No Pain, No Gain (Jane Fonda Made the Phrase Popular in the Early 80s; It Still Motivates in 2018)

No Pain, No Gain (Jane Fonda Made the Phrase Popular in the Early 80s; It Still Motivates in 2018)

It’s Day 257 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and I’m feeling the truth of  “No pain, no gain.” Though Jane Fonda first made the phrase popular when she used it during her series of aerobic workout videos filmed in the early eighties to refer to working out past the pain of muscle aches, it’s still prevalent in 2018 and definitely applies to Zumba. As an instructor, I’m intentional about modeling best practices for my class participants and frequently encourage them to “Crunch it!”, meaning their bellies. I’ve yet to have a male in my class, therefore, we Pink Collar Zumba enthusiasts are free to speak openly of our struggles. Carrying a little tummy fat, though supposedly good for warding off osteoporosis, is a common D or barrier – this one related to differences in our hormones and bodies. And I use “we” in earnest. Following my hysterectomy, I’ve developed a bit of the muffin top…So, without knowing it, I must have crunched with fervor Friday morning because I’ve been “feeling the burn” – another Jane Fondaism – ever since! Anything that requires use of my abdomen muscles kills! Even so, I’ll take it if that means positive results as in – No pain, no gain!

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If you’re anything like me, you’re following at least some of the Olympics. With my love of dance, music, art, fashion, and most things creative, figure skating is my sport. As much as I enjoy ice dance, pairs, women’s and men’s figure skating, I’m equally inspired by the athletes’ stories of commitment, determination, sacrifice, and true grit. More than many of us can ever comprehend, the Olympians, and the hopefuls who didn’t make it, have  lived “No pain, no gain” lives for the chance to compete on the Olympic stage. Nearly forty years later, the phrase encompass more that sports-related goals. While I wouldn’t dare suggest I’ve sacrificed as much as Olympic athletes have to make my dreams come true,  I can relate to a comment an athlete once made in response to someone’s suggestion that they’d had an easy ride to the Olympics. “Dude, I haven’t watched TV in years.” That was me when I was finishing my novel. There certainly weren’t years, but there were so many weekends when my children were with their father that I came home from work Friday night and barely came up for air until Monday morning when I picked them up. It was grueling and much of regular life passed me by. Today I have a published novel. There wouldn’t be the gain – for the athletes, for me, for any of us – without the pain.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach, I’m a natural cheerleader. Encouraging others is just what I do. I’ll even take it a step further and say it’s who I am. Encouraging myself? That requires a little more effort…When I look in the mirror or try on clothes, or when the fan at Zumba blows up my shirt, I’m mortified by my belly. Where did all of that come from? I ask myself. Then I summon up my inner cheerleader and encourage myself:  It came from pregnancies, some resulting in children; others in heartbreaking miscarriages. It came from a medically necessary hysterectomy after nearly twenty years of  suffering. It came from living forty-eight years. It came from bearing the beautiful badge of being a woman. With that positive shift in perspective, I’m able to channel Jane and crunch it even harder: No pain, no gain!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, what’s your “No pain, no gain”? How can you encourage yourself to “crunch” on?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Pink Collar Coach Feeling Fabulous After Finding the Right Fit

Pink Collar Coach Feeling Fabulous After Finding the Right Fit

Day 103 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project has been purposeful indeed. As part of our trip to Georgia, it has been on the itinerary for us to make a stop at a store that specializes in bra fittings. My dear friend Kibby told me about it when she heard about our trip. Knowing as she does the struggles I’ve had with fitting my new body (post hysterectomy, hormone overload and a breast cancer scare), she was confident Livi Rae would be able to help. I’m so thankful she was right. And although it’s a little scary being so transparent online, I’m glad to be able to share my positive experience with you!

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Located in Kennesaw, Georgia. SO worth it if you’re in the Atlanta area..
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My favorite dressing room. The one with lots of pink of course. Each has a different theme but have beauty, comfort and function, along with inspiration, including crosses, in common. 

If you’re a Hyster Sister too, or just a woman who has had ever faced challenges with her body – and seriously, between aging, birth of children, hormonal issues, and medical challenges, who hasn’t in some form or another? – then, I’m here to tell you, there’s hope. Filled with a lot of anticipation and a little anxiety, I needn’t have worried. The ladies were all wonderful – professional and personable.

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Hard working women like this one make a stop at the store worth it and wonderful.

Refreshments are even provided. Great forethought considering it can take a while to find the right fit for the girls!

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One of the first things I saw upon entering. Lovely.

My personal fitter provided me with exceptional expertise, extra attention, and an experience I’ll never forget.

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Pink Collar Coach and Heather, Fitting Specialist Extraordinaire. 

Heather did more than fit me, she helped me to make peace with my new body, which was some fete considering my back is not quite 30″ and my bust size, well…I’m at peace with it but am not going to publicize it! Calvin Klein cold sholder, stretch skinny jeans and plaid shirt to ward off the cold! I like his clothes because they’re stylish and fit me!

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Pink Collar Coach with some of my purchases, including shapewear to address other areas.  : )                                                                                       The bras will have to be shipped after the backs are taken in. Calvin Klein bag and slides. 
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Gorgeous dresser. Had to get a pic with it. Feeling fabulous after finally finding the right fit!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Chick who is so happy to have found a place where it’s not about the cup or the width of the band, but about the woman wearing it, I hope you ladies will visit the website, and possibly the store. Then you too can feel truly fabulous about finding the right fit!

 

 

 

~Pink Collar Coach

Pink Collar Revelations; Savvy & Chic Cover Ups

Pink Collar Revelations; Savvy & Chic Cover Ups

Day 76 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project was another that whizzed by without me capturing it in a blog post. But as I shared in Post 74, I’m alright with that. Being on vacation has provided a break from my normal professional and personal routine, and it’s given me permission to show myself some grace. Even so, I was still intentional about gathering blogging content in the form of experiences and photos. Blogging consistently has added so much richness and texture to my life in that way and I continue to be grateful that it’s caused me to live more purposefully.

When I renewed my commitment to the writing life and blogging regularly, in my research, I found that bloggers who are genuine and transparent are those who resonate most with readers. It’s scary to put myself out there like this, but since I coach women to own their own sense of personal style, I want to be honest about my own struggles. I’ve always been petite. I’ve been 5’1, size 2-4, between 100-120 lbs. my entire life. In my teens and 20s I was practically a stick. In my 30s I became curvy with the birth of my now tween and teenage children. Then, three years ago, in my mid 40s, a medically necessary hysterectomy and synthetic hormones threw me into extra curvy all over. It’s been such a hard adjustment. It’s as if I went in for one surgery and came out with augmentation – everywhere.

While many women have told me they’d love to have my body, I’ve found it hard to dress it. And I don’t like the extra attention I get from men or women who make comments about what what one friend called my “Jessica Rabbit figure”. Strange as it may seem, I don’t want to be referred to as sexy. I just want to be comfortable in my own skin. I think that’s what all women want. Regardless if we think we’re too thin, too heavy, too short, too tall, too straight, too curvy, most of us want to be able to love and dress our bodies in a way we feel good about. And for me, I also want to be and feel as healthy as I can.

I thought dancing – hard – four to five times a week would cause me to feel better about my new body. For the most part I do, but any of the additional fatty tissue I had in what I call the 3 Bs (boobs, belly and butt) has turned to solid muscle and rather than appearing leaner make me look like a thoroughbred horse. (By the way – the first picture of me on the horseback yesterday is what got me on this train of thought. I had on my bathing suit under the shirt and was shocked at the difference that made!).  Now, I’ve come to the realization that unless I can defy aging, this new body is here to stay. So I might as well embrace it.

This vacation has involved a lot of water sports, so I’ve made good use of the cover ups I invested in knowing while I worked on addressing my hang ups regarding my curves, I’d need to dress myself in a way that allows me to participate in the water activities I love while allowing me to be as modest as I can for a petite full-figured girl. Never thought I’d be described that way but pictures don’t lie. What a revelation…

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Pink Collar Coach at bow of motor boat. Looking and feeling self-conscious without cover-up. Calvin Klein swimsuit, sun hat, glasses, and cross body bag.
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Me, Pink Collar Coach confident and comfortable  in a long-sleeve Calvin Klein cover up.                Lightweight, breathable fabric.
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At the Marina after the boat ride. It got hot on the water so I switched to a short-sleeve Calvin Klein cover-up. Easy, breathable, no hassle, quick dry fabric that can be tossed in a beach bag.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who is learning the beauty of both/and I’m trying to embrace the fact that it’s no longer “I”m petite.” or even “I’m petite and gained weight with my hysterectomy, so now I have to loose it.” It’s “I’m petite and extra curvy, so now I have to dress the body I have so I feel comfortable in my own skin and confident.”

I guess vacation really is letting me show myself grace. I hope my wearing my hyster sister heart on my sleeve encourages you to show yourself some too. Hysterectomy or not….

~Pink Collar Coach