Me & My Baby in Blue

Me & My Baby in Blue

It’s Day 346 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and when my husband and I both showed up for a meeting we had this morning wearing the same color, I had to get a picture of me and my baby in blue. Though I’d love to be, it’s not often we’re dressed as a matched set! In fact, sometimes when we’re going out and I try to find out what he’s wearing so I can coordinate, he’ll evade the question just to avoid being match match-y. I think I get why he chafes at this but enjoy having pictures of us that look like we belong together. Besides, my OCD neurosis about matching messes with me if our colors are too off! That wasn’t the case today, so I had my middle stepson snap this shot of me and my baby in blue.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach & My Baby in Blue on our back deck. Not only are our colors alike, we’re both in Calvin Klein. It’s my favorite shirt of his because it brings out his blue eyes. I’m in a sleeveless floral shell and gray skirt I’ve had for years. The handbag is from last spring and the shoes were a Christmas gift. The cardigan is a recent forever to keep find – I collect them in all colors because I’m a freeze cat and wear them all spring and summer. All TJ Maxx.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose wife, I love it when my husband and I are on the same page clothing wise. But it’s even better when we’re lock step in life. Though we are dissimilar in many ways – a couple version of Mutt and Jeff in height, a consummate athlete and an artist, a manly man and fru fru as it gets – we are alike in some of the areas where it counts. We share the same faith, servant’s heart, and sincere desire to coach, encourage and inspire others. And though we don’t always see eye to eye (literally – ha ha!), we’ve got each other’s backs. Like the trees surrounding us, in many ways, he’s been my shelter… I’m blessed to have gotten it right with this one! Even though we sometimes clash, when we’re in harmony, we function like two parts of a whole. Today was one of those days, so I’m glad to have captured me and my baby in blue.

What do you think of couples coordinating?  Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about capturing life’s special moments on the home front and/or at work – however you’re dressed?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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Seasons of Her Soul Coffee & Connect Book Signing Preparation Celebration!

Seasons of Her Soul Coffee & Connect Book Signing Preparation Celebration!

It’s Day 342 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m rewarding myself with a Seasons of Her Soul Coffee & Connect Book Signing Preparation Celebration! (Details here – Seasons of Her Soul Book Signing – Coffee Beans & Brew – Final). It’s fourteen hours until the event- and other than this post, packing the car, ironing my dress and doing my nails, I’m done for the night! Woot! Woot! It may sound like there’s still a lot to do, but for the first time in like ever, I’m not going to be up until the wee hours getting ready. But I could have. Wednesday, when I was in full-on decorating outdoor spaces mode, I almost put off shopping for/styling the event until today but am now thanking the Lord I came to my senses and spent most of yesterday and today on it. After teaching Zumba this morning, I attempted to wrestle the Square Chip Card Reader Beast to the ground, however, sage advice from someone who owns one was to avoid the anxiety this time around. The bad news is that means cash and checks only tomorrow. The good news is, with that off my plate, I put the time to much better use and nailed down final details. When I made the final purchase – new eyeliner and mascara at Kroger – I couldn’t resist treating myself to not just my regular green tea latte (non-fat of course), but to a Matcha Green Creme (still non-fat but filled in the dome lid). YUM! The perfect way to celebrate my strategic Seasons of Her Soul Coffee & Connect Book Signing Preparation!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, in business casual for running around on preparation errands.                      I’m loving the floral trend this spring – so me – & mixing & matching them. A sleeveless top for outdoor temps & a coral shrug for indoor air conditioning. The pants, slides & bag pick up the rose & burgundy in the top. And I’ve got to stop taking pics with glasses on top of my head! ; )                                                                                                                                        All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx. My signing is at another coffee shop but I’m equal opportunity! 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose debut novelist, you can probably tell I’m excited! The thought of meeting readers I’ve never met and seeing faces I haven’t for a long time makes me giddy. In fact, even though I’m a bit exhausted, I can imagine not being able to sleep…But I’ll definitely get more than if I’d procrastinated. Thankfully, I’m becoming a little more savvy and chic and practicing what I preach to my coaching clients. Because I am, as soon as the cars loaded, I can eat my sushi dinner, enjoy my latte for dessert, paint my nails and get back to reading my Francine Rivers’ novel. I’ve always wanted to be her when I grow up as a writer. Having my first Seasons of Her Soul Coffee & Connect Book Signing – and being able to celebrate being fully prepared – makes me feel like I just might get there.

Hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and join me or at least send up some blogosphere love!

Be savvy & chic ,

~Pink Collar Coach 

 

Couldn’t Check Out My Book Because They’re All Checked Out!

Couldn’t Check Out My Book Because They’re All Checked Out!

It’s Day 338 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and since I had a downtown meeting, I planned to view my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, on the shelves of the main library but couldn’t check out my book because they’re all checked out! An early morning meeting across the street provided the perfect opportunity to pop in and see my novel displayed in the Fiction section; instead, I was given a printout showing me the twelve libraries that carry it along with whether the book is on the shelves or due for return. Learning that nine of the fifteen copies, including the ones the main branch carries are out MADE. MY. AUTHOR. DAY! Still, I would have loved to have seen the book with the Dewey Decimal System code on the spine, however, I made due by having Mackenzie – who was a on break from shelving – take a picture of me with the copy I had in my bag from the previous meeting. Besides, how could I possibly be disappointed that I couldn’t check out my book because they’re all checked out?!!!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, with my proof copy of Seasons of Her Soul, holding it near where it sits on the Inspirational Fiction shelf. Dressed to impress for my meeting, I’m in a Calvin Klein denim wash sheath dress purchased a few years ago with a newer jacket that elevates it to suit status. A silver button cinches it at the waist & dictated I carry a handbag with blue, silver & taupe, picked up by the pumps. All Calvin Klein/TJ Maxx bought over time to build professional wardrobe.

Mackenzie also made the trip worthwhile. I’ve never met an author we shelve!, she enthused as she snapped away. I’m going to read it as soon as it comes back in. I gave her a book card with this website address and she said she’d look for this post. So here’s a shout out Mackenzie! Bolstered by the interactions with her, the librarians and my nostalgic trip down Main Library Memory Lane, where I spent so much of my childhood, I decided to head north to the library in the community where I now reside.

There, I initiated the process of having the West Chester Library carry the book so it can be distributed in its four branches and Library on Wheels program. In addition, I picked up an application to have a table at the Local Author Fair in the fall. Finally, I discovered  the library hosts a writing group once a month, so I might try that out in June! This trip also proved to be worthwhile.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose author, there’s no better feeling than to know the book I labored over for twenty years is finally being read and touching women’s lives. This was confirmed yesterday at our Mother’s Day lunch where a family friend with adult twin daughters shared how one read the book and was so moved by it she’s hesitant to have her sister read for fear it will stir up painful emotions regarding being single. Our friend thought I might take the feedback negatively but it’s just the opposite. I want readers to feel something when they read my work. Hopefully that’s the case with all of the copies of my book I couldn’t check out because they were checked out!

Hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and check it out below!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 
Memorable Mother’s Day

Memorable Mother’s Day

It’s Day 337 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I had a memorable Mother’s Day. Because I’m divorced and don’t always have my children, my husband goes out of his way to make this day extra special. He started early this week by bringing home a bouquet of daisies, irises and a pink rose. Last night he had a reservation to PF Chang’s for us, my three stepsons, our daughter-in-law and Izzy. She was born three years into my marriage to her Grandpa so I became Mimi – a derivative of Tammi – as opposed to Grandma. Dinner, dessert at The Creamery and sitting around the fountain was a good family time made even more so when my oldest stepson’s family gave me a card and an arrangement of white daisies and lilac lilies. As if that wasn’t enough, my hero hubby also had a lunch reservation for us and my teens at The Golden Lamb. A close family friend and his young adult son joined us. They enjoyed the restaurant’s storied history as much as my kiddos. We sat in a room decorated with the twelve presidents who have stayed there. All of us stuffed ourselves on delectable food, including sauerkraut ball appetizers (Hey, don’t knock em ’til you try em!) dipped in yummy sauces and sumptuous main courses like salmon and beef tenderloin. Still, we somehow had room for desert at an old-fashioned ice cream shop. Photos against the quintessentially American small town backdrop with its traditional architecture, cobblestone streets and picturesque park made this Mother’s Day memorable.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, between my teens on a Memorable Mother’s Day.                                            I’m in a Calvin Klein tank, skirt, slingback kitten heels, and a floral blouse.                                                                                The floral handbag was purchased at another time but complements the top perfectly.                    All TJMaxx.                                 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom, I don’t take any of these moments for granted. Neither does my hubby. We’re divorced from our children’s other parent – one instant change with long-lasting repercussions. And our children are growing up and away faster than I would have ever imagined – a series of ongoing changes with life impacting results….Considering all of this, the card he gave me when we were back home spoke directly to my Mommy heart and blessed it:

Our life has changed so much 

since we first became parents

but in one way,

it hasn’t changed at all –

you’re still the one I love…

and you always will be.

Happy Mother’s Day 

Like I said, he goes out of his way to make sure I have a memorable Mother’s Day.

I hope you had a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Mother’s Day – whether you were being celebrated or celebrating others – and know that you are loved.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

My Mini-Me and Music

My Mini-Me and Music

It’s Day 328 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and my daughter’s junior high Select Vocal Ensemble solo confirmed she’s my mini-me – at least as far as music is concerned. In typical teen fashion, Liv waited until the last minute to inform me of her solo and when I gently chided her, she defended herself with, Mommy, I didn’t even try out for it! Hearing that explanation made me suspect her choir teacher had discovered the magical quality of Liv’s voice and wanted to give her a chance to shine – one that she wouldn’t have taken if she’d had to audition for it. And sure enough, though the students all sang beautifully, when petite Liv stepped up to the mic the lyrics, What would you do if I sang out of tune?, rang out pure and true, somehow special – and perfectly in tune. It reminded me so much of when I was her age and would sing. People didn’t expect that voice to come out of my body…And I earned my teaching degree on a singing scholarship. In that way, I learned tonight that Liv is my musical mini-me.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach & my Mini Me after the concert.  Believe it or not, Liv is actually taller than me by about an inch. My heeled sandals added to my stature! The ruffled dress is about six years old but still in style. And the floral handbag picks up the fun orange of the dress.                                                                                                                              All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx and – wait for it – Steinhart! Off season sandals at bargain price.

In so many other ways, Liv is like her father. When she was born, the doctor laid her on my belly and her skin colored appeared to be the same color as mine, her nose was smooshed and looked broad like mine, and her hair was wet and curly like mine – from the birth process.  She looked exactly like my baby picture – like I’d spit her out! Then they whisked my mini me away and brought back her father! It seemed bathing her washed the color off her skin, the curl out of her hair and somehow it perked her nose up! Though she was a biracial baby girl – she looked like a White man! Once while we were at the pool  with his mother, Liv threw a fit. I shook my head and said, That face looks like his. My mother-in-law’s response: They all look like his! As Liv’s gotten older she’s reverted to looking more biracial, but her expressions, mannerisms – so much is like him. All I can do is love her and laugh about it.

Even so, as a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose mom, there have been times when I wished I could see more of myself in her. Music has provided those glimpses. One Sunday morning when I sang CeCe Winan’s Alabaster Box at church, my husband told me Liv sat enraptured the whole time I was on stage. And we’ve always sung together – me, her and Levi – The Three Musketeers, which reminds me of how my brother and cousins used to put on talent shows in our back yard. But mostly, our love of American Idol has shown how alike we are. She was born the year the show started and we watched faithfully until it supposedly went off the air forever. We were as elated to learn it was coming back on as we were heartbroken when it went off the air because that meant her dream of auditioning would never come true. I’d put her in guitar and voice lessons to support her goal but somewhere amongst all the mess that divorce is, she quit lessons. The fact that she’s picked both up on her own, partly due to Idol, makes my heart sing. And now we watch together – even if we’re not in the same physical space – and text throughout. Our favorites, opinions, reactions, etc. are usually identical.

Cami (Yes, like Tammi) Liv may not look like her mama, but she sure sounds like her. So at least as far as music goes – she’ll always be my mini me.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

Dinner and Dancing the Ds Away

Dinner and Dancing the Ds Away

It’s Day 322 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and after a morning meeting then teaching Zumba, I got to have dinner and dance the Ds – the personal and professional challenges we face, i.e. discouragement –  away. I’ve been doing Saturday Zumba with my Swan Sister, Kibby, for six years, and when we learned we were losing our longtime instructor, Liz, we were concerned about who’d replace her. From her first class, everyone knew our fears were unfounded from Marina’s first routine. Since then, she and I have bonded over me becoming a licensed instructor. She  mentors me and lets me lead warm up, do a little something in the middle and a cool down. Spending part of my weekend with these two amazing ladies was already a highlight of my week. But things got even better when Angelin, who attends one of Marina’s classes elsewhere became a regular in our class. Kibby, ever the connector, suggested we all hang out. We got to know one another over a delicious meal and then hit the dance floor. My Ds were obliterated by our discussion, dinner and dancing them away.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, Angelina, Kibby & Marina. We’re a diverse group from inner city Cincy, Peru, the hills of West Virginia, & Russia – brought together by dancing, bonded by so much more. Me in my Calvin Klein of course – a floral top from the end of last summer, a faux suede skirt, leather and suede open-toe shooties, & a cross body handbag for ease of dancing. All TJ Maxx.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan, no matter what I’m going through, I always feel better when I’m dancing. Even so, our dinner and dessert conversation lasted for nearly three hours (with gorgeous live vocals accompanied by a baby grand in the background) before the dancing began. And I never thought of my troubles once during that time. Guess that means I feel better when I’m doing life with other Swans – and dancing with them, too!

How about you? How are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about spending time with other women enjoying shared passions? How intentional are you about doing that when you’re facing the Ds?

Be savvy & chic,

~ Pink Collar Coach

Whirlwind Week and Reunion with a Writing Friend

Whirlwind Week and Reunion with a Writing Friend

It’s Day 321 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and this week has been a whirlwind, including a reunion with a writing friend. Tuesday I had a professional early meeting that took me to my old stomping grounds – Avondale, where I grew up. My nostalgia driving down the main drag –  Reading Road – turned to shock when I turned down the street where I was raised and became completely disoriented. EVERY single house has been leveled to the ground, and I drove up and down a few times trying to place where my mother’s and Aunt Bertie’s house once stood. I’m not sad to see the former gone – the lyrics from Carrie Underwood’s Blown Away drifted through my mind with that one – but the latter broke my heart. Needing to have some balance restored, I drove to Joseph Beth Booksellers for business and pleasure. The store features local authors, so I’m excited to have begun the process to have them carry my first novel, Seasons of Her Soul, and to have a book signing. Having taken care of that, I met with the mom of one of my former 6th grade students – now a writing friend. What a whirlwind day and such such a blessing catching up on fifteen years!

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Cindy is fresh in her black and florals and I brought my A Game in an A line skirt & jacket that pair like a suit but are separates. The blue blouse, shoes 7 bag made it fun. Calvin Klein TJ Maxx.  

Cindy sought me out when she heard I’d published my book to let me know she’s written one, too! She’s such an amazing woman who’s survived abuse, founded a non-profit to support other survivors, and is now sharing her journey through her writing. That being the case, we laid some collaboration plans and can’t wait to see what God will do. And of course I had to get an update on Nick, my adorable freckle-faced 6th grader who valiantly served his country in Afghanistan and is now a husband. Talk about proud teacher moment!

I shared about being in the thick of getting ready for my https://DisruptHR.co > Cincinnati talk the next evening, and Cindy gave me some much appreciated feedback on my presentation. Having experienced many of the Ds (challenges) herself, her input and encouragement bolstered me to have the best time sharing how they derail careers and what can be done to prevent them from knocking women (and men) off of their career tracks. The event sold out and I’m thrilled that my topic was so well received and to have made lots of new connections and potential coaching and speaking engagements. A fan of Seasons of Her Soultold me how much she loved the book, putting the icing on the cake. Dinner on the event organizer and more connecting until 10pm  followed…Good thing today’s coaching session with a client wasn’t until later in the afternoon!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose life coach, author, speaker, and friend, it really has been a professional whirlwind. Loved every moment of it. One of the highlights was the reunion with an old Fellowship Christian School writing friend. Fifteen years may have passed, but as is always the case with this special group – the friendship picks up right where Fellowship left off…

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about reuniting with old friends from school, church, the workplace? How can you be?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9.

It is also available on Barnes and Noble.com at https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seasons-of-her-soul-tammi-ector/1127818446?ean=9780998966359.