It’s Day 364 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and we had an overwhelming response to today’s “Overcoming The Fear Factor women’s workshop”.
Smiles and Laughs.
Connection and Contemplation.
Ahas and Epiphanies.
Tough Topics, Tears and Turning Corners.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose presenter, I wanted to post some pics of the day, however, I’m emotionally and physically drained. So I’m off to practice self-care…I’ll probably share more tomorrow, but for now, I just feel blessed to have received this feedback: Our best workshop EVER! Talk about an overwhelming response to our “Overcoming The Fear Factor” women’s workshop!
It’s Day 363 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and in honor of National Best Friend Day, I’m blogging about my BPF – my Best Professional Friend – Kay Fittes, the founder and CEO of High Heeled Success. Approximately eleven years ago, I hung on her every word as a new Center Director participant in one of Kay’s workshops for early childhood program leaders. I was green as all get out but dying on the vine! Kay invited us to contact her if we ever needed anything. Well, over the next few years, I needed a lot! Like true mentoring relationships, ours developed organically as opposed to me asking her, “Are you my mentor?” ala Sheryl Sandburg’s Women, Work and the Will to Lead. Over time, Kay helped me to land a position as a training consultant at our region’s ECE resource and referral agency and that evolved into a full-time position. About that time, Kay and I met and I finally got up the nerve to broach the subject of training with her. Quick to explain, I don’t play well in the sand with other children, Kay nevertheless saw something in me that made her willing to try it. By the end of our first workshop – June 9, 2012 – I felt on top of the world. Kay felt so down about it that it took her weeks to finally shoot me straight. That hurt. But that pain proved to be such a powerful growth experience that we kept at it until we got it right. Hearing Kay tell me mentoring me has been one of the most rewarding experiences of her life, well, I’ll NEVER forget those words. Somehow this woman I wanted and still want to grow up to be just like had become my Best Professional Friend.
My relationship with Kay goes so much deeper than that though. Because I don’t have a close relationship with my mother, and Kay often points out the fact that she’s twenty years (and six days) older, I’ve often gone to her not only for advice, coaching and guidance on professional matters, she’s been an important part of my personal life as well. In fact, she has so many qualities I admire that she and my hubby – another best friend – often give me words of wisdom, word for word! She’s been there throughout my professional and personal mess to success stories! And the fact that Kay collaborates and consults with me professionally and has shared personal confidences that she doesn’t with others humbles and touches because it means she trusts and values me as much as I do her.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose presenter, I can honestly say I owe just about everything I am as a speaker to Kay. Not only that, she helped me set and reach my goal of obtaining my Masters and even walked me through which major to choose when I stood at a crossroads between Adult Learning with Technology and Leadership and Coaching. And because she steered me down the right path – how I would have hated fighting with IT related homework after working all day and being a wife and mom – I adored my studies and got educated and equipped to do work that is perfectly aligned with my purpose. Tomorrow when we present
It’s Day 360 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’ve spent the day preparing my stories and segments for this Saturday’s “Overcoming the Fear Factor” workshop. For the last six years Pink Collar Savvy & Chic has partnered with High Heeled Success to present public workshops. We’ve repeated some but created fresh, new content for this one. That being the case, following our prep conference call yesterday, I got cracking on what which of my personal stories I’d like to share and how I’ll add unique value to the segments I’ll present. In doing so, I realized I really have come along way in facing my fears head on and wrestling them to the ground vs. my old MO, which simply running scared. Even if you’re not attending the workshop, I hope you’ll check out the “High Heeled Success Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor” flyer.
For the longest time, most of the stories I shared revolved around the professional experiences I had in the workplace. A little over a year ago, however, I began the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, where I blog daily. That served as the catalyst for me finally getting over my social media angst and posting regularly. Soon afterward, I bit the bullet and began to operate my life coaching business full-time. Next, I published my debut novel, making a lifelong dream come true. This led to speaking engagements beyond what I’d done before. My point? Now my stories are drawn from my experiences working for myself. And like Maya Angelou said, “Nothing will work unless you do.”
Here’s what I’ll cover:
Rapport/My Personal Fear Story – Fear Is a Liar and The Truth About Lies
Fear Truths Story – Talking to Myself vs. Listening to Myself
Fear Truths Bullet Point (segment) – Pushing through fear is less frightening than fear caused by helplessness
Fear Game Plan Story – Pink Collar Savvy & Chic On Purpose Project (Blog)
Fear Game Plan – Chronicle It! Story – Full-time Fear Buster
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur, life coach, author and speaker, I’m so thankful I’m not letting fear win. I say that present tense because it’s an ongoing battle. Much of the time I do the work and fight scared. But it’s just like when I was in elementary and grade school, where I did more than my share of fighting. I was small and quiet. And I sure didn’t look like I posed a threat. So I got picked on. Easy target, right? Wrong! I was small but scrappy and had a mouth on me that could annihilate a foe without uttering a foul word. Once I’d fought a few bullies – scared – I got a reputation for being a formidable opponent. Mostly because I called the bullies out for what they really were – cowards. And it’s the same today. There are always new barriers and challenges that try to bring me down, but I look Fear right in the eyes and speak the truth: You’re a Liar. Armed with Truth – “God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind” on my side, I’m up for the challenge of Full-Time Fear Busting and presenting my stories and segments at our Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor workshop.
What fears hold you back in your personal and/or professional life? How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about overcoming the fear factor? Perhaps it’s joining us for the workshop. If interested in attending High Heeled Steps for Overcoming the Fear Factor, please shoot me an email at email@example.com. Thanks!
It’s Day 345 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and it’s been such a joy to spend it working on and in my outdoor office. As I posted a few days ago, while my hubby was out of town last week, I heaved all of the outdoor furniture back into place after he kindly power washed it but left it beneath the deck. Though I got all of the resin wicker pieces out, I couldn’t find where he put the dining chairs that do desk duty when I work alfresco. Nor could I hoist the nine foot sunbrella up alone. Today, I coaxed him to help me get the chairs out and he in turn enlisted my middle stepson, who is officially out on college break, to assist him with the umbrella. The glass table top received a thorough wipe down and all of the chairs got sprayed and scrubbed with bleach water. None of above is pictured here, but now from my shady seat on the freshly spring cleaned dining/desk area, I’m afforded a gorgeous vantage point to view the other side of the deck which serves as my morning lougning/reading outdoor office.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur who is an author, life coach and speaker, I also did post tasks from the Seasons of Her Soul Coffee & Connect Book Signing, touched base with coaching clients, scheduled appointments, worked on a call for proposal and marketed an upcoming Pink Collar Savvy & Chic/High Heeled Success workshop on “Overcoming the Fear Factor”. In addition to all of that, I took care of some personal business (with a little housework thrown in) as well. It’s only Monday, but the week is off to such a busy start, it would be easy to lose any of the relaxation I enjoyed over the weekend. But sitting with my skin kissed by the sun, the scent of honeysuckle wafting by, a scrumptious fruit smoothie in my hand, birdsong in my ears, and beauty everywhere my eyes land, I’m able to hold on to it in my outdoor office.
How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic about making an outdoor office space? With a laptop, it’s easy to complete many work related tasks. Even if that’s not doable, can you you make the grocery list or pay the bills there on the weekend?
It’s Day 288 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and much of it has been spent on presentation preparation for tomorrow’s “Kick Up Your High Heeled Success” event. With six years of presenting these women’s workshop with my cohort in crime of the good kind, Kay Fittes, I’ve finally learned to pace myself for the two-day marathon. After getting other professional tasks off my plate every day this week, I then devoted time to prepping for the workshop in advance. Since one of my main contributions is the segment on professional packaging, making sure mine is buttoned up is imperative. With decisions about outfit, accessories and hairstyle made, and little things that polish off the look – like my nails (pun intended!) taken care of prior to the night before, my mind and time were freed to focus on workshop content and logistics – like packing my training toolkit and items to promote all things Pink Collar Savvy & Chic. Kay and I were able to set up this afternoon and for the first time ever I didn’t have any unresolved issues with which to contend this evening. Good presentation preparation has enabled me to still blog and get to plenty of rest for “Kick Up Your High Heeled Success”.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose presenter, training is one of my favorite things to do. I get to sing, share, and equip women with information and insight that will help them to move forward in their careers and lives. Drawing from all of my experiences in the corporate, not-for profit, and entrepreneurial sectors, I build rapport, tell why they should listen – and to me, and then deliver compelling content clothed in my own mess to success stories. Sometimes I get a laugh, others a tear. And always, no matter whether I’m direct about my faith or not, Jesus just seems to show up and touch hearts through the message meant for their minds. Often, it’s the negative stuff I’ve struggled with the most that makes the greatest positive impact on participants…When I look at it from that perspective, I suppose my entire personal and professional journey is presentation preparation – and not just for “Kick Start Your High Heeled Success”.
How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about using your personal and professional experiences to present them – formally or informally – in a way that will benefit others?
Day 131 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project has proven the power of collaboration. Today, I met with Kay Fittes, the CEO and founder of High Heeled Success, to review content and strategize for our upcoming event, “Kick Up Your Assertiveness Quotient for Maximum Success” on Saturday, September 23rd. While we’ve collaborated to write some of the full-day workshops we’ve done together over the last five years, Kay developed all of the content for this one. Having taken on that beast and slain it, she was understandably battle weary and hadn’t completely fleshed out how we’d present it. When she solicited my input on how we could freshen up some of our tried and true training tricks, I was happy to jump into the fray and flex my creative muscle to add value. Over the next six hour meeting, we put our heads together and created magic.
Not only did we come up with ingenious ideas for the High Heeled Success event, we also strategized on some decisions I needed to make regarding Pink Collar Savvy & Chic now that it’s launched and I’m going full-throttle with it. Our conversation started with me getting her feedback on the swan as my logo. Kay wasn’t necessarily sold on the idea at first, but then I read her the blog post I wrote when I had my epiphany about it. She suggested I focus on the words associated with the swan. Beauty and transformation were the two that stuck out the most. This led us into tweaking my tag line to match the swan image. And then, as I shared with Kay how the women I coach have always been swans and I simply coach them to realize that, she had an epiphany! Wait for it:
The Swan Experience: Bringing Out Your Beauty Through Transformation!
Next she said: “You can have Swan Events!”
Kay is not an emotional person, but she got a little choked up by how perfectly Pink Collar Savvy & Chic this new direction is. We collaborated a little further on tweaks that need to be made to the business card, and then had to stop so a) her husband, who calls me Kay’s “cohort”, could snap the picture of us, and b) I could head to my writing group an hour away.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Puropse Chick who spent six hours at one collaboration meeting today, you might wonder why I’d then want to drive for an hour in the rain only to sit through another two hour meeting tonight. But what if I tell you that each of us share a piece of writing that we’ve made good through our individual efforts. And that it inevitably gets even better through critique – the getting and giving feedback. Knowing that the writing group meeting is collaborative as well, you may not have to wonder at all because you understand how collaboration meetings can make magic.
What collaborations have been “magical” for you in your personal or professional life?