Taking Time to Take Care of Ourselves

Taking Time to Take Care of Ourselves

It’s another day of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project,  and last week’s A Night to Celebrate You at Aveda Fredericks Institute to benefit Hope House Mission’s  Women’s Center where I’m the director, reminded me how we need to take time to take care of ourselves. As one of two speakers who would receive a makeover to be revealed later in the evening, the idea of arriving four and half hours early appalled me. Despite my love of beauty and maximizing it, having my hair, makeup and nails done by the cosmetology students produced more anxiety than anticipation. In the end though, I appreciated being able to take the time to take care of myself.

Sense of Style (Packaging)

Growing up in poverty and living barely above that line during my teens and early 20s,  surrendering my paycheck to an abusive husband for much of my 30s, then struggling as a divorced single mom in my early 40s, trips to the salon have been a rare treat. In fact, between working in education, non profits and social service and being loathe to pay others for things I can do for myself, last week’s manicure was my first ever –– and I’m 50! My favorite part of the pampering was learning how to pencil in perfect brows!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, with Grace, a student and Swan Soul Sister who softly serenades with Christian songs as she practices her skills. : )                I’m in my signature color – lips and shirt. Clothing Calvin Klein – TJ Maxx.

Service on Purpose and Self Care  (Professional Life)

Serving as the director of a homeless shelter means I deal with the Ds –– the challenges women face –– daily. Destitution, debt, drugs, domestic violence, depression, etc.  So do the amazing team of women I lead. Because of this I strive to demonstrate one the 4Is of transformational leadership –– idealized influence. Simply put this means modeling the attitude and behavior I want to see in my team. In today’s staff meeting, however, more than one of them noted having their nails done as their method of self care. So did our Volunteer Coordinator,  who did an amazing job pulling the Aveda event together. In this way, they all model taking time to take care of themselves for me!

Spirit-led (Prayer and Putting it Into Practice)

My prayer for each of you Swans  its that you would be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and minimize your Ds by discovering or renewing a self-care practice that feels self indulgent but that is really taking time to take care of yourself. It’s important because if you’re anything like me, you’re not only the Swan who lays the golden egg for your direct reports, staff, team, family, etc….You’re the one who maximizes beauty and best lives, too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – August 13, 2019

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – August 13, 2019

My sweet Sister-in-law, Sue and my Zumba mentor/Swan Sister, Marina, both blessed me with TJ Maxx gift cards for my birthday last month.  I spent them both well and had a few dollars left over, so I snapped up these Rachel Ashwell tumblers from the clearance aisle for $2 a piece. They now serve as Shabby Chic medicine cabinet storage. Shabby Chic Room Spray bottles (also from TJ’s) are too beautiful to be tucked away and line the top. It may sound silly, but my Shabby Chic medicine cabinet made my morning and getting ready for work lovely!

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My Shabby Chic Medicine Cabinet Storage Makes Makes My Morning!

Stylish storage solutions can help minimize disorganization –– a D or challenge women face –– and will help you maximize beauty and your best life! I pray your day is Pink Collar Savvy & Chic, organized and filled with things that make it for you, too!

Be Savvy & Chic,

~ Pink Collar Coach

Hope House Mission Teamwork Makes the Dream Work

Hope House Mission Teamwork Makes the Dream Work

It’s Day 42 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and as the weekend winds down and I prepare for the upcoming work week, I’m so thankful that at Hope House, teamwork really does make the dream work. If you’ve ever been at a job full of haters or where the environment is toxic, you know how the inching of the hour hand toward 6pm Sunday evening  is accompanied by dread ––– another D or challenge women face – regarding returning to work. I’ve been in those ill-fitting shoes and eventually walked out the door of those jobs. Conversely, when the work atmosphere is positive and the team cohesive, in ten months  as the Women’s Center Director I’ve not experienced anything but joy because I don’t have to go to my job, I get to! From leadership, to those in the administrative office, to the boots on the ground shelter staff, all the way down to the volunteers, Hope House Mission’s tremendous, collective, cohesive efforts make the dream of breaking the cycle of poverty and despair for homeless women, children and men work.

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Tim, Director of Operations,  Hannah, Volunteer Coordinator                                                         and me, Women’s Center Director/Pink Collar Coach (center).                                                        Not a T-shirt girl at all, I paired the requisite Chick-Fil-A shirt for the Get Moovin 5K Fun Run with a Calvin Klein skirt, plaid shirt and purple shades to pull the look together. 

Serving on Purpose at a non-profit where I’m actually in full-time paid ministry is as close to professional heaven on earth as I can get.. I’ve been in a role where our team took a personality assessment, and though I’m a maximizer and tend to be super positive, my natural disposition was dampened down to the degree that I almost didn’t recognize myself. Shortly after that “team-building” activity, and I use the term loosely, I applied for and got a position where I jumped from the frying pan into the fire. You know it’s bad when you’re greeted on the first day with, “Are you sure about this?” by members of the team. My next role gave me tons of responsibility and visibilty…Too bad some saboteurs were having none of that! Content to run my Pink Collar Savvy & Chic business full-time, I was nevertheless compelled to go for my current Director position. And though I don’t gamble, I must say I feel I hit the jackpot. Everyday a group of spirit-led purpose-filled individuals strive to serve our clients. In doing so, I’m blessed to not only help them minimize their barriers and maximize beauty and their best lives, but to do the same thing with mine. Largely  because of the way Hope House Mission’s teamwork makes the dream work for  our residents and for this Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan.

Be Savvy  & Chic ,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Shabby Chic & Sweet Sixteen!

Shabby Chic & Sweet Sixteen!

It’s Day 34 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and my daughter and I have had such a beautiful day –– Shabby Chic & Sweet 16! This morning I woke up at 5am and  assembled a Simply Shabby  Chic DIY banner proclaiming “Sweet 16” then proceeded to package all her presents in coordinating Simply Shabby Chic gift bags. Next I changed the table runner to one in robin’s egg blue from Rachel Ashwell’s The Prairie and spelled out Cami Liv with extra banner medallions. By that time she’d awoken and I loved on and prayed over her for a while before serving her requested Lucky Charms –– the marshmallows just happened to go along with the pastel theme –– and Sunny D in bed. Once she was settled with her breakfast, I proceeded to bake, frost and decorate her Bday cake with sprinkles in the soft rainbow shades and placed it atop my Simply Shabby Chic cake stand. The early morning and effort were so worth it because of the look on her face when she finally saw the Shabby Chic stage set for her Sweet Sixteen!

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Cami Liv – Sweet 16! We didn’t plan it, but she dressed in floral pink, blue and green!              All table decor Shabby Chic, Simply Shabby Chic and The Prairie by Rachel Ashwell –Purchased over time from Target and TJ Maxx since shortly after my daughter’s birth. 

Though I thought this milestone birthday should be celebrated with a big party, my daughter had other ideas in mind. These included  a shopping trip to Plato’s Closet –– a resale shop for teens –– and to Aveda, a salon that also sells face, hair and makeup products.  She wanted Subway for dinner and then to eat cake and watch LaLa Land again! To my delight, apart from the eating, she wanted to do all of this just with me…I selected a birthday card for her that states “Every perfect gift, is from above.” (James 1:17). Yes, her life is a gift. By wanting to spend such a special day just as mother and daughter, however, I feel like I was given one all over again.

Being divorced –– a D or challenge women face –– can make birthdays brutal. Next year I won’t see her at all. And this year could have been very expensive with everything she wanted to do. But by having lovely things on hand, I was able to create a sumptuous setting without breaking the bank and could use my resources for her shopping spree instead. By being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic I minimized the barriers and maximized beauty and our best lives. So blessed with lots of Shabby Chic and a very Sweet Sixteen!

Be savvy &  chic,

~Pink  Collar Coach

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 24, 2019 – Raising Bookworms

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 24, 2019 – Raising Bookworms

As a bookish former school teacher and author who deals with a big D or challenge women face –– in the form of divorce –– the battle to balance all of the electronics and screen time they are permitted when not with me and reading. Still, committed to instilling the love of reading, last week before they left for vacation with their father, we visited the library where they each selected books for the trip. A Face Time session where my daughter informed she is barreling through her stack and my son told me he finished his on the plane and wants the others in the series makes my day! Mommy Mission to raise bookworms –– Accomplished!

 

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All the years of reading good books to them before they were even born and exposing them to good literature over the years is paying off. The power of persistence! So blessed to be able to say I’m being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and minimizing this barrier in order to maximize beauty –– in the form of books –– and Lord willing my children’s best lives!

Pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and either raise or be a bookworm today!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Live a Life You Love

Live a Life You Love

It’s Day 1 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and if you’re anything like me, you’re determined to live a life you love. I’ll be 50 next Monday, and despite my resolve, as a busy mom and director of of a women’s center, I haven’t made time for blogging or working on the sequel to my debut novel in months. That changes today! Rather than this milestone birthday – which marks more time behind me than I have before me – making me look back on what I’ve already done, it causes me to anticipate all things to come. All the things I’ll do. Like microblogging on Instagram and following Seasons of Her Soul up with Hold on Her Heart. Fulfilling my purpose to use all of my God-given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their beauty and best lives. All to His glory.

I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and join me on this journey. And that you, too, will live a life you love!

 

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Antique store Shabby Chic inspired wall pocket w/inexpensive miniature white roses.

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Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

My Furry Valentine

My Furry Valentine

I’ve been back to blogging for about 25 days, and though Valentine’s Day was Thursday, I’m feeling especially grateful for My Furry Valentine today. Three years ago, my sweet hubby took me to our local animal shelter for the event by that name, and it was there a two year old gray beauty, Peppa, stole my heart. I added Loveday –– a character in a favorite Rosamunde Pilcher book entitled Coming Home –– and am reminded how much my husband adores me each time I say it. You see, he really wasn’t in favor of our first kitty, Skylar Belle, joining our blended family, but gave in to my needling for my kiddos to have a pet. They were my first consideration in giving her a sibling, but he confided that he really got her for me. That knowledge and Peppa Loveday’s docile spirit made her my constant companion. In fact, she now resides at the tiny house I rent for personal and professional use. And today, docile as she is, she earned her keep by serving as a mouser and dealing with an unwanted visitor. Her feline feat has endeared My Furry Valentine to me even more!

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My Furry Valentine, Peppa Loveday. At peace in my Petite Place.                                       Abbuson needlepoint rug –– found over a decade ago at TJ Maxx.

As Peppa Loveday sits at my feet while I write, she reminds me that we females can be ultra feminine, pretty, sweet, and meek. But it doesn’t mean we aren’t intrepid too. Though she is skittish –– I believe she was abused by the original owners who named her then dumped her off at the pound –– this trait has been evident in Peppa Loveday from the moment we brought her home. While Skylar hissed and growled, Peppa never once cowed to her bullying. In fact, most of the time she simply responded by sitting serenely and looking at her like, Really? 

When I tried to bring Peppa over to the tiny house, at first she wasn’t feeling it and let me know when I tried to put her the pet carrier. Not wanting me to get scratched up again, my husband got a large dog crate, put her food and water inside and trained her not to be afraid to go in. That’s how we finally got her over to what I’m beginning to think of as “My Petite Place”. Having her with me makes it feel even more like a home/office. And it makes me feel my husband’s love all over again. After all, not only did he go to great lengths to get Peppa Loveday for me in the first place, he’s gone above and beyond to bring me My Furry Valentine.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach