Ugly Duckling to Regent Royal Swan

Ugly Duckling to Regent Royal Swan

First of all, my apologies for any formatting issues! While on my break from blogging, Word Press changed everything! Which is a perfect segue into my second Pink Collar Positivity Post in 2021…

Me, Pink Collar Coach, in Regent Royal blue

& a Shabby Chic crown brooch. 

            In my half decade of life, I’ve discovered many of its difficulties begin with the letter d. My research alone has generated a list of over 50 of them! Dating that ends in disaster, dysfunction and most things in between can be classified as ‘d words’. Not just because of how they’re spelled. But because they’re barriers. Based on more than my share of experience –– I could’ve been dubbed “The Queen of the ds”! – in conjunction with formal and informal education in “ds development”, I’m certain I could earn a terminal degree (the highest level) in the subject if it existed! Since it doesn’t, this week I began a Doctor of Strategic Leadership degree –– a good D (those are capitalized –– at least in my mind’s eye ––whereas bad ones are lowercase)! 

            Initially I vacillated between Liberty University and Regent. Then discovering the Leadership Coaching Concentration offered at Regent sealed the deal since it aligns with my Masters in Leadership and Coaching. And now that I’ve completed the first residency this week, I’m delighted to say my decision –– another good D – was affirmed. Regent’s doctoral program will further equip me with tools to use daily in my role as Women’s Center Director at Hope House Mission, a faith-based homeless shelter by day, as well as in my coaching business, Pink Collar Savvy & Chic by nightThe content covered makes me confident I’ll be able to put leadership theory learning and coaching into practice in both settings as I help women solve the problems they’re facing. Best of all, I’ll be better equipped to facilitate total transformation.

            Which brings me to one of the most impactful things I learned from the residency: If we want our followers to be transformed, we have to be transformed.For me, that means if I want my residents, staff, team, coachees, and readers to be transformed, I have to be transformed. 

            Praise God, I have been! 

            After earning an executive coaching certificate and starting my agency, I became known as the Pink Collar Coach and for providing life and leadership coaching to women in the workplace. Having overcome many of the personal and professional ds that threaten to derail them, I also share how I deal with these on this blog. Doing so allows me minimize my own barriers (ds), and to maximize beauty and my best life. All to His glory. It’s also led me to my purpose, which is to use my God-given strengths and talents to coach, encourage and inspire other women to do the same. How? Through total transformation, or what I refer to as “The Swan Experience”. 

            For a long time, though I became a Christian as a child, I was the ugly duckling. Literally. But it wasn’t my acne clearing up or getting my braces off as a teenager that changed how I saw myself. Like the ugly duckling looking into the pond and finally seeing itself for what it was created to be –– the most beautiful swan –– when I truly understood that my heavenly Father, the King of the World, designed me as His beloved daughter, my transformation began. Not from an ugly duckling, but from a swan who didn’t know she was a Swan to one who knows she was created one all along. One who is filled with the truly transforming power of Jesus Christ and His Spirit. That’s everything I need to live the life He’s destined me to live. My best personal and professional life. All to His glory. 

            So as a coach, a transformed change agent, and a Royal Regent doctoral student Swan, I’m thankful the first residency has taught me how I’ll continue to grow and transform more and more into my design and destiny -wonderful Ds! –  in order to facilitate the transformation of others.  

Question: Do you know you were designed as a Swan? As His beloved daughter? Are you living your best transformed life? 

Be Savvy & Chic,

Pink Collar Coach

Pink Collar Coach’s Post # 1 in 2021!

Pink Collar Coach’s Post # 1 in 2021!

Happy New Year! It’s been such a long time. I’ve missed you readers and pray you’re staying healthy, safe and positive during this pandemic…

In my half decade of life, I’ve discovered many of life’s difficulties begin with the letter d. Based on more than my share of experience in conjunction with formal and informal education and “ds development”, I could earn an advanced degree in the subject! In fact, many of the ds will serve as topics of study I’ll delve into a little deeper as I begin a Doctorate of Strategic Leadership with a concentration in Leadership Coaching next week…Dating that ends in disaster, dysfunction and most things in between, can be grouped under a d word. My research alone has generated a list of more than a hundred!

And the year 2020 introduced us to a doozie in the form of the Coronavirus disease along with the devastation and death its wreaked. Like so many, COVID-19 has impacted my employment and had me leading the women’s shelter where I’m the director remotely since April. A few residents and all my staff tested positive at one point. One was hospitalized, another lost her husband to COVID and recently a staff member’s infant grandchild passed away from the deadly disease. As devastating as these deaths have been, God’s grace and strength at work in the lives of His beloved daughters has been on miraculous display –– a good D.

Like these amazing women, as the Pink Collar Coach, blogging about the ds on my Pink Collar Savvy & Chic site, is a way for me to deal with them professionally and personally. I’ve been blessed to be able to minimize my barriers (ds) and maximize beauty and my best life. So, how can other women, Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Swans, whose professional and personal lives are full of ds  –– in the workplace and on the home-front –– do the same? After a year-long hiatus from blogging, beginning this week, I’ll embark on this year’s Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project. The Pink Collar Savvy & Chic Godly Girls’ Guide to The Swan Experience, A Devotional for Dealing with Life’s ds –– difficulties –– on the Daily. Posts from this blog will focus on Discovering Your Design and Destiny as God’s Daughter, which leads to total transformation.  The goal is to blog them into a book that will coach, encourage and inspire women to minimize barriers and maximize beauty and best lives. All to His glory.

As I pursue a doctorate, revamp the blog, and prep to publish Hold on Her Heart, the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, a fictionalized account of a young woman’s journey out of domestic violence and into her her best life, Book 1 in the Lee’s Legacy series is being offered at a discount price. I hope you’ll check it out and then read Book Two, coming soon!

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 

http://amzn.to/2CXE6Wj or http://amzn.to/2r7qtm9.

It is also available on Barnes and Noble.com at https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/seasons-of-her-soul-tammi-ector/1127818446?ean=9780998966359

Looking forward to reconnecting and pray Pink Collar Savvy & Chic will be a blessing as you deal with the ds the pandemic and life presents on the daily!

~Pink Collar Coach

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – Faith and the 4th of July!

Pink Collar Coach’s Positivity Post – Faith and the 4th of July!

 

Whom the Son sets FREE, is FREE indeed! 

Have a blessed Independence Day! 

 

Be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic

                                                                                             ~  Pink Collar Coach

 

 

 

Downton During my Down Time

Downton During my Down Time

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and since I’m still catching up from not blogging due to a broken ankle during the holidays, I’m sharing about watching Downtown during my down time. Though the show’s finale aired in 2016 after six successful seasons, much to the chagrin of devoted fans, the British drama set in the early 1900s is still PBS’ top drama of all time.  So as die hard Downtonians and Abbey Heads –– two of the names for lovers of all things Downton Abbey –– my Swan Sister Kibby and I were there the weekend the film hit the big screen. We made the most of the event (along with a Kibby’s friend, Downtonian Dami, who immediately became my friend) and in true Downton style, dressed for the occasion. The much anticipated movie didn’t disappoint but delivered a cinematic experience that proved to be magical! So much so  I went back and saw it alone a second time. Doing so helped me feel better about being divorced – a D or challenge women face –– and not having my children every weekend…Instead I can indulge in something just for me. Leaving the theater, I prayed it would be out in time for the holidays so I could again watch Downton during my down time.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, as Lady Mary (she’s pictured top left corner). Calvin Klein maxi dress and pink scarf/wrap, I already owned _ TJ Maxx.                                 Tiara is a child’s princess hair comb.                                                      Necklace, neck scarf and gloves from Kibby. She  made pink earrings.

To my delight and that of movie fans around the globe, the Blue Ray and DVD released right before Christmas. And though Santa didn’t leave it for me in my pink Shabby Chic stocking (he left Victoria, Season 3 instead) clad in my PJs and boot this time around, I enjoyed this treat to myself  in the comfort of my Petite Retreat even more than I did with my solo viewing.

In fact, I’ve talked it up so much, my hubby is on the verge of committing to watch the series with me and then cap it all off with the movie. He’s always walked into the room and watched in fits and starts… Kibby’s significant other, Roger, on the other hand joined us for our dress up viewing, and served as our photographer (I’m having technical difficulties or would share the photos). He’s a Downtownian himself, so I’m hopeful I can get my hubby to join the club. If he does, I suspect I’ll cherish sharing the series during date nights as much as I did watching Downton during my down time.

My prayer for you is that you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and make the most of your down time. Even if that means playing adult dress up and/or seeing a movie alone. When you do, like me, I believe you’ll be able to minimize your barriers and maximize beauty and your best life.

Be savvy and chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

P.S. Based on the movie’s whopping success, a  Downtown Abbey  sequel is in the works! : )

 

Treasured Time Together

Treasured Time Together

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and I’m still glowing from the warmth of a Christmas linner (lunch + dinner) with a forever friend and our treasured time together. Terri and I –– two of a BFF trio of teachers who taught at a private Christian school for years –– have been doing life with each other more than two decades. When the economy went south in 2003, forcing the school to close, our careers took different paths. Our hearts, however, remain as connected as when our classrooms were next door. Back in our school days, we gave each other lots of potty breaks and talked on the daily. Today, we’re intentional about scheduling visits and our catch up conversations cram in as much as our grown up commitments will allow. We may not be teachers anymore, but somehow every night is still a school night that necessitates us calling it an evening. This limitation only serves to make us truly treasure our time together.

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Me, Pink Collar Coach, and Terri, treasuring our time together. An oldie but goodie Calvin Klein sweater dress I break out at least once every Christmas – TJ Maxx.                                                                                                                         $1 Christmas light earrings from Dollar Tree I bought for Zumba.

Terri, Brenda (our missing member, waited a long time to become a  grandmother and is now one to four little boys and  isn’t always available to join us and we couldn’t be happier for her!) and I have shared so much love and laughter during the up times. We’ve also shared many of the Ds –– barriers or challenges women face –– in the form of death, depression, domestic violence, divorce, and dysfunctional relationships.  The list could go on. And on. Through all these Ds –– the down times ––  we’ve found God’s Word to be true, “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” Ecclesiastes 4:10 (NIV). How blessed we’ve been to have each other when we’ve been down.

These Swan Soul Sisters may not be my blood relatives, but they’re part of the family I’ve chosen for myself. I thank God He made me wise enough to fit them into the family space in my heart. They’ve helped me minimize my barriers and maximize beauty and my best life. Another reason I treasure our time together.

My prayer for you is that you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and make the effort to be with the ones in your life, those Swan Soul Sisters, who’ve been there for you when you’ve been down –– even though the holidays are “officially over”.  When you do, I believe you’ll not only treasure your time together, you’ll minimize your barriers and maximize beauty and your best life too.

Be savvy and chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

Leap In Leopard

Leap In Leopard

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and last night when I put together my professional packaging for today,  hopeful that it would transition into my personal life in the form of date night with my hubby, I selected an animal print sweater –– a  leap in leopard on my part! Pun intended. While the big cats can leap over 20 feet and jump 10 feet in the air, at age 50, rather than prancing around covered in an animal print like its a second skin, donning even a little feels like a big stretch. So, for me, buying and then actually wearing something I’m not totally comfortable in is literally a leap in leopard!

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Leap in Leopard! Calvin Klein leopard print sweater – TJ Maxx.                Shabby Chic floor lamp – Home Goods.

And speaking of prancing around in faux fur, recent catastrophic (yeah, I did it again) reviews of the film CATS –– not only made me nix it for tonight’s movie selection, it made me wonder whether my feline inspired fashion choice would elicit similar feedback. Instead, my prayer partner/morning coffee meeting stated, “You look so pretty in animal print!” The resident who helped me out to my car after work at the Women’s Center where I’m the director exclaimed, “I love your outfit!”, and the doctor covering for my primary care physician at today’s appointment to address my asthma –– a D or challenge women face –– this one in the form of a diagnosis –– walked into the office, introduced herself and gushed, “I love your sweater.” Even in her lab coat she appeared chic clad in plaid pants and suede booties. I confessed how I  always hesitate with animal prints.  “Not me! I wear them as a neutral and mix them with other prints.” Wow! No leopard leaping for her!

This young woman’s response is exactly what I mean about owning our sense of style. She feels confident enough not only in her clothing choices but in herself to bold. Which brings me back to my prayer partner. After she complimented me, we went on discuss bold choices. In clothing –– she wore hot pink, a bold choice, because it’s my color, though she admittedly plays it safe in subdued colors most of the time. We talked about how this translates into life. We women often shy away from speaking with a bold voice. Even when we’re led by God and should be filled with holy boldness.

All that to say, like the chic physician, we, too,  need to be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and feel confident enough to be bold in  our clothing choices so we can own our professional and personal sense of style…My prayer for all of us is that we would be confident enough in God’s leading in our lives that we stop doubting ourselves –– another D –– and have holy boldness. When we do, we’ll be able to minimize our barriers and maximize beauty and our best lives.  Enough to make giant leaps in life and in leopard. 

Be savvy & chic ,

~Pink Collar Coach

The Gobblers, The Grabbers and The Grateful

The Gobblers, The Grabbers and The Grateful

 

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy and Chic on Purpose, and as I resume blogging in the new year, I’d like to back track and reflect on  Thanksgiving as it relates to The Gobblers, The Grabbers and The Grateful. At the homeless shelter where I’m the Women’s Center Director, we see a ton of giving  from Thanksgiving  through New Year’s Day. The ladies and children receive generous meal donations –– not just for dinner, but bounteous breakfasts, lavish lunches and fancy feasts throughout the holiday season. The abundance doesn’t stop with food but extends to gifts from small jewelry trinkets to designer clothing and handbags, to all kinds of activities and crafts, to more toys than the children can possibly play with, and everything in-between. So do the responses of the residents. Returning to work for the first time since the day before Christmas Eve (I’ve worked from home some with my broken ankle), I observed The Gobblers, The Grabbers and The Grateful.

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Shabby Chic Melamine serving platter. A steal from TJ Maxx at under $10!

No sooner had I pulled into the lot this morning than one of the residents greeted me with an offer to help with my bags and walker. While doing so, she expressed how thankful  she is for everything received throughout the holidays. As she carried my stuff, I crutched alongside her, my ankle a burden, but my heart light. The best holidays I’ve ever had. We’re so blessed! she enthused. Clearly, she’s one of The Grateful.

Soon after we got inside –– with other considerate residents holding doors for us –– the atmosphere shifted. Unlike the attitude of gratitude that met me at the car,  staff filled me in on complaints about leftovers and meal options after the bounty. This baffles me. I work hard to make a living and LOVE LEFTOVERS! And I’ve lived in a homeless shelter where there were ZERO meals provided. So I can’t imaging turning my nose up when leftovers of scrumptious food is served. Yet that’s what we’re getting now. These are The Gobblers.

Wondering how the Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s spirit can evaporate by day 2 of 2020,  I encountered the saddest situation –– a woman who has complained and never been satisfied with anything during her time in shelter. Having walked in her shoes when my abusive marriage ended and I was made destitute –– a D or challenge women face –– I’d be the last one to say anyone should be made to feel beholden because of their situation. But I’d also say acting entitled –– as if collecting on what the universe somehow owes –– isn’t the way to go either. Nor is biting the hand that provides shelter, meals, clothes, support, etc. Unfortunately, this woman and so many others fit under The Grabbers.

Please don’t get me wrong, too often in my life I’ve fit under The Gobblers and The Grabbers myself. My prayer for 2020 is that I’d always be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and fall under The Grateful. That’s my prayer for you too. If we express an an attitude of gratitude, no matter the Ds we face, it goes a long way towards  minimizing our barriers and maximizing beauty and our best lives..

Be savvy & chic,

                                                                                                            ~Pink Collar Coach

 

My Book, My Boot and My Blog

My Book, My Boot and My Blog

It’s 2020 (Happy New Year and Blessings)!, another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose, and a chance to finally catch you up on my book, my boot and my blog!  To do so, I have to back track to November and NaNoWriMo – National Novel Writer’s Month. The goal was to write 50,000 words of Hold on Her Heart, the sequel to my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul,  in  30 days. I  wrote faithfully everyday, however, I stopped posting  progress halfway through when it dawned on me time spent blogging could go toward word count! So I eliminated the post but acquired a viral infection, asthma complications that led to sleep deprivation –– another D or challenge women face – and a broken ankle! Then a team member’s mother lost her battle with cancer and died. Such a heart-wrenching D! With those additional barriers in place, I feel even better about finishing strong at 42,514 words for the challenge and approximately 55,000 words of my book!

On the Saturday after Thanksgiving, the last day of the challenge, I planned to write as close to 8,000 words as doable. The plan didn’t include breaking my ankle while leading the 2nd song of Zumba class. Seriously, I thought I’d just get up and keep dancing! Instead the squad came but I refused to go and waited for my hubby to transport. A champion through the ordeal, he waited on me hand and foot as I  puked my guts out and couldn’t do a thing for myself  while in a cast with crutches. He even expedited my orthopedic followup appointment where I got a walker and my boot! It provides mobility, the ability to shower ––  independence! I can even dance in it (I went right back to class the next Saturday and co-lead my classes with another instructor’s assistance). Oh, how blessed I am by my boot!

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Blessed by My Boot! Swan Soul Sisters, Kibby and Marina flanking me,   Pink Collar Coach, with my walker and boot in the center.                                   Performance wear, Calvin Klein from TJ Maxx and Marshall’s.                  New Balance shoe, singular! : – )

 

Even with the aid of the boot, navigating the holidays has sometimes felt like an obstacle course that requires tremendous endurance and strength (Try crutching through a crowded store!). Putting up the tree and decorating personal and professional spaces, shopping for and wrapping gifts, hosting my staff’s Christmas party, attending lots of others and leaving laden down with more stuff than I can possibly carry, going to see holiday movies… All while serving as a Women’s Center Director (I worked from home the first week after spending several hours catching up from Thanksgiving vacay) at the busiest time of year and during a center renovation has been a bit extra! But my hubby’s heroic efforts,  Zumba instructors subbing for me, Marina (and Sonya) not only teaching with me, but accompanying me to shop and getting my lunch, staff and residents bending over backwards to help, and perfect strangers going out of their way to be kind has made it one of my most blessed Christmases yet! Now I’m so thankful I get to share it with you on my blog.

My prayer for you is that you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and reflect on all the ways your holiday and the last year have been a blessing to you –– like my book, my boot and my blog. When you do, you’ll be able to minimizing your barriers and maximize beauty and your best life too!

Be  savvy & chic,

~Pink   Collar Coach

To preview/purchase the print or Kindle version of my debut novel, Seasons of Her Soul, please visit Amazon.com at 
 
Hold on Her Heart is in the works, and should be available Spring 2020! 
NaNoWriMo! – Friday & Finding Time to Write on Date Night

NaNoWriMo! – Friday & Finding Time to Write on Date Night

Day 14 writing badge  Day 15 writing badge

It’s another day of being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose, and Day 15 of NaNoWriMo – National Novel Writer’s Month. It’s also Friday &  I’m finding time to write on Date Night.

Project: Hold on Her Heart, Lee’s Legacy, Book 2

Goal: 50, 000 words in 30 days

Thursday and Friday total: 3,172

Overall Total: 18, 810

Book Total: 31, 339

Dealing with the Ds –– the personal and professional challenges and barriers women  face –– in the form of death of staff member’s mother and visitation/funeral today. Have also battled some serious diagnosis issues with my asthma, and depression. Thankfully, date night  –– an awesome D! –– with my hubby and double days and weeks (2 straight, earned a badge) of writing help me to minimize them and maximize beauty and my best life.

I pray your’e being Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and finding time for the whatever helps you do the same!

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach