It’s Day 184 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I heard something about hurts, home, and healing that struck a chord. Yesterday I was more active than I’ve been in a month, so I took it easy today and didn’t venture beyond my front porch. Whenever I am home on a Sunday morning, I listen to Joel Osteen. In today’s message he talked about how we leave our homes and go out into society, be it to work, school, our communities, or even the church, where we sometimes encounter hurtful things. The attitudes and actions of others can make us feel as though we’re under attack. Given the harm inflicted on us, home needs to be a place of healing.
This week, in a group setting where I never would have expected it, someone behaved so harshly it shell-shocked everyone present. Without warning, our peaceful gathering was suddenly under emotional and verbal siege. An assault the likes of which I’ve never seen in a meeting accosted the group. Too stunned to react, we sat dumbfounded for the most part. The person’s behavior seemed to be so out of character for this individual based on all the interactions leading up to that point. Bizarre and sad are the best words to describe what happened. By the end of the episode, I felt traumatized.
On my way from the meeting, I needed to run an errand but skipped it. I just wanted to get home. Not only to the physical space but to the emotional and spiritual balm it holds. My hubby administers these in large doses. When I arrived, he wasn’t here, but the minute he walked in the door, I unloaded. I didn’t really want to talk about what happened because it was so ugly, but I couldn’t stop. For the next two days! I felt like I had PTSD and I don’t say that lightly. I was so full of hurt I had to bleed the wound to get it out so healing could begin. Thankfully, I’m better now.
I’m blessed to have a home where my family can recover and heal from hurts. I strive to make it so. Important as that is, it’s equally important that it be a place where we built up our resistance to hurts in the first place. My babies and I used to sing “Home on The Range” on our drive home from KinderCare when I was the director there and they attended the program. The line Where seldom is heard a discouraging word was so true of our home back then. As they’ve gotten older, the ups and downs of tween and teenage years have made me have to work harder to make this a preventative and restorative place of love and care, but I’m committed.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Cygnet who knows an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, I want to slather my family daily with protection in the form of adoration, acceptance, affirmation and a liberal covering of prayer. I can’t keep them from being hurt by the words and wicked ways of haters, but I can help them repel the harm so it doesn’t stick to them and cause them irreparable damage. And when they are hurt, I want them to feel drawn home, as I am, because they know healing waits here.
What about you? Are you savvy & chic on purpose about making your home a place where you and your loved ones can heal from life’s hurts? Where you can build up resistance against them?
Be savvy and chic,
~Pink Collar Coach