Rendering the Past Historical

Rendering the Past Historical

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and my kitty, Peppa, and I are both rendering the past historical.

From the time my hubby and I adopted this petite feline from the local shelter’s My Furry Valentine as my gift four years ago when she was two, I’ve known she’s an abuse survivor. Though sweet and loving, she is suspicious and leery as well. Petting has to take place on her terms and timeframe. And when she’s done she’d done. Finally, if you don’t want to be clawed to shreds, never pick her up in your arms while standing or a frantic scramble to escape will ensue and result in bloodshed.  She suffers from post traumatic stress disorder and her maladaptive behavior when she’s triggered is her desperate attempt to keep herself safe. It’s classic fight or flight! With her PTSD from the past, it’s hard for her to feel at peace in the present. So when I found her finally sleeping in the Shabby Chic pet bed I got her months ago when I started renting the tiny house, I thought, Peppa’s rendering the past historical! 

Serene at Home (Personal Life)

Being brutally honest, I get Peppa and recognize glimpses of myself in her.  Having been exposed to Ds –– the challenges women, or in Peppa’s case, females face –– like danger, distrust, domestic violence, dysfunctional relationships, etc. –– I understand why she defaults to the only way she knows how to deal. Thankfully, because she’s gotten four solid years of love, acceptance, gentleness and kindness, she’s come out of her shell a bit and seems to be getting past some of the things I suspect happened in her past. For me, it’s blogging and writing fiction based in fact (Hold on Her Heart, the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul is in the works!) to process my hurts and to heal. It’s also surrounding myself with supportive Swan Sisters and finding solace in my Shabby Chic sanctuary!

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Peppa Loveday Rendering the Past Historical in her Shabby Chic pet bed.   Everything in this pic is Simply Shabby Chic from Target, or Shabby Chic -from TJ Maxx or Home Goods. Wedding pic of me and my hubby.

Spirit-Led (Prayer)

And it’s leaning into my faith and finding safety in a multitude of counselors.  The latter is where I learned about the concept of rendering the past historical. They’ve helped me to process my hurts of yesterday so they won’t continue to have power today. By doing so, like Peppa Loveday,  I’m able to minimize my Ds and maximize beauty and my best life.

Savvy & Chic on Purpose (Putting it into Practice)

That’s my prayer for you.  If you are dealing with the Ds, perhaps suffering from post traumatic stress disorder, there is help. The Lord cares about what you’ve gone through (personally and professionally) and has gifted counselors to grow your coping skills. I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and begin rendering your past historical to render your present and future beautiful, too.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

P.S. Publishing my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, has helped render the past historical. Hope you’ll check it out!

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Living Proof Live 2019 with Beth Moore & Back to Baseline with Blogging

Living Proof Live 2019 with Beth Moore & Back to Baseline with Blogging

Though it’s been a little over a month since my last post, I started this one on Living Proof Life 2019 with Beth Moore on Day 56 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project (reset) and am just going to pick up here 5 weeks later to get back to a baseline with blogging…

The event turned out to be truly transformational and provided what I needed to sustain me through the personal and professional Ds –– or challenges women face –– I was already dealing with and those to come. Originally when the nonprofit where I’m the Women’s Center Director offered complimentary tickets for the two day conference, I’d hoped to use it as a team building activity for the whole group of women I lead. But due to staffing constraints and a D  in the form of a diagnosis for one staff member, it wasn’t to be.

Instead, my Swan Sister, Kibby and I made the most of the opportunity. Various other Ds limited our time together this summer, so meeting for dinner –– a good D! –– beforehand and riding together saved gas, parking fare and allowed a chance to catch up. Aware of my dysfunctional relationship Ds, Kibby –– a prayer warrior ––  had me share. And by time we entered the venue to worship and look at God’s Word with Beth Moore, expectancy filled the building, our hearts and those of the 5,000 plus women who’d convened for Living Proof 2109.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, in a favorite lace dress, pumps and floral bag.               All Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx.                                                                              Kibby is pretty as a peach in a unique sleeveless top that flowed into a train and gorgeous dangly earrings.

Both sessions started with praise and worship. If you’ve ever been in a an auditorium filled with this many women lifting their voices to the Lord, you know it’s a glimpse of what we have to look forward to in eternity.  With our hearts turned toward heaven, we were ready to receive Beth’s teaching and she didn’t disappoint.  Her message, “In the Same Boat” drew from the different accounts in the Gospels about Jesus and the fisherman/disciples who became fishers of men. As an expository teacher, Beth breaks down the history, geography and etymology of words in her lessons. I took a whole booklet of notes over several hours of teaching, but my main takeaways were “From now on ________.” and “I’m saying no to ________________.” My fill in the blanks relate to the dysfunctional relationships and have empowered me as I move forward differently –– another great D!

Since the event, one of my closest friends lost her husband unexpectedly and it rocked me because divorce runs rampant in my family and  they were one of the only examples of a happily married couples (29 years) I’ve had. They loved the way a  I Corinthians 13 tells us to… Then my staff member’s terminal cancer diagnosis took her from us two weeks ago tonight, two days after her birthday. Looking at the dates of  her sunrise and sunset my focus has been on the dash in-between and how she maximized it to the fullest. Both of these deaths have added significance to my “From now on ___________.” and “I’m saying no to ___________________.” I’ll never be the same.

Taking what I learned from Living Proof Live 2019 with Beth Moore, I’m going to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and put the teaching into practice (TIP). Beginning with getting back to a baseline of blogging. Pray you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and determine ––– an awesome D –––  your “From now on ______________.” and “I”m saying no to ______________.”, too.

Be  savvy & chic ,

                                                                                                          ~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

Live a Life You Love

Live a Life You Love

It’s Day 1 (reset) of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and if you’re anything like me, you’re determined to live a life you love. I’ll be 50 next Monday, and despite my resolve, as a busy mom and director of of a women’s center, I haven’t made time for blogging or working on the sequel to my debut novel in months. That changes today! Rather than this milestone birthday – which marks more time behind me than I have before me – making me look back on what I’ve already done, it causes me to anticipate all things to come. All the things I’ll do. Like microblogging on Instagram and following Seasons of Her Soul up with Hold on Her Heart. Fulfilling my purpose to use all of my God-given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their beauty and best lives. All to His glory.

I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and join me on this journey. And that you, too, will live a life you love!

 

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Antique store Shabby Chic inspired wall pocket w/inexpensive miniature white roses.

If you are a follower, welcome back. If a new reader, welcome! Hope you’ll check out my book at http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9. Thank you!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Photo Op

Photo Op

It’s Day 20 of being back to blogging, and while scrolling through pictures on my phone searching post inspiration, I came across one the perfect photo op. The term, short for photograph opportunity, was originally coined to indicate the opportunity to take a picture with a celebrity or of an event. But as I looked at this picture, it took on new meaning for me. You see, it’s of a corner in bedroom I share with my fifteen-year-old daughter at our tiny house and was designed to fulfill her request  for a vanity area. I began renting the house for personal and professional to run my business, Pink Collar Savvy & Chic, and to have a special place to spend time with my children.

At first my husband wasn’t on board with it, which caused some discord –– another D or challenge women face. Following a particularly rough patch, he brought the beautiful bouquet of my favorite pink roses to my new job as a repair attempt. Originally I took the picture in a fit of I don’t want flowers, I want to resolve the issue! Eventually I got over myself and can now look back and see my husband’s heart. It makes me mindful of the chance to be prayerful about all it represents –– a true photo op.

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A beautiful, comfortable and functional vanity area. The painted wood cafe table and chairs were purchased at TJ Maxx for outdoors, but I hated them weathering. Now they have a new purpose. The lamp and wicker mirror/basket are two of my early thrift store finds. Large Ball mason jar from Goodwill. Simply Shabby Chic pillows & laundry basket –  Target. 

In a world where cameras on our phones make snapping a picture something that often occurs several times a day, I still want to make it special. Through blogging it’s become a way for me to chronicle the simple and significant in my life. Being intentional about maximizing photography opportunities by attaching prayers of ACTS –– adoration, confession, thanksgiving and supplication –– to my reminiscing over  pictures elevates them from simply snapping away to powerful photo ops.

So the next time you hit that button to capture that perfect picture, I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and not miss out on the photo opportunity that’s present too…

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Blogging, Books and Building a Writer’s Website

Blogging, Books and Building a Writer’s Website

It’s Day 17 of Service on Purpose (this replaces the On Purpose Project) and my day consisted of church, teaching Zumba, blogging, books and coaching a new client to build a writer’s website. Though I’ve been blogging consistently for over a year, I still consider myself a novice. Even so, I’m intentional about living out my purpose –– using my strengths to coach, encourage and inspire others –– and am willing to give it a try. Still supporting a fellow writer and Swan Sister to build her writing website definitely felt like a bit of a stretch for me….I’ve done it and so am not an imposter, however, doubts regarding my ability to coach her through the process plaqued me as I prepped. If you’re anything like me you may have experienced how it’s sometimes easier to do something than to show someone else how to do it. Considering my qualms, I felt such gratitude when this morning’s sermon talked about how serving and  helping someone else helps us to grow our capacity. It may even help us to reach the next level. I’m not an expert on any of the above tasks, but I am willing to utilize the experience, knowledge and skill I do have to bless others…In turn, maybe I’ll be blessed with my  blogging, books and building a writer’s website.

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In the end, we had a wonderful session. Not without it’s bumps, but those had more to do with the host site not cooperating than me not knowing what I was doing! My client was satisfied with the progress we made and she even sent me a text stating how much she learned and appreciated the information and coaching. And with that, she quieted any niggling doubts that remained.

She also confirmed what the sermon and my spirit say to me. We don’t have to be SMEs –– Subject Matter Experts –– but we do have to be SMEs ––– Someone Making Effort –– to serve others. When we belly up to that, God will level up not only our capacity but our confidence for the next time around. If we’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and faithful to serve, He’ll cause us to soar. Be that blogging, writing a book, building a writer’s website or whatever acts of service He calls us to.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Recharge Our Batteries and Restore Our Balance

Recharge Our Batteries and Restore Our Balance

It’s Day 16 of being back to blogging and I’m so thankful the weekend provides Pink Collar Swans with an opportunity to recharge our batteries and restore our balance. Whether you’re like me and spend your time in an emotionally intense social service/ministry setting, as a full-time homemaker or at any other job inside or outside the the office, the work week can leave us feeling run down and like we’re functioning on low power mode. When we see this happens with our phones –– when we see that red bar that indicates we need to plug in –– we drop what we’re doing and connect to a power source as quickly as possible. Conversely, when our bodies, hearts, minds, spirit and souls alert us that we’re run down, too often we ignore the warning signs and all but die…But what if we stopped this weekend and took the time time to recharge our batteries and restore our balance?

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Tonight my sweet hubby wanted to do something. As much as I love him and know how important it is to spend quality time together, I also understand I’m a better wife, mother, friend, director, life coach, and Christ follower when I’m not operating on an insufficient charge and have my balance restored. So I took a rain check for tomorrow and look forward to not just a date night but a date day.

Now I’m blogging and vegging on the sofa munching on many of my favorite snacks  while watching Ghost on cable for the first time in 20 plus years. May not be everyone’s version of an awesome Friday night, but I’m loving it. When the movie’s done, I’ll read my devotional and start a novel I picked up at the grocery store on the way home. Hey, if I’ve gotta shop, a trip down the Book and Magazine isle makes it worthwhile! After a good night’s rest and Zumba tomorrow morning, I’ll have enough energy to enjoy my husband, housework, and a host of other things like life working on the sequel to my debut novel. And coaching a new client. Writing is work but a part of the writing life I love!

So that’s the plan. Now I just need to implement it. What’s yours? To recharge personally and/or professionally? I hope we’ll all be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and put it into place so we can recharge our batteries and restore our balance!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Bad Move, Good Man

Bad Move, Good Man

It’s Day 13/14 of being back to blogging and tonight I witnessed a driver make a bad move that a good man turned around. Literally. Taking the highway exit to pick up my children tonight, as I neared the turn signal, I was startled to see a man standing on the busy road, which is no place for pedestrians in broad daylight, let alone after dark! The dark clothing he wore made his position even more precarious. Confused as I was by his presence, it definitely prevented me from turning from the far right lane. He must be insane, intoxicated or both, I thought before wondering if there’d been an accident or if his vehicle was disabled. That’s when I noticed a minivan whose driver had gotten into a mess by either purposely trying to make a U turn at the exit or by attempting to do so erroneously. Their bad move, however, didn’t end up as tragically as it could have thanks to the courageous act of what I now understood must be a good man.

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After halting traffic and directing the van to make the turn safely, he jogged back to his car, then merged onto the road. I could finally turn right, but I couldn’t get him off of my mind. At first all I could think was, God bless Him for putting his own safety at sake to be of service to someone else. Much like the Good Samaritan…Next, as I continued on to my destination, I pondered how what I’d just witnessed would make a great blog post. And that made me more appreciative of blogging –– the mindfulness and intentionality it adds to my personal and professional life. It’s such a joy to share these meaningful moments as they happen…One day, I’ll be able to look back on them through this blog. When I do, I’ll smile, as I did the rest of my drive, understanding how someone’s bad move was salvaged by a good man.

What Good Samaritan acts have you experienced on the home front or in the workplace? How can you be a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and commit random acts of kindness for someone in need of help?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Winter Weather Writing Weekend

Winter Weather Writing Weekend

It’s Day 10 of being back to blogging and thanks to 13″ of snow here in Cincy, I’ve enjoyed a winter weather writing weekend! Since starting my position as a Women’s Center Director back in October, I hadn’t written a word of Hold on Her Heart, the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul. Yesterday and today, however, due to being snowed in, I not only made wonderful progress, I did it on my first book’s one year anniversary! Being a God-thing girl, the significance of that isn’t lost on me. I’m humbled and amazed that He continues to bless me with the will and the way to live my purpose of coaching, encouraging and inspiring women. This time in the form of a winter weather writing weekend!

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Balancing personal and professional responsibilities can feel daunting, but when they’re aligned, rather than conflicting, they can complement each other. In my situation, my first novel is drawn from personal experiences with domestic violence that led me to become involved in supporting other women to overcome it and other challenges. I call them Ds –– as in DV, divorce, dysfunction, depression, death, diagnosis, etc. (So much of life’s icky stuff starts with a D!) Twelve years after breaking out of the cycle of abuse with my wasband (he was my husband) and being homeless, my vocation is as the leader of a homeless shelter.  And my avocation allows me to run a life coaching agency, blog and write books. It’s all interconnected and part of the perfect plan God has for my life. Total God-thing!

Whether you are an aspiring author or a full-time homemaker who wants to be more intentional about the time you spend with your family, my prayer is that you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and maximize the opportunities God provides for you to do what feeds your soul and blesses others. On your lunch break. While the kids nap. In the still of the night. During the wee morning hours.  When He provides a winter weather writing weekend.

Hope you’ll check out my book on it’s anniversary!

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach 

 

 

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – Happy New Year & Beginning to Blog Again!

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – Happy New Year & Beginning to Blog Again!

It’s Day 1 of 2019 and the first day since I started my new role as a Women’s Center Director that I’ve posted. I’m not exactly sure how to manage being a wife, mother, Life Coach, author and blogger, but I’ve missed this –– I’ve missed you –– and am determined to get back to writing regularly. I did it consecutively for over a year after all! Recently, a conversation with a dear friend, Valerie, has inspired me to get incorporate servant leadership and social service into the blog, but I’ve yet to work out the details. And of course I still want to feature style and Shabby Chic decor –– like my tree! Now that I’m renting a tiny house for personal and professional use, there are lots of fresh photos to share. Then there’s faith, the foundation of everything I do. Though I’ve been at it for a bit now, I must confess I still feel like a novice/beginning blogger and am somewhat overwhelmed…

This morning’s devotion, however, entitled Something New, spoke to God’s work in our lives and encouraged me: “I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness, I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.” – Isaiah 43:19 NLT. How exciting is that! I don’t know what 2019 holds, but it’s so good to know Who holds 2019! Can’t wait to see what He does in my family, my career, my writing –– my life! And yours!

Blessings for your best year yet!

~Pink Collar Coach

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A Shabby Chic Christmas! All ornaments, tree skirt, ribbon topper and valance are from the           Simply Shabby Chic line at Target. The ribbon came with a quilt and got repurposed. The white tree –– my fantasy finally realized was $40 from Walmart. Who knew?
Heart and Home Interiors (A Lesson from My Tiny House Decorating Process)

Heart and Home Interiors (A Lesson from My Tiny House Decorating Process)

If you’re a regular reader, you’re aware my blogging has been sporadic, bordering on non-existent for the last few months. I say that because I’m no longer aware what day of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project it’s supposed to be! While it’s true I’ve been dealing with some major Ds –– personal challenges that negatively impact professional performance –– (i.e. diagnosis, dysfunctional relationships, etc.). I’ve also been blessed to see God’s hand working in them all. For my good and His glory. One of the ways this is most apparent is the fact that I’m now renting a Tiny House for personal and professional use. Dream. Come. True. That being the case, I’ve been faced with a positive D –– decorating! Working diligently both day and night (with the help of my supportive hubby) to make the space into what I want it to be, it occurred to me how concerned I am about the interior of my Tiny Home. Then this morning, as I prayed following my devotion, it struck me that I need to be even more concerned about the interior of my heart. What an impactful lesson from my Tiny House decorating process!

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose blogger, I’m so excited to begin sharing the things I’ve done to make my Tiny House beautiful, comfortable and functional. I’ve gone to little expense but loads of effort to make it just right and oh so Shabby Chic! But when I’m honest with myself as a believer, I have to ask, Does sharing my faith hold as much appeal? Am I as enthusiastic about surrounding self to God’s renovation process as I am a physical space to my designs?  And my answer is Not nearly. Thankfully, He called me out today to reign me back in. So starting right now, I surrender my heart to the same interior refresh as I have this new home/office. What a life changing experience from my Tiny House decorating process!

How about you? How willing are you to let God make you lovely on the inside? Will you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and let Him create a pure heart and right spirit in you, too? (Psalm 51:10 NIV).

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach