It’s Day 247 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and since I attended her preschool graduation tonight, I’m blogging about Izzy and me. Because Izzy was born only a few years after I married her grandfather (she turned five Monday), and my son was barely eight at the time, I didn’t become grandma but Mimi – short for Tammi. Despite not being ready for grandchildren, my heart leaps with joy every time Izzy – my special name for Adriana Isabella – greats me with “Mimi!” She knows I’ll feed, dance, play and sing with her when all the other adults are watching sports in the Man Cave. Izzy and I have spent many happy hours watching Frozen and Legend of the Guardians more times than I can count and reading stories from her bedtime collection. Swimming and floating around the Lazy River on vacation and even sharing our first Uber ride to the mall are memories we share. Tonight was also a special time. Even though our family took up and entire row at graduation, this precious, precocious little girl’s eyes seemed to find mine and she blew me a kiss – our thing. Then at dinner where we were seated directly across from each other, she reached out and took hold of my fingers. “I love you, Mimi”, she smiled and eyes full, I told her the same. Though the only one at the table not related to her by blood, that doesn’t diminish the tight bond between Izzy and me.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Mimi, I’m thankful God gave me this little girl when He did. I didn’t know it at the time, but on nights like this – my children’s last day of 7th and 8th grade/middle school – when they’re at their father’s, He knew I needed her love to fill the whole left by them not being here. Divorce causes that…But tonight, sharing a meal with the family who loves her, including my husband’s first wife – Tammy with a “y”/Grammy to Izzy – and my stepson’s in-laws, I remembered there really is hope beyond divorce. My parents made it work…Maybe we can. Celebrating Adriana Isabella together, it felt like my big fat blended family got even bigger. And I didn’t even feel like the only step at the table. I just felt very blessed by the ties that bind us – beginning with Izzy and me.
How are you Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose regarding those surprise relationships in your life? You know the ones you didn’t know you’d need or value – in your personal and or professional life? How can you be?
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach