How the Ds Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks (Pt. 1)

How the Ds Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks (Pt. 1)

It’s Day 317 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m sharing “How the Ds (personal and professional challenges that negatively impact work performance) Derail Talent and Cause Professional Train Wrecks. I’m doing so in preparation for speaking at  at DisruptHR Cincinnati this week. To learn more about it, please click on the link > cincinnati. The actual title of my presentation is “HR Superheroes to the Rescue! – Don’t Let the Ds Derail Your Talent! – Keep Them on Track”,  but I’m sharing half of the scenarios (only 15 seconds to speak on the content/correlating slide) here in hopes of getting feedback. I’ll share the other half and what can done to prevent the Ds from derailing in tomorrow’s post. Thanks!

The Ds Derail Careers! 

Grabber: Don’t let the Ds – the personal and/or professional challenges that negatively impact workplace performance – derail your talent! Instead, be an HR Superhero and keep them on track! Given your roles, I suspect you’re familiar with the Ds. But let me share some of the train wrecks I’ve witnessed because of them. Details have been changed to protect the victims – and the perpetrators.

Death – A mid level leader and single mom whose brother had terminal cancer. She’d been expecting his death for months. What she didn’t expect was to bury her brother only to have her healthy mother fall ill a few months later. She experienced two deaths in as many months and got buried under her workload after burying two of the people  closest to her.

Debt – An administrative assistant who returned to the workforce to supplement her husband’s income. When he lost his job and she became the sole bread winner, they felt into debt so harmful to their family it required intensive care through a financial freedom training program to resuscitate her finances. Her job couldn’t be saved.

Delinquent Teens – An education specialist just started a promising new position when her teenager was arrested for assault. She had to take off time she didn’t have to attend the arraignment, subsequent meetings at the juvenile detention center and family counseling. Stress caused her to make a serious mistake that resulted in her being fired on the spot.

Depression – A nurse who experienced severe postpartum depression following the birth of her first child. Eventually she had a breakdown, was placed on the psychiatric ward, and on heavy anti-depressants to return to work. Her career suffered as much from the stigma about her depression as she did from the episode itself.

Diet & Fitness – A nutrition specialist at a prominent pediatric hospital was dangerously overweight herself. Teenage patients often commented on it and parents complained to her supervisor about her ability to advise them around best practices when they felt there was a disconnect between her suggestions and her own diet and fitness practices.

Differing Abilities – A data analyst for a health test results company whose childhood meningitis rendered her 80% deaf in one ear and 40% in the other. Though a proficient lip reader, team members consistently turned away from her when discussing tasks and then reported her for not completing them in a timely manner, which was reflected in her performance reviews.

Disasters – An event planner and single mom in transition out of poverty had landed her dream job and was steadily building her client list. But when a plumbing issue caused sewage to flood her home, the threat of children’s services getting involved and the cost of the repairs prevented her from being fully present at work and nearly took her under.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach whose seen all of the above and experienced  much of it myself and as a Speaker who wants to deliver great content for the 200 attendees.

I hope you’ll  be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and weigh in. Did this intro grab your attention? Are these short scenarios compelling? Have you or anyone you know experienced any of these Ds? Did they derail you? Anything else? Thanks!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Short Story – Ava Turns Her Avocation Into A Vocation – Post 2 0f 3

Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Short Story – Ava Turns Her Avocation Into A Vocation – Post 2 0f 3

It’s Day 66 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, I’m getting this post in just under the wire. Thanks to those who read Post I. I hope you’ll enjoy this continuation.

Ava Turns Her Avocation Into A Vocation – Post II

Ava did indeed get to college and became a middle school teacher, just as Aunt Bitsy predicted. Hired straight out of college, she was the youngest teacher on staff at a small, private Christian school. All of the students viewed her as “the cool” teacher because of her hands on approach. Most days her class could be found acting out plays they’d written or erupting volcanoes they’d built in class. Between teaching and coaching the school’s squad for the football and basketball seasons, Ava couldn’t say which she enjoyed more. She’d earned a scholarship to the University of Cincinnati and easily made the cheerleading squad, making her long held dream come true. And her former UC Bear Kitten status definitely added to her cool factor with the students. She really didn’t like the notoriety, but since the tween boys were in awe of her, they went out of their way to be respectful. At barely five feet, her height made her a great flyer on the UC squad but probably wouldn’t have served her well as far as classroom management was concerned.

