My BPF – Best Professional Friend

My BPF – Best Professional Friend

It’s Day 363 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and in honor of National Best Friend Day, I’m blogging about my BPF – my Best Professional Friend – Kay Fittes, the founder and CEO of High Heeled Success. Approximately eleven years ago, I hung on her every word as a new Center Director participant in one of Kay’s workshops for early childhood program leaders. I was green as all get out but dying on the vine! Kay invited us to contact her if we ever needed anything. Well, over the next few years, I needed a lot! Like true mentoring relationships, ours developed organically as opposed to me asking her, “Are you my mentor?” ala Sheryl Sandburg’s Women, Work and the Will to Lead. Over time, Kay helped me to land a position as a training consultant at our region’s ECE resource and referral agency and that evolved into a full-time position. About that time, Kay and I met and I finally got up the nerve to broach the subject of training with her. Quick to explain, I don’t play well in the sand with other children, Kay nevertheless saw something in me that made her willing to try it. By the end of our first workshop – June 9, 2012 – I felt on top of the world. Kay felt so down about it that it took her weeks to finally shoot me straight. That hurt. But that pain proved to be such a powerful growth experience that we kept at it until we got it right. Hearing Kay tell me mentoring me has been one of the most rewarding experiences of her life, well, I’ll NEVER forget those words. Somehow this woman I wanted and still want to grow up to be just like had become my Best Professional Friend.

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Kay & me, Pink Collar Coach. We’re both petite so “Petite Power!” is how we end our days. Kay’s outfit is awesome and came together piece by piece. Love the outfit and jewelry. And of course I’m loving my florals right now! Floral shell and handbag. Cardi, A-line skirt & bone pumps.           All Calvin Klein – TJ Maxx bought over time.

My relationship with Kay goes so much deeper than that though. Because I don’t have a close relationship with my mother, and Kay often points out the fact that she’s twenty years (and six days) older, I’ve often gone to her not only for advice, coaching and guidance on professional matters, she’s been an important part of my personal life as well. In fact, she has so many qualities I admire that she and my hubby – another best friend – often give me words of wisdom, word for word! She’s been there throughout my professional and personal mess to success stories! And the fact that Kay collaborates and consults with me professionally and has shared personal confidences that she doesn’t with others humbles and touches because it means she trusts and values me as much as I do her.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose presenter, I can honestly say I owe just about everything I am as a speaker to Kay. Not only that, she helped me set and reach my goal of obtaining my Masters and even walked me through which major to choose when I stood at a crossroads between Adult Learning with Technology and Leadership and Coaching. And because she steered me down the right path – how I would have hated fighting with IT related homework after working all day and being a wife and mom – I adored my studies and got educated and equipped to do work that is perfectly aligned with my purpose. Tomorrow when we present

High-Heeled Success Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor™

on June 9, 2018 – it will mark our six-year anniversary. What a fitting way to celebrate National Best Friends Day and my Best Professional Friend – Kay.

Do you have a BPF or a BFF? If so, take time to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and let them know how much you appreciate them being in your life.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

May I Mention My Mentors?

May I Mention My Mentors?

I’m not going to lie. Day 148 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project was one of the hardest I’ve had in a long time. The Ds that I was dealing with yesterday sent me plummeting emotionally today and at one point, I was close to despair, feeling as if the change of hearts I am waiting on will never come.  But often times, it’s in the our darkest hours that God’s love for us shines through and illuminates just what we need. The Daily Dose from The Smile Jar reminded me that a new day brings new strength. Then, the verse in my daily devotional was “They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength.” (Isaiah 40:31). I needed the reminder. And may I mention my Zumba mentors?

Usually, I only see two of the instructors who have been instrumental in me becoming one myself on Wednesday nights. This week, however, because our local Zumba for the Cure is this Friday night, our Monday night instructor danced with us so we can represent well when we party in pink to fight breast cancer. The energy this trio puts out is amazing and dancing with them lifted my burden to the degree that the smile on my face was probably the first heartfelt one all day. Each of them is Pink Collar Savvy & Chic in her own unique way, so when they began mentoring me almost two years ago, I dubbed them all with names that depict how I see them.

Beauty and Brains – Jodi 

This playful, sassy wife and mamma of two has a serious side. She’s a rocket scientist.

Beauty and 3x a Lady – Kara

Not only does this multitasking mom of triplets teach Zumba, she teaches school all day.

Beauty and Strength – Angelique

Graceful as a ballerina & fierce on the dance floor, she lifts weights & wins competitions.

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Beauty and Brains, Pink Collar Coach, Beauty & 3x a Lady, Beauty and Strength.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who knows that women taking the time to invest in one another makes a world of difference, not only in us making our dreams come true, but in dealing with our Ds, I want to express my heartfelt thanks to my mentors. If you’ve had days where coming to teach wasn’t as appealing as it sometimes is, please know, if I was there, you made a difference. Just by coming to dance with us. I’m not the only one who feels this way. In fact, one of our newer regulars and I had a conversation tonight after class extolling al the positive benefits of dancing. Burning the calories, getting the heart rate up, dancing our stress and sadness away. Finding community, friends and our tribe. Not to mention, mentors…

Oh, and if you’ve never given Zumba a try, October is breast cancer awareness month. Zumbathons for The Cure are being held in various locations…You may just find your fit!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach