Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – August 15, 2019

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – August 15, 2019



Dear Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Swans,

As my 9th and 10th grader head back to school this morning, I’m reminded of all their firsts and lasts. Though Liv is petite and can fit inside her locker –– with the door closed –– it’s not often I get to hold her or her brother in my arms…May the following poem remind us all to cherish not only our children’s firsts and lasts, but all of life’s.

~Pink Collar Coach

Let Me Hold You Longer

By Karen Kingsbury

Long ago you came to me,

a miracle of firsts:

First smiles and teeth and baby steps,

a sunbeam on the burst.

But one day you will move away

and leave to me your past,

And I will be left thinking of

a lifetime of your lasts . . .

The last time that I held a bottle

to your baby lips.

The last time that I lifted you

and held you on my hip.

The last night when you woke up crying,

needing to be walked,

When last you crawled up with your blanket

wanting to be rocked.

The last time when you ran to me,

still small enough to hold.

The last time that you said you’d marry

me when you grew old.

Precious, simple moments and

bright flashes from your past –

Would I have held on longer if

I’d known they were your last?

Our last adventure to the park,

your final midday nap,

The last time when you wore your favorite

faded baseball cap.

Your last few hours of kindergarten,

those last days of first grade.

Your last at bat in Little League,

last colored picture made.

I never said good-bye to all

your yesterdays long passed.

So what about tomorrow –

will I recognize your lasts?

The last time that you catch a frog

in that old backyard pond.

The last time that you run barefoot

across our fresh-cut lawn.

Silly, scattered images

will represent your past.

I keep on taking pictures,

never quite sure of your lasts . . .

The last time that I comb your hair

or stop a pillow fight.

The last time that I pray with you

and tuck you in at night.

The last time when we cuddle

with a book, just me and you.

The last time you jump in our bed

and sleep between us two.

The last piano lesson,

last vacation to the lake.

Your last few weeks of middle school

last soccer goal you make.

I look ahead and dream of days

that haven’t come to pass.

But as I do, I sometimes miss

today’s sweet, precious lasts . . .

The last time that I help you with

a math or spelling test.

The last time when I shout that yes,

your room is still a mess.

The last time that you need me for

a ride from here to there.

The last time that you spend the night

with your old tattered bear.

My life keeps moving faster,

stealing precious days that pass.

I want to hold on longer –

want to recognize your lasts . . .

The last time that you need my help

with details of a dance.

The last time that you ask me for

advice about romance.

The last time that you talk to me

about your hopes and dreams.

The last time that you wear a jersey

for your high school team.

I’ve watched you grow and barely noticed

seasons as they pass.

If I could freeze the hands of time,

I’d hold on to your lasts.

For come some bright fall morning,

you’ll be going far away.

College life will beckon

in a brilliant sort of way.

One last hug, one last good-bye,

one quick and hurried kiss.

One last time to understand

just how much you’ll be missed.

I’ll watch you leave and think how fast

our time together passed.

Let me hold on longer, God, to every precious last.

(c) 2004 by Karen Kingsbury, Tyndale House Publishers.


Wearing Winter White with Roses

Wearing Winter White with Roses

It’s about Day 27 of being back to blogging, and today I wore winter white with roses. After subbing for Saturday’s Zumba class, I looked forward to warming up in a cozy sweater and accenting it with a gorgeous new creamy handbag embellished with my favorite flower. After lunch with one of my Swan Sisters I asked her to snap the pic beneath a tree barren of leaves to show the juxtaposition between it and the bag’s colorful embroidered petals. The one speaks to the season we’re in; the other to spring that’s just around the corner. By wearing winter white with roses, I’m embracing the beauty of both.

Me, Pink Collar Coach, wearing a winter white sweater with a rose patterned handbag.           All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx.


Many people find this time of year bleak. With the winter holidays behind us, Easter and spring break can feel a long way off. Though I’ve never really struggled with the winter doldrums –– a D or challenge women face –– I’m not a fan of the cold and can do without snow. Consequently I’m thankful that other than a little extreme winter weather, for the most part, it’s been fairly mild. Even so, I look forward to spring, warmer temps, flowers blooming and Easter. And now that I have a tiny house for personal and professional use, it seems an open house/Easter brunch is in order…

Just as we look forward to get togethers, holidays and parties, spring is a time of new beginnings, celebration of new life and the Resurrection.  As we prepare for it, let’s be mindful of the winter beauty that still surrounds us, which can chase away those doldrums… If  you’re Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and look closely enough, beauty can be seen in the barren trees and overcast skies.  It can even be found in a wearing winter white with roses.

Photo Op

Photo Op

It’s Day 20 of being back to blogging, and while scrolling through pictures on my phone searching post inspiration, I came across one the perfect photo op. The term, short for photograph opportunity, was originally coined to indicate the opportunity to take a picture with a celebrity or of an event. But as I looked at this picture, it took on new meaning for me. You see, it’s of a corner in bedroom I share with my fifteen-year-old daughter at our tiny house and was designed to fulfill her request  for a vanity area. I began renting the house for personal and professional to run my business, Pink Collar Savvy & Chic, and to have a special place to spend time with my children.

At first my husband wasn’t on board with it, which caused some discord –– another D or challenge women face. Following a particularly rough patch, he brought the beautiful bouquet of my favorite pink roses to my new job as a repair attempt. Originally I took the picture in a fit of I don’t want flowers, I want to resolve the issue! Eventually I got over myself and can now look back and see my husband’s heart. It makes me mindful of the chance to be prayerful about all it represents –– a true photo op.

A beautiful, comfortable and functional vanity area. The painted wood cafe table and chairs were purchased at TJ Maxx for outdoors, but I hated them weathering. Now they have a new purpose. The lamp and wicker mirror/basket are two of my early thrift store finds. Large Ball mason jar from Goodwill. Simply Shabby Chic pillows & laundry basket –  Target. 

In a world where cameras on our phones make snapping a picture something that often occurs several times a day, I still want to make it special. Through blogging it’s become a way for me to chronicle the simple and significant in my life. Being intentional about maximizing photography opportunities by attaching prayers of ACTS –– adoration, confession, thanksgiving and supplication –– to my reminiscing over  pictures elevates them from simply snapping away to powerful photo ops.

So the next time you hit that button to capture that perfect picture, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and not miss out on the photo opportunity that’s present too…

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Bad Move, Good Man

Bad Move, Good Man

It’s Day 13/14 of being back to blogging and tonight I witnessed a driver make a bad move that a good man turned around. Literally. Taking the highway exit to pick up my children tonight, as I neared the turn signal, I was startled to see a man standing on the busy road, which is no place for pedestrians in broad daylight, let alone after dark! The dark clothing he wore made his position even more precarious. Confused as I was by his presence, it definitely prevented me from turning from the far right lane. He must be insane, intoxicated or both, I thought before wondering if there’d been an accident or if his vehicle was disabled. That’s when I noticed a minivan whose driver had gotten into a mess by either purposely trying to make a U turn at the exit or by attempting to do so erroneously. Their bad move, however, didn’t end up as tragically as it could have thanks to the courageous act of what I now understood must be a good man.

u turn sign - pink

After halting traffic and directing the van to make the turn safely, he jogged back to his car, then merged onto the road. I could finally turn right, but I couldn’t get him off of my mind. At first all I could think was, God bless Him for putting his own safety at sake to be of service to someone else. Much like the Good Samaritan…Next, as I continued on to my destination, I pondered how what I’d just witnessed would make a great blog post. And that made me more appreciative of blogging –– the mindfulness and intentionality it adds to my personal and professional life. It’s such a joy to share these meaningful moments as they happen…One day, I’ll be able to look back on them through this blog. When I do, I’ll smile, as I did the rest of my drive, understanding how someone’s bad move was salvaged by a good man.

What Good Samaritan acts have you experienced on the home front or in the workplace? How can you be a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and commit random acts of kindness for someone in need of help?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – October 13, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – October 13, 2018

Made the most of a mother-daughter moment making one of my son’s favorite dinners –– meatloaf–– with my growing-meup girl! What a blessing to talk as we shopped, prepped and cooked. And the spontaneous hug at the grocery store? Priceless! This is a shot of her in the homecoming dress we shopped for together a few weeks ago. Memories to last a lifetime!


We Still Scream for Ice-cream!

We Still Scream for Ice-cream!

It’s Day 402 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and a recent outing with my teens confirms the fact that no matter how old we get, we still scream for ice-cream! Figuring out fun things to do with a thirteen and soon-to-be fifteen-year-old can be daunting. They’re both at the stage where screens hold more allure than almost anything except for hanging out with their friends instead of their mom. While that’s pretty normal, quality time with them is too important to let it fall by the wayside. Still, when I ask what they’d like to do, they fluctuate between being fairly non-responsive, resistant or downright refusing to go. But lo and behold, at the mention of a trip to The Cone –– a local family fun soft-serve ice cream stand shaped like a swirl cone, with pinball games –– and suddenly they’re all in! No matter that they’re no longer the babies who used to literally jump up and down pumping their fists in the air, or even that I’m now the almost fifty-year-old mom who has to watch my calorie, fat and sugar intake, we still scream for ice-cream!

My Teenagers! How did this happen???
Me, Mom –– Pink Collar Coach. Love the strawberry vanilla swirl – pink! : )                                     Print sundress, yellow handbag and flip flops all Calvin Klein acquired over time from TJ Maxx. The yellow shrug sweater was actually a clearance find at Macy’s. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom, I have to admit –– most days I wish I could turn back time to the days when things were simpler with my children. Back when everything I suggested was met with enthusiasm and being together was as good as it got. But you can’t go back and time doesn’t stand still. My babies are teens who will  quickly grow into young adults. Finding common ground isn’t as easy as it used to be but is so worth the effort. Over my daughter’s coffee flavored shake, which she couldn’t finish but ended up giving to her brother, his key lime freeze with a blueberry shell and my strawberry shortcake –– no calorie counting or weight watching there –– conversation and laughter flowed. Like the good old days…We’ve changed in so many ways both as individuals and as a unit, but I’m thankful that some things remain the same. Like the fact that we all still scream for ice cream!

What simple pleasures do you still enjoy? Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose  about making sure you make the time for them?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach


Be Careful!

Be Careful!

Be Careful

It’s Day 401 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m reminded of a song we used to sing in Sunday School that cautioned us to be careful. It was basically another version of “See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil”. And like the well known image of the monkey covering his eyes, ears and mouth, we children would sing robustly as we pointed to each body part. The song actually covered the hands and what they do, the feet and where they go, the heart and whom you trust, and the mind and what you think as well, but the first three are my focus verses are my focus for this Be Careful post.

O be careful little eyes what you see

O careful little ears what you hear

O be careful little tongue what you say

Though these are the lyrics of a children’s song, they are so applicable for adults and women in particular. Having a vision of what we want our lives to look like is a vital  vital aspect of making the vision a reality. Conversely, when we bombard our eyes with images of brutality, ruin, violence and waste, is it any wonder that our lives begin to resemble it? Likewise, when we are admonished to listen to speak to ourselves win psalms, hymns and spiritual songs (Eph. 5:19), yet we repeatedly listen to negative conversations, gossip, messages and music then can’t turn off the bad tapes playing in our minds. And our tongues? They may be the smallest part, but they often play the largest in arguing, backbiting, complaining, gossiping and tearing others down. It seems many of us have either never learned, forgotten or simply forsaken the lessons learning in church, school or our mother’s knees regarding being careful.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, I try –– and often fail –– to be careful. But how I long to be more prudent! We don’t hear that word very much anymore…It has to do with being disciplined. In our society it’s easy to become desensitized by what we see and hear on various devices and screens. Also, because everything moves at such a rapid fire pace we don’t always slow down long enough to weigh our words, resulting in heavy consequences –– with our acquaintances, friends, families, significant others, co-workers,   supervisors, etc. People are left feeling wounded and unloved. Conflict, discord, division and strife are the end result. I imagine God sees it and feels like we parents do when our children mess up:

For the Father up above 

Is looking down in love

So be careful what you do. 

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about being careful on the home-front and in the workplace?

Be savvy & chic,

Pink Collar Coach






Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 5, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 5, 2018

Pops of Pink from last night’s fireworks. After a vacation, it’s so easy to let all of the benefits of rest, relaxation, rejuvenation, restoration and relationships fade away. Artful blogging promotes mindfulness and capturing images from meaningful moments helps imprint them to stay.



Sunset at Put-In-Bay

Sunset at Put-In-Bay

I’ve lost track of what day of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and am blissfully exhausted from a two days of walking the island, but I couldn’t turn in before posting a pic of Sunset at Put-In-Bay. (Went back and checked once home –– Day 379!)


As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose relatively newbie blogger, I must confess I’m no photographer. But God is the Master Artist, and when His handiwork is on display, all that’s required of me is to point my Smart Phone, click away, and offer up my appreciation for the Masterpiece and my praise of the Master who painted this sunset at Put-In-Bay.

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and mindful of the beautiful creation we get to inhabit? I hope you’ll find time to soak it in like a sunset.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach



Me & My Baby in Blue

Me & My Baby in Blue

It’s Day 346 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and when my husband and I both showed up for a meeting we had this morning wearing the same color, I had to get a picture of me and my baby in blue. Though I’d love to be, it’s not often we’re dressed as a matched set! In fact, sometimes when we’re going out and I try to find out what he’s wearing so I can coordinate, he’ll evade the question just to avoid being match match-y. I think I get why he chafes at this but enjoy having pictures of us that look like we belong together. Besides, my OCD neurosis about matching messes with me if our colors are too off! That wasn’t the case today, so I had my middle stepson snap this shot of me and my baby in blue.

Me, Pink Collar Coach & My Baby in Blue on our back deck. Not only are our colors alike, we’re both in Calvin Klein. It’s my favorite shirt of his because it brings out his blue eyes. I’m in a sleeveless floral shell and gray skirt I’ve had for years. The handbag is from last spring and the shoes were a Christmas gift. The cardigan is a recent forever to keep find – I collect them in all colors because I’m a freeze cat and wear them all spring and summer. All TJ Maxx.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose wife, I love it when my husband and I are on the same page clothing wise. But it’s even better when we’re lock step in life. Though we are dissimilar in many ways – a couple version of Mutt and Jeff in height, a consummate athlete and an artist, a manly man and fru fru as it gets – we are alike in some of the areas where it counts. We share the same faith, servant’s heart, and sincere desire to coach, encourage and inspire others. And though we don’t always see eye to eye (literally – ha ha!), we’ve got each other’s backs. Like the trees surrounding us, in many ways, he’s been my shelter… I’m blessed to have gotten it right with this one! Even though we sometimes clash, when we’re in harmony, we function like two parts of a whole. Today was one of those days, so I’m glad to have captured me and my baby in blue.

What do you think of couples coordinating?  Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about capturing life’s special moments on the home front and/or at work – however you’re dressed?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach