Minimizing Challenges & Maximizing Chances

Minimizing Challenges & Maximizing Chances

It’s Day 309 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Challenge and I’ve spent the last few days practicing what I preach – as in minimizing my challenges and maximizing every chance I get. I’m not gonna lie about it – the devil has been busy throwing every D he can my way – dysfunctional relationships, discouragement, discrimination. It’s like what I say about coaching around the Ds – You name it, I deal with it in coaching. Well, you name it and I’ve dealt with it in my personal or professional life recently.  But rather than letting the Ds get me down, I’ve let push me forward – to promote the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic brand, to grow the coaching  agency and to promote my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, while working on the sequel, Hold On Her Heart. It feels good to be able to accomplish what I encourage my coaching clients to do: Minimize the challenges and maximize the chances!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach – Minimizing barriers and maximizing my best life in another oldie but goodie Calvin Klein jersey dress, infinity scarf, handbag, boots,                          & fun two-tone tights that tie the colors together.                                                                                       All TJ Maxx except for the boots found at Goodwill for $11 – brand spanking new!

After teaching Zumba yesterday, I did a complimentary life coaching session with a potential client and she found it so beneficial I didn’t have to ask for the commitment – she initiated. It’s exciting to see my list of clients grow slowly but surely – and they’re truly my target audience – professional women who are facing personal barriers that negatively impact their performance. By addressing their Ds, I prevent derailing and support them in living their best lives and being the best savvy and chic version of themselves. And I try to do it all to His glory. When there are tears during a session – often tears of release – because they can finally talk about their struggles – I know I’m living my purpose. Wonderful as it is that coaching clients “make the cash register ring”, that knowledge that I’m serving women is what I value as priceless.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur, getting a business up and going is not for the faint of heart. I probably work harder now than I did in my highest level position working for others. Though I’m sometimes viewed as someone who might not have gumption – that has more to do with my shorter stature and softer speaking voice than anything else – I do show initiative to make things happen. That characteristic is serving me well in trying to make Pink Collar Savvy & Chic work. And I need all the get up and go I can muster when the Ds threaten to make me feel like giving in instead. On my own, I can do nothing. But when I take my eyes off of the challenges, and focus on the chances I have to live the personal and professional life God has for me, I’m able to minimize and maximize on.

How about you? How are you being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose to minimize the challenges you’ve faced in your personal or professional life lately? How are you maximizing the chances your’e been given on the home-front or in the workplace?

To preview or purchase the print or Kindle version of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon at http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9. It can also be purchased at Barnes and Noble.com at https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seasons-of-her-soul-tammi-ector/1127818446?ean=9780998966359. Thank you!

Be savvy &   chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

What Will I Gain When I Lose The Gummis? – Dealing with The Ds: Diet!

What Will I Gain When I Lose The Gummis? – Dealing with The Ds: Diet!

It’s Day 255 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and for the last week I’ve been asking myself, What will I gain when I lose the Gummi Bears? In Kindergarten I got accepted into a bilingual magnet school. But that wasn’t all I got. From the moment my 1st grade German teacher passed out authentic Haribo Gummi Bears as a reward, I got hooked! Forty-two years later, gummi bears are still my go-to candy. Given a choice between gummy candy and chocolate, the former will win with me every time. Sure, I enjoy other gummy candies, like Good and Plenty and am especially fond of sour gummy candies such as  Sour Patch Kids and Sour Worms. In fact, the only thing I like more than than Gummi Bears is sour Gummi Bears! Though I consumed more than my share of Gummi Bears in my twenties and thirties (many of them intended as treats for my students when I was a teacher), I only discovered sour Gummi Bears in my forties. Coated in sugar, they contain 20 more calories and more grams of sugar per bag than their regular counterparts. They’ve become a D (a barrier – diet)! Add that to the weight I naturally put on following a complete hysterectomy four years ago, and something’s gotta give: My Gummi Bears! It’s a true sacrifice, but I have so much to gain if I lose them…

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Though I’m not the woman on the left, I’m not the one on the right either. I’m in the middle and would like to move a little to the lighter side. Please know, I don’t feel one is better or more attractive,   I just want to feel healthier and fit all around.

In case you’re a regular reader and you’ve seen pictures of me that make you question why I think I need to lose weight, I’m gonna be real and tell you clothes hide a lot! I’m only 5’1″ and very small boned. That being the case, any extra weight has very little surface on which to spread, so it settles on my bust, tummy and thighs. Because of the early menopause hormonal changes, including my metabolism grinding to a screeching halt, sugar just seems to turn to fat. So, as much as it may look like I’m fairy trim (then again, maybe I don’t), I’m not at my healthiest weight (I don’t weigh myself, but go by how my clothes fit). If it weren’t for eating as healthy as I can – apart from the gummy candy! – and dancing seven – that’s right – seven days a week, I’d blow up like a balloon! I don’t say that in jest – obesity runs in my family…Besides, I can’t afford, nor do I want, a whole new wardrobe! In short, I love Gummi Bears but they’re not my friend!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach, fitness instructor and lifestyle blogger, I want to model a healthy lifestyle! That’s why I’m excited that when I ran out of Gummi Bears this week, I didn’t buy more but replaced them with low fat yogurt. Positive a step as that was, I’m not gonna lie, it’s been hard! Working throughout the day without my go-to snack, watching the Olympics, reading a book in bed – I wanted to cave. But I kept asking myself, What will you gain when you lose the Gummis? Then I answered, I get to keep my clothes. I get to save money not buying new clothes. I get to look and feel my best. I get to model healthy practices for my coaching clients and Zumba participants. I get to lose the guilt from overindulging. I get to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose…I could go on and on, so I’m soldiering on!

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about losing one thing in your diet? What will you gain by doing so?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Working on a Book Signing for Seasons of Her Soul!

Working on a Book Signing for Seasons of Her Soul!

It’s Day 240 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I spent some time this evening in one of my favorite places on earth -Barnes and Noble – working on a book signing for Seasons of Her Soul. Some of you readers have asked about this and I’m pleased to let you know it should be a reality soon. I’m also in the process with LifeWay Christian Bookstore, one of the few brick and mortar booksellers still in operation here in the Cincinnati area. Being a debut novelist makes it challenging to break through giant brick and mortar stores like B&N, and even the ones that seem like little mom and pop ventures in comparison. But you know me – I’m all about minimizing barriers and maximizing beauty and women’s best personal and professional lives, so now that I know both of these support local authors, I’m going after it with a sledge hammer and won’t stop working until I’ve scheduled some Seasons of Her Soul book signings!

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While there, I picked up one of my favorite sources of inspiration, Artful Blogging, and browsed through some other decorating magazines. Then I made my usual perusal of the Christian fiction section and was delighted to find an author I’ve never read. I’ve always devoured books and consume a healthy diet of authors with different styles as a way to feed my creativity. Trying new ones helps me broaden my horizons and hone my craft. Feeling as satisfied as could be because I was in a bookstore with a copy of Seasons of Her Soul, I couldn’t resist laying it on the coffee table along with these other delectable treats. Twas so sweet to imagine someone discovering it and plopping down in a comfy chair with a latte to savor it and my novel!

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose debut novelist, I’m savoring this sweet season in my journey. I say that not to flaunt it, but to encourage you. While this evening was blissful, the work day was fraught with Ds brought on by one dastardly dude! But I’m determined not to be derailed. I’ve worked too hard to build a life I love, including becoming a published author. No hater or saboteur is going to knock that down. Barnes and Noble isn’t the only thing built of brick and mortar! In fact, I’ll even say I’m stronger and more sturdy because I’m built on the Firm Foundation, the Solid Rock. That will hold me in good stead as I continue working on book signings for Seasons of Her Soul!

