Downsized! Another D!

Downsized! Another D!

It’s Day 325 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and “Downsized” is another D I’m adding to the list of challenges Pink Collar Swans face. I spent a productive work day following up with Disrupt HR connections, including connecting the gentleman I mentioned in yesterday’s post to someone who can help him move forward in his career, working on scheduling a speaking engagement with SHRM (the Society of Human Resource Management), and a book signing for Seasons of Her Soul, my debut novel, at my local coffee shop. Then I got the great news that my efforts to monetize my blog are paying off – literally. A while back I applied to have Word Ads featured here on my site. At the time, I didn’t have enough traffic. Well, apparently, my application was approved in January! When I questioned this, I was told since I have thousands of viewers, I’m doing well enough to make a little money! Woot! Woot! Feeling very accomplished for having achieved a stretch goal, I had a great time working it out at Zumba where I filled in for half of our dynamic dancing duo instructors. When a group of us headed out, I asked someone where she worked. That’s a sore subject right now, she replied cryptically, but went on to explain, I’ve been downsized. Her company is going out of business and letting everyone go. And to add insult to injury, they are only giving a few weeks severance pay since they are going under. Driving away after I encouraged her to reach out if she needed support, I thought Ugh!  Another D to add to the list! 

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No matter how they say it – it’s a D! 

Needing to pick up a few groceries – and possibly a new paperback – I popped into my local store, Kroger, and was in for a few downsize surprises. The first : That the Marketplace store will no longer carry apparel and shoes is a good thing in my opinion. While I understand Kroger is trying to keep up with the super centers, like Walmart, I’d personally prefer to keep my food and fashion shopping separate… The second: That they’ve decided to no longer carry books or magazines other than those at the check out aisle is disappointing. Making a milk run – and grabbing a magazine – didn’t feel like such drudgery to me. Now, other than a Starbucks green tea latte, there’s not much else to recommend the grocery trip. I also wonder if this will mean fewer hours for Kroger employees. Another down side of downsizing.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach, specializing in the Ds is my unique coaching value. I coach women to minimize these barriers and to maximize their beauty and best lives. In some ways, a prevalence of Ds on the home-front and in the workplace means job security for me. But as much as I’d like business, I’d prefer to to have another  Ds – like downsizing – removed from the list rather than added.

Have you ever been downsized? How were you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about handling it?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Share Your Story

Share Your Story

It’s Day 324 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and an email I received last night served to remind me of the importance of sharing your story. This week I shared  several stories at https://DisruptHR.co > Cincinnati  on how the Ds – the personal and professional challenges that negatively impact workplace performance – have derailed careers and how HR professionals can prevent this. Though they weren’t my story, elements of mine were woven in. Afterwards other speakers, audience members who’ve been on both sides of the derailing track and the event’s organizer let me know how impactful they found the presentation. Even so, the email I received from a co-presenter brought the derailing issue even closer to home for me. He reached out and described his experience of never reaching his potential due to some of the Ds. Having experienced many of the same, I could relate. When the email went on to state that he was raised by a single mother in Avondale – the neighborhood  I grew up in — and graduated from my alma mater, my empathy for his situation grew. Even so, because the connection is professional, I planned to reply Monday. That is until today’s sermon exhorted us to get into life with those who are “messy” – which is exactly what I’d challenged HR professionals and organizational leaders to do.  Inspired to walk my talk – literally –  I fired off an email sharing my story.

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose life coach, author and speaker, I have various  opportunities to share my story through different avenues. I’m intentional about maximizing each of them because I never know who may need to hear it. Even in a room full of professionals there’s no end to the people you may encounter. Women who’ve suffered marital problems, miscarriages, diagnoses and discrimination all came up and thanked me for bringing these personal struggles, which are often cloaked in shadow, into the light. And I imagine for every one who said something there were dozens who didn’t…Being transparent makes you vulnerable, but it also makes you approachable. The gentleman who emailed me never would have gotten in touch otherwise. And there’s someone out there who needs you to hear from you. You may not feel like you have the platform, stage or vehicle. That’s alright. It can start with a simple conversation or through whatever means you do have in front of you.

