NaNoWriMo! – 6 Days Straight and Straight Talk at a Community Summit

NaNoWriMo! – 6 Days Straight and Straight Talk at a Community Summit

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and it marks 6 days straight of NaNoWriMo –– National Novel Writer’s Month writing with some Community Summit straight talk thrown in.

Project: Hold on Her Heart, Book 2 in the Lee’s Legacy Series. Goal: 50,000 words in 30 days. Today: 727. Though that sounds low, and I’m only at 7,450/50,000 with NaNoWriMo, I’m at a total of 20,250 overall. Hey I’ll take it.

Especially given my day. Such a service on purpose morning singing and speaking at a Community Summit to share my Ds story –– the personal and professional challenges and barriers women face ––  and how I’ve been able to minimize those Ds to maximize beauty and my best life as the Women’s Center Director at Hope House Mission. Seeing how impactful it was –– to the point of moving the most influential person in the room to tears  –– reminds me there’s SO much purpose in the pain.

So does writing Hold on Her Heart..

Day 6 writing badge

Thank you so much to those of you who have liked a post here on the blog or via social media. Your encouragement means more than I can say…And that’s all I’ve got to say tonight –– a little worn out from my 6 days straight of writing and early morning straight talk at the summit.

I pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and keep sharing your story. Whether it’s through singing, writing, speaking…You never know who needs to hear it. Like me, you may find it’s someone with influence who can make a difference –– a positive D! 

Be savvy & chic ,

~Pink Collar Coach

NaNoWriMo! – 5 Day Writing Streak!

NaNoWriMo! – 5 Day Writing Streak!

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose, and  Day 5 of NaNoWriMo ––  National Novel Writer’s Month 2019, and I’m on a 5 day writing streak.

Project: Hold on Her Heart, Book 2 in the Lee’s Legacy Series. Goal: 50,000 words in 30 days. Today: 749. Though a little under 1000 words shy of what I needed today, taking some time to review what I wanted to write tonight slowed me down. That and the fact that I stayed over at work to help someone. Because that was the reason, I’m satisfied with what I got done. It’s quite an undertaking with my professional and personal life, so a 5 day writing streak is an accomplishment – minimizing my Ds –– or challenges/barriers women face –– in the form of my Daily Director Duties and maximizing  beauty and my best life by rewarding myself with Daily Writing Badges!

Day 5 writing badge

I just pray I can keep up this pace! I have an early morning speaking engagement tomorrow… Also pray that you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and take a minute to send some encouragement my way!

How are you minimizing your daily Ds and maximizing beauty and your best life? How do you reward yourself when you do?

Be savvy & chic,

                                                                                                            ~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

NaNoWriMo! – Day 4 – It’s My Novel, I’ll Write How I Want To

NaNoWriMo! – Day 4 – It’s My Novel, I’ll Write How I Want To

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and Day 4 of my NaNoWriMo –– National Novel Writer’s Month journey. It’s also my first day working my 9-5 and trying to meet my daily writing goals. Project: Hold on Her Heart, Book 2 in the Lee’s Legacy Series. Goal: 50, 000 words in 30 days, which is about 1,700 a day. Today, after my busiest work day, Dance Fusion and then writing for about 2 hours, I got 679. I’ll take them! Because they were carefully crafted words that enhance the story based on inspiration from this creative process coupled with feedback from my writing group. Besides, it’s my novel, so I can write how I want to! That’s the lesson I’m learning on giving myself grace. It’s also how I’m minimizing this particular D –– personal or professional challenges or barriers women face –– in the form of a deadline.
NaNoWriMo! – Day 3 – Accountability

NaNoWriMo! – Day 3 – Accountability

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose, and as I go back to work after starting NaNoWriMo –– National Novel Writing Month –– while off on a sick day Friday, I’ve got accountability on the brain. This weekend has been an amazing! Project: Hold on Her Heart, Book 2 of the Lee’s Legacy Series. Goal: 50, 000 words in 30 days. Today: 1, 751! Now I need some accountability to keep the writing mojo going during the work week! So rather than discussing negative Ds –– the personal and/or professional challenges and barriers women face –– I’m making a positive D in the form of an accountability declaration! 
What accountability have you put in place to reach your goals?  I’d love to celebrate together!
                                                                                                        Be savvy & chic,
                                                                                                        ~Pink Collar Coach
To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, Book 1 in the Lee’s Legacy Series, please visit Amazon.com at 
 
Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – November 3, 2019

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – November 3, 2019

It’s another Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose morning, and I’m feeling thankful for Daylight Savings and the extra hour of sleep from falling back! I’m facing a D –– personal and professional barriers or challenges women face –– in the form of my asthma diagnosis.  Add that to a seasonal cold and I was up most of the night. I still want to make it to church and teach faith based Zumba afterwards.
As always, God is faithful and supplies all of my needs. He made a way for me to minimize my barrier and maximize beauty and my best life –– In the form of a good D – Daylight Savings! 
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I pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy and Chic and enjoy the blessing of an extra hour today! And don’t forget to set your clocks back if you haven’t already! 
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
Party in Pink with a Purpose

Party in Pink with a Purpose

Service on Purpose (Professional Life)

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and this weekend   I and my sister Zumba instructors led two hours of dancing for our annual Party in Pink Zumbathon with the purpose of  raising funds for the fight against breast cancer –– a major D  or challenge women face –– in the form of a diagnosis. All funds raised support the Zumba Global Research Grant for Breast Cancer Prevention managed by Susan G. Komen. As a Women’s Center Director for a homeless shelter serving women and children with one year under my belt as of last week, I still pop up every morning grateful for the opportunity to do social work –– at the boots on the ground level –– that I consider full-time ministry. Likewise, though this year marked my third Zumbathon as an instructor (I teach 2x a week and sub), I’m just just as stoked as the year I became a licensed and officially joined the battle to prevent cancer at  my first Party in Pink with the purpose.

Sense of Style (Packaging)

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 Party in Pink (and black) for the Cure! Pretty Cincy Zumba instructors.      Me, Pink Collar Coach, front row, left – plaid Calvin Klein shirt & leggings + New Balance shoes – TJ Maxx. Face glitter! : ) All Zumba Wear – zumba.com. 

Serene at Home (Personal Life)

Much of the time, I feel like I deal with the Ds on the daily! Lately I’ve battled depression around dysfunctional relationships. Dancing –– a positive D ––  keeps my body fit. In fact, dancing led me to discover a 9mm tumor in my breast in 2014. It presented as stage 4 in every test. When biopsied, however, it came back benign. Either a team of physicians got it wrong or The Physician made it all right!!!  Dance also resets my emotions to an even keel and keeps me from losing my mind! That release of endorphins you’ve probably heard about? All true! And no matter what music I’m dancing to, there’s always an element of praise and worship in it for me. God created dance as a form of expression and whatever I’m dealing with is laid bare before him when I’m on the floor…I try my best to leave it there and then go home to sleep GOOD! : )

Spirit-Led (Prayer)

My prayer for you as Breast Cancer Awareness month draws to a close is that you’d be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and complete regular self-checks (that’s how I found the tumor) along with having an annual mammogram. Finally, when you have a chance, attend a Zumbathon and show support for those who have fought valiantly and others who are currently in the fight of their lives. By doing so, you’ll help minimize this barrier and maximize beauty and best lives. Because it’s more than an awesome two-hour chance to dance, it’s a Party in Pink with a purpose!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

 

 

Pretty, Plush Pillows Promote Peaceful Sleep

Pretty, Plush Pillows Promote Peaceful Sleep

It’s another Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose day and after lots of stress and little sleep during the work week, lying down on my sofa for a nap amidst pretty, plush pillows promoted peaceful sleep.

Serene at Home (Personal Life)

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Oldie but goody Simply Shabby Chic faux velvet plush pink pillows – Target. New Shabby Chic faux velvet pumpkins embellished with beads – TJ Maxx.

Dealing with the Ds –– the challenges women face –– on the home front and in the workplace, wore me out. After enjoying unseasonably warm fall temps in the 90s just last week here in Cincy, the sudden change in the weather wreaked havoc with my asthma. I got the diagnosis at age 26. At 50, I still wake up in the wee hours wondering why a train is outside my window before I realize it’s  me wheezing. Once I’ve taken all of my medicine, it’s difficult and sometimes impossible for me to get back to sleep. And despite my desire not to, I find myself dwelling on my Ds in the form of divorce, domestic court issues, dysfunctional relationships, etc. Doing so could plummet me into depression. But I’m determined –– a good D! –– to minimize these thoughts by maximizing my faith. Praying and literally turning on the light to dispel the darkness, I read Scripture and whatever Christian fiction is on my nightstand until I can drift off. This afternoon, I wasn’t battling depression. I’d just worked all day, danced all night at Zumba for the Cure, and then again at this morning’s class…Ah, sleep in heavenly peace!

Smart at Work (Professional Life)

This week marked the one year anniversary of my role as  a Women’s Center Director.  And boy was it a doozie! With the demographic we serve, drug addiction and mental health diagnoses can create danger. That being the case, I recently had our onsite therapist provide an in-service to equip the staff with the tools for  de-escalation of mental health crises. Without going into detail, I’ll just say, the tools were definitely needed! The interaction left me shaken and so sad. Having a safe sanctuary –– a space that represents separation of professional and personal life is essential to my sanity! The fact that I didn’t get one phone call or text (I’m always on call) while I napped made  the sleep even sweeter.

Spirit-Led (Prayer/ Putting Scripture into Practice)

My prayer for you is that you will put your trust in Him. When you do, you’ll have this assurance of what God will do: “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” (Isaiah 26:3, NIV). And I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and surround yourself with things that help you get good rest. Whether you’re dealing with Ds in your personal and/or professional life, quality of sleep is just as important as quantity. So splurge on those sheets, or that lavender spray (I have several bottles of Shabby Chic Chamomile Lavender, available at TJ Maxx and Home Goods), or those pretty, plush pillows to promote peaceful sleep. When you do, you’ll minimize your barriers and maximize beauty and your best life.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

 

Rendering the Past Historical

Rendering the Past Historical

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and my kitty, Peppa, and I are both rendering the past historical.

From the time my hubby and I adopted this petite feline from the local shelter’s My Furry Valentine as my gift four years ago when she was two, I’ve known she’s an abuse survivor. Though sweet and loving, she is suspicious and leery as well. Petting has to take place on her terms and timeframe. And when she’s done she’d done. Finally, if you don’t want to be clawed to shreds, never pick her up in your arms while standing or a frantic scramble to escape will ensue and result in bloodshed.  She suffers from post traumatic stress disorder and her maladaptive behavior when she’s triggered is her desperate attempt to keep herself safe. It’s classic fight or flight! With her PTSD from the past, it’s hard for her to feel at peace in the present. So when I found her finally sleeping in the Shabby Chic pet bed I got her months ago when I started renting the tiny house, I thought, Peppa’s rendering the past historical! 

Serene at Home (Personal Life)

Being brutally honest, I get Peppa and recognize glimpses of myself in her.  Having been exposed to Ds –– the challenges women, or in Peppa’s case, females face –– like danger, distrust, domestic violence, dysfunctional relationships, etc. –– I understand why she defaults to the only way she knows how to deal. Thankfully, because she’s gotten four solid years of love, acceptance, gentleness and kindness, she’s come out of her shell a bit and seems to be getting past some of the things I suspect happened in her past. For me, it’s blogging and writing fiction based in fact (Hold on Her Heart, the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul is in the works!) to process my hurts and to heal. It’s also surrounding myself with supportive Swan Sisters and finding solace in my Shabby Chic sanctuary!

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Peppa Loveday Rendering the Past Historical in her Shabby Chic pet bed.   Everything in this pic is Simply Shabby Chic from Target, or Shabby Chic -from TJ Maxx or Home Goods. Wedding pic of me and my hubby.

Spirit-Led (Prayer)

And it’s leaning into my faith and finding safety in a multitude of counselors.  The latter is where I learned about the concept of rendering the past historical. They’ve helped me to process my hurts of yesterday so they won’t continue to have power today. By doing so, like Peppa Loveday,  I’m able to minimize my Ds and maximize beauty and my best life.

Savvy & Chic on Purpose (Putting it into Practice)

That’s my prayer for you.  If you are dealing with the Ds, perhaps suffering from post traumatic stress disorder, there is help. The Lord cares about what you’ve gone through (personally and professionally) and has gifted counselors to grow your coping skills. I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and begin rendering your past historical to render your present and future beautiful, too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

P.S. Publishing my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, has helped render the past historical. Hope you’ll check it out!

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 

 

 

 

 

Lattes, Leadership, Loss and Love

Lattes, Leadership, Loss and Love

It’s another Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose day and yesterday I spent precious time with two of The Lattes discussing leadership, loss and love.

Service on Purpose/Smart at Work (Professional Life)

Four of us –– three African America and one Caucasian, coffee with a little milk –– became close when we worked together as Leadership Coaches. Though we missed what our Milk brings to the mix, coming together made it a sweet Sweetest Day. Five years ago, I left the agency with the goal of maximizing  the Masters in Leadership and Coaching I’d soon earn. After a few almost but not quite right roles, this week will mark a year as Women’s Center Director – my perfect service on purpose fit! Terri soon earned a coveted spot as the agency’s first minority  Team Leader and Delorise recently came up through the ranks to claim the same title! So much leadership among us and reason to celebrate…

Serene at Home (Personal Life)

Still, our rejoicing was tempered by a D ––  or challenge women face –– the unexpected death of Terri’s beloved husband of nearly  30 years on Labor Day. Heartbreaking. But hopeful. With a family history rife with Ds  –– in the form  of divorce and dysfunctional relationships –– for me their marriage serves a beacon of hope. Their kind of  love is rare but does exist! As Terri deals with her incredible loss, she can often be heard to say, “I go to gratitude”. Having been loved so well, she knows she’s among the blessed and highly favored. And of course, because we were at my Petite Retreat, talk turned to decorating and Shabby Chic style. Terri even laughed about being able to finally put her floral comforter on the bed now!

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The Lattes sans (without) our Milk!                                                                 Delorise, Terri and Me, Pink Collar Coach.

Spirit-Led (Prayer)

Being with my lovely, smart, strong Swan Sisters made me go to gratitude, too. Though I no longer see them on the daily, our hearts are connected and the time brought healing. The Lattes are leaders at work and in their families. In fact, Delorise adopted a toddler four years ago when his mother died of cancer though her two girls were in their preteens and teens… They have capacity for great love and to grieve losses graciously and find reasons to laugh. They are SO Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose. I’m blessed to have spent time with them because they truly demonstrate  how to deal effectively with the Ds to minimize barriers and to maximize beauty and their best lives.  I just pray our Milk, appropriately named Joy, can join us next time for an even more perfect blend of The Lattes!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

Replacing vs. Repairing Broken Things

Replacing vs. Repairing Broken Things

It’s another Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose day & I’ve been pondering replacing vs. repairing broken things. Happy fall decorating recently ended in destruction –– another D or challenge women face. Peppa Loveday –– a My Furry Valentine gift from my hubby, hence the name ––  scrambled off the dining table when I scolded her for jumping on the harvest themed table runner I’d just laid out, taking my Simply Shabby Chic cloche (glass dome)  with her. When it crashed to the floor and shattered to pieces, I felt a piece of my heart break too. Of all my Simply Shabby Chic decor, the cloche covered floral arrangement was the item I’ve displayed in a spot that has seen daily use over fifteen years –– for meals, homework and as the desk where I ran my business full-time for a while, wrote my book and blogged consistently for a year. Emotion flooded me –– rage, regret and remorse. I Did Not Love my Valentine kitty for a few days and let her know we’d broken up over her breaking my cloche! The search to replicate it began immediately after clean up and it wasn’t until I found another as close to the original as I could get that my emotions ebbed. Below is what I learned about replacing vs. repairing broken things.

Serene at Home (Personal Style) 

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Original Simply Shabby Chic cloche covered floral arrangement.                                      Everything except dining chairs is Simply Shabby Chic from Target.         Dining Chairs are Shabby Chic inspired from a local antique mall. 

Because of the great value I placed on the cloche, had it been possible, I would have painstakingly pieced it back together. But some things are broken beyond repair. No amount of glue, patience or time could restore the cloche. Rather than continue to despair, however, I set out on a quest to replace it. Online searches proved futile –– the choices were not the right either in  look, size  or cost, and that was without shipping.  Next I scoured my go-to shops –– TJ Maxx & Home Goods –– but came up empty handed. Rare! Then I checked  Stein Mart. Tuesday Morning. Both to no avail.  By this time I felt like Goldilocks when I tried Hobby Lobby where the cloche seemed to be too big and At Home where it was too small. Desperate, I finally returned to Hobby Lobby –– the day after the 1/2 off sale and overpaid for one that is most similar and almost but not quite the right size…Nevertheless, all the time, travel plus trial and error it took to find a cloche to replicate the look of the original  was worth it. The old one couldn’t be repaired, so a beautiful new one has replaced it.

Spirit-Led (Prayer)

Like my cloche, at times we feel  too broken for God to fix or use us. Yet He can do anything including mend a life that has been dealt so many Ds that the damage seems beyond repair. Even so, sometimes it is. But this experience has shown me that doesn’t have to be the end of our usefulness. He can take a broken life and replace it with one that’s not only brand new, but one that’s more beautiful than before.  That’s my prayer for you.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach