and fun may not sound blog-worthy, but maybe, just maybe, someone will read my words and see the pictures I’ve included and it will encourage or inspire them. Somehow, it may even point someone to God. If that happens, then it’s worthy after all.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

Fall Leaves Change and Nothing Remains the Same

Fall Leaves Change and Nothing Remains the Same

It’s Day 130 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and since my blogging  has been sporadic over the last few weeks, I didn’t  have any recent photos and had to go back and find one reflects the sentiment that fall leaves change and nothing remains the same. Going into the third week of being sick, I have to be honest and admit I’ve felt a bit melancholy. It seems as though time goes by too quickly and people drift in and out of our lives. Still, rather than letting that get me down, I’m trying to keep my focus on what I have, versus what I don’t. Sometimes that means being grateful for the memories, even if that time is past or those people are no longer part of the daily landscape.

If you’ve ever taken the time to observe nature in autumn, you see how the leaves first change color and eventually fall to the ground. When all of them have fallen, the landscape is left looking rather barren. If we believed things would stay that way, we’d be left feeling bleak. Instead, when we realize all of these stages are necessary for new life to emerge in spring,  we can view the season of change from a hopeful perspective.

Spring won’t be comprised of the same leaves or colors, but it will be lovely all the same. Likewise, new memories we make won’t necessarily be made up of the same people, places, or even things. That being the case, a photo that captures a window in time becomes priceless. Children grow up and pull away, friends drift apart, and couples break up. Before they do, we snap a photo in the hope of being able to revisit those people, that place and time. My children and stepchildren always give me a hard time for taking so many pics, but I’ve never regretted that. I’ve only regretted when I let a special moment slip by undocumented.

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Carver Farm, Fall 2015 – Treasured Times Gone By. Pink Collar Coach as a cat, stepson and his then girlfriend, my daughter, son, and neighborhood friends. So much change…

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose chick who has never been into scrapbooking, I’m so thankful for my blog. It’s a place to capture my hopes, dreams, plans, feelings and fears. It’s a place to chronicle life’s ups and downs and to hopefully find community with other women in the workplace and on the homefront who are going through life trying to be the best moms, wives, sisters, friends, employees, etc. that we can be.

I hope this post encourages you to grab your camera or phone and to take some pictures this fall. Because it’s not only fall leaves that change. And nothing does remain the same.

Be savvy and chic,

~Pink Collar Coach