Will you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and share your story?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

“If You’ve Got a Pulse, You’ve Got a Purpose” – Kathie Lee Gifford’s Story

“If You’ve Got a Pulse, You’ve Got a Purpose” – Kathie Lee Gifford’s Story

It’s Day 265 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and on my “unniversary” I’m so thankful for the reminder “If you’ve got a pulse, you’ve got a purpose” that I received from hearing Kathie Lee Gifford’s story. Twelve years ago today, on a sunny Sunday morning, God heard my I can’t take this anymore! cry and delivered me from my abusive marriage. While I wouldn’t have chosen the way He did it back then – mostly because of what my children suffered- I soon came to understand the why. It was all part of His perfect plan for my life (Jeremiah 29:11). I’m not going to lie and say it was easy, in fact, it’s still not. But my experience with the Ds – domestic violence, destitution, depression, despair, divorce, domestic court, and other dastardly deeds done- gave me a  purpose. Today, I use my God-given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their personal barriers and to maximize their beauty and best lives through total transformation – all to His glory. And I’ll keep living this purpose as long as I have a pulse.

Besides being blessed with a wonderful, godly husband and best friend following my divorce, I was grafted into his family. My sister-in-law, Sue, is such a gift! Nearly a week ago she shared Kathie Lee Gifford’s “I Am Second” video with me. Because I always look at whatever she’s sent right away, it felt weird not to do so this time. When I finally watched the video this afternoon, the delay no longer felt weird but like a God-thing. I’d been a little out of sorts all day – the unniversary is still hard because it was traumatic – then below put it all back into perspective. Perfect timing!

Kathie Lee is a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan! I’d heard of “I Am Second” but had never watched one of the films. Based on above, and a peek at 1984 figure skating gold medalist Scott Hamilton’s video (Chip and Joanna Gaines’ is there too) I could get lost in the stories of restoration and transformation from athletes, celebrities, politicians, and others with high visibility and influence. Though I don’t fit in that category, I’m still motivated to submit what I refer to as my Ds Story to be included on the site. If you’ve read my posts before, you may be familiar with it. The story chronicles how I hit rock bottom but instead of letting it destroy me, I minimized my barriers and maximized rock bottom as the firm foundation upon which I built not the rest of my life but the best of my life. I’m debating whether to submit a video or the 500 word entry but will keep you posted…literally!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose domestic violence survivor, I’m so thankful that by the grace of God I’ve been transformed from victim to victor and from domestic violence mess to sustained success. If I can do it, you can too! Whenever I share this and someone’s life (usually a woman’s), is positively impacted, I’m like I’ve fulfilled my purpose. I can die happy now…But since my heart keeps beating, like Kathie Lee Gifford, I’ll keep living my purpose as long as I have a pulse.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, you have a pulse, so you have a purpose. How are you living it out at home and/or work? Check out http://www.iamsecond.com for inspiration.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase a print or Kindle copy of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, a story of one woman’s journey out of domestic violence and into her best life, please visit Amazon at:

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9

Thank you!

 

Working on a Book Signing for Seasons of Her Soul!

Working on a Book Signing for Seasons of Her Soul!

It’s Day 240 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I spent some time this evening in one of my favorite places on earth -Barnes and Noble – working on a book signing for Seasons of Her Soul. Some of you readers have asked about this and I’m pleased to let you know it should be a reality soon. I’m also in the process with LifeWay Christian Bookstore, one of the few brick and mortar booksellers still in operation here in the Cincinnati area. Being a debut novelist makes it challenging to break through giant brick and mortar stores like B&N, and even the ones that seem like little mom and pop ventures in comparison. But you know me – I’m all about minimizing barriers and maximizing beauty and women’s best personal and professional lives, so now that I know both of these support local authors, I’m going after it with a sledge hammer and won’t stop working until I’ve scheduled some Seasons of Her Soul book signings!

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While there, I picked up one of my favorite sources of inspiration, Artful Blogging, and browsed through some other decorating magazines. Then I made my usual perusal of the Christian fiction section and was delighted to find an author I’ve never read. I’ve always devoured books and consume a healthy diet of authors with different styles as a way to feed my creativity. Trying new ones helps me broaden my horizons and hone my craft. Feeling as satisfied as could be because I was in a bookstore with a copy of Seasons of Her Soul, I couldn’t resist laying it on the coffee table along with these other delectable treats. Twas so sweet to imagine someone discovering it and plopping down in a comfy chair with a latte to savor it and my novel!

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose debut novelist, I’m savoring this sweet season in my journey. I say that not to flaunt it, but to encourage you. While this evening was blissful, the work day was fraught with Ds brought on by one dastardly dude! But I’m determined not to be derailed. I’ve worked too hard to build a life I love, including becoming a published author. No hater or saboteur is going to knock that down. Barnes and Noble isn’t the only thing built of brick and mortar! In fact, I’ll even say I’m stronger and more sturdy because I’m built on the Firm Foundation, the Solid Rock. That will hold me in good stead as I continue working on book signings for Seasons of Her Soul!

