It’s Day 384 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’ve had a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Swan 49th birthday! How so? As the Pink Collar Coach, I coach other women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their beauty and best lives – through total transformation. And thanks to faith, some family members, friends, fitness, and fun, I’ve done that for myself today. Most of us know, the Ds –– or the personal challenges we face –– don’t take our birthdays off. In my case, it seems like they worked overtime instead! Even so, from the moment I woke up, I’ve felt the love of my Heavenly Father directly and through others. I did church, Zumba, received cards and gifts, had a long heart-to-heart with a dear Swan Sister, got flooded with Facebook well wishes and texts, had a leisurely lunch and dessert for dinner, read a gripping new novel by one of my favorite secular authors, visited with my neighbor/Swan Sister who is older by a week, and did a little retail therapy shopping with my TJ Maxx gift cards. While there, I came across this lovely stationery that is the epitome of Shabby Chic and so aligned with my branding. I bought all six cards and look forward to blessing others with them the way I was blessed today. The serendipitous find was the perfect close to a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic 49th Birthday!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Birthday Girl, despite the Ds, I’ve had a lovely day. And like the card says, I’ve enjoyed every beautiful moment. Because it’s in the midst of the challenges that I most feel God’s presence in my life. That makes even the ugly moments beautiful ones. Ultimately and always He’s working everything for my good and His glory. Some have accused me of being “fake” and only posting the positive. That’s not it at all –– I chose to post the positive along with the negative but give more weight to to the former. It’s all about perspective and I choose JOY. Jesus First. Others Second. Myself Last. Besides, I don’t coach others to do this, I’m really trying to walk the talk. And if that encourages or inspires at least one woman –– or my male readers –– then I really am living my beautiful, best, on purpose life, including having a blessed Pink Collar Savvy & Chic 49th Birthday!
Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about minimizing the challenges that come on special occasions –– even your birthday –– and maximizing the beauty and best things? When you do, JOY, not the devil wins!
Missed my dearly departed daddy calling me around 4am –– when I was born –– and singing Happy Birthdayto You –– terribly out of tune but with so much love it was the prettiest song ever. Then I woke up to messages from so many who have reached out with Happy Birthday Wishes. Now I’m feeling adored and loved by you and by my Heavenly Father. Thank you. XOXOXO!
It’s Day 383 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and my Zumba mentor, Marina, made my day! First of all, when I chickened out of leading a song today because her versions were different than mine, not only did she not make me feel bad, she switched up her playlist to remove the song and replace it with two I’m comfortable with. Second, she surprised me by somehow knowing my birthday is tomorrow –– FB? –– and giving me a card and much-appreciated hug after class. Normally I would have waited to open the latter until my actual Bday, but I’m dealing with some Ds –– personal challenges ––and needed a lift. To my delight, she gifted me with a TJ Maxx card! Woot woot! A little retail therapy is now on the agenda after church and teaching Zumba tomorrow…Finally, she showed up to class looking even more super cool and than usual in one of my favorites –– pink and green floral. I couldn’t resist snapping a pic and it put a smile on my face when I pulled out my phone to check the time after seeing The Incredibles2 with my kiddos – it’s worth the fourteen year wait –– and again after I used it to get a shot of my daughter after we bought and applied her first make up. I hope she’ll grow up to be as pretty inside as she is on the outside like my Zumba instructor friend. By taking time the to let me know she was thinking of me, my mentor Marina made my day!
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose blogger posting for the last time as a forty-eight-year-old, I’m so thankful for friends (and Cohorts in Crime of the Good Kind) like Kay Fittes of High Heeled Success, who mailed me a bday card last week. And for my sister-in-law, Sue who brought me an early birthday gift –– Calvin Klein athletic wear and a TJ Maxx gift card –– when she was in town from Atlanta for a wedding last weekend. I’m so blessed to have these women ––my Swan Soul Sisters –– in my support system, especially when dealing with the challenges life keeps throwing my way. They may not even be aware that I’m going through anything, but I’m aware that they’re there. They’re all gifts from God for which I am eternally grateful. Because just when the Ds threaten to bring me down, God sends one of them –– like my mentor, Mariana –– along to make my day.
Are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose about acknowledging when someone makes your day on the home front or in the workplace? By telling them, you just may make theirs, too.
It’s Day 382 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and I’m wondering if I should fight or give up. I’ve been fighting a particular battle for a while and I’m weary. On the surface, it seems pretty inconsequential, but the fact that the persistent issue keeps rearing its ugly head speaks to a bigger problem. And I’ve taken the stance I have largely because of the principle of the matter. For the most part, I’m a fairly complacent person and easy to get along with. By no means am I perfect. But nor do I have to be first or always have my way. Most of the time the opposite is true. I try to be an Abigail –– the Biblical wife who mediated between her stubborn husband and stubborn King David –– and strive for peace. I lay down my own desires, suppress my thoughts, keep my opinions to myself, bite my tongue, and pray for harmony, peace and reconciliation when I fail to do all of the former. But at what point do I stand my ground simply because I absolutely feel it’s the right thing –– again I’m referring to the principle and not the issue ––? When is it time to call out the ugliness, go below the surface to the root, the source of the matter, so it can be addressed and ripped out, never to spread discord, gossip, pettiness and just plain old bullying again? Do I risk the fight or just give up?
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose woman of faith, I so want to please my Heavenly Father and bear fruit that shows I belong to Him. But what do I do when displaying love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self-control (Galatians 5) only results in some people treating you like a door mat? That’s the thing. I used to think being a Christian was synonymous with letting people walk all over me. Then I learned JESUS WAS NEVER A DOORMAT. Since I try to follow Him, just lying down and continuing to let wrong win feels wrong. I’m going to keep praying about this and revert to that 90s question –– What would Jesus do? for guidance. Ultimately, that’s where I need to look to find the answer to whether I should fight or give up.
If you’re one of my Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose readers who believe in the power of prayer, I need tons. And I have never done this but am going to take a step in what I hope is the right direction. If you’re reading this because you’r a hater, please take the good intentions from my posts and act accordingly. If that means having a conversation with me, I’d welcome it. If you can’t do that, please just go find something better to do and leave me out of it. Thank you.
It’s Day 280 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and as much as I enjoyed our spontaneous vacay in Put-In-Bay, because I’m loving being a life coach, I was happy to get back to work today. Lovely as the island proved to be, a tower was down leaving my hubby and me with little to no cell phone or internet reception. In some ways unplugging is just what we needed, however, not being able to respond to coaching clients who needed support or simply to schedule –– not so much. One client is facing some family challenges and it frustrated me not to be responsive to her texts in a timely manner. Furthermore, I’d done a complimentary life coaching session with a previous image coaching client about a month ago and she finally got in touch to schedule, as did another client who I’ve worked with on interior coaching (I have an Interior Design degree, worked for a firm and still freelance). She’s celebrating the one year anniversary of her book being published and is ready to polish her professional packaging as well. Not getting back to these Swans for days is so not like me. Of course there are times when I’m not available –– due to other commitments, scheduling conflicts, time off, vacations, and well, life, but I try to keep that to a minimum. You see, I really am loving being a life coach.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose entrepreneur who started operating my business full time about a year ago, I’m not gonna lie. Somedays, the hustle can be exhausting. Research shows it takes about 7 touches for someone to commit. Good thing I enjoy interacting with women and touching their lives apart from wanting to sell them my goods or services. My purpose in life is to use my God given strengths to coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize their barriers and to maximize their beauty and best professional lives – through total transformation. All to His glory. That’s why I went back to school and got another degree –– a Masters in Leadership and Coaching! Using the powerful questioning tools in my belt, I build trusting relationships with women during conversations. Inevitably the opportunity to share my story arises –– how I was faced with so many Ds or personal challenges that negatively impact our professional lives –– that I hit rock bottom but maximized it as the firm foundation upon which I built not the rest of my life but the best of my life. When I’m transparent, it frees them up to share as well. So many women are facing Ds and need support through coaching. At times it feels a bit overwhelming, but most of the time it feels as if I’m doing exactly what God put me on the face of this Earth to do. No wonder I’m loving being a life coach.
If you are a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Swan facing the Ds, I’d love to chat about how you can minimize them to maximize your best life. You can email me at email@example.com.