Day 56 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project finishes the Pink Collar Balancing Act series, and I couldn’t be more excited about today’s topic. For the last four days I’ve posted about work life balance by adapting from a previously published Inspired Women Magazine article of mine and drawing insight from the movie, “I Don’t Know How She Does It”
Because Kate knew she wasn’t completely herself without being a wife, a mother and a career woman, she had a vision of how she wanted all of them to work together, in tandem. She envisioned a life where she could make the most of the meaningful moments away from work. That meant setting appropriate boundaries surrounding her personal time. This translated into time with her family where her attention was undivided. It meant turning off her Blackberry while on vacation. There could be no more dumping of her family due to spur of the moment work related crises. Kate saw herself building snowmen with her children. To make that happen, she had to keep her word and make good on her promises to them. Her husband replaced her boss as the # 1 man in her life. No longer could she compromise her relationship with her spouse in order to spend time with her business colleague, nor could she continue to allow professional and personal lines to cross.
Kate’s vision of her life was realistic. She had to accept the parts of “the mess” that couldn’t be changed and embrace them. That meant letting go of what she couldn’t control and not sweating the small stuff, like eating takeout versus cooking. The key was that she and her husband did it together. Taking care of things on the home front, like speech therapy for her son and repairs that made the house safe for the children, freed Kate from some guilt and worry. Without these issues weighing on her, she was able to be fully present while at work. Giving herself permission to do it her way (regarding her children’s diet and nutrition, division of household responsibilities between her and her husband, etc.) minimized her concern about others’ opinions.
The vision was of a life filled and overflowing with all the things she loved. Her family, her friends and her job. It included and balanced both. Kind of like the model provided in Proverbs 31:10-31…
So, as a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Soul Sister, what do you want your life to look like?
At the end of the movie, when a friend asks Kate’s husband what she does for a living, he looks across the room at her and answers, “She’s a juggler.”
I’m entering a new phase of my own life, one in which my long held vision of having a Pink Collar Portfolio career that gives me the freedom to do all of the things where I’m passionately gifted is vivid. Being balanced is a big part of the vision. During moments of precise clarity, I picture myself successfully riding a unicycle across a tight rope, work related items in one hand, home related in the other. I’m doing all this in high heels of course…