It’s Day 227 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and Oprah’s Golden Globe lifetime achievement award acceptance speech (please watch above before reading on) inspires me to speak out about abuse and Seasons of Her Soul, my debut novel, being semi-autobiographical. Since I didn’t watch the show last night, my long time mentor and partner in Pink Collar/High Heeled Success crime, Kay Fittes, shared Oprah’s speech, which could have been entitled “Me Too”, with me. Based on what she told me about it, it brought to mind a recurring conversation I’ve had with my husband and test readers of late. “It’s your story!” he and many others assert. But IT IS NOT MY STORY. It is fiction. That said, the abuse and sexual assaults I’ve suffered and survived are real. I channeled the truth of those experiences to write this fictitious story. That is the only way Seasons of Her Soul is semi-autobiographical. I never experienced any of the things the main character, Lee, did in the book. I am not Lee and her abuser is not my wasband (was + husband), who I call Mister (like in The Color Purple). Therefore, I cannot say “Me Too” regarding the plot of Seasons of Her Soul.
But I can say “Me Too” regarding the way I was treated by family members, friends, and even members of the church when I dared speak out about the truth of what was done to me by various abusers. It was communicated different ways but amounted to the same thing, “I don’t believe you” and “I don’t believe they’d do that”. Either way, the response re-victimized me. And it does the same thing to every woman, teen, or girl who is brave enough to trust someone with the secret they carry with shame. To have that trust broken by disbelief and worse, blame, causes untold damage. So much so that I am creating a giveaway entitled “Ten Points to Support Survivors of Domestic Violence” to share with those who wish to respond appropriately when someone shares with you.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose author, I wrote Seasons of Her Soul, a fictitious story, to shine light on the dark acts of abuse and assault that are perpetrated on women everywhere. On the home front and in the workplace. And in churches. It broke my heart to receive feedback from a Christian author who read my book and stated though she believes I’m a talented writer, she just doesn’t believe Lee’s story could happen. Wow. Apparently Lee, though not real, could actually join the ranks of the Me Too movement. Oprah’s speech inspired me to speak out on abuse and the fact that Seasons of Her Soul is only semi-autobiographical. To put it like her, “It’s not lost on me” that while Lee and I are not one in the same, we share some similarities. It’s just a shame having to say “Me Too” is one of them.
I hope you’ll be Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose and read Seasons of Her Soul because while it’s fiction, it tells a realistic story about domestic violence that is full of heartbreak and hurt. But it’s also full of healing, help and hope.
Be savvy & chic,
~ Pink Collar Coach