Whirlwind Week and Reunion with a Writing Friend

Whirlwind Week and Reunion with a Writing Friend

It’s Day 321 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and this week has been a whirlwind, including a reunion with a writing friend. Tuesday I had a professional early meeting that took me to my old stomping grounds – Avondale, where I grew up. My nostalgia driving down the main drag –  Reading Road – turned to shock when I turned down the street where I was raised and became completely disoriented. EVERY single house has been leveled to the ground, and I drove up and down a few times trying to place where my mother’s and Aunt Bertie’s house once stood. I’m not sad to see the former gone – the lyrics from Carrie Underwood’s Blown Away drifted through my mind with that one – but the latter broke my heart. Needing to have some balance restored, I drove to Joseph Beth Booksellers for business and pleasure. The store features local authors, so I’m excited to have begun the process to have them carry my first novel, Seasons of Her Soul, and to have a book signing. Having taken care of that, I met with the mom of one of my former 6th grade students – now a writing friend. What a whirlwind day and such such a blessing catching up on fifteen years!

Cindy is fresh in her black and florals and I brought my A Game in an A line skirt & jacket that pair like a suit but are separates. The blue blouse, shoes 7 bag made it fun. Calvin Klein TJ Maxx.  

Cindy sought me out when she heard I’d published my book to let me know she’s written one, too! She’s such an amazing woman who’s survived abuse, founded a non-profit to support other survivors, and is now sharing her journey through her writing. That being the case, we laid some collaboration plans and can’t wait to see what God will do. And of course I had to get an update on Nick, my adorable freckle-faced 6th grader who valiantly served his country in Afghanistan and is now a husband. Talk about proud teacher moment!

I shared about being in the thick of getting ready for my https://DisruptHR.co > Cincinnati talk the next evening, and Cindy gave me some much appreciated feedback on my presentation. Having experienced many of the Ds (challenges) herself, her input and encouragement bolstered me to have the best time sharing how they derail careers and what can be done to prevent them from knocking women (and men) off of their career tracks. The event sold out and I’m thrilled that my topic was so well received and to have made lots of new connections and potential coaching and speaking engagements. A fan of Seasons of Her Soultold me how much she loved the book, putting the icing on the cake. Dinner on the event organizer and more connecting until 10pm  followed…Good thing today’s coaching session with a client wasn’t until later in the afternoon!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose life coach, author, speaker, and friend, it really has been a professional whirlwind. Loved every moment of it. One of the highlights was the reunion with an old Fellowship Christian School writing friend. Fifteen years may have passed, but as is always the case with this special group – the friendship picks up right where Fellowship left off…

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about reuniting with old friends from school, church, the workplace? How can you be?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at

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How the Ds Derail Talent & Cause Professional Train Wrecks – Pt. 2 (And How to Zap Them)

How the Ds Derail Talent & Cause Professional Train Wrecks – Pt. 2 (And How to Zap Them)

It’s Day 319 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and this post is a continuation of above from two days ago. I’m presenting at Disrupt HR Cincinnati tomorrow night. Hope you’ll check out the link https://disrupthr.co > cincinnati. Thank you!

Disconnected Dressing – A creative communications specialist dresses to express herself. What it doesn’t express is her competence or her desire to be taken seriously. It creates a disconnect and doesn’t support everything else she does to get ahead. Her dress sabotages her success.

Discrimination – An exceptional trainer with consistently outstanding participant feedback, an advanced degree ends and training certification ends up reporting to those with less education and experience. The only minority on the team, she is written up for insubordination when she questions the promotion process.

Divorce – A team leader at a non-profit doesn’t make much, but finds work her meaningful and fulfilling. When her husband divorced her, leaving her and two teenagers practically destitute, heartbreak prevented her from performing optimally to earn much needed merit increases and makes her resent the job she once loved.

Diagnoses – An IT technician’s wife was diagnosed with breast cancer and the small agency doesn’t offer FMLA. He exhausts his PTO, requests to do some work remotely, is denied, and placed on a Performance Improvement Plan for absenteeism- right after the organization participated in Race for The Cure.

Domestic Court Issues – An enrollment director was embroiled in a contentious custody battle with his ex-girlfriend. Parenting investigations, lengthy calls with his attorney, and heated conversations with his ex caused enrollment to tank. He got shared parenting, but the schedule made it look more like a career death sentence.

Domestic Violence – A marketing manager is often late for work because her classic abuser partner takes the car and makes her take a bus or walk. Fearing he’d carry out his threats to harm her dog if she left, at times she’d miss work all together. She stayed with him but left the job.

Drug and Alcohol Abuse – An aviation executive is a functioning alcoholic. The company was unaware of his DUIs and offered him his dream promotion. When he confessed his record, the opportunity and his reputation crashed and burned.

Dysfunctional Relationships – There’s a reason most of the seats are empty at this Adult Children of Normal Parents Convention. If you’re anything like me, you were raised in a  dysfunctional family and now you’re the head of one! We’ve all experienced our share of Ds and carry so much relationship baggage onto the work train it’s a miracle any of us can stay on track with our careers.

That’s the bad news: Like with these derailed train wrecks, your talent – and You! – has issues!

The good news is: Your talent can keep calm and never fear because HR – You! – are here to step in and save the day with strategies to deal with their Ds.

3Cs to Zap the Ds


Consideration – Since we all have Ds, practice The Golden Rule and treat your talent the way you’d want to be treated. Get to know them as individuals – personally and professionally so you’re aware of their challenges. Let them know you’ve got their backs. And here’s a rad thought: If you’re a person of faith, pray for them.

Connection to Resources– Connect them to Employee Assistance Programs. Educate yourself through ongoing professional development around best practices like Trauma Informed Care (TIC). Provide information – print and electronic. Refer them to doctors, counselors, support groups, whatever they need. And if you don’t have a resource, find one.

Coaching (Life, Executive, Career, Performance) – Find their fit and if it’s not financially feasible for the organization, equip yourself to fill the shoes yourself. That’s literally stepping in to save the day!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach and  Speaker, I want to drive home the point that if they use these 3 Cs: they’ll be Faster than a career suicide bullet, more powerful than a sabotaging locomotive, able to deal with the Ds and prevent derailing in an effective bound! You’ll be an HR Superhero who’s able to Zap (obliterate, destroy) the Ds to keep your talent on track!

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and use them, too?

Be savvy &  chic,

~Pink Collar Coach



How the Ds Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks (Pt. 1)

How the Ds Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks (Pt. 1)

It’s Day 317 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m sharing “How the Ds (personal and professional challenges that negatively impact work performance) Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks. I’m doing so in preparation for speaking at  at DisruptHR Cincinnati this week. To learn more about it, please click on the link https://disrupthr.co > cincinnati. The actual title of my presentation is “HR Superheroes to the Rescue! – Don’t Let the Ds Derail Your Talent! – Keep Them on Track”,  but I’m sharing half of the scenarios (only 15 seconds to speak on the content/correlating slide) here in hopes of getting feedback. I’ll share the other half and what can done to prevent the Ds from derailing in tomorrow’s post. Thanks!

The Ds Derail Careers! 

Grabber: Don’t let the Ds – the personal and/or professional challenges that negatively impact workplace performance – derail your talent! Instead, be an HR Superhero and keep them on track! Given your roles, I suspect you’re familiar with the Ds. But let me share some of the train wrecks I’ve witnessed because of them. Details have been changed to protect the victims – and the perpetrators.

Death – A mid level leader and single mom whose brother had terminal cancer. She’d been expecting his death for months. What she didn’t expect was to bury her brother only to have her healthy mother fall ill a few months later. She experienced two deaths in as many months and got buried under her workload after burying two of the people  closest to her.

Debt – An administrative assistant who returned to the workforce to supplement her husband’s income. When he lost his job and she became the sole bread winner, they felt into debt so harmful to their family it required intensive care through a financial freedom training program to resuscitate her finances. Her job couldn’t be saved.

Delinquent Teens – An education specialist just started a promising new position when her teenager was arrested for assault. She had to take off time she didn’t have to attend the arraignment, subsequent meetings at the juvenile detention center and family counseling. Stress caused her to make a serious mistake that resulted in her being fired on the spot.

Depression – A nurse who experienced severe postpartum depression following the birth of her first child. Eventually she had a breakdown, was placed on the psychiatric ward, and on heavy anti-depressants to return to work. Her career suffered as much from the stigma about her depression as she did from the episode itself.

Diet & Fitness – A nutrition specialist at a prominent pediatric hospital was dangerously overweight herself. Teenage patients often commented on it and parents complained to her supervisor about her ability to advise them around best practices when they felt there was a disconnect between her suggestions and her own diet and fitness practices.

Differing Abilities – A data analyst for a health test results company whose childhood meningitis rendered her 80% deaf in one ear and 40% in the other. Though a proficient lip reader, team members consistently turned away from her when discussing tasks and then reported her for not completing them in a timely manner, which was reflected in her performance reviews.

Disasters – An event planner and single mom in transition out of poverty had landed her dream job and was steadily building her client list. But when a plumbing issue caused sewage to flood her home, the threat of children’s services getting involved and the cost of the repairs prevented her from being fully present at work and nearly took her under.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach whose seen all of the above and experienced  much of it myself and as a Speaker who wants to deliver great content for the 200 attendees.

I hope you’ll  be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and weigh in. Did this intro grab your attention? Are these short scenarios compelling? Have you or anyone you know experienced any of these Ds? Did they derail you? Anything else? Thanks!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach