When you do everything possible to love some people and they can or will not reciprocate, pray for them and be at peace, knowing you aren’t the problem.
It’s Day 238 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and despite dealing with the Ds -more dastardly, despicable deeds from a persistent hater – I’m feeling calm, cool, and collected in coral. There’s a Maya Angelou quote that The Lattes (comprised of myself and two other African American women + one Caucasian = coffee with milk) adhere to: “When people show you who they, believe them.” Because she’s without guile and doesn’t detect it in others, one of the women, Delorise, got burned by someone full of it and amended the words of wisdom to include: “And adapt accordingly”. The bad news is while I’ve seen who this individual is for over twenty years and believe them, I failed to adapt accordingly to protect myself. The good news is, another one of the Lattes, Terri, reminded me that I’ve been delivered from all of my Ds. Therefore, I can still be cool, calm and collected in coral despite dealing with the Ds.
If you’re anything like me, style and color can impact your mood. Knowing I had a trying day ahead of me, I opted to wear bright, cheerful coral that contrasts with the dreary (another D) winter landscape. Seeing how much I enjoy fashion, I’m not surprised that this colorful style made me smile. Dating back to when I was a child, facing any situation dressed in a color I loved (usually pink or some soft shade like peach or coral) made it easier to get up and out the door. It lifted my mood and I’d find myself smiling. The challenge or negative situation didn’t go away; it just shifted my focus from it to something positive. I suppose that was my way of minimizing barriers and maximizing beauty and my best life – even back then.
In case that sounds a bit fanciful, according to research from the University of Kansas, smiling (even if it’s caused by colorful style) not only helps you “grin and bear it” psychologically, it can help your heart health too. I loved discovering this piece of scientific information because it confirms the link between style and smiling, as in the “You’re Never Fully Dressed Without a Smile” lyrics from Annie! And it means, even if style is not your thing, as long as you’re wearing a smile, you can still deal with any D that gets thrown at you.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose self-proclaimed clothes horse, I’ve always viewed them as a means of self-expression. But knowing dressing in a way that makes me smile can also help me deal with my Ds psychologically, perhaps they’re also a means of self-preservation…Thankfully, though I was able to remain calm, cool and collected in coral despite dealing with the Ds today, ultimately, I’m most equipped to deal with them because I’m wearing the whole armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18), provided by my heavenly Father who delivers us from the all.
How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic about the Ds you’re facing in your personal or professional life? How does your personal sense of style help you to deal with them? What can you do that makes you smile more?
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
Day 114 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project was full of creativity and cleaning. After hearing a message about how “God’s Got This”, I felt encouraged about some relationships struggles and remembered haters hate because that’s what they do. If I’m their target, or you are, we’re probably doing something right that drew their attention to us in the first place. So rather than letting it stop us, if we let Him, God will use it to jump start us to do even greater things. He really does have this – our hopes, dreams, fears, families and careers.
Bolstered by hearing this simple but profound truth, I set about taking pictures to post this week and showed my home some TLC, inside and out, during the process. Since my home is my sanctuary and takes such good care of me, I love doing things for it to make it feel pretty and cared for as well. Often, the purchase of a new item or reimagining of one, causes me to have to rearrange some things to find a place for it.
That was the case today with a tulip lamp I purchased for another purpose (my She Storage Space, but that’s another post). When my attempts to make the lamp fit the space I’d intended it for fell flat, I thought of moving it to the dining room, which doubles as my office. And while the lamp didn’t work on the dining room table, a little artful rearranging of my small buffet table created a lot of magic.
I was so pleased with the results of my rearranging that I spend the rest of my Sunday tweaking nearly every room in the house, including putting all the furniture, plants and decor back on the front deck (our Jack of All Trades removed everything to re-stain the front yesterday but neglected to put anything back…). Most spaces got cleaning and camera love too.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who works hard enough that you wouldn’t think I’d enjoy spending all day Sunday tweaking my home, I loved it. As much as I love blogging about a gooseneck tulip lamp, tweaks to spaces and sprucing up the place…My home is a place of beauty, comfort and function, and just as I want it to inspire those who reside here, I want to do the same with those of you who read about it here. I hope you enjoy what I share as you stop by to visit. Come again soon!
What piece, new or old, has inspired you to tweak, spruce up or both at home or in your office? Which one can?
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach