It’s Day 280 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and as much as I enjoyed our spontaneous vacay in Put-In-Bay, because I’m loving being a life coach, I was happy to get back to work today. Lovely as the island proved to be, a tower was down leaving my hubby and me with little to no cell phone or internet reception. In some ways unplugging is just what we needed, however, not being able to respond to coaching clients who needed support or simply to schedule –– not so much. One client is facing some family challenges and it frustrated me not to be responsive to her texts in a timely manner. Furthermore, I’d done a complimentary life coaching session with a previous image coaching client about a month ago and she finally got in touch to schedule, as did another client who I’ve worked with on interior coaching (I have an Interior Design degree, worked for a firm and still freelance). She’s celebrating the one year anniversary of her book being published and is ready to polish her professional packaging as well. Not getting back to these Swans for days is so not like me. Of course there are times when I’m not available –– due to other commitments, scheduling conflicts, time off, vacations, and well, life, but I try to keep that to a minimum. You see, I really am loving being a life coach.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur who started operating my business full time about a year ago, I’m not gonna lie. Somedays, the hustle can be exhausting. Research shows it takes about 7 touches for someone to commit. Good thing I enjoy interacting with women and touching their lives apart from wanting to sell them my goods or services. My purpose in life is to use my God given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their beauty and best professional lives – through total transformation. All to His glory. That’s why I went back to school and got another degree –– a Masters in Leadership and Coaching! Using the powerful questioning tools in my belt, I build trusting relationships with women during conversations. Inevitably the opportunity to share my story arises –– how I was faced with so many Ds or personal challenges that negatively impact our professional lives –– that I hit rock bottom but maximized it as the firm foundation upon which I built not the rest of my life but the best of my life. When I’m transparent, it frees them up to share as well. So many women are facing Ds and need support through coaching. At times it feels a bit overwhelming, but most of the time it feels as if I’m doing exactly what God put me on the face of this Earth to do. No wonder I’m loving being a life coach.
If you are a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan facing the Ds, I’d love to chat about how you can minimize them to maximize your best life. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
Busy morning filled with life coaching and more this afternoon. Rather than exhausting me, I’m energized. When you find your purpose – the reason God put you here – you never have to work a day in your life! What’s yours?
It’s Day 161 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and though I’ve been sicker than a dog, after giving Zumba a miss and sleeping for four hours, I wanted to write about how my Pink Collar Savvy & Chic cat loving mail lady not only drops off mail but Meow Mix to maximize her delivery duty. A few months ago, I posted on Facebook when my husband told me she specially delivers cat treats to our cat Skylar daily and got a great response. As much as that was fun, there is a real lesson to be learned from how this female mail carrier maximizes what some may consider a mundane duty to make it meaningful.
Skylar, who I intended to be an indoor cat quickly let me know she had other ideas. At about five pounds, she’s petite but rules the neighborhood like a lion does the jungle. Still, her size causes neighbors to want to feed her and I’ve had to discourage many from doing so or she won’t ever come home! Mail Lady Sheila is the exception. Since I’ve been working from home, I made a point of introducing myself and learned she adores felines and feeds them all along her route. Getting out of the truck and loving on them is part of the special delivery service. And so her furry friends don’t have to do without when she’s off, the treats are stashed in the truck with instructions for the other mail carriers to carry out distribution activities in her absence.
This weekend, I heard the mail truck pull up and smiled to myself. A few minutes later, I was surprised to hear a knock and figured a package was being dropped off. When the knock persisted, because I wasn’t feeling well, it took me a bit to get to the door, so I had to wave Sheila down before she pulled away. Apparently, she’d taken the time it took me to answer to tear the lid off of her special delivery and to write an accompanying note. I was right about a package being dropped off alright, but as you can see below, the people in the house weren’t its recipients.
When I told my neighbor Jen about this, she informed me she’s talked with Sheila too and is aware of her love for animals. Jen’s dog has been the recipient of treats as well! I don’t know if Sheila loves delivering mail, but whether she does or not, she’s found a way to incorporate a passion into her job. So often you hear jokes about mail men hating the animals on their routes, but for Sheila, they’re likely the best part of her day. Delivering mail is her job. Delivering love to animals is her true service. Her ministry. It makes the mundane duty meaningful.
Sheila reminds me of the lyrics from Steven Curtis Chapman’s song Every Little Thing You Do:
While I may not know you,
I bet I know you
Wonder sometimes, does it matter at all?
Well let me remind you, it all matters just as long
As yo do everything thing you do to the glory of the One
who made you,
Because He made you,
Every little thing that you do
To bring a smile to His face
Tell the story of grace
With every move that you make
And every little thing you do.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Chick I believe we can serve our purpose and others, including animals, by not just going to work, or working at home, but by being intentional about maximizing opportunities to show grace to those around us when we’re there. I’m certain God is pleased with Sheila and smiles as much as I do when she does her special delivery duty. As pleased as that makes me, it’s not nearly as much as it pleases Skylar who knows that the Mail Lady Sheila’s truck not only contains mail but Meow Mix!
What little thing can you do to bring a smile to the face of someone in your workplace or at home? God will smile too.
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
Day 143 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project had me doing nothing but networking from sunup ’til sundown. My day started with my local H7 Connect meeting where I got some amazing feedback on my business model from marketing and branding experts. During the variation on our 30 second commercial where we were to give our name, business, and a problem we can solve, I pitched my new focus: “I’m the Pink Collar Coach, Tammi Ector, founder of Pink Collar Savvy & Chic. I’m a life coach for professional women. I coach them to minimize their personal barriers to maximize their beauty and best professional life.” I also added that I specialize in the Ds (i.e. divorce, depression, dysfunctional relationships, disheveled appearance, disorganized space, etc.). Afterwards, it was so rewarding to have people tell me not only how unique the model is but that it’s inspirational! I kinda nailed it. ; ).
In addition to the great feedback, I also connected to individuals who either know someone who needs my services or who wanted to provide referrals about my business. Before I knew it, it was time to head to my second networking event with eWomen. It was my first time attending and I had a nostalgic moment when I arrived at the Oasis in Loveland and our meeting was in the same room where I presented there for the first time back in 2011. We had a a wonderful meeting as well and I met truly amazing, successful, resilient women. We offered one another support, resources and referrals, and I’m looking forward to attending again next week.
On my way home, I stopped at Life Way, the Christian book store, and got the contact information for the manager so I can get my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, placed there and hopefully do a book signing. I also picked up a new novel from the publisher of my book, and as much I’d love to read it for pleasure only, it’s part homework because yesterday, I was informed that I have to do some revisions on the book, specifically around the graphic domestic violence scenes, so they appeal more to readers…Whether pleasure reading or for work, it wasn’t to be, however, because although the day’s networking was technically done, I had a ton of prep to do for tomorrow’s.
Tomorrow, my long awaited Zumba certification training will have me dancing from 8am until 5pm. Then, I go straight from there to a writing conference where I’m presenting on “Setting S.M.A.R.T. Writing Goals” and singing Francesca Batistelli’s “Write Your Story” to close the evening. Writing the content was only part of what I needed to do – preparing to network – getting my business cards, music CD and mailing list together was just as important.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who doesn’t always feel comfortable with networking, I am comfortable building relationships. And that’s what I felt like I did today. Yes, I want to promote my business, but more than anything, I want to meet the needs of women who need my services. If I can help a woman to prevent her personal life struggles from derailing (another D) her career, like the woman who shared with me about how having a child with disabilities has impacted her employment, or the one who’s been through a divorce, death of her parents, and several medical diagnoses (more Ds!), then I’m humbled and honored that the Lord gives me a day doing nothing but networking. Actually, now that I think about it, I’m doing a whole lot more…
What about you? How can you use networking to live your purpose and meet the needs of those you encounter?
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
Day 142 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project has been busy in the best way. I took care of some personal business that keeps me in a position to keep pursuing my business and received some wonderful feedback on the CD to accompany my book as well as on my professional growth from someone who was kind enough to share it. In addition to that, I got have lunch and with and plan my next workshop with Jenn-Quinn Wilson, the Wonderpreneur. It is tentatively set for all day Saturday, November 4th. Pink Collar Savvy & Chic and Wonder Diva will bring you: The Making Of A Pink Collar Diva: You! More on this head to toe image day soon!
And here’s the inspiring conclusion of my interview with Janet Kassalen, author of Flip Flap Try: A Cardinal’s Journey. Her children’s book has messages for any of us who has ever struggled to find our career fit or place in this world.
Rainier had to ask for help from others along his journey. Why do you think women are so afraid to admit when they need helps in their careers? How have other played a part in your journey?
You’re not expected to do everything yourself. It’s OK to ask for others’ input and help. Some ladies out there have done amazing things and written words of wisdom we can learn from. It’s important to encourage each other along the way to reaching our goals. I’m glad I went through the process of publishing. Asking for help was a good decision. Everyone was working with and pulling for me. Kay Fittes told me, “If you want something to happen, you have to make it happen. You have to oversee it.” And my author’s assistant let me make decisions, and it helped me grow. I couldn’t just sit back and let others make the decisions. My husband has also helped me. He says the conversation is never over or ended. If you’ve had problems or misunderstandings, there’s always a chance to straighten things out and move forward.
Rainer finds a job that he enjoys. It is meaningful to him and helps him to serve his purpose. How is becoming an author enabling you to serve yours?
I wanted to encourage people and give them hope in finding their dream job or mission. To let them know there’s always a new day to start over and try again. Just go from there.
The tagline on your beautiful website is: Children’s Stories With A Grown Up Message. What inspired you to use your children’s writing to inspire adults?
At first, it was intended more to help young adults struggling with their careers. My book coach thought it would work better as a children’s story. Adults can still learn from it. Reading didn’t come easy for me, but I could understant a children’s book. It was easier to understand, colorful and full of pictures but just as meaningful. And it doesn’t take half a year to read it!
A few years ago, I worked with you to redesign your office, which you call your “Communication Center”. How has having a work space that is beautiful, comfortable, and functional impacted your writing?
I’ve watched your personal and professional transformation. You’ve gone from “timid duckling” to savvy and chic swan. What encouragement do you have for women struggling to find themselves and their place in this world?
Never give up your hope. It’s OK to ask for help. Take vacations. On vacation I had the experience that started the cardinal story. I also have a CD player with lots of CDs that I call my “To Do” list. It helps to put in the CDs and review to make sure I’m not missing something. Sometimes, I’m not ready to complete a task – if it’s not the right time. Other times, something just appears and it’s what you were looking for. It’s good to get the whole picture of what’s going on to set your priorities. Keep believing in yourself because everyone has the ability to help someone else.
On Day 142 I didn’t set out to do I a DIY restoration project, but I’m so glad that’s how it turned out because not only did I now get to use an item I thought could no longer work in my house, the project reminded me of two important lessons that can be applied on the home front and in the workplace: 1) Beauty can still be found in broken things, and 2) Even when we’re damaged, we can still serve our purpose.
As much as I purport to love all things Shabby Chic and am usually alright with imperfections, my OCD about symmetry had me headed to return a damaged piece of faux architectural salvage. I thought it was wood but found out the hard way that it was resin. I’d purchased it a while back and had planned to spray paint it white, however, somehow, when I took it to the store to select the right paint color the day after purchasing, a large section broke while it was in my shopping cart. By the time I realized it, though I literally retraced all of my steps and searched high and low, the broken chunk seemed to have disappeared into thin air. Attempts to have the janitorial crew notify me if it turned up proved futile, and I was close to tears because it was the only one at the store.
Eventually, I found something else (featured on the blog) and resolved to return the original piece since it must have been damaged to have broken so easily. Due to time constraints, I never made it back to Old Time Pottery for my refund and wasn’t in a rush to go back. The thing is, I love the piece and wasn’t at peace letting it go. Then, this morning, inspiration struck and I was thrilled that I’d held on to the broken “salvage”. After about an hour’s work, I’d lovingly mended the piece and restored its beauty.
2. Even when damaged, we can still serve our purpose.
The damaged piece now hangs above the door in our powder room. It’s not perfect, but I still love it. I’m proud of my creativity, resourcefulness and ability to see past the damage to be able to understand that the piece can still serve it’s original purpose. Perhaps it’s not serving where I’d originally intended – between the dining room and living room – but I found an alternate location that actually works better. The “salvage” now picks up the taupe-y browns in the powder room’s artwork and complements the scrolls on the light fixture. The really cool thing is, it has taken on more meaning because of its story.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who’s been broken herself, I’m so glad that God looks at me and still sees beauty. Despite all the damage – a dysfunctional childhood, divorce, domestic relations custody challenges, destitution, discrimination, all the “Ds”, I’m so thankful that He gives me chance after chance and provides countless opportunities to still serve my purpose (evolving): coaching, encouraging, and inspiring other women to minimize their personal Pink Collar barriers and to maximize their beauty and best Savvy & Chic professional lives. All to His glory. Not only that, He uses the damage to give me a story. I believe with all my heart that I mean even more to Him because of it. I know He sure means more to me.
What about you? Have you been broken by the personal barriers that try to render us “returnable”? Do you know that you’re still beautiful? And that, if you let Him, though damaged, God can still use your to serve your purpose?
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach