Back in The Saddle

Back in The Saddle

It’s Day 428 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and though life has thrown me for some loops and prevented me from blogging for an entire week (the longest lapse since I started in May of 2017), I’m back in the saddle! Some of my loops have been Ds – personal challenges that can negatively impact my professional life –– but many of the loops have been good ones. Last week I wrote a few scenes for the sequel of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, promoted the book, scheduled to speak at a book club, had great life coaching sessions with two clients, advocated for myself and others effectively, and indulged in some much needed self-care. Not only that, I did some temp work that has continued into this week. Hence any lapses this week…So while I didn’t post or blog consistently, I’m thrilled that I’m still minimizing my barriers and maximizing my best life, including getting back in the blogging saddle!

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Total props to the amazing photographer of this shot.                                                                               The pink accents –– even on the horse’s back are everything!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur and beginning blogger who is monetizing my blog, weeks where life has me hitting the rails can be tough on my bottom line. Even so, there are life lessons to be learned from most situations and often they’re applicable personally and professionally. Facing barriers myself makes me more empathetic, knowledgeable about resources, resilient, and connected to other women and opportunities. Besides, while I wasn’t able to blog or teach my Zumba class Friday, I made up for it in other lucrative and overall productive ways. Always, the trade off of not working on what you planned to work vs. the plan God has for us is so worthwhile. We Pink Collar Swans should remember that when Satan tries to buck us. Because even when he’s successful, God is right there to dust us off and get us back in the saddle again.

If you’ve been thrown lately, be Pink Collar Savvy & Chicon Purpose and get back in the saddle, too!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
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Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – August 7, 2018 -Happy Blogiversary to Me!

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – August 7, 2018 -Happy Blogiversary to Me!

Yesterday I received a notification that I signed up for WordPress.com two years ago. Though I must confess it took over a year and a half for me to actually start posting regularly, it’s still a milestone. Thanks for sharing my blogging journey!

Balancing Blogging and Book Writing

Balancing Blogging and Book Writing

It’s Day 366 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and I’ve spent the last few months balancing blogging and book writing. In January I published my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul and last month, I celebrated my one year blogiversary. Reaching both goals has brought so much fulfillment and joy to my personal and professional lives. And they’ve both been a lot of work! In That being the case, now that I’m embarking on Book Two of the three-part Lee’s Legacy Series, I’m trying to find the sweet spot that allows me to continue devote fair amounts of time to each of my writing projects ––all while growing a holistic life coaching business ––preferably during work hours and not after 6pm at the latest. Take today for instance –– I worked on the novel for hours today, which cut into the time to blog, which is why I’m writing still writing it at almost 9pm, bring my work day to about 10 hours if you figure in a few breaks and Zumba. If ever there was a Pink Collar Swan in need of balancing, it’s me with blogging and book writing!

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose author, beginning blogger, life coach, Zumba instructor/enthusiast, wife and mother, I must confess something’s gotta give. Tonight, it’s cutting this post short so I can take a little me time and watch Good Bones on HGTV. But that’s just a short term solution – literally. Then again, I probably need to stick to under 500 words moving forward. That would not only shorten my time writing but make for easier reading for you, too. In addition to that, tomorrow, I’m going to try setting my alarm an hour before “quitting time/5pm” so I don’t sentence myself to anymore twelve hour days. That’s when I plan to switch over to blogging, whether I’m in the creative writing zone or not! I’ll keep you posted on my progress––pun intended! Seriously though, I really do want to get this under control because I believe balancing blogging and book writing will ensure I continue to love doing both.

I’d love to hear your Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose strategies for balancing your time at work so you can relax and rejuvenate during your personal life. Thank you!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 
Positive Sentiment Override – Easier to Preach than to Practice

Positive Sentiment Override – Easier to Preach than to Practice

It’s Day 299 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m finding that it’s sometimes easier to preach/coach on positive sentiment override than it is to practice it. I was first introduced to this principle when another couple gave my hubby and me the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, PhD, when we embarked on our marriage to each other after very difficult divorces from our ex-spouses. In describing positive sentiment override at work in a marriage Gottman states “This means their positive thoughts about each other and their marriage are so pervasive that they tend to supersede negative feelings. It takes a much more significant conflict for them to lose their equilibrium as a couple than it would otherwise. Their positivity causes them to fell optimistic about each other and their marriage, to assume positive things about their lives together, and to give each other the benefit of the doubt.” (pg.20-21). Heading toward our 12th anniversary as a couple, we’ve both done a fairly good job at adhering to this excellent advice, but to be completely honest, sometimes we fall short. Especially considering we both brought a lot of baggage from those previous relationships into the marriage. Coaching others is easy; putting it into practice myself – not so much.