What Pink Collar Ds or challenges are you facing that feel as impenetrable as a solid structure? Perhaps it’s that personal situation where you can’t make a breakthrough? Or maybe you feel like you’re hitting a brick wall in your professional life… How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose to minimize those barriers and to maximize your best life on the home-front and in the workplace?

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

Calm, Cool & Collected in Coral (Despite Dealing with The Ds)

Calm, Cool & Collected in Coral (Despite Dealing with The Ds)

It’s Day 238 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and despite dealing with the  Ds -more dastardly, despicable deeds from a persistent hater – I’m feeling calm, cool, and collected in coral. There’s a Maya Angelou quote that The Lattes (comprised of myself and two other African American women + one Caucasian = coffee with milk) adhere to: “When people show you who they, believe them.” Because she’s without guile and doesn’t detect it in others, one of the women, Delorise, got burned by someone full of it and amended the words of wisdom to include: “And adapt accordingly”. The bad news is while I’ve seen who this individual is for over twenty years and believe them, I failed to adapt accordingly to protect myself. The good news is, another one of the Lattes, Terri, reminded me that I’ve been delivered from all of my Ds. Therefore, I can still be cool, calm and collected in coral despite dealing with the Ds.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, in coral Calvin Klein. The ribbed sweater, dark stretch jeans, and reversible handbag are all comfy, business casual oldies. The CK shoes are a newer TJMaxx find. The strained smile on my face is not due to stress but striving to strike the right pose for my 6’4″ hubby/photographer. I’m 5’1″ so this is always a challenge. He’s a great sport and support! : )

If you’re anything like me, style and color can impact your mood. Knowing I had a trying day ahead of me, I opted to wear bright, cheerful coral that contrasts with the dreary (another D) winter landscape. Seeing how much I enjoy fashion, I’m not surprised that this colorful style made me smile. Dating back to when I was a child, facing any situation dressed in a color I loved (usually pink or some soft shade like peach or coral) made it easier to get up and out the door. It lifted my mood and I’d find myself smiling. The challenge or negative situation didn’t go away; it just shifted my focus from it to something positive. I suppose that was my way of minimizing barriers and maximizing beauty and my best life – even back then.

In case that sounds a bit fanciful, according to research from the University of Kansas, smiling (even if it’s caused by colorful style) not only helps you “grin and bear it” psychologically,  it can help your heart health too. I loved discovering this piece of scientific information because it confirms the link between style and smiling, as in the “You’re Never Fully Dressed Without a Smile” lyrics from Annie! And it means, even if style is not your thing, as long as you’re wearing a smile, you can still deal with any D that gets thrown at you.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose self-proclaimed clothes horse, I’ve always viewed them as a means of self-expression. But knowing dressing in a way that makes me smile can also help me deal with my Ds psychologically, perhaps they’re also a means of self-preservation…Thankfully, though I was able to remain calm, cool and collected in coral despite dealing with the Ds today, ultimately, I’m most equipped to deal with them because I’m wearing the whole armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18), provided by my heavenly Father who delivers us from the all.

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic about the Ds you’re facing in your personal or professional life? How does your personal sense of  style help you to deal with them? What can you do that makes you smile more?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Women Feel Better When We’re Dancing

Women Feel Better When We’re Dancing

It’s Day 230 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and yesterday reinforced how women feel better when we’re dancing. As I mentioned in Saturday’s post (I didn’t hit publish until after midnight so it showed up on Sunday), I took a nasty tumble getting into the shower that morning as I prepared to present at the High Heeled Success and Pink Collar Savvy & Chic women’s workshop on networking. After falling my first concern was about how it would impact my performance at the event; my second was It’s going to hurt more tomorrow, so how will I teach Zumba? Thankfully, pain meds and prayer got me through Saturday, but Sunday morning I woke up so sore and stiff, I thought I’d have to do low intensity to get through class. What I didn’t bank on was having about twenty high energy women show up ready to go full throttle. I shared my mishap and then showed them my proof copy of Seasons of Her Soul. Their combined empathy, enthusiasm and excitement throughout made me feel as if I had wings! I was able to lead the class pain free. Women really do feel better when we’re dancing!

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Lovely Zumba-loving Ladies. A few left before we could grab a pic –  the energy is still evident! Me, Pink Collar Coach, front center in black, gray and white Calvin Klein performance wear.