What Pink Collar Ds or challenges are you facing that feel as impenetrable as a solid structure? Perhaps it’s that personal situation where you can’t make a breakthrough? Or maybe you feel like you’re hitting a brick wall in your professional life… How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose to minimize those barriers and to maximize your best life on the home-front and in the workplace?

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

Women Feel Better When We’re Dancing

Women Feel Better When We’re Dancing

It’s Day 230 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and yesterday reinforced how women feel better when we’re dancing. As I mentioned in Saturday’s post (I didn’t hit publish until after midnight so it showed up on Sunday), I took a nasty tumble getting into the shower that morning as I prepared to present at the High Heeled Success and Pink Collar Savvy & Chic women’s workshop on networking. After falling my first concern was about how it would impact my performance at the event; my second was It’s going to hurt more tomorrow, so how will I teach Zumba? Thankfully, pain meds and prayer got me through Saturday, but Sunday morning I woke up so sore and stiff, I thought I’d have to do low intensity to get through class. What I didn’t bank on was having about twenty high energy women show up ready to go full throttle. I shared my mishap and then showed them my proof copy of Seasons of Her Soul. Their combined empathy, enthusiasm and excitement throughout made me feel as if I had wings! I was able to lead the class pain free. Women really do feel better when we’re dancing!

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Lovely Zumba-loving Ladies. A few left before we could grab a pic –  the energy is still evident! Me, Pink Collar Coach, front center in black, gray and white Calvin Klein performance wear.

Lest you wonder why I’m using the collective term “women”, I’m not the only one who expressed feeling better. There are at least two women in attendance recovering from surgeries, but they attend because a modified dance session is better than none. One Sunday class lover returned because I reinstated the class after a few years without it. The first two classes she was miserable, but this week she was back in her full-on dance zone. Another let me know life has settled down in all other areas so she can now resume dancing, which she’s missed. A young college student, a true Dancing Queen, has expressed interest in becoming a certified instructor. And a Zumba frequent flier who attends classes throughout the week, confessed she gets so into it she has to make herself not sing along so she won’t disturb other dancers. Having one of my mentors attend class and lead a routine and express that I’m doing a great job was so cool and encouraging. An Indiana transplant who just moved here for her husband’s job is finding her tribe with Zumba and I believe will become a friend of mine – she’s another Tammy (with a “y”). And I had the joy of watching at least three newcomers fall in love with Zumba right before my eyes. A beautiful thing to behold. Once the bug bites you, you’re a goner – in the best way!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Zumba instructor, I’m humbled by the way my classes have been received and feel so blessed to be able to serve women in this way. It’s not just dancing, it’s ministry for me…Case in point, I received a text message following yesterday’s class from a woman I hadn’t seen in Zumba in a long time. Knowing that she’s been dealing with some major Ds (challenges), I’d been concerned about her. She told me she ran into one of the other instructors who let her know about my class. She thought it was wonderful and plans to attend each week. She’s also going to read my book and do some life coaching with me as she continues to pursue her best personal and professional life. All because women really do feel better when we’re dancing!

Oh, and doing my first book signing EVER for a someone who brought her copy wasn’t too shoddy either!  ; )

How about you? What makes you feel better? Are you like the women in my class who fight through the Ds to do it? How can you incorporate more of what makes you feel better into your personal and professional life?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase the ebook or print copy of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.

http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj

 

Dumping The Ds (Pink Collar Challenges)

Dumping The Ds (Pink Collar Challenges)

It’s Day 225 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project has me feeling like it’s time for me to do a dump of the Ds.  As a life coach who uses a holistic coaching approach to facilitate The Swan Experience: Minimizing barriers; maximizing women’s beauty and best professional lives through total transformation, I specialize in the Ds. Ds are the challenges Pink Collar women face that can negatively impact personal or professional performance. In doing so, I prevent derailing and promote Swans living their best savvy & chic lives on the home front and in the workplace. That being the case, I shouldn’t be surprised that the D behind most challenges – the devil – doesn’t like what I’m trying to do, or me for that matter, and is going to do everything in his power to destroy me at best and discourage me at the least. I felt this intensely today and know it’s time to dump the Ds.

When I was the director of a life coaching program that supported at risk individuals in removing barriers to their sustainable success, one of the most impactful steps on their  journey was “Letting Go of the Past”, better known as “The Dump”. During the process, coachees were given the opportunity to write down the negative things that have happened in their life on a post-it. Next, they were encouraged to share each post-it, then to throw it into the center of the room. At the end of the time, all of the post-its containing the negative events were taken outside and burned, which symbolized letting them go.

This simulated dump serves two purposes: 1) It allows me to put the challenges I’m facing down so I can let them go, 2) It provides you with a list of the challenges I write about and coach around.

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  • Dysfunction
  • Drug and alcohol exposure (and/or abuse)
  • Domestic violence
  • Depression
  • Desperation
  • Deception
  • Destitution
  • Divorce
  • Domestic relations court and issues
  • Disobedient children
  • Delinquent preteens and teens
  • Diagnoses
  • Diet and weight issues
  • Debt
  • Death
  • Derailing
  • Discrimination
  • Disenfranchisement
  • Disasters
  • Disappointment
  • Discouragement
  • Drama

Now that I’ve made this list, I feel a bit better because I’m not dealing with everything on it! It puts things into perspective and frees me to let go of them. Also, a problem shared is half solved, so I appreciate being able to share with you. Hopefully if you or someone in your life is dealing with any of these Ds, I hope you’ll give yourself permission to let them go. I encourage you to talk to someone who is psychologically safe (won’t judge you, minimize your challenges, tell you what to do – just listens actively and openly).

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Pink Collar Coach, I admit today I needed a dose of my own medicine while dealing with my Ds. I needed to minimize barriers and to maximize the beauty and best things in my life personally and professionally. Like my husband, home, and debut novel (now there’s an awesome D!). And rather than focusing on the little d, the devil, I need to focus on GOD, my DELIVERER, who brings me out of them all. Dumping my Ds was just what the Good Doctor ordered.

How about you? Are you dealing with some of the challenges listed above? Do you need to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and dump your Ds?

Be    savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon for the print or Kindle version at:

http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj

Thank you!

 

Merry & Bright in Myrtle Beach

Merry & Bright in Myrtle Beach

Day 227 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project has me feeling merry & bright in Myrtle Beach. Before everyone woke up, my sweet hubby and I got to enjoy breakfast together at the Sea Captain’s House, an iconic restaurant on Ocean Boulevard, located right next door to our condo. I’ve always loved eating here because being seated on the covered patio affords expansive views of the Atlantic Ocean. And if you’re seated in just the right spot, you also get a glimpse of the lush tropical landscaping and colorful flowers that make it look like summer in July instead of the end of the year. One of my favorite things is though the restaurant uses traditional colors for its Christmas decor, when paired with coastal beach, it’s right up my Shabby Chic alley. I’m so glad I didn’t let all of my professional responsibilities stop me from making this trip. Instead, I’m staying on top of my tasks and still feel merry and bright in Myrtle Beach.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach in front of the Sea Captain’s House. There are no walkable restaurants in my suburb back home, so being able to walk outside and across a path for a meal is a treat!
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Our breakfast view of palm trees, sun, sand, sky and miles of ocean – just steps beyond our table.
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Me surrounded by chef Santas, wreaths, garland and lights. Love the juxtaposition of a beach scene painting with the rough-hewn massive fireplace. My hubby took the picture, so he’s a little cut off, but the Sea Captain visible in the left corner and I are dressed alike.                                          I’m in Calvin Klein trumpet sleeve sweater, jeans, booties and handbag.

We’ve been escaping to Myrtle Beach for the last few years because it’s the only way our big fat blended family can truly have time together to bond as our own little unit without other things at home encroaching. Because my husband is an amazing steward of our resources, we’re able to stay in the penthouse. We leave Christmas evening and travel all night so the children (two grown, one a year shy of being an adult, a teen and a tween) can sleep throughout. Now we have the oldest’s four-year-old with us too. That first year, we were like the first half of that Bookin.com commercial where the children lose a shoe and get sick on the flight then arrive at the hotel looking totally bedraggled. Now we’re like the second half when the glee on their faces once they see the panoramic view of the ocean causes the parents to make the score motion as the voice actor says, “Bookin.yeah!”

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Coach, I try to be careful about not posting in a way that makes it look as if I’m living the meme – or the perfect picture. I feel so incredibly blessed to be able to make take this trip – especially considering how a family crisis prevented us from being able to last year as planned. Not having been in two years, one would think I would have been raring to get on the road considering the fact that it’s been a tough two years. Instead, because it’s the first year my children couldn’t be with us, I went into a funk of depression (a D) and almost stayed behind. Thankfully, my husband used some tough love that caused me to come to my senses. As soon as I saw that water, I was like “Bookin.yeah!” myself!  Then, a started reading a novel set in Myrtle Beach! Talk about confirmation I’m meant to be here. If not for my hubby I would have been home feeling down and dark. That makes it even more special that I’m here feeling merry & bright in Myrtle Beach.

If you’re facing the Ds (challenges), how can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose to minimize the obstacle and maximize the opportuities in front of you? Even if a vacation is not in your near future, how can you bring more of the people and places you love into your life this season?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Debut Novel, Seasons of Her Soul, Book Cover Preview

Debut Novel, Seasons of Her Soul, Book Cover Preview

It’s Day 225 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and between completing final revisions approval for the publisher, Christmas, and traveling, I’m just getting around to officially sharing a preview of the new cover for my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, which releases in January. With all of the above, I haven’t blogged in five days (my longest stretch since I began doing it daily in May), and hadn’t even officially wished everyone a Merry Christmas! I hope you and yours did and are still enjoying the celebration of baby Jesus’ birth. As a believer, He’s truly the best gift I’ve ever been given. Completing those final revisions and simultaneously receiving an email with a preview of the new cover design with some tweaks I requested on the original is a close second!

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If you’re a Facebook friend (I’d love to get a request), you may have seen the first cover preview and think this one isn’t much different. The main change is the color of the header and font. Pink lover that I am, the previous burnt orange color just didn’t do it for me. Now I love this wine color – a softer shade that complements the blush background as well as Lee’s (the heroine’s) pink dress and lip color. Another change is the expanded image of Lee on the back. Previously her bouquet of flowers wasn’t visible. For as long as I can remember I wanted flowers on a pink book cover, so when I found this image, it seemed the best of both worlds. I’m so thankful the designer was able to make it work. The price, bar code and ISBN# will be added to the blank space. Finally the title and my name were enlarged on the spine. The blurb is not correct, so the book will be released with the revised version…What do you think?

The best part of the book cover is that it captures Lee’s essence. The search for the right model seemed endless, but when I found the one with the flowers and dug deeper for more pics of her, I landed on The One. It was as if Lee jumped off the page at me. I’m the type of person who has to look at all of the choices just to be sure… But after scouring countless images, I didn’t need to look at another one. The search was over and I emailed my publisher with the subject line: I’ve Found Lee Edwards! This was confirmed when when I posted the original preview on FB and got great feedback from those who’ve read the book stating the same thing. I even have a male beta reader who responded, “It depicts Lee perfectly!”.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose reader, who believes that we really do read to know we’re not alone, in our trials or our triumphs, I also believe other readers will love Lee. Yes, she’s beautiful on the outside, but her inside is made up of an internal fortitude that will make you root for her. She’s flawed, but she’s also full of faith. And most of all, I believe that as she experiences challenges (The Ds) common to women that can be so fierce we fear we may lose our souls, readers too will experience heartache, hurt, healing and hope.

If you’d like to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and serve as a beta (test) reader, please let me know and I’ll get a copy to you. Any feedback on the cover is also welcome! Thank you!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach