Day 54 of the Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose Project, also makes the third post in a Pink Collar Balancing Act series. Before I continue to share the golden nuggets I gleaned from Kate, the amazing Pink Collar Professional played by Sarah Jessica Parker in the movie, “I Don’t Know How She Does It”, I have to say how fun it is for me to realize that five years after I wrote an article Equilibrium in High Heels based on a workshop of the same title, I’ve internalized the work life balance concept and am intentional about maintaining it. That’s a far cry from the of kilter life I was starting to set right. And considering how I felt the day I started writing this series, it’s also a reminder to conduct periodic balance checks.
Kate’s career as an investment banker already required her to travel extensively and to spend lots of time away from her husband and children. She was plagued by guilt over taking store bought items to her daughter’s bake sale and missing her son’s first haircut because the nanny took him while she was on a business trip. Though desirous of intimacy in her marriage, she was too exhausted to enjoy it. She’d pass out then awaken to stare at a ceiling list of To Dos. But when Kate’s efforts paid off and she was given the chance to bag a high profile client for her firm, she only hesitated briefly before jumping at the opportunity to advance her career. That meant her children would see even more of the nanny and less of her.
Some stay at home moms judged her for her choices and her mother-in-law opposed the decision, but Kate believed she could be the wife and mother she wanted to be while succeeding at her job. Setting about doing what she was good at, she invested. In PMA: a Positive Mental Attitude. Despite the naysayers, she believed she and her husband could pull together and make it all work. She believed there was a doable solution.
Things got worse before they got better. Kate’s son got hurt while she was away, and her husband left the children with an unknown sitter because she couldn’t get out of the office to relieve him so he could attend a meeting. The situation escalated to a pitch where the only thing she and her husband did together was schedule logistics. Now her life wasn’t just out of balance, it had spiraled out of control. Still Kate held on tight to the belief that the problems could be fixed. She persisted in convincing her husband, her children, her in-laws and yes, even herself, that she could do it.
As a Pink Collar Savvy & Chic on Purpose career woman, wife, mom and woman of God, the other thing that was fun about today is getting to use a photo of another favorite piece of office decor that bolsters my belief when it begins to flag. I am reminded that I can be all of the things I was created to be – on the home front and in the workplace. That realization, which occurred five years ago, allows me to be fully present in both settings – in both roles. When we believe we can do it, we can pull of the work life balance act.