When It Snows It Pours

When It Snows It Pours

It’s Day 14 of being back to blogging and from start to finish this weekend was a case of when it snows it pours. With the weather forecasting a wintry mix of hail, sleet and 4-6″ of snow Saturday evening, I shopped for groceries to feed my growing kiddos for a long three day weekend. Knowing they eat lots of food and generate lots of laundry, after much deliberation my hubby and I decided not to have the vintage stackable at my tiny house repaired but to bite the bullet and replace it. Before that could happen the full drum of water in the washer had to be scooped out so it wouldn’t flood the floor when the unit was removed. After that, everything in the area had to be moved so side by side machines could be fitted into the laundry closet. In the deluge of rain that preceded the wintry mix, two burly men traipsed watery mud through the house while installing. Talk about when it snows it pours!

In the meantime, the things that had been moved included a gallon of paint that somehow tipped and spilled all over the floor without any of us being aware. By the time my son found it and my hubby flew out the door to Walmart for paint remover, the power had gone out at the store, causing them to refuse him admittance. Next he went to what we call “The Big House” for it but slipped, slid and helped others in a ditch only to get back and have the battery of our van die, stranding my hubby here and blocking me in.  when it snows it really pours!

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With all of these disasters (another D challenge that can negatively impact women’s personal or professional lives) occurring one after the other, there were moments when the weekend felt incredibly stressful, exhausting and expensive! And that’s not to mention how the smart TV, then gaming bundle wouldn’t allow my son to play Fortnite, which was the whole reason we bought all of it. This snafu necessitated unplanned Play Station purchase…

But instead of focusing only on the things that seemed to be negatives –– the snow, hail and sleet, the washer going out, the muddy house, the spilled paint, or the electronics issues, I was able to see the blessings. Safety and shelter from the storm and a strong man able and willing to shovel, a husband who is supportive of my dream of having this tiny house for personal and professional use, a daughter who initiated clean up, not only of the muddy kitchen but the spilled paint as well, and a son who picked up where she left off and scrubbed every ounce of paint up –– making the paint thinner my husband eventually returned with almost, but not quite, unnecessary….

I’m so thankful that God is still working on me and making me more Pink Collar Savvy & Chic so that I’m able to minimize barriers and maximize beauty and my best life.  Rather than the snow, I see the blessings falling all around me…Even after the microwave decided to go on the fritz! How is He still working on you? How do you view the personal and professional disasters that come your way?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

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Bad Move, Good Man

Bad Move, Good Man

It’s Day 13/14 of being back to blogging and tonight I witnessed a driver make a bad move that a good man turned around. Literally. Taking the highway exit to pick up my children tonight, as I neared the turn signal, I was startled to see a man standing on the busy road, which is no place for pedestrians in broad daylight, let alone after dark! The dark clothing he wore made his position even more precarious. Confused as I was by his presence, it definitely prevented me from turning from the far right lane. He must be insane, intoxicated or both, I thought before wondering if there’d been an accident or if his vehicle was disabled. That’s when I noticed a minivan whose driver had gotten into a mess by either purposely trying to make a U turn at the exit or by attempting to do so erroneously. Their bad move, however, didn’t end up as tragically as it could have thanks to the courageous act of what I now understood must be a good man.

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After halting traffic and directing the van to make the turn safely, he jogged back to his car, then merged onto the road. I could finally turn right, but I couldn’t get him off of my mind. At first all I could think was, God bless Him for putting his own safety at sake to be of service to someone else. Much like the Good Samaritan…Next, as I continued on to my destination, I pondered how what I’d just witnessed would make a great blog post. And that made me more appreciative of blogging –– the mindfulness and intentionality it adds to my personal and professional life. It’s such a joy to share these meaningful moments as they happen…One day, I’ll be able to look back on them through this blog. When I do, I’ll smile, as I did the rest of my drive, understanding how someone’s bad move was salvaged by a good man.

What Good Samaritan acts have you experienced on the home front or in the workplace? How can you be a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and commit random acts of kindness for someone in need of help?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Little Laundry Luxury

Little Laundry Luxury

It’s Day 12 of being back to blogging and I’m missing my little laundry luxury. This fall I began renting a tiny house for personal and professional use. Thanks to a  surplus of decor and furnishings from my marital home as well as so many generous house warming gifts from family and friends, it’s  now equipped it with all the necessities to make it function fully for me, my Pink Collar Savvy & Chic business and my kiddos.  And I’ve barely spent a penny on it! The fact that a closet in the kitchen was plumbed for a stackable washer dryer made it an even better fit for our needs, however, a new unit was not in my budget. Thankfully, my dear friend, Julie, owns a plumbing company with her husband. They not only supplied a vintage unit, they delivered and installed it. It’s run perfectly up until recently, but sadly the washer has given out. While I decide whether to try and have it repaired before purchasing replacing it, I’m sure missing this little laundry luxury!

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Little Laundry Luxury -Stackable concealed behind a Shabby Chic-inspired screen – TJ Maxx. Shabby Chic apron (lt.) – Home Goods, Simply Shabby Chic apron (rt.) – Target.

Like so many things in life, it’s easy to take the little things for granted. I’m happy to say, however, this wasn’t the case with my stackable. Receiving it blessed me so much –– yes, because I needed it, but also because it was so aesthetically pleasing and Shabby Chic. My fifteen-year-old daughter loves it, too and actually wanted to do her laundry as well as her brother’s just because it was cute and a novelty to use.

As I figure out what to do, and how –– the tub and then throw it in the dryer ––  to do laundry, I believe the experience will make me even more mindful about all of the small things that simplify life by saving time and so much of my energy. It makes me think of the women throughout time who didn’t and/or still don’t know the convenience of throwing a load of in the washer and letting it do the work so they could get on with theirs. It may sound crazy, but this perspective makes me more grateful than ever for the stackable and for the loss of this little laundry luxury.

What about you? What little luxury do you appreciate? Or take for granted? On the home front or the workplace? I hope reading this post inspires you to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic about your personal or professional life’s little luxuries.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Give Myself a Brake!

Give Myself a Brake!

It’s Day 12 of being back to blogging and I’m trying to give myself a brake! That’s not a spelling error. I mean a literal brake as in STOP! As a new Women’s Center Director, wife, mother, Life Coach, author, blogger, friend,  etc., etc., etc., there are times when I’m going so fast and furious that I just need to slow it down and breathe. After running around with my children taking them to an appointment after  one of the most emotionally grueling days ever, we went out to dinner. Next a trip to the book store turned into shopping. After that, I had to do more shopping for lunch food. Then my hubby felt neglected so I spent some time with him after ironing clothes and blogging. Then watched HGTV to escape to my favorite international location Across the Pond. Not the best thing to do if you need to get to bed, but my mind wouldn’t slow down enough to sleep long enough for me to give myself a brake!

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Me giving myself a brake – and a $2 Chai Tea Latte, nonfat, venti – at Barnes & Noble. Sweater dress and tights are oldies but a goodies. Turtleneck underneath purchased with a gift card from my hubby this Christmas. The floral handbag bought with one from him last Christmas. My daughter was the photographer and cut of boots…All Calvin Klein – TJ Maxx.

The one thing I neglected to do was my daily devotional. So tonight, I’m keeping this post short in order to finish my night right. Because of all the things that describe me, Christ follower is the one dearest to my heart. And I never want to give myself a brake on that. But I do hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and give yourself a brake – in your personal and professional life too.

Be savvy & chic ,

~Pink  Collar Coach

 

 

 

The Trouble with Triangulation x Three

The Trouble with Triangulation x Three

It’s Day 11 of being back to blogging and its recurring theme could have been “The Trouble with Triangulation x Three “. First, listening to my favorite Christian radio morning show hosts, Brandt and Sherry, on the commute in, Brandt asked her if she’d ever noticed two people arguing on social media and considered jumping in and telling them to stop having a go at each other. He went on to say that would break up the argument because they would both turn on her! Sherry laughed her infectious laugh and answered that she hadn’t intervened that way, however, she  shared how she’d private messaged them and suggested they deal with the situation 1:1 vs. publicly. The segment ended humorously, but the message about the trouble with triangulation is a serious one.

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Once at work, I encountered my second instance of triangulation when I spoke with someone who needed transportation. It was an unusually hectic day and while I didn’t mind taking the time to make the arrangements, it wasn’t time I had to spare. We agreed that they’d contact me when they were ready to be picked up. When I didn’t hear back from her, I learned that a third party had secured a ride for her! Neither she nor the woman I’d been trying to help thought to inform me that she no longer needed my assistance. This triangulation resulted in a waste of time and a breakdown in communication.

Finally, this evening I witnessed my fifteen-year-old daughter, Liv, get caught up in a triangulation web. One of her high school friends moved to another city but is still dating her boyfriend who’s in classes with my daughter. Apparently not only did  the guy cheat on her several times while she was here, now he manages to prevent her from even talking to any boys at her new school while he flirts with whoever he likes in front of my daughter. In her attempt to be a good friend, my daughter put her in the know. Now she’s caught in the middle of their long distance dating disaster. I cautioned her to try to stay out of it because if and when her bestie takes him back, she won’t want to hear a  word about his poor behavior, which will put a strain on their friendship. Triangulation collateral damage.

Knowing how God works in my life, the fact that God let me be a part of three different scenarios regarding triangulation means He’s trying to teach me something. Disputes, discussions, dating and so many other things are best handled 1:1. I’m going to try to put this principle into practice in my personal and professional life…And I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic, do the same, and avoid the trouble with triangulation, too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Winter Weather Writing Weekend

Winter Weather Writing Weekend

It’s Day 10 of being back to blogging and thanks to 13″ of snow here in Cincy, I’ve enjoyed a winter weather writing weekend! Since starting my position as a Women’s Center Director back in October, I hadn’t written a word of Hold on Her Heart, the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul. Yesterday and today, however, due to being snowed in, I not only made wonderful progress, I did it on my first book’s one year anniversary! Being a God-thing girl, the significance of that isn’t lost on me. I’m humbled and amazed that He continues to bless me with the will and the way to live my purpose of coaching, encouraging and inspiring women. This time in the form of a winter weather writing weekend!

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Balancing personal and professional responsibilities can feel daunting, but when they’re aligned, rather than conflicting, they can complement each other. In my situation, my first novel is drawn from personal experiences with domestic violence that led me to become involved in supporting other women to overcome it and other challenges. I call them Ds –– as in DV, divorce, dysfunction, depression, death, diagnosis, etc. (So much of life’s icky stuff starts with a D!) Twelve years after breaking out of the cycle of abuse with my wasband (he was my husband) and being homeless, my vocation is as the leader of a homeless shelter.  And my avocation allows me to run a life coaching agency, blog and write books. It’s all interconnected and part of the perfect plan God has for my life. Total God-thing!

Whether you are an aspiring author or a full-time homemaker who wants to be more intentional about the time you spend with your family, my prayer is that you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and maximize the opportunities God provides for you to do what feeds your soul and blesses others. On your lunch break. While the kids nap. In the still of the night. During the wee morning hours.  When He provides a winter weather writing weekend.

Hope you’ll check out my book on it’s anniversary!

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Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach 

 

 

Sister Let Me Be Your Shelter

Sister Let Me Be Your Shelter

It’s Day 7 of being back to blogging, and I wish every sister in need would let me be her shelter. Yes, I’m the director of a women’s center –– a homeless shelter for women and children –– and am blessed to be able to provide a safe physical place to stay. But I’m talking about something that goes beyond a building. I’m talking about being a safe emotional, relational and spiritual place of safety for women whose needs run so much deeper than needing a roof over their heads. I’ve poured out my heart to these hurting women all of my life –– in personal and professional settings –– prayerfully  believing they would see Christ in me and be drawn to Him. And I’m so thankful to say the times this has happened I’ve felt blessed and humbled beyond measure to that the Creator of the Universe would use little insignificant me. Today, though, I learned of the loss of a sister…Ugh! I don’t even have words to express my sorrow. Because I literally pleaded with her, begged –– in vain –– for this sister to let me be her shelter.

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As a believer, I’m going to hold on to the hope that this sweet, beautiful young woman may have recalled the truths I spoke over her life –– that Jesus loves her –– and that my prayers for her to accept the gift of new life He offers were answered. I have to choose to believe she is safe in His arms tonight. I also don’t want to lose another sister to the Ds (challenges women face i.e. drinking, drugs, depression, dysfunction, domestic violence, etc.) and have to let you know that if you are ever in need of a safe haven –– emotionally, relationally or spiritually –– I’m here. So be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and reach out sister. Let me be your shelter.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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