Live a Life You Love

Live a Life You Love

It’s Day 1 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and if you’re anything like me, you’re determined to live a life you love. I’ll be 50 next Monday, and despite my resolve, as a busy mom and director of of a women’s center, I haven’t made time for blogging or working on the sequel to my debut novel in months. That changes today! Rather than this milestone birthday – which marks more time behind me than I have before me – making me look back on what I’ve already done, it causes me to anticipate all things to come. All the things I’ll do. Like microblogging on Instagram and following Seasons of Her Soul up with Hold on Her Heart. Fulfilling my purpose to use all of my God-given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their beauty and best lives. All to His glory.

I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and join me on this journey. And that you, too, will live a life you love!

 

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Antique store Shabby Chic inspired wall pocket w/inexpensive miniature white roses.

If you are a follower, welcome back. If a new reader, welcome! Hope you’ll check out my book at http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9. Thank you!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

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Winter Weather Writing Weekend

Winter Weather Writing Weekend

It’s Day 10 of being back to blogging and thanks to 13″ of snow here in Cincy, I’ve enjoyed a winter weather writing weekend! Since starting my position as a Women’s Center Director back in October, I hadn’t written a word of Hold on Her Heart, the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul. Yesterday and today, however, due to being snowed in, I not only made wonderful progress, I did it on my first book’s one year anniversary! Being a God-thing girl, the significance of that isn’t lost on me. I’m humbled and amazed that He continues to bless me with the will and the way to live my purpose of coaching, encouraging and inspiring women. This time in the form of a winter weather writing weekend!

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Balancing personal and professional responsibilities can feel daunting, but when they’re aligned, rather than conflicting, they can complement each other. In my situation, my first novel is drawn from personal experiences with domestic violence that led me to become involved in supporting other women to overcome it and other challenges. I call them Ds –– as in DV, divorce, dysfunction, depression, death, diagnosis, etc. (So much of life’s icky stuff starts with a D!) Twelve years after breaking out of the cycle of abuse with my wasband (he was my husband) and being homeless, my vocation is as the leader of a homeless shelter.  And my avocation allows me to run a life coaching agency, blog and write books. It’s all interconnected and part of the perfect plan God has for my life. Total God-thing!

Whether you are an aspiring author or a full-time homemaker who wants to be more intentional about the time you spend with your family, my prayer is that you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and maximize the opportunities God provides for you to do what feeds your soul and blesses others. On your lunch break. While the kids nap. In the still of the night. During the wee morning hours.  When He provides a winter weather writing weekend.

Hope you’ll check out my book on it’s anniversary!

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach 

 

 

Loved Being in the Library Local Author Fair

Loved Being in the Library Local Author Fair

It’s Day 5 and getting back into the routine of blogging allows me to share how I loved being in the library local author fair this fall. I’d applied to participate back in the summer and had nearly given up on it when the acceptance turned up in my inbox. Given the fact that it arrived much later than I’d anticipated, I’d sold most of my the latest box of books I’d ordered from my publisher for such events. And though I quickly ordered a box when I knew I’d be attending, it didn’t make it in time for my maiden book fair voyage. So my fifteen-year-old daughter and I packed up the the books I had on hand, along with all of my marketing materials, and headed out to set up. Since she’s more tech than I am, I put her in charge of the Square Reader and money box. The table got a lot of traffic, including a former student from my middle school teaching days and her mom, as well as fans and a few new readers. Connecting with author friends a making new ones made the time fly by. Before the end of the two hours, we’d sold out. With no more copies, we resorted to taking orders, which proved to be a great way to further engage with readers. I must say, this outcome was one of the reasons I absolutely loved being in the the library local author book fair!

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Local area authors, including my friend and coaching client, Janet on the front row, far left, Michelle, a fellow writing group member, front row, third from left, and Ms. Helen, a dear godly woman who attends another of my writing groups, second row,  third from right. She’s next to me, second row, second from right.

Besides that and those who came out to show support, having my daughter by my side is a memory I’ll cherish. Not only was she wonderful helpful with set up, customer service and sales, her pride in her mom warmed my heart –– and the hearts of those who stopped by. She let me know she’ll gladly help me out the next time I’m in a fair. I’ll take her up on that and look forward to my next event not only because I loved being in the library local book fair but because of the opportunity to experience my mini-me being there.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, and my daughter at the Midpointe Library Read Local Author Fair. Faux blush suede dress, zipper sweater cardigan and loafers all Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx.

 

If you’ve never checked out my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and do so. Thank you!

Be  savvy &  chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 
Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 16, 2018

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – June 16, 2018

You’re never alone with a good book and God to keep you company.

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Local Library Lending My Novel, Seasons of Her Soul

Local Library Lending My Novel, Seasons of Her Soul

It’s Day 315 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I was delighted to learn that the local library is lending my novel, Seasons of Her Soul. After a great writing group Mixer last night, where we ate, socialized, won prizes, talked shop, and I got to reconnect with one of my early writing mentors, I was too whipped to blog. Instead I fed my inner writer by indulging in a yummy Katherine Reay novel with tons of food references. But I digress…This morning I awoke to a delightful day to dance and loved teaching Zumba class. Then I had to grab the quickest shower and fly to downtown Cincy – about 40 minutes for me – for a meeting. Ongoing Ds (challenges) with my wasband left me feeling slightly down. That was until I opened a message from Annette, a former school board member/parent of a favorite student from my teaching days who also used to review books for the Cincinnati Enquirer. She asked if I’d checked for my book at the Cincinnati Public Library and went on to tell me they have five copies! She’d suggested they add it to their collection and they did. I’m forever grateful that this incredibly intelligent woman loves my work enough to advocate for our local library to lend my novel, Seasons of Her Soul.

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The Cincinnati Public Library
Growing up in the 70s and 80s, I spent many an afternoon and weekend at the public library. For you younger readers that’s because I had to check out resource books using the card catalog and the Dewy Decimal system and research projects on microfiche – an outdated viewing method. At any rate, I’d have to catch one, sometimes two buses to get downtown, and after all that trouble, would just finish up the rest of my homework. Oftentimes, friends would accompany me and it would turn into simply hanging out. And for a poor girl from the hood, having access to all of those books – for free – well, it just didn’t get any better for a book nerd like me!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic author who has wanted to be published since I was about six, the library was a magical place where I’d dream of the day my books would sit on its shelves – available to anyone waiting to be transported from their lives into those of my characters. Wanting to share that experience with my middle school students, we took a trip to the same library each year around the time I had them write chapter books. For me writing and the library have always gone hand in hand. Annette’s son made that trip when he wrote his chapter book…Now I’m forever grateful that she played an integral part in that same local library lending my novel, Seasons of Her Soul. 
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
If you’re in Cincinnati, you can visit the public library to pick up a copy of the book.
To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 
A Forever Friend and A Fiction Fan

A Forever Friend and A Fiction Fan

It’s Day 313 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and it was such a blessing to enjoy lunch with a forever friend and meeting a fiction fan. When I was the director at a life coaching program, I had the privilege of meeting Julie at a Lunch n’ Learn. I shared how to become a Life Coach and she was immediately all in. I did Julie’s orientation, then she shadowed me during a session. I could tell by the gleam in her gorgeous blue eyes  she was hooked! Sure enough, Julie became one of the most committed coaches I’ve had the pleasure of working with. Much as I enjoyed our professional relationship, the deep personal ones she developed with each of the coachees I assigned her painted a picture of what true life coaching looks life. She jumped  into the fray with each individual – building rapport, partnering with them to set goals, holding them accountable, and connecting them to resources to remove their barriers like she was born to do it. Soon I learned when I assigned Julie as a coach, she was in it for the long haul! Our conversation caught me up on many of the coachees she continues to work with to this day. And of course Julie wanted to hear all about how things are going with my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, which she’s purchased. When I handed her some book cards, our server exclaimed, I love that book! It was the first time I’ve encountered a reader in public. One of my Best. Lunches. Ever. – catching up with a forever friend and meeting a fiction fan!

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Me, Pink Collar Coach and Forever Friend, Julie. We didn’t plan on our black and white – but hey, great minds think alike! My Calvin Klein dress is cut asymmetrically like Julie’s top and I’m in kitten heeled slip ons. The floral bag mixes things up. It and the criss cross shrug were clearance finds purchased with a tiny bit of a leftover Christmas gift card. All TJ Maxx. 

When we’d first been seated, Julie and I had struck up a conversation with our beautiful server because she has one blue eye from her dad and a green one from her mom…After she went to put in our order, I joked to Julie that we might run into my husband and pastor because the restaurant is their regular meeting spot. In fact, when Seasons of Her Soul  released, they’d met there and my husband took two copies to give to him and his wife. He came home excited about how their server loved the cover of the book. He’d explained to her that it was the story of a woman’s journey out of domestic violence and she teared up. Then she shared a little about her story and how she needed to read the book. Without discussing it, he and our pastor knew it was meant for her. My hubby told her, My wife wrote it for you, and gave her one of the copies. Later that night, he told me, Her name is Amber.

That being the case, my response to her I love that book, was Amber! And of course a spontaneous hug with a complete stranger followed.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach and author, it doesn’t get much better than spending the afternoon with someone I helped develop into a phenomenal life coach turned forever friend and meeting a fiction fan who I wrote the book for. Ever since my husband told me about her, and from the moment she came to our table, even before Amber shared that the book is blessing her life, I felt an affinity for her. So in some ways, I didn’t hug a stranger at all. Rather another friend I just met…

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview or purchase a print or Kindle version of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Barnes and Noble.com or Amazon at https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seasons-of-her-soul-tammi-ector/1127818446?ean=9780998966359 or http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9. Thank you!

 

Playing a Round with Love

Playing a Round with Love

It’s Day 283 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and after a productive work day, I spent this evening “Playing a Round with Love”. There’s a short story with this title by one of my all-time favorite authors, Rosamunde Pilcher, and though I read it the first time twenty years ago, its lesson is one I still apply today. In the story, a new young bride sits sulking at a resort because her groom has left her alone to play a round of golf. An older woman joins her and ends up sharing some sage wisdom about the benefits of couples having their own individual interests and pursuits. Then she demonstrates how she’s lived a long, healthy marriage doing just that when she lovingly greets her husband – who’s accompanied by the groom – when they come off the green. You see, he’d left her to go play as well – and she’d occupied herself with other things she enjoyed – as they’d been been doing their entire marriage. The couple had learned that their time apart made coming together that much sweeter. Tonight, I followed this example by going to the bookstore then heading over to join my hubby and company at an indoor virtual golf course. As much as I enjoyed the time alone, reuniting with him was even better. I’m grateful that Ms. Pilcher taught me about playing a round with love.

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A rose amongst thorns! My second oldest stepson, my hubby’s best friend from high school ,my oldest stepson, and my sweet hubby.                                                                                                              Me, Pink Collar Coach- Calvin Klein sweater, green jeggin’s and black boots w/a floral handbag. 

One of my husband’s friends, who does practically everything with his wife, once asked him how the two of us get along so well. My husband was and still is a consummate athlete, and I don’t enjoy sports at all. While he participates in and spectates at nearly every one, you’ll seldom find  me doing either. The difference between that couple and us is that we’re more than O.K. not spending every waking hour together. When we are, we talk at a deep level and really connect, and we’re secure in each other’s love – whether we’re in the same space or not. I’m not being critical of the other couple – in fact I’m happy that they’re so symbiotic. I’m also happy that we don’t have to be. We’d both suffocate!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose wife and stepmom, I do believe it’s important for my husband and my stepsons to see that while golf, baseball, basketball, bowling, etc., etc. are not my thing, they are. Though it may not always be apparent, I love them fiercely…All of these men in my life say I’m as “fru fru” as it gets, so it’s fun to surprise them every once in a while by showing up in one of their “man” settings unexpectedly. And as much as the boys – especially the oldest – razzes me, he’s also the first to ask if his dad and I are alright if he senses we’re not. It’s good for them to see how much I adore him with a sacrificial love that makes me spend my night on a simulated golf course instead of curled up on the sofa with my new book. After all, thanks to all my reading, I may not be any good at golfing, but I’m pretty adept at “Playing a Round with Love”.

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose with your relationships – valuing time spent together and apart?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach