It’s Day 170 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project and I’ve had to employ some savvy & chic resilience strategies – my internal beliefs specifically – to bounce back from being ill the past few weeks. Having to rely on these has reinforced the importance of internal beliefs as an adult resiliency protective factor. The Devereux Foundation defines internal beliefs as the thoughts and feelings we have about ourselves, our lives, and how we perceive our effectiveness at taking action in life. The thought I don’t know how people make it through life without faith is one that often crosses my mind, so I’m excited to continue this series on strategies for you to build your bounce with internal beliefs as the focus.
According to Mary Mackrain and Neferteri Bruce the authors of Building Your Bounce: Simple Strategies for a Resilient You, positive internal core beliefs about ourselves serves as a cozy energy blanket wrapped around us. It enables us shrug off hurtful comments, to embrace compliments, and to use our positivity to effectively navigate life’s ups and downs. Building up positive internal beliefs lays the foundation for us to set and stick to goals, learn from our mistakes, bounce back from major life events and loss, accept praise, trust others, handle unexpected challenges, and to go with our instincts.
It’s never too late to start building your internal belief bounce. If you read the first post in this series, Savvy & Chic Strategies to Build Your Bounce Series – Relationships and reflected on your adult resiliency strengths and areas for growth, you can reference that or just click the link, read and complete. Then, use the strategies associated with each item below to build your bounce around internal beliefs:
Building Your Internal Beliefs Bounce
1. Belief in your personal strengths. Sometimes we are so focused on what we want to change and make better that we neglect to acknowledge the good things we hold within ourselves. Recognizing and remembering our strengths builds us up so we can use our strengths to solve problems.
Strategy: Taking Time for Your Talents. Take time to write down you talents and gifts (i.e. singing, writing, dancing or whatever you’re good at and love to do). Next, estimate how much time a week you do each of these things. Evaluate whether you spend at least an hour per week fostering and enjoying your talents. If it less than that, what can you do to ensure these talents come to the forefront. Start small – even if it means just singing in the shower. What can you do tomorrow?
2. Belief that you are creative. Creativity is about self-expression. It doesn’t necessarily mean you are an artist, dancer, or cook. It does mean you find ways to express yourself openly and without fear of judgement. Creating something based on personal feelings nurtures our emotional health. When we do, we will feel energized and understood which bolsters our belief that we are unique and special.
Strategy: Creativity Collage. Get a blank piece of paper or poster board, then gather magazines or catalogs. Look through and cut out images that catch your eye without overthinking – just go with what attracts you. Glue all to the paper or board. While reflecting on what you created, ask yourself Is there a theme (i.e. family, nature, etc.). What colors are represented? What can I do to bring more of these themes and colors into my daily life?
3. Having strong beliefs. We all face challenges in life or what I often refer to as The Ds. Somehow we must find gratitude, hope and peace in life. This looks different for everyone – religion, groups of friends, nature, etc. Belief or faith in something in life enables us to tap into our coping resources and resolve.
Strategy: Self-Reflect on What You Believe In. Complete the following thoughts:
Thank goodness for ________________________ when something difficult or bad happens.
I could not live without _____________________.
I am most grateful for _______________________.
You may already have strong beliefs. If you don’t, please consider how you answered the above. Do your beliefs support your sense of peace and hope?
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Chick who has been down more than I’ve been up lately due to my health challenges, believing in my strengths, my creativity and in my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ has gotten me through two weeks where I wondered if I’d ever bounce back form doing so little to grow my business, meet my writing deadlines, or to fight the never ending domestic relations war with my wasband. Still, I’m running out of steam and will have to cover the other strategies in tomorrow’s post. Until then, I’m so thankful that the song we used to sing in Vacation Bible School says still holds true:
I’ve got the wonderful love of my blessed Redeemer down in the depths of my heart!
That’s an internal belief protective factor that fuels the others and gives me all of the adult resiliency I need.
How about you? Which of these strategies can you use to build your bounce? I’d love to chat with you about it.
Be savvy & chic,
~Pink Collar Coach
Please note, the information here was adapted from http://www.devereuxearlychildhood.org.