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As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose blogger, I feel like Julie (played by Rachel Adams) in Julie and Julia, the 2009 film about Julie, an aspiring author who starts a blog about cooking her way through every recipe in Mastering the Art of French Cooking by Julia Child  (played by Meryl Streep). Julie and her husband have a massive fight and his last words as he leaves their apartment for the night are, “Do NOT blog about this!” She starts to but doesn’t…That movie inspired me to blog and NOT to when I shouldn’t. So I won’t share what has my hubby and I at odds other than it’s a D – or a challenge we Pink Collar Swans face – a disagreement…I will say that he has so many wonderful qualities and that God really did bless the broken road that led us to one another. That being the case, I’ll just request prayers as I try to practice the positive sentiment override that I preach – I mean coach – on with my coaching clients.

How are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about using positive sentiment override in your marriage or relationship? How can this principle be applied to other relationships on the home-front or in the workplace?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Bringing Shabby Chic Back (Rachel Ashwell as a Romantic Homes Monthly Contributor)

Bringing Shabby Chic Back (Rachel Ashwell as a Romantic Homes Monthly Contributor)

It’s Day 268 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’m delighted that Romantic Homes Magazine is bringing Shabby Chic back by having Rachel Ashwell as a month contributor! I fell in love with this style of decorating back in the late 90s soon after Rachel Ashwell, its founder, opened her Malibu “shop heard round the world”. At that time, authentic Shabby Chic magazine spreads featuring Rachel’s work (and not all of the knockoffs we see today) graced every bookstore and newsstand. Around Y2K Rachel’s popularity grew to celebrity status and so did her list of clients which included Jennifer Lopez, Pamela Anderson and Jessica Simpson. Any time I needed a Shabby Chic fix, I could pick up a copy of several different magazines and get lost in pages of eye candy and inspiration. Around 2009 this Pink Collar design maven took some unsound business advice that cost her dearly and resulted in bankruptcy. (I know because I researched her for a graduate study project on organizational leadership). Stores dotted across the country and in her native England closed their doors and only her California, New York and London sites remained open. While still able to access the much diminished Simply Shabby Chic offerings at Target and the occasional book or magazine feature, I missed regular doses of this decorating style and its originator. Seeing her name and home on the cover of Romantic Homes today and learning Rachel Ashwell will be a monthly contributor means they’re bringing Shabby Chic back!

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Rachel Ashwell’s Shabby Chic home gracing the cover of Romantic Homes.                                       The magazine sits atop my Simply Shabby Chic luggage stand in my office.  

Fellow bloggers and French Country decorating enthusiasts might appreciate this: Rachel Ashwell isn’t the only one who’s joined the Romantic Homes staff.  Courtney Allison, the incredibly successful blogger behind “French Country Cottage” is the magazine’s new Editor. I must confess, other than Shabby Chic, Courtney’s style is one of the few that has inspired me, not only in decorating but in becoming a blogger. She’s perfected the art and truly made it into a career, maximizing and monetizing every opportunity – something to which many bloggers aspire. You can visit Courtney’s site at www.frenchcountrycottage.net. Though Courtney’s style is different than Rachel’s the Shabby Chic influence is evident in the editor’s French Country decor. The editor stated,  “She will be sharing vintage treasures, design inspirations and much more.” Hopefully “the more” means more Shabby Chic inspired homes featured!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose life long decorating enthusiast with an interior design degree, there was a time when I wanted to do it full time. I landed really good jobs but hated the “selling side” of things. Even so, I never stopped doing freelance work and still offer interior coaching as part of my business. In fact, I’d just done so with a client right before I found the magazine while picking up a birthday card for my son. What I felt when I saw it could probably be described as joy, which reinforces that the decorator in me is alive and well. Now thanks to Romantic Homes bringing Shabby Chic back, my favorite decorating style is too.

What’s your favorite decorating style? How are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about exposing yourself to it and expressing in your home and/or office?

Be savvy & chic,

~ Pink Collar Coach

This Sunset Shouts for Joy – Pink Collar Coach’s Confessions of a Beginning Blogger

This Sunset Shouts for Joy – Pink Collar Coach’s Confessions of a Beginning Blogger

It’s Day 264 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I must confess being a beginning blogger has taught me that the sunset shouts for joy. After a wonderful sermon this morning – on making sure we (seeds) are planted in soil that is rich with the right people, places, and things – I taught my faith-based Zumba class, then hunted down a Bargain Priced Book at Barnes and Noble. Elated to have found one by Emilie Richards – an author I discovered at my local grocery store of all places – and that I’d enjoyed an inexpensive linner (my family’s version of brunch; a combo of lunch and dinner) with a BWs Christmas gift card from my hubby, I settled in on my favorite end of the sofa to read. Anticipating the Season 2 finale of “Victoria”, the only thing wrong with my world – not having a blog topic – righted itself when I went to warm up my tea. Our house backs up to woods and the kitchen window provides a picturesque view. Tonight, it framed a stunning sight. Grabbing my phone, I stepped onto the deck just in time to capture the sun as it dipped below the treeline in a perfect haze of pink that made my soul well up with hallelujahs. Not knowing a Scripture that spoke of sunsets, I looked this up: “They who dwell in the ends of the earth stand in awe of Your signs: “You make the dawn and the sunset shout for joy.” – Psalm 65:8.

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Just like the verse says, tonight I stood in awe of this spectacular sign painted across the sky.      As boldly as if written in legible letters or audible sounds it proclaimed, There’s a Master Artist! 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose novice blogger who wants to create artful posts, I must confess, I wish I had a fancy camera and the skill to use it proficiently so I could have fully conveyed the breathtaking beauty of the colors depicted in this sunset’s pallete. But since I don’t possess either, I offer what I do have in the hopes that you readers will be drawn not to the art but to The Artist. I also offer it as a sacrifice of praise to Him for providing me with such a blogworthy picture and Scripture. Not only does the sunset shout with joy; so do I.

Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about taking time to appreciate God’s art all around you? When is the last time you enjoyed and expressed joy over a sunset?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

 

 

Playing Around With Poses on President’s Day (True Confessions of A Beginning Blogger)

Playing Around With Poses on President’s Day (True Confessions of A Beginning Blogger)

It’s Day 258 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and my Soul Sister Kibby and I spent some time playing around with poses on President’s Day. Taking advantage of the opportunity to have a day off from working, we planned a needed Girls’ Day to have lunch, watch romantic comedies, and then go to Zumba. Right before we changed for the latter, I wanted to take a pic for tonight’s post and expressed that I needed to change up the way I stand in photos. Kibby styled this one, and other than a bit of belly bulge, I’m pleased with it. Besides, I’m committed to avoiding what I’ve come to think of as the “meme mentality” or basically posting pictures that scream perfection in every aspect of life. So rather than asking for a redo, I’m being transparent and let the bulge (as well  the toys on the floor) be. The resulting shot feels authentic and makes me glad that I spent part of President’s Day playing around with poses.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, trying a new pose in a gray duster, blush top, gray jeggings, & taupe flats.   The floral handbag ties all the colors together and hints at spring.                                                         All Calvin Klein purchased over a number of years from TJ Maxx. 

Not only did the pose show a different side of me, it showcased some pretty Simply Shabby Chic decor, like the fretwork frames holding favorite pictures of my babies at ages two and three and the photo album. The wicker mirror with a shallow basket attached is one of my earliest flea market finds and the wicker basket underneath a table I lugged home by myself from Service Merchandise back in the day is one of two I got from Babies R Us for  my fourteen-year old’s nursery. Though I didn’t plan it, it seems florals was is a theme of the picture, as seen in the handbag, Simply Shabby Chic waste basket, the “Be Kind” wooden sign, the winter hydrangeas, and the Valentine’s Day roses displayed in a large Goodwill Ball mason jar.

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Kibby looks lovely and carries on the floral theme, enhanced with tassels – on her belt, boots, and the earrings she made.

Then, there’s Kibby’s pose. She’s so natural – I want to channel that! I have a lot to learn from her and look forward to having her style me into some fresh poses during our weekend excursions.

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose newbie blogger, I must confess that putting myself out here is humbling. My body, hair and face aren’t picture perfect. Neither are my settings. If I focus on all of my “barriers”, the devil (the worst D, or challenge of them all), will have me convinced that I’m not enough and don’t have enough to be doing this. But if I can stay focused on my blessings, my Deliverer (the best D ever!) will keep me convinced that I’m limitless and can do whatever He has planned for me – including more playing around with poses!

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and play around with new ways of doing things in your personal or professional life, even if it means being transparent and letting your “barriers” show?

Be savvy & chic,

~ Pink Collar Coach