Not interested in marrying until she was much older, Ava had some good friends and was content to remain single and to go on living in the small apartment she shared with one of them near the school. As fulfilled as she was, the words stenciled above the doors of the sanctuary at the church where she grew up niggled at her. Worship begins when you enter; Service begins when you depart. Ava felt as though she was serving, had in fact gone into what she considered full time ministry at a Christian school so she could serve. Still, she felt she could be doing something more. She was off in the summers, so she hoped she’d figure out what she could do to serve in another way then.

“What do you think about volunteering this summer?” Ava’s roommate, Collette asked soon after their first school year ended. Collette was a full-time tutor at the same school.

Ava’s curiosity was immediately piqued. “Where?”

“Someone from Women Helping Women was the speaker at my church’s Mother’s Day Brunch and she passed out information about volunteering after her presentation.” Collette dug the brochure out of her handbag and looked it over before continuing. “The organization helps female victims of domestic violence. The training is forty hours. There’s an option for daytime that’s a full week or there’s an evening option that’s spread out over several weeks”.

“Hmm,” Ava responded thoughtfully. The idea sounded as if it could be the answer to her prayers. “Since we’re off, I say if we’re going to do it, let’s just take the plunge and do the solid week,” she finished with a grin.

“So you’re in?” Collette returned the grin.

“I’m all in!” Ava exclaimed as she jumped up and held out her hand for the flier so she could read all about it herself.

A few weeks later, after completing an intensive training that included an in-depth look at domestic violence, indicators that someone may be in an abusive relationship, how to support victims and survivors, including helping them to create a safety plan, an overview of the women’s shelter, and how law enforcement and the courts are involved, both young women felt as though some of their innocence was gone. They’d both fought to reign in their emotions when a rape kit was introduced to their group and the facilitator walked them through what the woman experiences during the examination.

When asked where they thought they’d see themselves volunteering, Collette was torn between wanting to work with the children at the shelter while their mothers attended counseling or supporting the women during the hospital examinations.

Ava had no trouble stating where she’d best fit. She’d known long before they visited the courthouse where a volunteer attorney vividly painted the picture of what happens inside the court room. How too often the woman is re-victimized from the stand. Ava had known it back when she was nine years old and had narrowly escaped being a victim herself. She’d lost her voice then; her ability to stand up for herself. She’d vowed to be a cheerleader for herself and other girls and women one day. She hadn’t known the grown up term back then but stated it in a clear, strong voice now.

“I’m going to be an advocate. A women’s court advocate.”

The rest of that summer, Ava took every opportunity to be at the courthouse to cheer on the women who had to testify against husbands, boyfriends, exes, and even family members. Each time she picked a woman up, most often from the shelter, and escorted her to court, she began advocating long before they were physically together. “God, I pray you will give this woman the courage and strength to speak up and to tell her story in a way that moves the judge to sentence the perpetrator in a way that he’ll not be able to hurt her or her children anymore,” she’d pray alone and then with the woman if she was open to that.

Then, right before the woman was summoned into the hearing or trial, Ava would ask if she could take her hand. “Do you mind if I pray?” By that point, most women welcomed it, no matter their beliefs. “God, You have not given your daughter a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind. May she feel Your presence and peace and speak the truth boldly. Amen.” Most of the time, the woman would then squeeze her hand, square her shoulders and march in to not only fight, but to win.

It was in times like those that Ava most loved being a real cheerleader for women. So much so that she began to wonder how she could do it not as her volunteer work or avocation, but as her career. Ava wanted to make being an advocate her vocation.

Stay tuned for Post 3!