Sisters-in-Law by Chance, Friends by Choice

Sisters-in-Law by Chance, Friends by Choice

It’s Day 175 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, and a wonderful long distance phone conversation reinforced how blessed I feel that we’re sisters-in-law by chance but friends by choice. Following yesterday’s visit to the doctor, receiving tragic news about the death of our sweet home handyman, Halloween, and a fitful night’s sleep that included breakthrough abdominal pain despite being on several prescriptions, a good cathartic convo with my sweet sister-in-law Sue was just the medicine I needed.

My husband is the oldest of four sibblings and he’s also the only male. Sue is the third child and is married to her college sweetheart, Mark. Because the other sisters are a single divorcee and a single never married, Mark is the closest thing to a brother my hubby has. Initially, that dynamic and the warm way she welcomed me into the family naturally drew me to Sue. That and the fact that her two boys are my stepsons’ first cousins. Over the years, however, we’ve developed a relationship independent of the guys. While I love my other two sisters-in-law, who live less than a half hour away, I’m closest to Sue who is in Atlanta. Holidays and special occasions bring us together from time to time and we’ve spent part of a vacation in Myrtle Beach. All in all, the quantity of time we’ve shared is little. But boy is is quality! That includes text and phone heart-to-hearts.

Sue, her big brother/my hubby, her youngest son, and me Pink Collar Coach. This photo taken during one of the hardest times…Sue radiates grace. 

Sue is one of the most generous people I know. Somehow, she never misses a birthday and has enough forethought to select gifts that suit the recipient to a T, wrap them exquisitely and then get them in the mail with perfect timing. I’m pretty sure giving gifts is her love language! Hospitality is another of her super talents. She could give Martha Stewart a run for her money in putting out a spread in her beautifully decorated home and making it look effortless. And she does all of this while holding down a high responsibility administrative position! According to her boss, who I had the pleasure of meeting at Sue’s son’s wedding, she’s a much a rockstar in the workplace as she is on the home front.

Considering all of the above, one might think Sue leads a perfect life. Far from it. As she and I discussed this morning, life is hard. Her faith just allows her to handle hardship with more grace than many…Life’s ups and downs with children (We’re both fiercely protective mama bears), spouses, health issues, etc. keep hitting both of us fast and furious. Sue has been in it with me through some of the worst life has to dish out, and I’m humbled that she feels safe enough to let me into her the worst in her world. Between both of our beautiful messes, we had a bit of a cry. Then we laughed so hard we cried! By the end of the conversation, my stomach hurt worse than when I got on the phone, but it was from all that much needed belly laughing!

As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who quite frankly was born into a very dysfunctional family, I don’t have sisters. I’m so thankful I got to pick my hubby and that Sue was an unexpected part of the bargain. Marriage united us, but the Lord has knit our hearts together. How blessed I am that He not only gave me Sue as a friend but as the sister I would have picked if given the choice!

What about you? What’s your sister-in-law story? Are you friends by choice?

Be savvy & chic,

~Pink Collar Coach


2 thoughts on “Sisters-in-Law by Chance, Friends by Choice

  1. That’s so sweet! My first sister-in-law experience was not as good. My brother married a lady with a lot of “issues” (as he had his own) and things were very tense. She didn’t want a relationship with any of us and actually e-mailed me once to tell me she didn’t like me. Ouch! Their marriage ended and it was a good thing. My husband’s brother is married to a wonderful lady and I’m glad we get along. We only get to see each other once every few years, because they live far away and there is a bit of a language barrier, as she doesn’t speak a lot of English, but we still get along really well. So that makes up for the first bad experience! 🙂

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    1. Carla, it’s unfortunate that your first sister-in-law experience was negative. In a perfect world a marriage would always mean gaining new positive relationships. When it doesn’t work out, hindsight can make it feel as if tense family dynamics should have been a deal breaker! Thankfully you and I have gotten to experience the joy of loving our sisters-in-law- even though it’s long distance! Hope you are doing well. 😊

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