Lattes, Leadership, Loss and Love

Lattes, Leadership, Loss and Love

It’s another Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose day and yesterday I spent precious time with two of The Lattes discussing leadership, loss and love.

Service on Purpose/Smart at Work (Professional Life)

Four of us –– three African America and one Caucasian, coffee with a little milk –– became close when we worked together as Leadership Coaches. Though we missed what our Milk brings to the mix, coming together made it a sweet Sweetest Day. Five years ago, I left the agency with the goal of maximizing  the Masters in Leadership and Coaching I’d soon earn. After a few almost but not quite right roles, this week will mark a year as Women’s Center Director – my perfect service on purpose fit! Terri soon earned a coveted spot as the agency’s first minority  Team Leader and Delorise recently came up through the ranks to claim the same title! So much leadership among us and reason to celebrate…

Serene at Home (Personal Life)

Still, our rejoicing was tempered by a D ––  or challenge women face –– the unexpected death of Terri’s beloved husband of nearly  30 years on Labor Day. Heartbreaking. But hopeful. With a family history rife with Ds  –– in the form  of divorce and dysfunctional relationships –– for me their marriage serves a beacon of hope. Their kind of  love is rare but does exist! As Terri deals with her incredible loss, she can often be heard to say, “I go to gratitude”. Having been loved so well, she knows she’s among the blessed and highly favored. And of course, because we were at my Petite Retreat, talk turned to decorating and Shabby Chic style. Terri even laughed about being able to finally put her floral comforter on the bed now!

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The Lattes sans (without) our Milk!                                                                 Delorise, Terri and Me, Pink Collar Coach.

Spirit-Led (Prayer)

Being with my lovely, smart, strong Swan Sisters made me go to gratitude, too. Though I no longer see them on the daily, our hearts are connected and the time brought healing. The Lattes are leaders at work and in their families. In fact, Delorise adopted a toddler four years ago when his mother died of cancer though her two girls were in their preteens and teens… They have capacity for great love and to grieve losses graciously and find reasons to laugh. They are SO Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose. I’m blessed to have spent time with them because they truly demonstrate  how to deal effectively with the Ds to minimize barriers and to maximize beauty and their best lives.  I just pray our Milk, appropriately named Joy, can join us next time for an even more perfect blend of The Lattes!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

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Blessed by My BFF

Blessed by My BFF

It’s Day 59 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and I can’t expressed how blessed I am by my high school BFF.

Serene at Home (Personal)

As I shared in yesterday’s post, ongoing Ds –– challenges women face –– this time in the form of dysfunctional relationships, threatened to throw me into a fit of depression. One of the ways I fought back was calling Josette, my Swan Soul Sister from another mister, for some much needed girl time to celebrate her upcoming birthday and three years cancer free after her double mastectomy and reconstructive surgery. She’d texted that we needed to do lunch. My response –– Tomorrow? Before hanging up, however, she hesitated and then told me about an encounter with a hater of mine who tried to disparage me to her. Ever my champion, Josette graciously shut her down with a smile and sent her on her way frustrated because she got no traction with my high school bestie. Grateful as I felt for her having my back, last night I  felt wounded to be stabbed in it by someone who is supposed to be in my corner…Then today, I teared up when Josette apologized for upsetting me. I’m not upset, I assured her. Just blessed by you!

Sense of Style/Shop the Look (Personal Packaging)

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First day with somewhat fall-like weather in the 70s vs. recent record breaking 90s temps warranted breaking out brown handbag  & booties  paired w/floral top that reminds me of leaves turning, topped by a coral cardigan. All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx. Maximize fall fashion! : )

Spirit – Led (Putting it Into Practice)

Little did this hater know, but by attempting to malign me, she made herself look so malicious! Rather than doing damage to my reputation, her true colors came shining through without me having to say a word against her. Thus proving God’s promise is true –– If we stay still, He’ll fight our battles (Exodus 14:14, NIV) –– or in my case, let our high school BFFs do it for us!

I pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose, like my Josette, the next time someone tries to drag you into gossip or rumors. If you are, you may bless another Swan Sister to minimize her barriers and maximize her best life.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Seasons of Her Soul (Publications)

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 

 

Book 2 in the Lee’s Legacy series, Hold on Her Heart, is in the works! Stay tuned….

 

 

 

 

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – August 14, 2019 – Last Day of Summer Break

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – August 14, 2019 – Last Day of Summer Break

Little did I know it when one of my most special Swan Soul Sisters, Kibby, and I had our first swim this summer that it might also be our last of the season. Life hit her hard with a family medical emergency while she already splits her time between two states caring for her mother who suffered a stroke last year. Though we normally spend several lazy summer days lounging by the pool, we haven’t made it back since this photo. I didn’t post it originally because of how cooky my hat looks plus the readers on top of my head! Not a good look!. But now that my kiddos head back to school tomorrow and she’ll soon head back to her hometown since the medical emergency is thankfully under control, it makes this moment more memorable ––– cooky hat, glasses and all.

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Kibby & Me. She is lovely in her purple paisley. I’m in my favorite swim suit – pink of course! Calvin Klein hat, suit, towel & flip flops. All from TJ Maxx. 

As summer break winds down for many of us, I pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and find ways to mark the meaningful moments. For me it’s posting a pic that I normally may not. Not only as a way to mark the last day of summer break, but to be intentional about expressing gratitude for my many blessings, like time with a special Swan Sister who helps me to minimize my barriers and maximize beauty and my best life.

Be Savvy & Chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

50th Bday Get-Together Puts New Take on The 3 Gs

50th Bday Get-Together Puts New Take on The 3 Gs

It’s Day 27 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and last night’s 50th birthday get-together put a new take on The 3 Gs. I’d just turned 26 when I started teaching with Terry and Brenda at a small Christian school. In our 20s, 30s and 40s, we became a tight trio. I dubbed us The 3 Gs –– thinking at the time we were from three different generations. Though I learned they’re both Baby Boomers and I’m Gen X, the name has stuck for two decades. Then last night, after visiting my Petite Retreat –– which Brenda pointed out is HUGE –– we went to her home where she’d prepared dinner. Our place settings had a plate that described her as Shoe Girl –– she has more than me and that’s saying A LOT; Terry as Cafe Girl –– she’s a natural foods guru and a Fresh Thyme manager; and me as Shopping Girl –– Need I say more? With that, the 50th Bday get-together was the last in a month of festivities and one of my favorite because it put a new take on The 3 Gs!

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Me, Shopping Girl and Brenda, Shoe Girl. The plates were found many years ago at TJ Maxx. My floral Calvin Klein dress last Easter at the same.                                                                        
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Me, Shopping Girl and Terry, Cafe Girl.                                                           Calvin Klein Pink cardigan –– my new favorite –– Wait for it –– Burlington! 

Doing nearly half of my life with these beautiful, smart, godly Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Swan Soul Sisters has contributed so significantly to me being able to minimize my Ds –– barriers women face –– in the form of domestic violence, death, divorce, domestic court issues, depression, and the list could go on. They’ve been in it with me faithfully and have loved and supported me well enough that I’ve been able to maximize beauty and my best life. Now I’m looking forward to the next Bday where we’ll officially be in our 50s, 60s and 70s. We’re already planning a trip to celebrate that. Until then, I’ll be forever blessed by my 50th get-together and how it put a new take on The 3 Gs!

I pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and get together with those women you’ve done life with. May you talk, pray, laugh and cry like we did last night. And may you continue to help one another minimize your barriers and maximize beauty and your best lives, too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 27, 2019

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 27, 2019

Last night probably marked the end of what has become the 50th Birthday month! Such a blessing to be with friends, true Swan Soul Sisters I’ve had for a literally half of my life –– one who knows me so well she set my place at the table with a plate that is so Pink Collar Savvy & Chic  –– down to the pink & green!

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Truly a girl after my own heart, my friend said she got this at TJ Maxx decades ago! : – )

Friends who really get you help to minimizing life’s Ds –– the challenges  women face –– and help us maximize beauty and our best lives. Pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic choose to surround yourself with the women who know and celebrate the Authentic You too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 19, 2019 – Shout out to Sonya!

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – July 19, 2019 – Shout out to Sonya!

Friends who take time to care are really angels unaware.

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Last night after teaching Zumba, a student, Sonya and I sat down and talked for the longest. Glad that we’ve gotten to be friends, I was even more grateful for her when my car wouldn’t start. I suspect it’s another D –– personal and professional challenges women face –– in the form of a dead battery.  Sonya came to my rescue  –– helping me jump it, offering to follow me home to make sure I made it, then taking me home –– with a needed stop at the store first. She got to visit my tiny house –– though she pointed out it’s not so tiny –– and connected on a deep level for a few hours. So thankful for my friend who took so much of her time to care. She has such a serving heart, I suspect she’s an angel unaware.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

Diverse Worlds, United Girls

Diverse Worlds, United Girls

It’s Day 9 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and last night’s birthday dinner could be described as an experience in diverse worlds and united girls. After a fabulous 50th from the residents and staff at the Women’s Center where I’m the Director, I rushed across town to a favorite Zumba instructor/friend’s class. As usual dancing proved to make a delightful day even better. Even so, the two of of quickly changed to meet a third friend for dinner. Being from Peru, Russia and the United States, we make quite a trio. We may be from three different countries, but may of our struggles and successes are the same. Our time together covered a broad range of topics and emotions with a thread of laughter running consistently throughout. And though we come from such diverse worlds, the harmony makes as a set of united girls.

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 Angelin, me, the Pink Collar Coach and Marina, from Peru, America and Russia respectively. My dress, handbag and sunglasses are from Calvin Klein, purchased at TJ Maxx. 

Not only that, though more gifts is the last thing I expected, these generous ladies showered me with more of my favorite things – yummy scented candles, gorgeous jewelry and TJ Maxx gift cards! Yay! Just as meaningful to me is the obvious effort to package the gifts in a way that looked like me. Let me just say, “Nailed it.” The gift bag looks as if it was designed to complement my dress and all cards, wrapping paper, etc. had either pink, flowers, or some combo of the two. Such thoughtfulness. So blessed…

In a world where there are beautiful friendships to be made and cultivated, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & chic on Purpose and broaden your personal and/or professional circle. Who knows? You too may experience how you may be from different worlds. That doesn’t mean you can’t be untied girls.

Wish you could have been there, sweet Kibby!

Be savvy & chic ,

~Pink Collar Coach