Lest you wonder why I’m using the collective term “women”, I’m not the only one who expressed feeling better. There are at least two women in attendance recovering from surgeries, but they attend because a modified dance session is better than none. One Sunday class lover returned because I reinstated the class after a few years without it. The first two classes she was miserable, but this week she was back in her full-on dance zone. Another let me know life has settled down in all other areas so she can now resume dancing, which she’s missed. A young college student, a true Dancing Queen, has expressed interest in becoming a certified instructor. And a Zumba frequent flier who attends classes throughout the week, confessed she gets so into it she has to make herself not sing along so she won’t disturb other dancers. Having one of my mentors attend class and lead a routine and express that I’m doing a great job was so cool and encouraging. An Indiana transplant who just moved here for her husband’s job is finding her tribe with Zumba and I believe will become a friend of mine – she’s another Tammy (with a “y”). And I had the joy of watching at least three newcomers fall in love with Zumba right before my eyes. A beautiful thing to behold. Once the bug bites you, you’re a goner – in the best way!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Zumba instructor, I’m humbled by the way my classes have been received and feel so blessed to be able to serve women in this way. It’s not just dancing, it’s ministry for me…Case in point, I received a text message following yesterday’s class from a woman I hadn’t seen in Zumba in a long time. Knowing that she’s been dealing with some major Ds (challenges), I’d been concerned about her. She told me she ran into one of the other instructors who let her know about my class. She thought it was wonderful and plans to attend each week. She’s also going to read my book and do some life coaching with me as she continues to pursue her best personal and professional life. All because women really do feel better when we’re dancing!

Oh, and doing my first book signing EVER for a someone who brought her copy wasn’t too shoddy either!  ; )

How about you? What makes you feel better? Are you like the women in my class who fight through the Ds to do it? How can you incorporate more of what makes you feel better into your personal and professional life?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase the ebook or print copy of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.

http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj

 

Money is Emotional Meeting with The Financial Lifegaurd

Money is Emotional Meeting with The Financial Lifegaurd

It’s Day 226  of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and one of the highlights of my work day was a Money is Emotional lunch meeting with the author of the book, The Financial Lifeguard, Christine Luken. Christine is a certified financial coach and is  building her business in a way I want to emulate. She launched the book last year and it has done so well that she just finished the first draft of its sequel, Manage Money Like a Boss, with creatives and entrepreneurs – like me! – as the target audience. This Pink Collar Savvy & Chic author, coach and speaker is maximizing her first book, which is exactly what I hope to do with my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul.  Meeting with The Financial Lifeguard reinforced how female entrepreneurs must balance our desire to serve others with the need to produce sustainable income. Money really is emotional!

Though Christine’s book is non-fiction, and mine is fiction drawn from real life experiences, I hope to be able to use it as a platform to coach and speak around the Ds, like the domestic violence the main character, Lee, faces. And I’ve already started the preliminary writing process of laying out the story’s map – another highlight of my day but completed in the wee hours way before my actual work day began! Christine was excited to hear that as she is currently reading Seasons of Her Soul. It was encouraging to hear how it grabbed her from the very beginning, especially coming from an author with a successful nonfiction book under her belt and who doesn’t read contemporary fiction!  I’m hopeful she’ll do a review and I plan to reciprocate by writing one on the signed copy she gifted me with today.

We also discussed collaborating to support each other’s work and to refer our clients. Christine specializes in one of the Ds – debt; and she encounters professional women who could use my holistic Swan Experience to minimize other barriers and to maximize their beauty and best personal and professional lives. Besides, good coaches don’t try to do it all but have a network of referral resources…Our conversation was so packed with helpful insights and inspiration that the time flew by so quickly I forgot to snap our pic!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach. Ruffled shoulder beige sweater & faux suede skirt. BOOTS WITH THE FUR are some oldies but goodies and prevented me from biting it on the ice.                                           Love the pattern on the handbag.                                                                                                                                      All Calvin Klein from TJMaxx. Money is Emotional available on website below.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose life coach, author, and speaker, it was so refreshing to meet with another one where there were no hidden agendas – and there was definitely no hating. We shared openly and were transparent about ups and downs and how we run our businesses in a way that allows us to make money doing what we love, maintains the dignity of our clients and glorifies the God we both serve. Considering how great the time was and the fact that each of us have some follow up steps, I’ve got a feeling this won’t be the last Money is Emotional, or Manage Life a Boss meeting I’ll have with The Financial Lifeguard.

Are you drowning in financial dire straights? The Financial Lifeguard can rescue you and restore your dignity. Please visit her website at http://www.Christineluken.com.

Also, if you are interested in previewing or purchasing the print or Kindle version of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon at:

http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9 

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach