How the Ds Derail Talent & Cause Professional Train Wrecks – Pt. 2 (And How to Zap Them)

How the Ds Derail Talent & Cause Professional Train Wrecks – Pt. 2 (And How to Zap Them)

It’s Day 319 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and this post is a continuation of above from two days ago. I’m presenting at Disrupt HR Cincinnati tomorrow night. Hope you’ll check out the link > cincinnati. Thank you!

Disconnected Dressing – A creative communications specialist dresses to express herself. What it doesn’t express is her competence or her desire to be taken seriously. It creates a disconnect and doesn’t support everything else she does to get ahead. Her dress sabotages her success.

Discrimination – An exceptional trainer with consistently outstanding participant feedback, an advanced degree ends and training certification ends up reporting to those with less education and experience. The only minority on the team, she is written up for insubordination when she questions the promotion process.

Divorce – A team leader at a non-profit doesn’t make much, but finds work her meaningful and fulfilling. When her husband divorced her, leaving her and two teenagers practically destitute, heartbreak prevented her from performing optimally to earn much needed merit increases and makes her resent the job she once loved.

Diagnoses – An IT technician’s wife was diagnosed with breast cancer and the small agency doesn’t offer FMLA. He exhausts his PTO, requests to do some work remotely, is denied, and placed on a Performance Improvement Plan for absenteeism- right after the organization participated in Race for The Cure.

Domestic Court Issues – An enrollment director was embroiled in a contentious custody battle with his ex-girlfriend. Parenting investigations, lengthy calls with his attorney, and heated conversations with his ex caused enrollment to tank. He got shared parenting, but the schedule made it look more like a career death sentence.

Domestic Violence – A marketing manager is often late for work because her classic abuser partner takes the car and makes her take a bus or walk. Fearing he’d carry out his threats to harm her dog if she left, at times she’d miss work all together. She stayed with him but left the job.

Drug and Alcohol Abuse – An aviation executive is a functioning alcoholic. The company was unaware of his DUIs and offered him his dream promotion. When he confessed his record, the opportunity and his reputation crashed and burned.

Dysfunctional Relationships – There’s a reason most of the seats are empty at this Adult Children of Normal Parents Convention. If you’re anything like me, you were raised in a  dysfunctional family and now you’re the head of one! We’ve all experienced our share of Ds and carry so much relationship baggage onto the work train it’s a miracle any of us can stay on track with our careers.

That’s the bad news: Like with these derailed train wrecks, your talent – and You! – has issues!

The good news is: Your talent can keep calm and never fear because HR – You! – are here to step in and save the day with strategies to deal with their Ds.

3Cs to Zap the Ds


Consideration – Since we all have Ds, practice The Golden Rule and treat your talent the way you’d want to be treated. Get to know them as individuals – personally and professionally so you’re aware of their challenges. Let them know you’ve got their backs. And here’s a rad thought: If you’re a person of faith, pray for them.

Connection to Resources– Connect them to Employee Assistance Programs. Educate yourself through ongoing professional development around best practices like Trauma Informed Care (TIC). Provide information – print and electronic. Refer them to doctors, counselors, support groups, whatever they need. And if you don’t have a resource, find one.

Coaching (Life, Executive, Career, Performance) – Find their fit and if it’s not financially feasible for the organization, equip yourself to fill the shoes yourself. That’s literally stepping in to save the day!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Life Coach and  Speaker, I want to drive home the point that if they use these 3 Cs: they’ll be Faster than a career suicide bullet, more powerful than a sabotaging locomotive, able to deal with the Ds and prevent derailing in an effective bound! You’ll be an HR Superhero who’s able to Zap (obliterate, destroy) the Ds to keep your talent on track!

How can you be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and use them, too?

Be savvy &  chic,

~Pink Collar Coach



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