It’s Day 382 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and I’m wondering if I should fight or give up. I’ve been fighting a particular battle for a while and I’m weary. On the surface, it seems pretty inconsequential, but the fact that the persistent issue keeps rearing its ugly head speaks to a bigger problem. And I’ve taken the stance I have largely because of the principle of the matter. For the most part, I’m a fairly complacent person and easy to get along with. By no means am I perfect. But nor do I have to be first or always have my way. Most of the time the opposite is true. I try to be an Abigail –– the Biblical wife who mediated between her stubborn husband and stubborn King David –– and strive for peace. I lay down my own desires, suppress my thoughts, keep my opinions to myself, bite my tongue, and pray for harmony, peace and reconciliation when I fail to do all of the former. But at what point do I stand my ground simply because I absolutely feel it’s the right thing –– again I’m referring to the principle and not the issue ––? When is it time to call out the ugliness, go below the surface to the root, the source of the matter, so it can be addressed and ripped out, never to spread discord, gossip, pettiness and just plain old bullying again? Do I risk the fight or just give up?
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose woman of faith, I so want to please my Heavenly Father and bear fruit that shows I belong to Him. But what do I do when displaying love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self-control (Galatians 5) only results in some people treating you like a door mat? That’s the thing. I used to think being a Christian was synonymous with letting people walk all over me. Then I learned JESUS WAS NEVER A DOORMAT. Since I try to follow Him, just lying down and continuing to let wrong win feels wrong. I’m going to keep praying about this and revert to that 90s question –– What would Jesus do? for guidance. Ultimately, that’s where I need to look to find the answer to whether I should fight or give up.
If you’re one of my Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose readers who believe in the power of prayer, I need tons. And I have never done this but am going to take a step in what I hope is the right direction. If you’re reading this because you’r a hater, please take the good intentions from my posts and act accordingly. If that means having a conversation with me, I’d welcome it. If you can’t do that, please just go find something better to do and leave me out of it. Thank you.
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach