A Mom on Memes and Messes

A Mom on Memes and Messes

It’s Day 186 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and as a mom, I’d love to just post a meme instead of talking about the messes in my life. I confess I’d never heard the word meme until a Christian DJ mentioned it on the radio. With my love of words, of course I looked it up. According to Wikipedia “A meme (/ˈmm/ MEEM) is an idea, behavior, or style that spreads from person to person within a culture — often with the aim of conveying a particular phenomenon, theme, or meaning represented by the meme.” The DJ referenced the popularity of images with a person standing on a mountaintop, arms outstretched high to depict the Christian life. He intimated this meme conveys if you have faith your life will always be a perfect mountaintop experience. As a faith-filled mom who is divorced from my children’s father, being a mother doesn’t doesn’t always look like the meme or feel like mountaintop. Much of the time, it’s more like a mess. 

But I feel it’s taboo to admit that. I agree with the DJ’s assessment of that mountaintop meme. It makes people of faith feel we have to always sound, look and even feel like we’re standing on top of the world. We don’t want to talk about the valleys. It got me thinking about social media. Most of the images we post on Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn are the picturesque ones. Those that look like we have our personal and professional lives all together. We post the memes. And for bloggers? We often post the best pictures of our children, clothes, events and homes. Not for the first time, I wonder how this makes others feel. When I rush around picking up books, papers, toys, and take several shots to make sure my hair, makeup and outfit are just right, am I sending out the message that my life is perfect? That I’m living the meme?

That’s the last thing I want to do. The whole reason I started my blog was to coach, encourage and inspire women to live their best personal and professional lives. Over time, that has evolved to include dealing with the Ds – the Pink Collar challenges women face, be it on the home front or in the workplace – and minimizing them to maximize your beauty and best life. I never intended for minimizing to promote depicting a pretty, perfect meme. Living your best life doesn’t mean it won’t be messy. Like my life as a mom is right now.

Me, Pink Collar Coach after a hard mommy conversation. For once I didn’t straighten up the room and just asked my sweet hubby to catch the moment as it was. Messy bun, rumpled slipcover, toys under the table, electric chords, and all.                                                                 Calvin Klein trumpet sleeve sweater, leggings, socks with boots, and handbag. 

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Cygnet (I’m still growing into the fullness of who I was created to be), sometimes I long to live the meme… My Ds – divorce, domestic relations court, and DJ (not the disc jockey but my wasband) make my life as a mom so messy. I wish I could always stand on the mountaintop, looking pretty (pre-hysterectomy), with my house perfect (white painted stone wall, wood plank tiles, marble counter tops, etc.), my professional life on track for success, and my personal relationship with my children what I dreamed for us once upon a time…Then I remember. The Lord is the God of the hills and the valleys. He sees me  and is over my life. He remains the same when it looks like the meme and He still blesses when it’s a mess. I’ll take those messy times because it’s in them I can hear Him whisper across the surface of my heart, Beautiful the mess you are.

What about you? Do you wish you were living the meme but feel you’re more of a mess? Remember you are loved and if you hang in there, you can be blessed – even in the mess.

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach

3 thoughts on “A Mom on Memes and Messes

  1. Thank you, Angela, for liking the post. I checked out your blog and we have a lot in common. My daughter and son are about the same age difference as your kiddos and have similar personalities. I remember those days well. I also used Kool Aid to die my daughter’s hair once! And I agree with you “momming”is hard” bug worth it! Hope you’ll stop by again and I’ll do the same.


  2. Hello, Mom from the Shire. I appreciate you liking the post and checked out some of yours. I can relate to mom guilt and agree shaming other moms should be forbidden. Hope you’ll visit soon and I will too!


  3. Thank you, Chasing Jameson, for liking the post. I peeked at your blog and admire the fact that you’ve already started one as a young mom. Keep up the blogging as you keep chasing your son and you’ll have so much to look back on with him! Hope you’ll visit again and I’ll stop by your blog too.


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