It’s Day 18 of being back to blogging, and though I’ve missed over a week posting due to being sick, I’m excited to share about this weekend’s Sadie Hawkins shopping success. In this day and age when the traditional dynamics of this dance –– where the girls ask the guys –– are so much more complex, I have to confess I’m relieved to report that my 15-year-old is “going doe” and the most challenging piece of the equation was the quest for the dress. Though I’d been down with bronchitis and flu, my teen made it clear she wanted to go looking with me. Getting up proved to be worth the effort because after she futilely searched for just the right thing, I spotted it and knew I’d hit gold the minute she laid eyes on a youthful yellow number that could have been tailor made for her petite frame. Not only that, despite her doubts that I could help her secure just the right type of bra for the dress’ cut, I nailed that and she now owns her most flattering, and therefore favorite ever. All in all, I’d say our Sadie Hawkins shopping was a success!
As a divorced mom (a D or challenge women face) and Maxxinista, this shopping expedition proved to be a positive experience on many levels. There was a time in the not so distant past where stepmom’s influence and preferences carried far more weight than mine. And I’d have been alright with that had said stepmom not usurped my place as Mom and had her tastes been a little more refined and budget friendly. Stepmom is now out of the picture, which is sad in some ways, however, I’m relieved that the balance has been restored to my relationship with my daughter. Had stepmom still been around, I’m almost certain this mom-daughter experience would have been yet another we missed out on because she stepped in and shopped with her before we got the chance to do it together.
Now I’m thankful my daughter has a dress she not only plans to wear to the dance –– with combat boots –– and over leggings or jeans like above, we have a bonding memory to look back on. Plus it doesn’t hurt that Liv learned that her mom is has a great eye for style on a shoe string! It makes me hopeful that she’ll grow up to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic... Based on this weekend’s Sadie Hawkins shopping success, it may well turn out to be a case of like mother, like daughter!
How about you? What special shopping experiences do you share with your daughter? Mother? Other females? Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and maximize them to strengthen your bond?
Though I’ve lost track of the Day #, The Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project it’s still in effect, including preparing for the annual Zumba for the Cure, AKA Party in Pink! The event is held to promote awareness and raise support to fight breast cancer. That being the case, when my marvelous mentor, Marina, suggested we shoot a video of the song, “Here to Stay”, I’m leading at this Friday night’s event –– Marina has me do a few routines in her Saturday class –– our Weekend Zumba Warriors enthusiastically jumped in with a fighting spirit – literally!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose breast cancer scare survivor –– I had a huge tumor the doctors thought was stage four removed in 2014 –– I hope you enjoyed the video (Thanks Marina and everyone who joined in). These women are fierce! So is every woman who has ever faced this particular disease –– a huge D or challenge! Every year God uses all in attendance and especially the women who are actively fighting cancer, yet dance the whole two hours, to inspire me. Often we close with “This is My Fight Song”…So I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and will support Breast Cancer Awareness events like this one during the month of October, as well as having a mamogram and/or encouraging others to do so…More posts about this coming as we continue preparing for our Party in Pink!
It’s Day 414 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and I’m pleased to have pulled off my daughter’s 15th birthday on a budget. I’ve not made it a secret that I’m dealing with some Ds –– personal challenges that can negatively impact professional performance –– and that means I’m keeping a close watch on my pocket book. The great thing is, what started out as a barrier –– limited resources –– turned into an opportunity for me to minimize the barrier and maximize beauty and my best life. Given the fact that she had a party and sleepover at her dad’s on the actual day and that I would be taking her and her brother to something she’d requested a while back –– an Escape Room –– I felt she’d be happy with a few little treats. That being the case, when a dear friend gifted me with a Walgreen’s gift card and two Larosa’s (our hometown pizzeria) gift cards at the end of our lunch date last week, I knew how I’d use them. The former purchased some girly gifts –– Maybelline’s Baby Lips (she loves them), pink nail polish (she’d been eyeing mine), and her favorite candy bars. The latter were used for yummy pizza, salad and sodas. And because I love themed gifts ala Rachel Ashwell, I also purchased a cupcake themed bag and card from the drug store. Then I shredded a coordinating color of copy paper to make “confetti” filler. Next, a trip to Barnes and Noble, where we’re members of the Kids Birthday Club yielded a huge complimentary confetti cupcake. Finally, though there were no Groupons available, I scored a $12 a person deal for “Escape from Alpha Station” at our local entertainment spot. With that and our waitresses’ tip, I was all in $40 –– talk about a birthday on a budget!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose shopper, I’m thrilled about being able to make the most of what I had. More than that, though, making the most of the time with my children was the best part of the day. Liv truly enjoyed her gifts and promptly applied not one but both lip shades. And as all three of us shared the cupcake she poured over her card and gave me a hug far sweeter than the pastry. The Escape Room (www.funattheweb.com) was a blast. Levi displayed his high level of intelligence by deciphering one of the main clues, but alas, because we were in the room with lots of other people resulting in a bit of chaos, we didn’t escape. Still, seeing him and Liv work together so well did my mommy heart good. We shared pizza, so much laughter, and explored some ideas about the future while taking a walk. By the time the night ended, I knew though the birthday was on a budget, it was one of the best.
Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about planning birthdays or other special events on a budget. At home? The office? You don’t have to spend a lot of money to have a large return on investment.
It’s Day 412 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and life has heated up to the degree that I needed some time girl time keeping cool by the pool in cute coverups. The good news is, the life coaching side of things has been fairly consistent –– especially considering summer vacations, travel, etc. And the life clients I’m working with are truly minimizing their barriers around and maximizing their beauty (image coaching) and best lives (personal and professional). The bad news is, Consistency with my writing? –– not so much. I’m going days without posting, blogging or working on the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul. Even so, due to some Ds –– personal challenges that negatively impact our professional lives –– I’m facing right now, I’m in a perpetual research mode and am gathering great material for Hold on Her Heart! Given everything going on, when one of my closets Swan Soul Sisters, Kibby, suggested a weekday lounging poolside, I was quick to put work aside and go all in keeping cool by the pool in cute coverups!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, time with other females is essential to my emotional and spiritual well-being. Being able to share what’s going on in our lives –– the good, the bad and the ugly –– makes all the difference in the world. Whether we’re reminiscing about the past, pondering the present, or praying about our futures, my soul and spirit are revived by time spent with other Swans who share my faith and my fears. Kibby does all of this in spades. In addition to all we have in common, her generosity ––– way beyond monetary –– knows few bounds and she blesses me more than I can say! Never mind the fact that we never actually swam…As long as the Earth spins around the sun, our lives will heat up with Ds. I just chose to minimize them by spending at least a few of mine maximizing beauty and my best life keeping cool by the pool in cute coverups!
It’s Day 405 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and today’s sermon reminded me that we’re not a waste service dump site! Many Sundays, Joel Osteen’s televised sermon is my church of choice, and this morning, as is so often the case, it seemed he’d prepared his message specifically for me. I’m in a season in my life where I’m putting some much needed boundaries in place and the sermon clarified that they’re around dumping ––– another D!/challenge. Using the story of a taxi driver to illustrate his point, Joel told how the driver with a passenger in tow had to hit the brakes to avoid hitting a car that cut him off. Then though at fault, the driver of the other vehicle proceeded to curse, gesticulate and yell when the cab came along side him, rather than reciprocating, the driver smiled, waved and drove on. When the passenger asked why he responded the way he did, the driver explained how some people are going through life hauling around a dump truck full of garbage. At a certain point they fill up and have to dump it somewhere. He said it was on him that day, but he didn’t have to accept or own it because it was never about him. Now there’s a Savvy & Chic taxi driver! Somewhere before, during or after taking fares, he’d figured out the way to fair through life at peace –– by understanding we’re not a waste dumping site!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan who is still very much in the process of minimizing my barriers to maximize beauty and my best life, I’ve encountered a lot of toxic waste along my transformational journey. And if you’re anything like me, you have, too. In our families of origin, schools, workplaces, marriages, relationships, and even the church. But that doesn’t mean we have to let others dump their waste or toxicity on us. Challenging as it may be, Joel suggested the best way to deal with it is to not sink to that level by ignoring the backbiting, comments, gossip, lies, rumors –– whatever it is. Because ultimately God is the one who will make the wrongs right. In His way and His timing. In the meantime, while we can’t control others, we can control our response to them. By not reacting to the waste and not letting the dumping soil us and steal our joy, we minimize this challenge and demonstrate that we’re not waste service dump sites!
Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about not serving as a waste service dump site in your personal and/or professional life? How can you respond vs. react in order to maintain your positive attitude in the face of negativity?
It’s Day 383 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and my Zumba mentor, Marina, made my day! First of all, when I chickened out of leading a song today because her versions were different than mine, not only did she not make me feel bad, she switched up her playlist to remove the song and replace it with two I’m comfortable with. Second, she surprised me by somehow knowing my birthday is tomorrow –– FB? –– and giving me a card and much-appreciated hug after class. Normally I would have waited to open the latter until my actual Bday, but I’m dealing with some Ds –– personal challenges ––and needed a lift. To my delight, she gifted me with a TJ Maxx card! Woot woot! A little retail therapy is now on the agenda after church and teaching Zumba tomorrow…Finally, she showed up to class looking even more super cool and than usual in one of my favorites –– pink and green floral. I couldn’t resist snapping a pic and it put a smile on my face when I pulled out my phone to check the time after seeing The Incredibles2 with my kiddos – it’s worth the fourteen year wait –– and again after I used it to get a shot of my daughter after we bought and applied her first make up. I hope she’ll grow up to be as pretty inside as she is on the outside like my Zumba instructor friend. By taking time the to let me know she was thinking of me, my mentor Marina made my day!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose blogger posting for the last time as a forty-eight-year-old, I’m so thankful for friends (and Cohorts in Crime of the Good Kind) like Kay Fittes of High Heeled Success, who mailed me a bday card last week. And for my sister-in-law, Sue who brought me an early birthday gift –– Calvin Klein athletic wear and a TJ Maxx gift card –– when she was in town from Atlanta for a wedding last weekend. I’m so blessed to have these women ––my Swan Soul Sisters –– in my support system, especially when dealing with the challenges life keeps throwing my way. They may not even be aware that I’m going through anything, but I’m aware that they’re there. They’re all gifts from God for which I am eternally grateful. Because just when the Ds threaten to bring me down, God sends one of them –– like my mentor, Mariana –– along to make my day.
Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about acknowledging when someone makes your day on the home front or in the workplace? By telling them, you just may make theirs, too.