Groceries, Gas and Gearing Up for the Work Week

Groceries, Gas and Gearing Up for the Work Week

It’s Day 21 of being back to blogging and I’ve just finished getting groceries, gas and gearing up for the work week. All of my career, I’ve been adamant about getting any items that needed to be done for the week out of the way on the weekend. The thought of working all day, then trudging through the supermarket or almost running out of gas on the commute leave me exhausted and ready to for bed. And waking up to the decision of what to wear, only to find that the outfit is dirty, damaged or doesn’t fit anymore is one of my worst nightmares. It’s not that I’m that annal about what I wear…Wait, who am I kidding? I really am that annal/OCD! Besides it causing an extreme amount of stress, it usually result in running late as well. My hubby thinks I’m a bit over the top about the whole preparing for the work week (and each day), but I’m a better wife, mother, leader, employee and even Christ follower when I’m taken care of my business. Then I can relax and enjoy the rest of my weekend and/or evening. Like tonight with all of this plus housework and blogging done, I’ll be able to enjoy Victoria and my latest novel before bedtime…The  point is, I’m a huge advocate of getting the groceries, gas and getting in gear for the work week!

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Red grommet button cardigan and A-line skirt with a pretty print scarf with a red stripe to tie the two together. Black shooties with gold accents pick up on the gold detail in the sweater. A red handbag finishes the look. All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx acquired over several years. The scarf is new and fresh. 

Getting in gear for the work week includes getting my work outfit ready. As a Women’s Center Director with two standing Monday meetings –– one a house meeting with all of the residents first thing and the other with our team of counselors and case managers, I go approachable, pulled together professional. Setting my outfit out the night before as well as prepping my agenda for the first meeting on Friday helps me to start the week off calm and confident. Not only do I stage this outfit, I pack my bag for Zumba afterward and throw it in the car in case I have to stay late at the office. This ensures I can go straight to my workout when I do get off work.

If you’re anything like me, your personal and professional life can throw in some unforeseen variables. So why not be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and plan what we can ahead of time? Doing so will not only help you be balanced, it will also help you be the best version of yourself and those you serve. Just another benefit of getting the groceries, gas and in gear for the work week.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

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Blogging, Books and Building a Writer’s Website

Blogging, Books and Building a Writer’s Website

It’s Day 17 of Service on Purpose (this replaces the On Purpose Project) and my day consisted of church, teaching Zumba, blogging, books and coaching a new client to build a writer’s website. Though I’ve been blogging consistently for over a year, I still consider myself a novice. Even so, I’m intentional about living out my purpose –– using my strengths to coach, encourage and inspire others –– and am willing to give it a try. Still supporting a fellow writer and Swan Sister to build her writing website definitely felt like a bit of a stretch for me….I’ve done it and so am not an imposter, however, doubts regarding my ability to coach her through the process plaqued me as I prepped. If you’re anything like me you may have experienced how it’s sometimes easier to do something than to show someone else how to do it. Considering my qualms, I felt such gratitude when this morning’s sermon talked about how serving and  helping someone else helps us to grow our capacity. It may even help us to reach the next level. I’m not an expert on any of the above tasks, but I am willing to utilize the experience, knowledge and skill I do have to bless others…In turn, maybe I’ll be blessed with my  blogging, books and building a writer’s website.

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In the end, we had a wonderful session. Not without it’s bumps, but those had more to do with the host site not cooperating than me not knowing what I was doing! My client was satisfied with the progress we made and she even sent me a text stating how much she learned and appreciated the information and coaching. And with that, she quieted any niggling doubts that remained.

She also confirmed what the sermon and my spirit say to me. We don’t have to be SMEs –– Subject Matter Experts –– but we do have to be SMEs ––– Someone Making Effort –– to serve others. When we belly up to that, God will level up not only our capacity but our confidence for the next time around. If we’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and faithful to serve, He’ll cause us to soar. Be that blogging, writing a book, building a writer’s website or whatever acts of service He calls us to.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Recharge Our Batteries and Restore Our Balance

Recharge Our Batteries and Restore Our Balance

It’s Day 16 of being back to blogging and I’m so thankful the weekend provides Pink Collar Swans with an opportunity to recharge our batteries and restore our balance. Whether you’re like me and spend your time in an emotionally intense social service/ministry setting, as a full-time homemaker or at any other job inside or outside the the office, the work week can leave us feeling run down and like we’re functioning on low power mode. When we see this happens with our phones –– when we see that red bar that indicates we need to plug in –– we drop what we’re doing and connect to a power source as quickly as possible. Conversely, when our bodies, hearts, minds, spirit and souls alert us that we’re run down, too often we ignore the warning signs and all but die…But what if we stopped this weekend and took the time time to recharge our batteries and restore our balance?

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Tonight my sweet hubby wanted to do something. As much as I love him and know how important it is to spend quality time together, I also understand I’m a better wife, mother, friend, director, life coach, and Christ follower when I’m not operating on an insufficient charge and have my balance restored. So I took a rain check for tomorrow and look forward to not just a date night but a date day.

Now I’m blogging and vegging on the sofa munching on many of my favorite snacks  while watching Ghost on cable for the first time in 20 plus years. May not be everyone’s version of an awesome Friday night, but I’m loving it. When the movie’s done, I’ll read my devotional and start a novel I picked up at the grocery store on the way home. Hey, if I’ve gotta shop, a trip down the Book and Magazine isle makes it worthwhile! After a good night’s rest and Zumba tomorrow morning, I’ll have enough energy to enjoy my husband, housework, and a host of other things like life working on the sequel to my debut novel. And coaching a new client. Writing is work but a part of the writing life I love!

So that’s the plan. Now I just need to implement it. What’s yours? To recharge personally and/or professionally? I hope we’ll all be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and put it into place so we can recharge our batteries and restore our balance!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

She Committed Self-Sabotage (Prevention) – Part 2 of 2

She Committed Self-Sabotage (Prevention) – Part 2 of 2

It’s Day 15 of being back to blogging, and yesterday I shared a story about a woman I know: She committed self-sabotage; but today I want to share about prevention. One of the most powerful poems I’ve ever read resonated so strongly with me because it marries my love of all things women’s empowerment and faith. And ultimately it simply asks us to be ourselves by overcoming our fears –– not of who we aren’t but of who He created us to be.

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Our Deepest Fear
By Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Note: This inspiring poem is taken from Marianne Williamson’s book A Return to Love.

Wow! There’s nothing I can add to that. All I can do is ask that you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and apply it as a strategy for self-sabotage prevention.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

She Committed Self-Sabotage – Part 1 of 2

She Committed Self-Sabotage – Part 1 of 2

It’s Day 15 of being back to blogging and I’m sad to share a woman’s story of how she committed self-sabotage. Many of us who are in the social service field/ministry or any helping profession feel called to do the work because we long to make a difference in the lives of others. For me, doing so with women allows me to fulfill my purpose. I feel so blessed that I’m now in a position as a Women’s Center Director where I’m able to assist the ladies who reside in our shelter to achieve transformational change and sustainable success. Homelessness is often the main barrier that brings them to us, but usually they have ended up that way due to multiple barriers.  Finding housing for the residents and their children that is often a challenge. So when a single woman with a child and a myriad of physical, emotional, financial, and relational issues turns down an apartment because she’d prefer to wait  for something more to her liking, she’s committed self-sabotage.

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Another instance of this is when a woman is offered an affordable studio option –– newly renovated and furnished –– with rent based on her limited income and physical barriers to employment, but she would rather go back to coach surfing while she tries to get a job that pays enough for the exorbitant rent on an upscale  apartment with amenities. Even when told she can sign a short term lease on the studio while she addresses her health issues and searches for a job, she’s adamant that it’s just not for her. She’s committed self-sabotage.

After doing all I can apart from literally begging these women to reconsider, I’m relegated to sitting on the sidelines as the scenarios play out. In the first instance, I’ve already seen that it’s not a pretty picture. In the other, I fear the outcome will be similar. Then I’m left to ask, Why? But I realize I may already know the answer, She fears success. And while I’m not a therapist, I do have one on our team, and she confirmed my suspicion. They fear success. 

Pondering this phenomena, it occurred to me that it’s not only the population of women we serve who struggle with the Ds or challenges women face (i.e. depression, diagnosis, domestic violence, drug and alcohol abuse, dysfunctional relationships, etc.) who are subject. Any woman, for any number of reasons, can fear rising to her full potential and may self-sabotage. ..

Rather than letting this discourage me, it’s motivated me to share a self-sabotage prevention strategy. I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and come back tomorrow to read.

Be savvy & chic,

~ Pink Collar Coach

When It Snows It Pours

When It Snows It Pours

It’s Day 14 of being back to blogging and from start to finish this weekend was a case of when it snows it pours. With the weather forecasting a wintry mix of hail, sleet and 4-6″ of snow Saturday evening, I shopped for groceries to feed my growing kiddos for a long three day weekend. Knowing they eat lots of food and generate lots of laundry, after much deliberation my hubby and I decided not to have the vintage stackable at my tiny house repaired but to bite the bullet and replace it. Before that could happen the full drum of water in the washer had to be scooped out so it wouldn’t flood the floor when the unit was removed. After that, everything in the area had to be moved so side by side machines could be fitted into the laundry closet. In the deluge of rain that preceded the wintry mix, two burly men traipsed watery mud through the house while installing. Talk about when it snows it pours!

In the meantime, the things that had been moved included a gallon of paint that somehow tipped and spilled all over the floor without any of us being aware. By the time my son found it and my hubby flew out the door to Walmart for paint remover, the power had gone out at the store, causing them to refuse him admittance. Next he went to what we call “The Big House” for it but slipped, slid and helped others in a ditch only to get back and have the battery of our van die, stranding my hubby here and blocking me in.  when it snows it really pours!

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With all of these disasters (another D challenge that can negatively impact women’s personal or professional lives) occurring one after the other, there were moments when the weekend felt incredibly stressful, exhausting and expensive! And that’s not to mention how the smart TV, then gaming bundle wouldn’t allow my son to play Fortnite, which was the whole reason we bought all of it. This snafu necessitated unplanned Play Station purchase…

But instead of focusing only on the things that seemed to be negatives –– the snow, hail and sleet, the washer going out, the muddy house, the spilled paint, or the electronics issues, I was able to see the blessings. Safety and shelter from the storm and a strong man able and willing to shovel, a husband who is supportive of my dream of having this tiny house for personal and professional use, a daughter who initiated clean up, not only of the muddy kitchen but the spilled paint as well, and a son who picked up where she left off and scrubbed every ounce of paint up –– making the paint thinner my husband eventually returned with almost, but not quite, unnecessary….

I’m so thankful that God is still working on me and making me more Pink Collar Savvy & Chic so that I’m able to minimize barriers and maximize beauty and my best life.  Rather than the snow, I see the blessings falling all around me…Even after the microwave decided to go on the fritz! How is He still working on you? How do you view the personal and professional disasters that come your way?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

The Reality of Rosy Expectations

The Reality of Rosy Expectations

It’s Day 11 of being back to blogging, and a driving experience reminded me of the sometimes harsh reality of rosy expectations. Driving home from work, though I was in a bit of a rush to get home so I could change into Zumba attire for tonight’s class and try to get on top of preparation for tomorrow, I noticed a woman in a jeep waiting to turn out of a parking lot. Given the steady stream of traffic, I knew it may be a long time before she’d be able to make a right. Rather than speeding up and blocking her, I tapped the brakes and motioned for her to pull in front of me. The woman looked right at me and took advantage of the opportunity I provided without so much as a wave, let alone a horn honk. Not only that, she actually wore a bit of a frown. Translated audibly, it may have  been a grunt… I admit her response gave me a dose of reality regarding my rosy expectations.

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Rosy Expectations.

For a moment, I thought, Wow. You’re welcome. Then I realized the truth of the situation: I’d projected how I would have responded onto this woman and expected her to act likewise. Which wasn’t fair…Thankfully I got over myself very quickly, shook my head and just laughed. Now I think it’s humorous that in looking for an image to reflect my blog topic, I found this pretty pink piggy with a flower in her mouth! In no way am I calling the woman a pig; the saying just seemed to fit the scenario. That said, perhaps the woman is one of those entitled people who just take someone giving them a chance to turn when she could have been stuck there quite a while for granted…

Either way, the takeaway for us Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Swans on the home front or in the workplace is what I tell the residents in the women’s shelter where I’m the director. There’s no need to be concerned with the other driver, what she did or didn’t do or the reasons behind her behavior. All that’s necessary is doing and focusing on what we should or shouldn’t do and what motivates us to make those choices. When we do that, it’s easy to feel good about doing the right, considerate thing and putting someone else’s needs before our own to bless them. Whether that’s acknowledged or even recognized. The ultimate motivation? The One who never disappoints. He exceeds the highest standard each and every time and provides the only true reality regarding rosy expectations.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach