Sadie Hawkins Shopping Success

Sadie Hawkins Shopping Success

It’s Day 18 of being back to blogging, and though I’ve missed over a week posting due to being sick, I’m excited to share about this weekend’s Sadie Hawkins shopping success. In this day and age when the traditional dynamics of this dance –– where the girls ask the guys –– are so much more complex, I have to confess I’m relieved to report that my 15-year-old is “going doe” and the most challenging piece of the equation was the quest for the dress. Though I’d been down with bronchitis and flu, my teen made it clear she wanted to go looking with me. Getting up proved to be worth the effort because after she futilely searched for just the right thing, I spotted it and knew I’d hit gold the minute she laid eyes on a youthful yellow number that could have been tailor made for her petite frame. Not only that, despite her doubts that I could help her secure just the right type of bra for the dress’ cut, I nailed that and she now owns her most flattering, and therefore favorite ever. All in all, I’d say our Sadie Hawkins shopping was a success!

Sadie Hawkins Shopping Success! A flirty floral in her favorite – yellow. Dress from TJ Maxx. 

As a divorced mom (a D or challenge women face) and Maxxinista, this shopping expedition proved to be a positive experience on many levels. There was a time in the not so distant past where stepmom’s influence and preferences carried far more weight than mine. And I’d have been alright with that had said stepmom not usurped my place as Mom and had her tastes been a little more refined and budget friendly. Stepmom is now out of the picture, which is sad in some ways, however, I’m relieved that the balance has been restored to my relationship with my daughter. Had stepmom still been around, I’m almost certain this mom-daughter experience would have been yet another we missed out on because she stepped in and shopped with her before we got the chance to do it together.

Now I’m thankful my daughter has a dress she not only plans to wear to the dance –– with combat boots –– and over leggings or jeans like above, we have a bonding memory to look back on. Plus it doesn’t hurt that Liv learned that her mom is has a great eye for style on a shoe string! It makes me hopeful that she’ll grow up to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic... Based on this weekend’s Sadie Hawkins shopping success, it may well turn out to be a case of like mother, like daughter!

How about you? What special shopping experiences do you share with your daughter? Mother? Other females? Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and maximize them to strengthen your bond?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Best Book Club Night

Best Book Club Night

It’s Day 2 of being back to blogging, and I’ve struggled a bit to figure out what to post. Then I realized I could cover some of the things I’ve missed over the last few months.  Back in September, I was invited to facilitate a discussion of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, at the book club of a fellow YMCA member. She heard about the book from a reader who attends Zumba with me. The group rotates hosts and Debbie, the hostess of the night, welcomed me into her gorgeous home and put me at ease before the others arrived. By the time they did, I knew I was in for a delightful evening. Turns out –– at least for me –– it was the best book club night!

All of the members had read the book, which made for thoughtful questions and compelling conversation. The fact that more than one woman asked about ways to support those dealing with domestic violence –– one of the Ds or personal challenges that a women face –– dispelled any notions that abuse rears its head in suburbia much more often than one some would think. The stories shared made me even more appreciative of the opportunity to live out my purpose of using my God-given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their best lives –– all to His glory. Following up by sending all attendees a resource I’d created to supplement the book, Ten Ps to Practice When Supporting Survivors of Domestic Violence ensured the ladies are equipped with the info they need whenever their loved ones are ready to receive it.

By the end of the evening, I felt as though I’d not only gained fans, but new friends as well. So far my new role as a Women’s Center Director hasn’t allowed me to make it to another meeting, but I plan to make it happen once I’ve gotten settled in. I’m motivated to return so I can further connect with these beautiful, smart, Savvy & Chic Swans! And of course I have them and other loyal readers in mind as I dive back into writing the sequel, Hold On Her Heart, which is due out this year. Once it’s done, I hope to have a repeat of the best book club night!

If you are a new reader or one who’s never checked out the book, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and do so! Thank you!

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Be Savvy & Chic,

~ Pink Collar Coach

Best Book Club Night! Me, Pink Collar Coach, front and center.                                                          Floral dress, shrug and bone color pumps – All Calvin Klein. The clothes are from TJ Maxx. The shoes were $8 at Goodwill – brand new!



A Night on Broadway in Chicago to See “Hamilton: An American Musical” – Review

A Night on Broadway in Chicago to See “Hamilton: An American Musical” – Review

It’s Day 356 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I just returned from home from a night on Broadway (in Chicago) to see Hamilton: An American Musical. That, traveling and sightseeing are the reasons I haven’t blogged since Tuesday. But let me backtrack…On Memorial Day my sweet hubby mentioned having a clear schedule this week and that he wanted to take me to Waco, Texas to see all things Fixer Upper. I’d expressed interest in visiting because our daughter-in-law is and I thought it would be something she and I could bond over as all our guys played golf. That being the case, I told him I’d rather make that particular trip when she and my oldest stepson can get the time off. Besides, since he was willing to drive to Texas, I’d much rather go to Round Top and stay at The Prairie – Rachel Ashwell, the founder of Shabby Chic’s, Bed & Breakfast. Beyond thrilled with this chance, I called to make reservations only to learn she just sold the B&B in January! Disappointed but not daunted, I researched which theaters were showing the critically acclaimed, multi-award winning musical about Founding Father, Alexander Hamilton I’ve been dying to see.  I found a decent deal on tickets for a show at the CIBC Theater last night (FYI – you can get 5% off if you’re a Triple A member). So, true to his word about wanting to treat me, my husband drove us into The Windy City  Wednesday, found a hotel, took me to a tour downtown Chicago, and then escorted me to a magical night seeing Broadway in Chicago’s presentation of Hamilton.

I got so many compliments from other fashionistas on my floral dress & bag.                                Both, as well as the kitten heels & gold cardi Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx but purchased separately.
Me and my husband outside the theater. 

Excited as I was about the musical, I’d never been to Chicago and wanted to take in all I could. My husband is well-traveled and served as the perfect tour guide. After we crashed at a quaint hotel Wednesday night, he deftly navigated the insane traffic, drove me through downtown, pointing out sites of interest, and then found a parking garage on Monroe Street where the CIBC Theater is located. We we walked one direction to Maggie Daley Park and along Lake Shore Drive where the police and fire departments have stations on the marina. Being landlocked in suburbia, I thought that was so cool! Next, we went the other way and had delectable salted caramel custard at the Shake Shack, which is anything but. Located inside the Chicago Athletic Club, the architecture of which is stunning, as is that of SO many of the buildings, we took an elevator to the top of the building where we had a rooftop view of Millennial Park. With our plan to save enough time to get changed for the theater, we dined alfresco at The Plaza, the park’s outdoor venue. If you’ve never had a Chicago style sausage, I highly recommend it! Sated on that and the best hummus and pita bread I’ve ever had, we went back, donned our evening wear and made it to the Majestic Building with time for photos – of course!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose creative – I adore art, dance, drama, fashion, literature, and music – Hamilton didn’t disappoint. In fact, it delivered in spades. All written by Lin-Manuel Miranda, based on Alexander Hamilton’s biography – he was an immigrant from the Carribean – the musical is sung/rapped through with a combination of all kinds of genres of music. And the cast is intentionally made up of a multitude of ethnicities and skin tones. It remains fairly true to the real-life, historical events but of course takes some creative license for dramatic effect. The choreography is brilliant and had the audience – as diverse as the cast – sitting on the edges of our seats. The fact that Hamilton was a prolific writer made the plot even more relevant for me. Seeing such a powerful play, along with all the other adventures, made for an unforgettable night on Broadway in Chicago and ensures I won’t soon forget seeing Hamilton.

If you haven’t considered seeing this play, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and check it out.


Izzy & Me

Izzy & Me

It’s Day 247 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and since I attended her preschool graduation tonight, I’m blogging about Izzy and me. Because Izzy was born only a few years after I married her grandfather (she turned five Monday), and my son was barely eight at the time, I didn’t become grandma but Mimi – short for Tammi. Despite not being ready for grandchildren, my heart leaps with joy every time Izzy – my special name for Adriana Isabella – greats me with “Mimi!” She knows I’ll feed, dance, play and sing with her when all the other adults are watching sports in the Man Cave. Izzy and I have spent many happy hours watching Frozen and Legend of the Guardians more times than I can count and reading stories from her bedtime collection. Swimming and floating around the Lazy River on vacation and even sharing our first Uber ride to the mall are memories we share. Tonight was also a special time. Even though our family took up and entire row at graduation, this precious, precocious little girl’s eyes seemed to find mine and she blew me a kiss – our thing. Then at dinner where we were seated directly across from each other, she reached out and took hold of my fingers. “I love you, Mimi”, she smiled and eyes full, I told her the same. Though the only one at the table not related to her by blood, that doesn’t diminish the tight bond between Izzy and me.

Izzy & Me, Mimi. I’m in a favorite dress I wore to a family wedding last summer, a cardigan in a complimentary shade, and strappy heels with pink, orange, & blue that mirror the dress’s colors perfectly.                                        Pink handbag with scrappy straps. ; )  All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Mimi, I’m thankful God gave me this little girl when He did. I didn’t know it at the time, but on nights like this – my children’s last day of 7th and 8th grade/middle school – when they’re at their father’s, He knew I needed her love to fill the whole left by them not being here. Divorce causes that…But tonight, sharing a meal with the family who loves her, including my husband’s first wife – Tammy with a “y”/Grammy to Izzy – and my stepson’s in-laws, I remembered there really is hope beyond divorce. My parents made it work…Maybe we can. Celebrating Adriana Isabella together, it felt like my big fat blended family got even bigger. And I didn’t even feel like the only step at the table.  I just felt very blessed by the ties that bind us – beginning with Izzy and me.

How are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose regarding those surprise relationships in your life? You know the ones you didn’t know you’d need or value – in your personal and or professional life? How can you be?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach